All the kids should pitch in to hire help. Shouldn't all be on
Posted By: you. nm on 2006-10-24
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But these are kids; they shouldn't have to fight at a young age nm
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Can one of you go along? Pitch your own - sm
tent so you won't be in the way, etc. Granted he might not like it but it is better than not going at all. Also ask the mom who is going to be taking care of the kids, how many, etc. If it is just the dad then either go along and "help"; or tell him no.
I agree with you..but would probably just deal with it & have them pitch in (sm)
As long as they are not planning to stay overnight I would probably just let them come and eat...I mean they are family...but maybe call him and tell him what you need his family to bring to help out with the meal? Give him a list of items to bring in a sweet, friendly voice.
Is there way several family members can pitch in money for
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Why don't you hire someone there to cut it - sm
maybe every other time or once a month to give you a break. My DH bought a $2500 tractor to cut our 5 acres(4 to cut) in the next county and has not done it once as yet, though he just had to have that tractor so he could cut the property He always has some excuse not to cut it. The tractor does get used on our 1 acre here at the house, but that is about it now (he used to cut the grass at a local church but no more). We have a local guy cut it maybe 2 x a year for $120 a pop. Obviously we are not maintaining it to look pretty. We have it cut it when it gets 2-3 feet tall basically. Last year we got away with only 1 time, not quite sure how we did that though.
Do It Yourself? or Hire Out?
Just curious--how much do you do yourself around the house? When do you pay others to do the work?
When we bought the house in the country, the previous owner was telling me about: the guys who plow her driveway, her cleaning lady, and she offered to give me the name of her window cleaner.
We don't pay others to do what we can do ourselves. I do the: cleaning, gardening, window-washing, painting. DH does the lawn, small repairs, clears the driveway, etc.
Only time we pay someone else is when the job requires more expertise than we have--for instance having the heater repaired, or major electrical work (DH can do the small stuff).
I even ripped down the 4 foot stockade fence in the back yard, tilled my vegetable patch, dug up some medium-sized bushes, etc. myself.
So, how much are you willing to do? where do you draw the line? Why?
First thing I'd do would be to hire
an honest, trustworthy Financial Advisor, who happens to be my brother's best friend of 25 years.
Yep, then they can hire the cast of ER.
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That is true but the owners who hire them
should be held accountable. The American roofing/contruction co owners that do not want to pay their share of tax or pay a descent wage to a legal worker should be held accountable. The immigrants working illegal are just trying to make a living. (Yes it's stealing and wrong and I do not approve. Especially when they bring their whole families here.) The owners of these company are the real cheats though. They buy big vans and pick them up and drop them off. It's horrible wages are so low for hourly workers now. :(
Every now and then I hire my neighbor's daughter - sm
who is now 15 to babysit my 2 (7 and 8). She has 2 younger brothers (6&7) so plenty of experience being around younger kids (plus her mom is right up the road if there is a problem). I pay her $5/hour and usually a $5 tip to boot. Kids have a blast with her too, so it all works out.
Seems to me, agency so glad to hire out MT, just
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airlines hire seniors
If you live near airport, airlines hire seniors for customer care type activities which vary and you get flight benefits.
Then you're lucky!! Yes! I would hire her to do it and I think $15 is great! (nm)
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I'd still hire a local general contractor.
Whether modular or traditional stick-built, there are a million details, legalities and regulations involved - and you'll likely still need some local subcontractors. A good general contractor can save you a ton of grief and bad experiences.
It is o.k. to hire firends to do the work cheaper,
but this lady is crazy! Do not give her any money, a deal is a deal and the husband is happy. If she needs some money, she should ask her husband for it.
Because meds and utilities are going sky high and no one will hire them nm
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WalMart also contracts out companies they know hire illegals. There was
not too long ago.
Maybe next time hire a company that employs US citizens ; )
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You just nailed it. Companies hire illegal immigrants.
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Honestly, if I were you, I would hire a real estate agent to help
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Well, in a bank he would be handling money, so I think it's a legit reason to not hire. sm
To me, it makes perfect sense to not hire someone based on poor credit when that person would be working in an environment such as a bank, handling funds, etc. I see less reason to do so in other jobs, but in a bank, sure, it seems only logical to me. Sorry.
Maybe you shouldn't take any.
Curious as to why you listed biracial up there. What does that have to do with anything?
It doesn't sound like you really want any of them. Maybe foster care where someone wants to take of them would be a better place.
so therefore, i shouldn't have this cat and should get right of it
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Make your own income, hire a plumber. Total unnecessary. Men are useless in the family plan.
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They shouldn't be treated the same
A 15yo and an 8yo should not be treated equally anyway. If the 15yo wants what the 8yo wants, tell him/her they can have the same bedtime, curfew, privileges etc. if they want everything to be fair.
You're right. I shouldn't
tell him it will be a long time before I die. I was just trying to comfort him. We have also talked about how everybody will die when God decides it is their time. We are regular church members. He has been raised in church and knows all that, I guess it's just now really sinking in. My husband will take care of my kids if I die. As far as if we both die, we have that taken care of also. We were married 18 years before we had them. They are definitely God's little miracles to us! I'm sorry for your loss, but you're right; you will see him again someday and I'm sure he has never left your heart! God Bless you and thank you for your kind advice.
Shouldn't I have a better self-definition by now?? sm
I am up early, not sure if this will interest anyone, but want to sort of wonder "out loud" on here for a moment. I am 40 years old, yet I still am ambivalent about my religious beliefs, my political beliefs, etc. I find myself not being steadfast either way...I don't know if that means I don't yet know who I am (though by now you would think I should!) or if that means that I am just always going to be a flexible thinker? I sometimes read posts on the liberal board and the conservative board and I can always see both points of view and find ways that I feel they are both right and sometimes both wrong so I never lean to far to either side. I grew up going to a Christian church and I believe in the general overall beliefs of Christians, but then I don't discredit other religions that others grew up with either. And I don't necessarily agree with everything that most mainstream Christians believe. Does all of this mean I am ignorant? Or is it ignorant to be too closed-minded to believe that others also have valid points of view, that I don't always have to be right, and that there is more than one way to be "right"? So sometimes I feel "undefined" and wonder how I can ever define myself...then other times I think I have defined myself exactly as I want to be. Does anyone else feel "undefined"? and is it a good thing or a bad thing?
What amazes me, though it probably shouldn't
is the number of people on this thread bashing someone for doing things right, when anon up above just suggests the OP file bankruptcy. What's wrong with you people? You think it's okay to just turn your back on the mess you've created? Not one of you commented on that poster's suggestion, yet you waste your time bashing someone who does have their act together. I would rather have PhillyChick in my corner anyday over anyone who thinks it's okay to just rack up debt and walk away. You people need to get your heads checked.
Before you say it, this has nothing to do with whether the OP has extenuating circumstances or not. The OP wasn't even asking about bankruptcy. The OP was asking for suggestions on how to pay things back, and for that, I applaud her.
well it shouldn't be. She should at least get to get a second opinion (sm)
I think she is being diagnosed to easily with something that can stay on her medical record and that is so unfair.
Maybe because no one has said to them they SHOULDN'T wear it...
nothing uglier than muffin top under too tight shirts, fat thighs in too tight jeans, sucking down an soda and eating a burger. Some people need to look in a mirror, or better yet, shop at a real department store, spend some money on good quality clothing, stop trying to dress like a teenager, and bring along a friend who will tell you how you REALLY look in the clothes you try on.
shouldn't this be on the WAHM board?
just wondering why pregnancy, potty training etc questions are not being re routed to the WAHM board? Otherwise, what is that board for? just a question, not a criticism.
Well, she shouldn't have married him...that never works.
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It shouldn't matter. Of all the couples I know currently, (sm)
only ONE is same-race. The rest are white/black, black/Pacific Islander, Asian/white, etc. And the only same-race couple I know is gay. So no, it shouldn't matter in the slightest.
You shouldn't be so judgmental and nasty
without knowing all the facts. News flash: Life isn't always black and white, cut and dried. Try to put yourself in her shoes and not be so critical because you don't know any of the details of what's going on. Jeesh.
he shouldn't even ask-it's too obvious and classless
again, just my own *take* on the situation...betcha these people always get called by virtual strangers or acquaintenances to stay with them while the guests do Disney Parks.....living in Orlando and all that....
it reeks of using them.....just to stay there.....
Bad taste, to say the very least.
But, shouldn't this be on the RELIGION Board?? nm
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Shouldn't teenagers at least have at home ....sm
a CLEAN environment?
Shouldn't this really be on the Politics board? sm
you are labeling global warming science as rotten, and basically making remarks about Obama that pretty much should be noted on the politics board, not GAB.
She's your mother. There shouldn't be "boundaries."
One day, your mother will be gone and you will look back on this vacation as time you missed and your children missed out on with her.
I'm very close with my mother. She's my rock. The one person I know I can always count on if ever I or my children need anything. My dad passed away at age 49 and both my parents instilled a strong sense of family on my brother and sister and I. Blood is blood. We should always "do" for family.
Yes, my mom gives me unsolicited advice, yes she has irritated me repeatedly over the years, yes we've had our spats and cold wars, and yes she has intruded in my home and turned her nose up at my housekeeping abilities. But in the end she's my mother. She's earned the right to give me unsolicited advice and she's always welcome in my home. And of course I don't do things as well as she did, she was a career housewife. I haven't had the luxury. But she does what most mothers do and what I will do someday, I'm sure.
Just tell you mom to bring her own spending money and let her know that maybe she and your dad she get their own hotel room because there are far too many people for just one room. You may even be able to have one or two of your kids sleep in their room. It might work nice for you. You and your hubbie maybe could leave the kids with your parents one night at the hotel with your parents at the pool or something and go out on a date.
Or maybe tell her you think it's great she go and she can help you with the kids and give you some alone time on your trip. She may decide she doesn't want to go afterall and then everything works out the way everyone wants.
You shouldn't feel responsible....
As mean as it sounds, you have put up with it and YOU have decided for yourself that enough is enough and if you tell him so and IF he bounces back to alcoholism, then basically he is a grown man and that is HIS choice, you cannot let it affect you or make you feel responsible.
My sister-in-law is in the same boat as far as her husband being an alcoholic. It has put so much stress on her and their children and it has been going on about 15 years. He won't seek help though and she won't leave him. She just says that she is hoping one day he wakes up and sees what a good wife she is. I feel bad for her that she has wasted so much time on someone like that.
my thought is that it shouldn't even be called
'assisted suicide', it should be called 'facilitating a less painful transition.'
If the terminally ill patient himself and the doctors agree to stop the pain and suffering, then definitely, yes.
Then she shouldn't post here if she doesn't want
with someone telling her to get up off her butt and look for a job? It takes two months to realize you aren't making enough money?
I feel more sorry for someone who experiences a true tragedy. Not someone who sits around and waits for the crap to hit the fan.
She needs to read some of the recommendations here and do something.
It is better than nothing.
It shouldn't matter, but in this imperfect world
it upsets a lot of people - who ought to be minding their own business.
I asked my mother about marrying outside your race when I was young, and she replied that marriage was difficult enough that you should look for somebody you have things in common with, and religion and race are 2 biggies.
I have been married for 20 years, so I haven't had to think about it for quite a while though.
You shouldn't feel this way so early in your marriage (sm)
Take it from someone who stuck around way too long and now has a much more complicated situation (children and money involved) - cut your losses now and find someone you are a better match with. It has nothing to do with your weight. Your husband should be treating you with lots of love and attention right now in your marriage...if not, something is wrong. You can find someone else who would be a better match for you. Don't wait until there are children and finances and so many other complicating factors keeping you there!! However things are at the beginning of a marriage, they will only get worse as time goes on. I know it is hard, I know you love him, but it is not going to work. Again, cut your losses now, and move on to a better future!
See what this board has come to? Blurry or not that shouldn't be posted.
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You shouldn't feel guilty because (see message)
you can't be really sure that is what she would have wanted. When my cat died, many years ago, she went away to be by herself when she died. We had to look for her to find her. Some animals just prefer to be alone. You spent time with her before she died, and then you made her comfortable. Perhaps it was easier for her to "leave" if you weren't there with her. I am so sorry for your loss.
Silly Girl shouldn't have to treat her
husband like a dog or a child. After all, she is his wife, not his mother. If she wants a pet, she can go to the animal shelter and get a dog. She married a man and he needs to act like one. It sounds like she gives and gives, and he takes. I think Silly Girl should start taking care of herself for a change.
It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
ARRGH, I knew I shouldn't have opened up this sm
discussion. I was working, and was going to watch whenever I had time (love DVR), but I just had to peak, lol. Oh well, of course, I am still going to watch it 
Definitely understand that - you shouldn't have to have your property be forever a memorial! (sm)
you were VERY kind to leave it there and take care of it for six months. So ridiculous that people gave you a hard time. I'm sorry that happened to you! Bad enough that you have to know something so awful happened in front of your home without a constant reminder and strangers coming up to your house all the time. And it is not your job to maintain it for them. If the family understood, then certainly no one else should have any say whatsoever.
I did my taxes in February, no reason why $ shouldn't be here today
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