Agree with this. Give the kid some space and autonomy! nm
Posted By: Will help keep communication open. nm on 2007-09-26
In Reply to: If I had been asked at such a delicate (as some folks put it) - Hmmmmm??
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ran out of space. Should be: will give it a try. LOL nm
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not crazy at all.........however, give him space....
Best of luck - if ya give him space, he might come a-runnin.....he also might be *gun-shy* at the moment...being only 3 months out....
Prayers comin' your way!! 
Don't let the "goodness" be one-sided, give yourself some personal space, AND try to have
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Agree with this. Diaries/journals are personal space, no matter
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I agree!!! why would you give her that?!?!
with any luck at a 4 pack a day rate she won't be around much longer to bother you
I agree; the cleaning spatula they give you does not work
If you use marinades or the like forget it - everything sticks to it and makes a big mess. So most times I either had to clean it right away with water while still very hot (and by the time I ate my food it would get cold) or I had to go and turn the grill back on and use water on it and a new sponge each time and then throw the sponge away each time because it was such a mess. Anyone have any pointers on a easier way to clean it or suggestions for another indoor grill? :)
A lot of people are so desperate for work that some will give you free bids and give you ideas while
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my space
Is there a way to find your kids on my space? I want to check up on my son in college without him knowing but I'm not on it myself.
My son's My Space . .
When my son was in high school (two years ago) his page was soo "gangster". He thought it was cool I guess. Some parents called me saying he was in a gang and some of the students actually became afraid of him because of his stories, all of which were made up. I think he was starting to be a pathological liar. He is not a macho guy at all. Anyway, he lost some friends and learned his lesson. He was terribly embarrassed when he had to come clean. Like the below poster, I think they have to "feel the pain" sometimes in order to fit in. Hope this is the case with you son.
Poll: How many of you have a My Space?
I do.
Jesus has a my space.
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...buildup on the scalp as well. Sorry, not enough space before, LOL. nm
no message.
Fake, skinny. Don't have much space...sm
but I didn't want table size tree. Got it last year and was really amazed at how pretty it turned out.
2nd toe longer, wide space between big toe and
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I've got one of those small space heaters.
They are great to warm the feet. I uually run hot water over my hands when they get stiff or cold. Haven't tried those gloves yet but maybe someone else will post about them for you.
Clueless too and that's what I need to know! I snooped on my nephew's my space...uh-oh
I didn't sign up or anything - I just did a Google of his name with my-space and found it that way...he's not private. He's 18. So how would it/he know who I am? Anyone?
And the best is when I told my sis (his mom) and she said YOU DID?!?!?!?!?!??
I said, didn't you?
She said yeah.
LOL!
Customer service in outer space
I made a service call on my freezer this morning and got a woman who could barely speak English, then had the nerve to tell me I had a bad phone because she could barely hear me - asked where she was and naturally that would be India.
Check out HGTV.com Rate My Space (sm)
Regular people redoing their homes upload pics and others comment on them. It's very fun to see all the rooms, and you can get some very good ideas for designing and decorating your own space.
That space-age memory foam stuff
has some problems. People find that the way it conforms to your body and doesn't breathe is HOT. It also lacks certain spring that a normal mattress has. How can I say this delicately ... married people's beds aren't always just for sleeping, and memory foam doesn't do what you expect a mattress to do. So I've heard. I never had one.
Better to get a mattress with a mixture of foams and/or springs. My hubby likes to turn a lot in bed due to all his aches and pains, so we got a Simmons for the control of transfer motion and we got one with a soft pillow topper to ease DH's tender hips and arthritis aches.
Try Facebook, Twitter, My Space or those other blogs ..
They are usually on there, at least you'll know he's okay. You must be heartbroken. I have one whose wife plans busy plans every weekend with her mother and tribe, he has no say and he can't see us because he has to go to the in-laws. I wish he'd get a spine! When he does have time, he's blogging. We just wonder where we went wrong. We worked our a$$ off for him and the MIL never worked, so I am considered not so good of a mom by his wife because her mom stayed home and baked cookies, I was in the trenches with the troops. What good did it do me? I was just the working woman, bad in their eyes. I guess my main job was not that of a "good mother" because I worked. I see it as I worked in order to provide a good home for my family and I baked, cooked and cleaned as well, probably not as good, but not good enough. So tired of it! My friends say if they did come over he'd probably have to get nagged in the car afterwards. I wouldn't want that, I love him too much. They do break our hearts sometimes, part of the old saying, "A daughter for the rest of your life; a son until he takes a wife." My heart aches for you, really. I'd find him just to make sure he's okay and if he doesn't respond, it's his choice, at least you tried. Or just see if he's okay and let it go.  Watch me get flamed now, that's all I need, I am heartbroken enough and I get flamed enough in person. I don't need that either, worked too hard all my life, for what?
I have a my space and use it daily to monitor my daughter and her friends
Yep thats me nosy mom but I have a few moms on my friends list lol
40 degrees in lower NY state and I have my space heater ON
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Sore thumb joints from hitting space bar (sm)
They are sore on the opposite side of the thumb, not the underside that hits the space bar. Does anyone know anything I can wear on my thumbs to prevent this from getting worse? I'm afraid I'm giving myself arthritis in my thumbs! Thanks
why is the space bar on the keyboard so long as opposed to other keys? nm
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Sharing laughter, but giving each other some space and "me" time, doing little things
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You do not give them food, you give
the children food but if they did not have the food to eat, probably would call family and children services. I do NOT give away money to anyone.
What an awesome post! I agree, agree, agree completely with you.
 You are right on the money in my book! 
you should give it a try
what the post said about the wipes. maybe something all natural might also do it that way the baby might not have a reaction to that and its good for the dog also. do some research on the net if you can. its worth it before you give your other "baby" up. let us know what happens. if worse comes to worse, make sure you interview prospects very well just like a baby for adoption. hope the first one works for you :)
We would give a lot of it away, believe it or not. Then, of course, the sm
usual - pay bills, purchase gorgeous home, travel, etc.
We believed that those entrusted and blessed with much should give much. If you keep all that you have you become stagnant - like the Dead Sea. The Dead Sea has absolutely no outlet which is why everything dies that enters it. I don't think we are much different. Give in order to be happy.
Once they give me what I want, they
can do what they like but until then guess we will just have to continue to cut that massive yard. It takes us about 2 hours to get there and then spend time there just to cut. It is an all day thing.
I'm sure they have - they will give her something (or let her out) (sm)
If they let her spoiled brat behind out, I am going to be MAD.
Can't give him away--Nobody else would put up with him!
I have a big kitty (18 lbs) that acts just like that! Pulling on blinds, disturbing our sleep, doing anything and everything to get attention until he gets fed! We love him so much and know that we are the only ones in the world who would put up with him--so we can't give him away! I feed him 3 measured meals a day. Fortunately, I now live in a house with a basement, so I put him down in the basement at nightime with his 3rd meal. He cries and scratches on the door a little bit, but then he gets used to it and goes to sleep. Sometimes I have to put him down in the basement during the daytime too if he starts being too bad while I'm trying to work.
Do you have a bathroom you could put kitty in at night? Just make sure there's not too much in there for him to destroy. That would be more comfortable than a crate.
There was a give away
for me. An ad underneath said something about maze prank.
I'm going to give this a try...sm
These are my "four-legged boys".
then give him a key!!! nm
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Give him a big hug from me!!!!...
Whatta joyous day you guys had!  Cat
I'm not sure if I can give the name
legally, so I'll give you some facts -- It is a major department store that changed it's store credit card into a mastercard.
Don't give up on her. PLEASE don't give in to her.
She's 16, and its never too late. I just started reading this thread and my heart is broken. I hope other moms take it to heart after hearing your story. I have 3 teens, so can relate. My husband and I came from permissive families - you know, the cool family with the house where all the kids wanted to hang out? The houses where they could get away with anything, drinking, drugs, smoking, sex, cause the parents looked the other way. My parents were fine, upstanding, snobbish upper crust members of the community, fine church-going folks and rich. And they didn't give a hoot about their kids in the end, though we looked great on paper. I only wish my parents had rules. I was grown up since I was 14. My husband, too - that's how we met and have been together 30+ years now. Our # 1 rule since our own kids were babies... NEVER are they allowed to sleep over anyone's house. Period. No exceptions. Not relatives, not their bestest friend, not their cub scout troop. Need I say that we have never had 1 regret??? There is NO good reason for any kid to sleep anywhere than their own bed at night. Period. We realized when they were little that if we let them do the sleepover thing when they were little, but then stopped when they were older, what kind of a message was that? We knew the sweet little neighbor who at 5 years old demanded her friends sleep over, or else would throw a tantrum, would be 16 one day, and a tramp. Its that simple an equation these days, unfortunately. So, no sleep overs, no exceptions, not for church, especially not for church. LOL. How sick is that? But this is 2008 folks, and this is one messed up world. My kids were upset a bit when they were really young, but we didn't make a big deal of it, nor in the end did they. They are cool, mature teens, and have actually thanked us for it many a time lately. We took the temptation out of their hands - kids are too young to have to go thru this crap. I know, I did. At any rate, of all the rules I would start if I were you, I would go with the knowing where she slept at night, eacn and every night. Otherwise, look what's happened. She has lost this privilege at the very least. Kids don't need to not come home at night. Please don't ever fall for that one again. Even if she is at so-and-so's house, a friend, you must see what kind of kids she is hanging with. Don't allow it, for her sake. She will never ever change unless you do it for her. Praying for you. Be strong. She may hate you now, but she won't a year from now, or two. But at least she'll be alive to forgive you, rather than possibly dead. You know what I mean. Let your husband's European temperament prevail. BE STRICT. Being a strict parent does not kill your kids in the end, honest.
yes! and why do I have to give my
account number, name and address to a phone tree when I will have to do it all over again when I speak to a real person?
Don't give up!
I've been sewing all my life. My grandfather had a Sew N Vac type store when I was a little girl, and he used to have me and some of my other cousins come into the shop and sew during store hours to show customers that it was "so easy, even a child can do it!" I learned to sew before I even went to school! He even had some antique machines with foot pedals that we kids used to play with. I have all sorts of machines, from antique hand-crank Singers to cheap Wal-Mart plastic machines, and high-end Pfaff and Viking sewing machines and sergers.
Check out local sewing and fabric stores for classes. You can also try visiting Meetup.com, which is a really cool place to find all sorts of people who get together to pursue their interests. I don't know where you live, but I checked in my area, and there are several groups for beginning sewing listed. Maybe there are in yours, too.
With that said, I really have to tell you that Singer machines are not the best. Since the company was sold many, many years ago the quality has gone downhill. They are not built to last and have many parts that break very easily. In my experience, a simple mistake in threading some Singers will place a lot of tension on a weak part in the thread line. Something will snap or break, and once it's broken, you can't get the machine to feed thread properly as you sew.
Unfortunately, a really good machine can cost hundreds of dollars, and it's hard for a beginning sewer to make that sort of investment not knowing if it's something they'll be doing for a long while. I always recommend going to a store that deals in higher end machines. (Pfaff happens to be my favorite.) Then ask to try machines or take classes with their display machines. You learn basic sewing techniques and you learn what makes one machine better than another.
I suggest that if your machine is brand new, you return it for a refund. Take some sewing classes first, and try different machines. Then you can make a better, more informed purchase, which in turn, should result in successful and fun sewing!
I'm sorry. You probably didn't want to hear that, but I can't say that I'm a fan of Singer machines. Even if you get it to work, it's likely to fail not long down the road, which will only frustrate you. I'm willing to bet it's the machine and not you.
I just give
the roll a spin and catch the end of the paper. I've never given it a thought as to which way it should go.
Okay, I give up...
What are the mothballs going to do to the cat?
I have had the worst time with this new kitty. We have already tried the hot sauce and he actually likes hot sauce, interestingly enough.
He has absolutely destroyed my tree this year. It looks like Charlie Brown's Christmas tree at this point. (Not really but almost!)
I would give it to him. All of it. NM
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Here's what I give a lot. s/m
Go to Lowe's or Home Depot and they have house numbers, usually really pretty ceramic ones, that you can "make" with a little wrought iron frame to put the house numbers in that will stick into the ground.
Let me give you an example of something else
You might have come out okay but when my daughter still in middle school, was going to a high school in the afternoons for violin meetings with the teacher and other students. Daughter came home stating how a big girl was trying to trip her, cursing, etc. and the teacher would do nothing about it. As a fly on the wall (along with others there) I attended one afternoon and saw exactly what my daughter said was true. The teacher terrified of this older girl, probably in the 10th or 11th and I went to the office, told them to come down there immediately. A day or so later I was in the office, heard the mother and the child in there together. The girl got 3 days dentention. Lady, this was 1 parent you would never want to follow and talk with/confront. She was as bad if not worse than the child and not the kind that would take to you in any kind of way saying anything to them or their child. You should thank your lucky stars on talking with the guy/son. This happened not lately but over 20 something years ago and the school rowdy then and still same way.
Aside from the give and take
and genetic personality differences, people's minds have been programmed differently due to experiences (and they way the perceive them due to genetics). Because of that we all view, hear, perceive through our own unique filters. (Have you ever noticed even in casual conversation how often other people misunderstand what you are saying?)
It seems that this is pretty much the root of most difficulty in getting along. Many people aren't really aware and go through life reacting to things (that trigger emotions) programmed from childhood. On top of that, people are usually quite unaware of how they affect other people.
We could get into a really lengthy discussion on this, but it would be difficult in writing. : )
Certain couples will have a lot easier time, and likely you are 1/2 of one of them Sally. Bonus!! Just make sure that your husband has the same perspective on the relationship. Sometimes one person thinks everything is glorious, but the other person is just sucking it up all the time.
Not trying to be nasty, but just mentioning that because that actually happens more than one would think.
I think a better promotion of marriage rather than saying you have to work at it, would be to say you need to be aware and care. : )
Can anyone give me the name of the very best
multivitamin on the market? I have tried multivitamins in the past and never noticed a difference, a friend told me that it had to do with what type of multivitamin that I am taking. I truly need something that is going to give me more energy than I have now. Can anyone recommend something please?
TIA!!!
I would give it all up too (except AC).
Everything is so expensive, even to watch TV cost $70 a month. That's just ridiculous.
I would love to sell everything and start over again and go simple. Have the cash to do some fun things instead of having to work all the time to keep the stuff. I would just like to pack up the car and drive cross country and not have to worry about anything.
GIVE ME A BREAK
If she can afford a Cadillac Escalade, then why is she on food stamps? This has nothing to do people who DESERVE the aid given to them in this country via food stamps or anything else. It's about the people who lie and abuse the system and YOU and I PAY for it in our taxes. Open your mind.....not your legs!!
Maybe that ESL could give a class
on "Keeping Your Transcriptionist Happy"! 
of course, most teachers would give a different
story, just as most MTs will tell you that they don't make enough to survive or they are living near poverty, but that's not really true either. Most people would say the same thing about any profession they choose.
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