All good points!
Posted By: Nola on 2009-05-14
In Reply to: Question re: disclosure of a suicide... - nola
I am in the state of Louisiana and not sure what the laws are regarding this. Ironicially, the neighbor who committed suicide informed ME a few years earlier that a previous owner of my home did the same thing and the first thing I asked him was if it occurred in the house! He told me it did not, it was at another location and I have to admit I was relieved to hear that.
In any event, they were good neighbors and I feel so bad for his wife who is left picking up all the pieces.
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Wow....good points actually nm
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Good points, and that is the thing. It is not
a fix-all. Without making lifestyle changes, everyone will regain their weight back. My step-mom had the surgery and is over the 100-pound mark for the weight she has lost. She has cut out all breads from her diet, desserts, etc. She has made huge diet changes since, and that is why she is losing the weight and keeping it off. She also consumes a lot of protein. She has done fantastic with it though. My friend's sister had it and is having a lot of complications, but she has not followed the recommendations for after surgery either. Her son had it and has done great and is keeping the weight off.
He does bring up some good points, but -
He fails to say how all these countries offer the *free* healthcare. That is because it is not truly a free ride. Every time they pay $6 or more for a gallon of their heavily taxed gasoline they are paying for it. I know for a fact the property taxes in both Germany and England are outrageous because I have lived both places. The British also pay outrageous prices for telephone service, must register each TV they have in their home every year and pay to use it, the list goes on and on. So, while they walk out of the hospital without handing over any money, they have in fact paid for it in various other ways. Not quite sure Americans would go for some of this since we are already screaming about $3 for a gallon of gas. 
All good points, good post. (nm)
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points are - it's all about.........sm
 in this country it is all about which politician is sleeping with which drug company, how much $$ transpires (greased palms), and in the end, what with all the drug recalls after extensive studying of all the drugs, recalled or not recalled, our family members being used as guinea pigs.
You like this system of doing things? You like the FDA?
*pppffffftttttttttttt*
As to your points
By the time of "the incident", drinking 12 beers was going real easy, 18 was average, and 24-30 meant it was the weekend. It was always one of my fears that I would wake up in the morning to find him dead beside me because I'm sure BAL had to be well in excess of .4. I always wondered if that tolerance of alcoholics (he can drink a 6-pack without visible effect to the untrained eye; I can't drink 2) always increased the level necessary to induce coma/respiratory failure.
As to pitying him, when I fell in love him he wasn't as bad as he is now. He drank 1 day a week, and then it was 2, and then it was 4, and then it was 7. Even now, I still love the part of him that's drowned there in the bottom of the Budweiser bottle. And I do pity him; I don't think he's happy. I think he drinks because he's miserable and then he's miserable because he drinks. The 2 months he was sober after the arrest was the longest his 14-year-old son has seen him sober, and the son is starting to show signs of the narcissistic danger-seeking behavior of his father, and I know that is tearing the ex up, although, ironically, he blames it on everything but himself.
As to the subpoena, the DA, at least the last time I talked to him, made it sound like there were no hard feelings if I didn't show up, although apparently without me there is only the report of the arresting officers.
In the state where it happened, punishment is a maximum of 1 year in jail. The ex tried to make me feel guilty about testifying and potentially making him miss a year at this critical phase in his boy's life, but there's a part of me that thinks getting the kid away from his dad and his father's cronies for a year would probably be a gift. I don't know why CPS hasn't stepped in by now anyway, although this is a bit "backwards" of a community.
I think it just said "low points", but
when I baked them yesterday, I ended up with 18 muffins and they were about 2 points each. I also saw on the same post where you can add unsweetened applesauce and FF egg substitute. That poster said this adds 0 points, so I guess you just figure out the points for the mix.
Finally, someone said they baked cookies with just the spice cake mix and the pumpkin. No water. 350 degrees at 10 minutes. I'm guessing you would be more cookies than muffns this way and lower points, but haven't tried them yet.
What points you are racking up!!
Give from your heart like you are doing. You will have Karma unbelievably so. I have gave over the years and continue to do so, first a friend whose husband died, having a tough time and I gave her $100- went up to my father's home and he turned around and gave me $10,000, bought a coat for a child in my neighborhood who needed 1 on a freezing day, paid $30.00 for that and the next day had unexpected check in mail for $300.00. I give money to animal shelter each and every month for their upkeep and even take my daily papers to the pound because the animals need those. I love being able to give, have done since I was a young child so my mother told me. You are really making points with the good that you do, give from your heart, no matter what you seem to think the response is, your rewards will be there for you in the long run. I never give to get back, never ever, just from my heart. I read stories in the papers or hear on television and will send money to different people I think deserve with never an expected return. Your heart is good!!
Not trying fo get points and people think what they want.....
I told how I work, what I do. I told what I see on these posts. How can that be anything but truth?? If it is perceived to be something other than that, well so be it. Only telling the truth. I think lots of MTs probably see themselves in what I have said and I have stepped on toes.
I see your points and agree that there
is definitely more going on here. It's very hard to give just 1 answer. There are so many other factors involved. As you said, is he just a deadbeat? Or is he out of work for the first time and is having a hard time dealing with it. Maybe he kept the $10 because he didn't want to have to ask (or beg) his wife for money later in the week. Does the wife handle the finances and does she "dole out" the money as she sees fit? If so, then I don't blame him for keeping the $10. Or is he constantly out of work, can't hold a job, wants the money for drinking or cards, etc?
Either way, the amount seems very trivial to end a marriage over. I, too, think there is more going on here and maybe this is just the straw that broke the camel's back.
I have to disagree with some of these points
I do know that my natural gas bill, which is what I would be heating with, was WAY more than my electric bill. So I totally disagree with the statement that gas central heat is cheaper. My last heating bill 3 years ago (which only included gas) was $450 for one month.
What you posted says it uses .12 cph, which would equal approx $90 for 30 days, I could put 5 of them in my home before I reached my last gas bill!
Is this for everyone, no. Should it be used as a constant source of heat, probably not for most households (some single people might get away with it).
Really the only thing I saw in the article you posted against this heater was the cost of the heater. I am willing to pay that because I happen to want something that looks nice. This has a 30-day money back guarantee and a one year warranty.
Where I live anything that you can do to turn the thermostat down, if you use gas, will save you money. I need to heat my house 24/7 for about 7 months out of the year, if I had to pay for natural gas I don't know what I would do.
The others do have valid points, but...sm
things like this happen to me and I am most annoyed about the lack of consideration. It bothers me to spend time looking for an item to use only to find out it was lent out. My brother once let his friend use my lawnmower, without telling me. I ended up borrowing my neighbor's mower because the lawn was getting overgrown. It took 3 weeks to get mine back. I think it is reasonable to be asked first, especially if it is something of sentimental value, something that needs extra careful handling, or something that is actually used frequently like kitchen implements/pots/pans...and lawnmowers, of course. : )
I agree with you on some points
Yes- I do believe that person was dead before EMS got there. However, they said that MJ was having trouble breathing right after that injection -- why wait so long to get help? Why not call the EMS asap? I'm not sure that the body is that of MJ or that it is not. He hid from the world so much -- always covering his face. Again -- how would someone know to get that shot of him -- if the identy of the man was kept secret? I'm not saying he is not dead, but on the other hand I'm not 100% sure that he isn't. Wonder if the family is having DNA on the body? There are things that just don't add up, but the he always was "different." Many have said he used body doubles and had an army of wax replicas of himself. Really . . . how hard would it be to fake his own death if he wanted to. If he is really gone, may he rest in peace. He will be missed by his fans.
haha, I agree with you on those points! sm
I can fall asleep with my music in my ears. Only issue I would have is if they talk loud enough to be over the music, or if a movie is playing during the long flights and you can't hear the movie because they are talking so loud, otherwise I don't see it being a big deal. What I don't get, though, is they always made it sound like it interferes with the radio controls or something to have wireless laptops on or cell phones. Guess that was just another story they tell to get you to do what they want, lol.
If you do WW, go to www.dwlz.com - all the points are there for food and restaurants.
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You can google weight watcher points
and get them over internet at sites other than weight watchers. If you have the other material, just do it that way. That is what I am doing.
I really see and feel strongly about both points of view here. sm
I will say I am a Catholic, and a divorced one. I am not practicing at this point, but I am not an unbeliever...exactly. I consider myself a gnostic Catholic, and that is a story for another day.
The so-called Christian morals we have in this country are SELF-IMPOSED. They are with all religions. I consider myself a Christian, so I don't believe in sin because well, Christ died on the cross for the forgiveness of sin...even BEFORE we think about sinning. So, some of this I don't buy into.
If anyone thinks they have the slightest idea of what God wants them to do, they need therapy! WHY would any of us think we know the mind of the Divine??? I don't care how religious you are, YOU DO NOT KNOW THE MIND OF GOD.
I was in an extremely abusive marriage. He abused me, the kids, our minds, our bodies, our hearts, our souls. I was married in the Catholic church and I am still married in the church, having a divorce without an annulment. I made the commitment to keep only to this one man and that I have done. I live celibate for a number of reasons and my spoken commitment in the Catholic church is one of them.
Their respective marriages are over and not because of each other. They are free to be together if they choose to do so. Being arrogant enough to think he knows what God would want, yes he needs therapy! I think he is a bad bet for her because he will always come right back to what God would want, has no ability to exercise the Free Will God gave him, can't think for himself and would be pretty useless as a husband. This may, in fact, be what drove his wife to kick him out! Milquetoast!
I get your point, but you lost points due to perception of slamming
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How About Those BEAUTIFUL CARDINALS, up by 3 points, I adore Kurt Warner!!!! happy! ,,,,,nm
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Anyone have any good holiday dessert recipes? Looking for something good to take to a party. nm
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What a good role model you are for good holiday spirit...wow nm
Awesome! Good service is good news.
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glad to see you look at it this way! Really good idea! Have a good season! nm
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Good Fences make good neighbors
You can get premade cedar fencing that comes in sections. You dig a post hole at the appropriate distance and fill with a bag of quick-crete. Alternatively, you could buy a used fence from a place that hauls away.
You could also get an electric fence, just hook to a battery and run the cord (for retraining purposes) it would not hurt your dogs.
I feel your pain. Roll up your sleeves and pray for some digging weather!
Hey hon, you can have one. There are tons of good ones out there looking for a good woman. They ain&
doorstep. Seek and you shall find. So, if you 'really' wanted one, me thinks you would have one...
a good movie with a good lesson
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Good for you! Keep up the good work!
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Yes there are some that are good. This wasn't about one that was good.
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R-I-D-D-A-N-C-E. Good riddance. Not good riddens. Riddens is not even a word.
my pet peeve
I would make a good Beth with wig on. Not sure DH would make a good Dog.
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Here's a good one.....
She is sexually inactive since being widowed by choice. 
Good for you!
:-)
Good for you
Sounds like she has a good home. It just may take her time and I am sure professional help will help. We need to learn not to let them train us. I have two cats and my dog and I am sure I spoil them according to most people but right now they are my family. I am sure Tasha will not be around much longer and don't think I will replace her for a while. Would be nice to be able to come and go for a while and not worry about someone taking care of the dog. Also it is a little more work training a puppy down here on the water in a floating home. So it will be me and my cats for a while. I am also not sure I have the energy for a puppy. But it sounds like you have sure provided a good home for Miss Lilly.
Patti
good for you--sm
Puppies have a way of healing our hearts! We won't forget, but they fill that empty gap..for the other remaining pets, as well. They get lonesome too after having had a companion for a period of time. Just give them time to become friends. I am happy for you!
as an IC you need to get a GOOD CPA....
I truly do not think you can do this yourself, unless you are so business-books acclimated and always on top of things.....
I've been an IC for 10 years and an MT for nearly 30, and as an IC I always get my things CPA-ready for the CPA (receipts/bills/statements, and I write everything down once I get the receipts/bills in good order in the late winter/early spring, by March, and so I go to him with all the categories and the figures and not the receipts/other garbage). You get a percentage off for your office, your electric, et cetera. The CPA's know all the in's and out's of this and are quite helpful and worth every dime, in my mind. I used to pay quarterly taxes (about $500-750) but now I choose to pay yearly, one lump payment by April 15th and I'm all very legal!!
Best of luck! 
It looks good!
And shouldn't that be rheumatiz? :-)
Good for you and your Dr..sm
That is great to hear. Our GYN office was out of the vaccine at the time of our visit, so they must either pushing it hard, or getting a lot of requests for it. I had seriously considered having my daughter get the vaccine, but after I have had a chance to think about it, I'm having second thoughts. I don't want this generation of teenage girls to be guinea pigs for something that may have harmful effects later on. And the government making it mandatory? Let's hope not.
some good, some bad
but don't you want your kids to have a better and easier life?
That's a good one!
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not good
according to about-to-graduate as vet daughter. As certain nutrients that the one animal NEEDS, is not in the other's food. I can't remember all of what she said, but know it can lead to deficiencies.
Good for you!
Glad to hear things went so well, and I'm sure your mind will rest easier now too.
LOL! Good one... : )
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Good for you.....
 So excited to read that. I would swear that is the best "diet" so to speak. Great news - keep up the good work! 
Good for you
I find it very hard to believe that it happened to you and you can be so flippant about it.
Mine happened more than 25 years ago. I was 14 years old. When I told, I was branded, I was a liar, I was asking for it, etc...
How is it that a grown man can beat the living daylights out of a young girl, rape her, cut her legs with broken glass, and then act like nothing happened. How can an entire community act like nothing happened?
I still have nightmares. I can sometimes even still smell that cheap cologne he wore. I want to vomit every time I get a little whiff of it.
The next 3 weeks were the longest of my life, wondering if that monster got me pregnant. I absolutely would have aborted if he had. Either that or I absolutely would have killed myself.
I would love to give you my nightmares since you seem to be so strong. I would gladly give them up.
Good. I used to like her; but since she
came out of the closet, she has become more arrogant.
Not that there is anything wrong with that. (coming out of the closet).
Good - thank you (sm)
You both just posted about the same time. Not sure what I did to that poster. Anyway..I made an appointment which my boss agreed to, and I haven't given my notice yet - thought I should wait until I feel better to make any big decisions. Thanks
Good for you. --sm
once you start feeling better, the other positive steps will fall into place too. Hang in there, you can do it!
and DumDum is not so DumDum--I have been around the block a few times myself, and have had many experiences such as yours. Think positive thoughts for what you want out of life and those positive thoughts will create positive energies around you. Don't let anyone elses criticisms get you down. It can be hard because all it takes is one negative remark to set you back sometimes. Take care and good luck to you!
Good for you! I am on day 2.
You can do this! We both can do this.
I am on my gazillionith quit attempt. Stress always does me in, but I am like you, thinking this has to be the end.
This stinking habit is really jeopardizing my healt. I had a really bad URI about a month ago and then ended up with costochondritis. I quit for a couple weeks, and then picked them up again. Got fed up yesterday and said enough. I can't smoke, because it kills to cough. I am so tired of the way cigarettes make me feel, both physically and mentally.
Look for the book, The EasyWay to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr. It helps to get you in the right mindset and put in perspective what the addiction does to you.
Good luck. Keep fighting the fight, no matter what. E-mail me if you need a quit buddy!
Good for you!
That sounds like fun. I would love to find something like that so I wouldn't have to be at this desk quite as much.
Good for you! If you have
made it through the first 3 days I think you are pretty much home free, so day #8 is excellent. You have gotten the nicotine out of your system and have conquered the physical withdrawal- now you just have to deal with the mental/emotional addiction.
I quit 15 years ago and it was a struggle but what worked for me was to ride out each craving when it came on, without trying to stuff it down with food or whatever. In the class I took they said that if you stuff the cravings at the beginning then they will pop up 2 or 3 months down the road when you are totally unprepared mentally for them, and that is usually what makes people relapse.
The other thing that really helped was when I was in a good solid mental state and really aware of how much I wanted to quit I sat down and wrote down all reasons I wanted to quit and all the bad things about smoking that I hated and all the good things that life as a nonsmoker would entail. It was very good to have that to read at times when my mind would try to play little tricks on me.
Also, watch your self talk. If you see someone smoking and think to yourself "man, they get to smoke and I can't" you will only feel deprived and punished. Think to yourself "I'm so glad I choose not to do that anymore."
Good luck!!
Good for you!
It will get better. DH did it 3 years ago, and he is unbelievably glad he did. Smoking is sooo inconvenient these days. When I see people smoking outside their places of business these days, they don't even hold their cigs like they used to; now they usually try to hide them. They are probably wishing they were already where you are right now - at 30 days. Your breathing is going to be improving, exercise will get easier, and your skin will start looking younger.
You certainly have a lot of stresses in your life, and this change is going to help you in the long run, as you know. I applaude you for making this positive change and handling all that.
You are pretty awesome.
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