Along with other husband, used to be very heavy smoker
Posted By: Been there on 2007-11-21
In Reply to: machine to remove cigarette smoke? - nevermind, nm
and as a smoker you don’t really know just how stinky the place, your clothes, everything is until you stop. I do not think you will be able to get smoke out of the furniture, walls etc until it is no longer around. I probably would try cat litter, vinegar and water in bowls around the house, airing the home out if you can and I have boiled water and added spices such as cinnamon sticks - sure beats the smoke smell.
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If you are not a smoker you will be able to smell - sm
it on him a mile away. Obviously if you smoke you won't be able to smell it, and also the odds are he will smoke too (that is if you do). If you don't smoke it is possible he is telling the truth, as for punishment for having them the obvious answer is to withhold something he loves for a couple of weeks, whether it is TV, or afterschool activities, or video games, or driving if he has a learner's permit. Good luck.
When I (a non-smoker) would volunteer
in one of my children's classrooms I could always tell which children lived in homes where there were smokers. Not only from their clothes, but from their backpacks as well. My parents smoked when I was a child but quit many years ago. Even now I am embarassed by the fact of what I must have smelled like when I went to school. Sorry you had to endure the party, but now you will be able to stand your ground better and make wiser choices for yourself even it someone might be offended.
He is both a smoker and a loser...
She's on the pill, has been for around a year or so...I'm also concerned about the psychological impact this will have on her later on down the road. I hate to know she will have to live with this regret, which I know will happen, because I've been there myself.
Note from an ex-smoker
I smoked for for 11 years. I quit 5/23/85 at midnight - cold turkey. I'm not going to sit and tell you whether you should smoke or not. Smokers know better than anyone how bad it is. I have nothing against smokers as long as I don't have to breath it in. I would get no joy in telling people they have a bad habit or its bad for you or cancer, blah, blah, blah (although some people do and I don't understand that at all). I think it is totally rude for someone to lecture anyone on their habits. If it was me this is what I would have said to your friends son. "You know whats more rude than telling someone they have a bad habit to their face, is to look into another person's personal belongings and comment on something that they shouldn't be looking at in the first place". Then if the friend said something to me about talking to his/her child that way, then I would have said my parents taught me to respect others privacy. Anyway...I knew when I smoked how bad it was for me. I knew that cigarettes caused cancer and all that crap, but it was my choice to smoke, just like it was my choice to quit (well actually I quit cos I was tired of arguing with my DH about my smoking). Honestly I do not like smoking at all. I am so against it because of many reasons. The main one being that when I am around someone who is smoking I just can't breath and feel like I'm having an asthma attack or something. Honest to God its like all the air around me is gone. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who smoke that don't care because they say "it's their right". I'm not saying you are like that but there are a lot of people who are. Second I don't like the way it smells and third is...well, it really is bad for you (duh....thought you'd like to know that if you didn't know already - HA HA). Anyway...for anyone to comment on another persons habits (whether good or bad) in my book is rude and they should mind their own business. For the people who do smoke yes there are a lot of obnoxious nonsmokers (I think the ones who used to smoke and quit are worse because they get the "holier than thou" attitude) - which is why I am so against forming an opinion about anyone. I'm sure when you feel the time is ready you'll quit on your own. I myself kept smoking for "spite" because I refused to be forced to quit, but figured my marriage was worth more than the cigs (even though I smoked when we dated those whole 2 weeks). So good luck to you. Try and not let the "butt-heads" get to you. (get it- "butt" heads) HA HA HA. PS - On a sadder note my mom died 3 years ago from lung cancer. Oh it was so awful to watch what she went through, so I really do hope you'll feel the time is right sometime soon to try and stop when your ready. I did quit by eating lots of red liquish (don't know how to spell that - Twizzler licorice - yeah think that's it). I held it in my hands like I was holding a cigarette. I told my DH I was going to gain a lot of weight and he said he didn't care how fat I got he just wanted me to quit smoking. 22 years later I am glad I quit (but it was a struggle for a short period of time - took me a couple months to get through the cravings).
I'm not overweight or a smoker,
and since I'm not an addict, I can see clearly. Smoking makes no sense, which is why people are trying to educate children, who then assume you don't understand the risks and try to educate you. Logic states that if you understood the problems tobacco causes, you would not smoke. That is why kids are kind to you and try to educate you on the subject.
I am a smoker (until my Chantix kicks in) already sm
lost 14.5 pounds and 14 inches, going for a goal of 25 pounds, that way when I quit, and if I can the average 12.5 pounds, it won't matter. I will still be down in weight and a NONSMOKER. However, I do not smoke in my house, other people's houses or cars. That is just RUDE. I at least have some decency with my smoking
Is there a way to get smoker's smell out of a house?
I found this amazing place to live across from the beach (the only reason I moved to where I moved) that is affordable and totally decent. Two male roommates that are totally awesome, i have already been welcomed into their family (they are cousins). The problem is they have smoked inside the condo... I asked them about it and they said they had no problem smoking outside. Two questions: Is it wrong to ask them to? and second, is there even a point if I cannot get that smell to ever go away? I REALLY am trying to look into any possibility because ive been looking for months for something EXACTLY like this, i dont think it comes available often...
Thank you for any suggestions
I'm very heavy
I'm very heavy and I would NEVER expect any concessions because of my weight. I don't expect people to cater to me or excuse me. I'm overweight because I don't exercise and I eat crap. At least I used to. 2009 is my year of change and I have been working diligently on changing that.
I agree with the other posters who says if this woman doesn't like the way she's treated because of the way she looks, she needs to change it, not demand acceptance. Fat is the last bastion of that sort of thing. I hate all the politically correct stuff. Bottom line is if you're that heavy, you're unhealthy and you need to change things. And I, too, know just how hard that is.
If they're really heavy
You'll want to use a screw and screw anchor, or find a stud to put the nail in (no, no, a stud in the wall, not a good-looking guy to do it - well, hey, your choice!). They usually have holes in the back for hanging.
Or White Shoulders or any of those very heavy
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Anyone ever been really heavy and have a healthy pregnancy? sm
Well I am at 325 and pregnant. Yes, I am tall but still that weight is very, very disgusting. I wonder how I got to this place. But I am so worried about my weight affecting the baby. The baby was nto planned - was a complete surprise. A welcome surprise though. But I never thought I would be able to get pregnant while being this heavy. I don't why I thought that but I truly did. I am just wondering if anyone has been really overweight and how it affected your pregnancy. The doctors don't really see any harm in it, or so they say, but I am still a bit worried. Thanks for all input. I am getting the Lap band after I have the baby. I want to be healthy for my family after this and it seems like a reasonable option. Thanks everyone. Have a great Thanksgiving!
Congratulations! My Mom was on the heavy side
You'll be fine! Have a happy and healthy pregnancy! All the best to you! 
My SIL was heavy and had two healthy babies.
With her last pregnancy, she started walking and eating better while she was pregnant. She weighed less at the end of her pregnancy than at the beginning. Baby was 7 lbs and healthy, too!
Both my mom and aunt have had very good success with it. My mom, smoker for over 40 years, quit cold
turkey and says Chantix is the best drug out there - she tried everything!
I see that there are mixed feelings about this drug as with all drugs. Works for some and doesn't work that well with others. Sorry to hear about their experience!
I need some heavy duty face cream...
…I have some areas on my face that are extremely dry, around my hair line, around my nose and I have used several creams trying to soften these areas up. Sometimes I even flake on my eyelids like I have sunburn and I use dandruff shampoo on my eyebrows because if not they will flake- no dandruff in the hair, though. I know this sounds awful but this is getting on my last nerve. I have put petroleum jelly on my face overnight- still dry in these patches. Does anyone else have something like this and if so any remedies? Thanks
Update, heavy sigh of relief. sm
My daughter just got a text message, her friend's time of the month arrived. Thank heavens. Thanks for your advice. Hopefully she learned her lesson.
My heart is heavy -I think my older cat is dying
It is hard to type or even see when your eyes are brimming with tears. I have had this girl since her mother first showed up at my door pregnant with her about 17 years ago. She is a purr girl and she has been sick, had a stroke which she recovered from but now a couple of months later feel like she is living on borrowed time. Not in pain but seems to be sorta stuporous, will respond when I call her name by looking at me. I have hand fed her water (ice water which she likes) and also she took very little in in the way of food. I called my daughter to see if she wanted to come by tonight after she gets off from work and she said absolutely. I hated to tell her at work but so afraid this ole girl is not going to make it much longer. She has trouble getting around so I am her legs now. If she needs to go to the bathroom, I will take her there also. I have her laying on 1 of my fav sweaters now in my work room, held her lots last night and today also. My heart hurts.
as I'm aging, I do not like HEAVY pots/pans
La Crueset was too heavy for me as is cast iron plus cast iron is bad for people with hepatitis problem(s) so I tend to stay away from cast iron (puts off iron in the food and hepatitis C feeds on iron) as I have a family member with this particular hepatitis.
My hands are also very bad after transcribing for 30+ years - so I tend to want nonaluminum lighter cookware which would be something like Farberware or Revereware if they still make the latter. *lol*
Heavy gauge wire crates are a good choice.
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Can any new Fermodyl 7 users comment on how it makes your hair feel? Greasy? Heavy? I don't use
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Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
My husband is the same way
Something about guys and their cars. I have no kids though and recently married so we still do some of our banking and bills separately by my choice. I thought he was being selfish too. So I got myself a 2nd part time job and I recently went out and bought a newer, bigger, fully loaded SUV and I don't let him use it! lol
My husband and I are doing it right now
and it is working, slowly but surely. After the first couple of things are paid off, its gets better and faster. We have a poster board with all our debt and we redo it every three months, and I must say that you see the debt going away. My hubbie cut all my credit cards up, and I was upset but in the scheme of things, it was the best. We only have one income and its working. Give it a try, I think you'll be surprised that it actually does work. My friend is also doing it, and their debt is disappearing also.
My husband and I did think of it. NM
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What is your husband's take on that? nm
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Go for it! I met my husband .....sm
2 months after his wife died from a 3 year bout with cancer and we're very happily married.
Good luck!!!
My husband always tries, although he just
doesn't necessarily have the same taste as me. It is a hit and miss with him, but he always tries. This year we did not exchange gifts (agreed upon ahead of time) because I got a new house and he got a new truck. We concentrated on the kids. The only gripe I really have is that he doesn't do much in the way of getting me gifts from the kids on Mother's Day, and he's not much of a card person, although I am.
He helped me clean all week though, did anything I asked pretty much, cleaned up all day today, etc.
Honestly though, I do not agree with the posts below about making a list. I think that a gift should come from the heart and that some thought should be put into it. Things that I just want, I go get them myself.
My husband and I have 2
roundtrip airfare tickets for anywhere in the US. I'm looking for an all-inclusive resort (room, meals, activities), but am having a hard time finding one. Can you help me out with this? Thanks!
My husband
used this for his leg pain due to fibromyalgia but had a very bad reaction to it so was not able to continue to use it. He found a natural supplement online that has helped. Best of luck!!
So, you would be okay with your husband
nm
This is what my husband (sm)
told me last night. I really hope that isn't what is going on. I am going to talk to her again about it again today. She has a cell phone (very near and dear to her heart!) I like for her to have it, so that I know she is okay when she isn't home, but since I now know that she is still smoking, I think I have very good reason to ground her. Hence, she won't be needing the cell phone.
Thanks for the input everyone.
My husband only uses
regular lotion, but he does like to take baths sometimes. He was glad when we moved and got a garden tub so he could soak. He doesn't go out of his way to use bubbles, but he will take one with me with bubbles.
Met my first husband when I was 5, LOL - sm
First crush was Greg. I met him when I was 5. We played together at church. We started "going together" when I was 13. We got married when I was 18. We got divorced when I was 32. Tried again several times. Finally called it quits when I was 37...sigh.
Then there was Stacy....we were together for two years.
Then there is Tommy, we have been together for three years - married for two years.
My husband was the one who
donated the sperm and had it washed, the doctor performed the IUI, and nature created twins. It was a WE effort in my case.
This is your husband
If there's one person in the world you should be honest with, it's your husband. Don't lie about this, this is BIG...just explain to him your feelings and if he loves you and you love him, you can work it out and make both of you happy. But lying WILL come back to bite you in the a$$...trust me, I know...good luck!
My husband was gay
We've been divorced for a while now, but it still hurts like crazy. I don't know anyone who has been through this. Is there anyone out there who's spouse came out to them?
My husband did!
He had to have surgery because otherwise the muscles would have atrophied. Because lifting was required for his job, he was out on disability for 4 months. However, soon afterward a radiologist I knew had it done, and he only took 1 day off and then was back at work, not complaining, and not taking strong pain killers. My hubby is a big guy, and it was hard on him, but he's able to work fine now. He has also had cervical spinal fusion, and the rotator cuff was worse for him, oddly enough.
Husband and I have dog and cat instead!
Kids...no thank you! Decided at around 12-13 or so that I didn't want any. I'm 30 now and haven't changed my mind and don't plan to.
I AM SO MAD AT HUSBAND
I am so mad with this man. Last night he made a comment that all I have to do on my job is sit on my A_ _ and stare at a computer screen. He thinks this job is cushy. I transcribe every foreign doctor known to man for 8-10 hours 5-6 days a week, achieve OVER my line counts and bring home more money than he does and I work from home. What in the world does he think gives him the right to talk down to me? Even though I love it, this is one of the most taxing jobs I have ever had in my life. The mental drain is incomprehensible at times. I was so mad when he came up with that, I would have thrown him out if he would have had anywhere else to go!
mad at husband
Do what I do..i put him in my chair with my own keyboard, a set of headphones and told him i would be back in 30 minutes. And I gave him one of my best enunciating docs to boot. Needless to say....no more sit on my a** comments any more. I put the son in the chair too. Good luck.
Which one, the husband or dog?
He, he!
What do you do when your husband says
He does not love you anymore after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids? He left once about 3 years ago, but came back saying he missed us and loved me and that he was just going through a tough time and he knew he was making a bad choice. I thought we were okay, not smart of me, then he started getting distant and grumpy all the time again, and he told me last night that he tried really hard these last 3 years, mostly for our kids sake and because he cares about me and does not want to leave me high and dry, but he does not love me and is not happy with me. He says we have nothing in common anymore, which we really didn't in the first place, but it was okay until recently.
I don't know what to do. All 3 kids are extremely close to their dad, and he loves them so much, but I feel I should move to where my parents are (next town 20 miles away) but it will be harder for him to see them and also rent is so much higher for housing there. I just feel like I want to be closer to my family because here, I have NO ONE. I moved here because it was his hometown and he was happy. I also have the kids in preschool here, again cheaper than in the town I want to go to. My son will be in first grade and needs speech therapy for developmental delay and I like the people who have been working with him as they know his history. Am I being selfish wanting to take them away from here? I am lost and don't know what to do. Thanks for listening. 
What do you do when husband...
Ditto totally trose. Permanently CLOSE his door except when dealing with/talking about children. Work hard at your job, totally concentrate on YOUR life and family. God is your refuge..will keep you safe and won't lead you wrong. You are strong (else you wouldn't be an mtmomof3) ... you can do this. Will remember you in my prayers.
husband
he sounds like a pig... i say move on
My husband will be right over! LOL!
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Is my husband
Because I think we are married to the same guy. Here's my rule: I don't tell him everything, but when asked, I tell the truth. Except when I buy my son an $80 pair of shoes, I shave a few bucks off. Other than that I tell the truth. I know how you feel though. When he comes home if I hear squealing tires on the driveway or the door slams just right, I think, "Uh-oh. What did I do now?"
Is there anyone who has a husband...
like mine...he is an adult and acts like one, he respects what I do for a living, thanks me for working as hard as I do, would never expect me to do everything around the house without him helping out, and is generally a fabulous guy. Sounds like a lot of women are married to self-centered whiners who think THEIR job is the important one. I truly am blessed!
My husband...
I was going to post something similar to this...reading these threads about jerk husbands makes me sooo very grateful for mine. He's handsome, sexy, funny...works doggone hard for us so I can work PT, and still helps around the house in the evenings after work. Guess that's why I've kept him for 20 years---today!!! 
Oh, did I mention he's the bestest dad ever (as our DS puts it)...I could go on and on, but I won't...I am sorry for those who are not blessed with a wonderful man, it truly is a gift!
why the MIL and not your husband?
You are going after the wrong person. Your husband should be beside you all the way 100%. It is his job to talk/deal with his family. If he doesn't or won't, you've got a bigger problem with him than with the outlaws.
Your husband should say something
You are to cleave to husband and wife. If the MIL is not going to handle the situation your husband should definately stand up for you and say if you dont show some respect to my wife stay away. I have a SIL that does not like me either because she married into the family first and thinks I stole some of her thunder, but thank goodness my husband stands up for me. The MIL probably wants to keep peace that is how mine is, so I would talk to your husband about getting the situation resolved. Some people can be so dumb to act that way. Good luck, hope things get better.
What did your husband say about it?
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