Again, if you re-read my post about how she is very
Posted By: Irritated Friend on 2007-02-02
In Reply to: And you assume you are the only woman this has ever happened to?? - Janet
"scatterbrained" to the maximum, I find it very, very difficult to believe that there is absolutely nothing she can do about this because there is and she chooses not to. You seem to be taking the "Oh, she can't help it approach," and this is where we strongly disagree.
End of story. No more from me.
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Why not read the post before going off on someone! SM
There is some great information inside. Give this woman a break!
As I read your post
I looked over at my cat napping. I am so sorry. I truely hope you can maybe go to a shelter and save another kitten and maybe it will also bring some joy into your life. Please don't think I am saying you kitten is just replaceable, but when my family dog died, the best thing for all of us was to get another dog that we knew needed a loving home that we could provide.
If you will read my post....
I am not defending abstinence only programs. I said if parents taught their kids about sex and condoms and STDs there would not be a need for a program PERIOD. In my opinion, as I said, that needs to be taught by parents, NOT by schools. And as far as standards, I don't know how much lower you can get than adultery in the White House, covering it up, committing felony perjury while in office, and the coup DE grace of those hail Mary pardons and stealing stuff on the way OUT of the White House. Oh yeah...there's a REAL standard to ascribe to. One of these days we will know the WHOLE Sandy Burglar story too. If he lives long enough and does not go the way of Vince Foster.
You did not read my post right
The law is completely behind me. They go with me, have the police there as I load up a truck, have appeared in court, spoken with the person who tells me how this works. Good gosh, would never take it upon myself just to pull up and start loading.
Read the post again
I did not ask what should I do- I asked what would others do.
When I read the post below
It looks like only 2 people voiced an objection. Ignore them. Who cares if they object. Some people do nothing but complain and attack on all of these boards. I can only hope some of these people do not behave like this in person but are embolden by their anonymity of the internet.
Read my post again and you will see
I said asked if I MIGHT have costochondritis because of the ribs that are still hurting so bad you cannot touch- this after my seeing him 2 weeks ago and it started before then. That is different from going in and stating I have that diagnosis and for some reason I have found as the years have gone on she is getting much more angry, it seems, in response to anything I say medical wise. Now I would never say anything medical but SHE brings up all the time because she is having this pain or that, going to various doctors, taking this and that and it is her talk more than mine. I said very innocently 1 day I was eating yogart because it was good for you. Talk about starting WWIII!. She asked who told you that and then started on how she had ate such and such all her life and she was ok. She had a much loved sister who was a nurse and I would be more than willing to say she would never say such barbed things to her. If I had just found out about fibro and just now seeking an answer or assistance it would be different but we are talking YEARS and I hurt severely. I told her I would rather know it was costochondritis than say other things it could be such as melanoma or bone cancer which are 2 other things I also read about and researched in trying to find anything I could do to help my own self as not getting it from the physicians I have gone to since, ah, say 2004. Maybe the best thing to do next time she starts about how do I feel, her having this ache or pain, taking such and such medicine, just say really off limits for me to talk about and just let it go at that?
Maybe you should read your own post because
you said murder- that was not mentioned before. You must be a very angry person with all that screaming going on.
If you will read my post above sm
You will see that I said exactly that - talk with the teacher and get the facts straight. I am perfectly aware of how emotional 13yo girls can be and how they can blow things out of proportion.
I still think this is a very inappropriate way for the teacher to have handled the situation. Regardless of how "worldly" kids are these days, the teacher could have discussed the situation on a one-to-one basis or with the female students only.
You should read your post
I'm sorry, but Christians don't tell people to go to "you know where." Christians don't say, not looking for advice - in other words, you don't want anyone to contradict you or criticize you - believe that is called pride.
How likely is it that all 3 sisters hate you for no reason? Have you thought about actually talkng to his sister, the one who hates you so much, about how you can make peace with each other? Doesn't mean you have to love her, but 2 adults should be able to be civil to each other.
As a Christian mother, you should set an example of love and peace for your boys - do you think you are doing that when you are ready to leave your husband over his family's feelings towards you?
If they hate you, that is on them, but if you hate them back, they have drawn you into their circle of negativity. Do not let that happen. If peace making efforts don't work out, then accept the fact that you do not get on with his family, let your sons and your husband maintain a relationship with them, and enjoy your time alone when they are with the family.
Love your children more than you hate your in-laws and do not draw your children into an eternal family squabble. You are pitting your ego against the ego of the sister and the mother - and putting your husband in an impossible situation.
did you not read my post?
"Please don't write and say a boy shouldn't be allowed to have his ears pierced"
and you are right i was asking about an AGE.
But you are 53, so that says it all, you were from a different generation and thusly I understand why you would be against it.
Read OP's post...........
That marriage is beyond repair:
1. She does not love him.
2. She wants out of the marriage.
3. She is unhappy.
4. Her children are not fond of their father.
Tell me what the pleasures are of going to bed and waking up to a person you feel nothing for.
What are the incentives because these are not hard times - this is THE END OF THE MARRIAGE.
No offense, but you need to put your bible away too.
I read the OPs post and nowhere
does she say it is irreparable. She says she does not love him. Well, at times, I don't "love" my husband either, sometimes I just want him to go fishing for a few days to leave me alone. Sometimes I am unhappy, so what? Happiness comes from within, not without. No one on God's green earth, (oh yeah, you don't like religious talk, too bad), is here to make YOU or anyone else HAPPY!! That doesn't mean this marriage cannot or will not be saved. I've been on this earth long enough to know that seasons change, feelings change, everything changes, but if this OP is looking for an excuse because she thinks there is someone out there who is going to fulfill all her needs, there IS NOT, no one can! If she is telling her children things so that they dislike their father, that is emotional abuse. All this OP has said is she is not happy, she doesn't love him. Applies to most of the population at times, and not enough reason to get divorced and hurt the kids.
Sorry, just read post above. I did not
watch until the 3rd season, so did not know they had done wildcards in the past.
I got chills when I read your post...
I have had a few similar events to yours, but nothing to that great extent. Next time it happens, just say hi. 
Try to read the post correctly, it says
the school was sent out a notice. Do you think only 1 child involved? Why would this be an across the board notice? Oh my, 1 kid and the whole school sent off for punishment. I have no sympathy for people who aren't able to read between the lines and think 1 poor kid is being picked on.
Did you read the content of my post?
?
Read the post correctly, it says
alcohol, whatever- that means which ever category one fits into, be it alcoholic, drugs, having children you cannot afford and wanting others to take care of, just not up for that. I had 2 children, never had assistance and worked hard to make sure I did have the money it took to raise them. I have said before and say again, I am most interested in helping people or animals out that are in some misfortune, get this now- that is NOT due to their own doings. You can not take drugs, you can not drink alcohol, you can not have a child by taking birth control. All of these are folks own doings and I do not want to pay for other peoples mess-ups. Understand??
Puhleez re-read my post and see....
that I said Denver is mid-west TO ME - in terrain, being like Nebraska which MOST DEFINITELY IS mid-west in terrain and in culture.
I said Denver is NOT geographically the mid-west. I know US geography and I know Denver is considered west. I am not geographically challenged.
Nuff said.
Just read your post and you and I in same situation
my husband also younger than me. I never ever knew something like this existed, the part about not knowing at retirement age which I get there 10 years before him as to what mine would be. Right now my income if both retired right now would be more; however he has an extremely good job now making twice what I do in my job at the present time so who knows? Next year I start drawing over $500 per month from a retirement fund but the way I look at it right now, that will pay my independete contractor (with maybe some more added) for the month so you cannot win for losing.
I did not read the post yesterday and sorry
because I had puppies who got sick with mucus, bloody discharge from the anus, weight loss and I lost them. This is very lethal and had I read her post would have immediately told her to not wait for appointment to see veterinarian because this onset does not let someone take that long before young puppies can die. I had in my back yard and never could let young puppies be there ever. I hope hers is ok and she was able to get some assistance with the pup.
I had to smile when I read your post. sm
Every time she complains of the itching I ask her about her breathing or if her tongue feels swollen. All mothers tend to think alike, well most of the time, maybe not Lindsay L. mom.
please read my post below to mtmomof3...n/m
 
Just read your post and my aunt the other day
was saying exactly what you were saying, was there not a good place that I could go to for a diagnosis on what my problems are. I do not know of a place like this at all. I can self-refer myself to a physician and usually do as I know about as much as the people I run into in the offices. After all my years of typing on all kinds of diseases, treatments and such, I do not need a person say 30 or more years younger than me to explain a diagnosis to me. I am sure I could tell them more than they could tell me. Just went to an urgent care place today for 1 of my problems and refused to weigh- the person taking history said I would have to because they would have to know my weight in order to give medication. I told them most medicines I know come in say 10, 15, 20 mg and I never weigh at any office and I see nephrologist, general, endocrinologist, etc. I refused to weigh, still got to see the physician and guess what, nothing prescribed! I probably have been in the medical field longer than this person on earth. on well, enough venting for the night.
I just read your post- wondering if
you thought this was me posting above (was not) because I wrote about bellpeppers below and just being silly inserted the burp thing. I know nothing about horses, names for males versus females, mothers versus fathers.
I am laughing as I read your post
you are saying Tina with her ole self is better than the younger Beyonce. Oh, now I am splitting my sides, he, he, he, he, he.....Tina used to break it down but she has got too much age on her now- she should have stayed retired and the way we remembered her.
Then dont read my post below yet!
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O Dear! I just re-read my post - LOL
Meant "watching" Animal Planet not washing LOL
I was so glad to read your post
You stated in the beginnig that you didn't want to be flamed, and unless you are right there in the moment so many just can't understand. I personally have never had to deal with anything like this, but I do have 2 children, 17 and 15. Trust me, when Trace Atkins sings "your gonna miss this" he is so right. Our oldest will be leaving for college in a little over a year and I am already having issues. Just have fun and enjoy. I remember one year my DS played basketball on a team that only won 1 game. We took them out for ice cream after every game and celebrated like we had won. I understand what really irks you, but just think about the kids.
I read my original post again and ---
I know I said I hate the dog, but that was a figure of speech - I hate the things he does to my house!
I brought him home at 10 ounces and have put up with his doings for 4-1/2 years - he's not going anywhere!
You need to read the post again and get it straight
I said the place where we get the animals from do not "allow" adoption of this breed but having said that, I read and hear about their "sweetness" all the time on the news and papers and I tend to believe what I hear- you can go for it but I would rather stick with other breeds, thank you. Lots of pits not available through the shelters. Watch animal channel sometimes and you will see when they get pit bulls (I know in Detroit this is the case) they put them down, not able to rehome.
Again, read the post correctly
Animal shelters who take in this breed around here mostly tend to put down because they consider them vicious and unable to be rehomed. The shelters do not want the responsibility of having a dog turn on a person. It is just a fact.
I totally mis read your post. sorry
You are right. I was preaching to the converted.
sorry Mrs. R. I posted above before I read this post.
You are absolutely correct.
BTW, if you had bothered to read the post just above this
snide response from you, I stated that I was working full time. I was not sitting home doing nothing.
I read your post and smiled to myself
You said you have taken classes and it is taking the stress off a little bit when you know what to expect. In case you are thinking about natural childbirth, knew 2 people who went thru the classes but when the contractions started those classes went out the window and they opted for pain killers. I don't know if a class would give you really the insight on what to expect as far as the birthing process.
Did you read the original post at all?
She lives in an assocation. Anything to start flaming. Ridiculous. I am too old to be shock by dog poop or anything idio.. say on this board
exactly THE CONTRARY, read my post. You are very
arrogant and misinformed.
My ancestors are European.
Believe it or not.
Do you think everybody on this board is a liar?
Are you?
Stupid, stupider, stupidest ist British English
more stupid, most stupid is teh American way
Even Hemingway used STUPIDER !
BTW, I have really pretty feet, maincured an very nice. size 7 1/2.
The loser always takes refuge in insults.
How do your feet look and smell?
I bet they are cheesy.......
Anudder ? Is this some kind of American cheese?
did you not read my original post? sm
I said if they were in school I would not charge them. The other poster had a girl in school who did pay rent and that is fine if that is what they want.
You need to learn how to read posts before you jump down my throat. You got the wrong person.
did you not read my original post? sm
I said if they were in school I would not charge them. The other poster had a girl in school who did pay rent and that is fine if that is what they want.
You need to learn how to read posts before you jump down my throat. You got the wrong person.
Sorry, I misread the post. I just read it as holiday
recipe. My apologies. Merry Christmas!
You obviously didn't read my post completely..
I said I USED to be overweight! I have not always been a size 6, I was much larger just a couple of years ago. I was technically considered obese and decided to do something about it. It was completely my fault and because of the food choices I was making and not exercising. I do have compassion for those people that have a problem and do something about it, but not for those that just sit around blaming others for THEIR problem! You really need to go see a dietician or someone who can help you eat correctly and start exercising every day. If you're really only hungry once a day, then you're probably snacking way too much and so your body only wants one meal. There are plenty of different programs out there that could really help you with your weight loss, but you have to be open to change and realize that you are the only one that has the power to change your life. You're also going to have to be completely honest about what your eating and it would really help if you wrote everything down. For me, I have to eat every 3 hours (3 small meals and 2 healthy snacks), stop eating 3 hours before bedtime and exercise at least 5 days a week to keep my weight down. When I started out losing the weight, I kept a food journal and it really helped me to see what I was putting in my body and make sure that I wasn't eating too many/too few calories. By the way, I not the same person as "anon" and I don't believe that I have said anything harsh to you.
I'm sorry - I assumed she was in first grade. I just read your post again. nm
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I have a life, a BIG one. Read my post below and you'll see.
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I can post today, but I can't read any posts. Anyone else
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Yes, I get a blank when I go to read post. I'm with Comcast. nm
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Sorry - guess I didn't read the whole post (sm)
I have driven to Florida by myself many times (about a 9 hour drive for me). I do have family there though. But I stayed in a hotel by myself while I was there and did the drive alone. I listen to my favorite music, talk on my cell phone (when I have service), etc. The drive is not bad at all. As far as the hotel room - I kind of adjust my brain and tell myself this time is all mine! I can eat whatever I want, go wherever I want, watch whatever I want. As long as you adjust your mind accordingly, it will be great! It really is a treat to be able to just make all the decisions yourself once in a while and not have to ask anyone else what they want.
did you read the post? she did not ask them; she told them to leave.
and if she would have treated them differently, they would have responded differently.
I didn't read anything in the original post
about expecting gushing or groveling. One of the things she did say was that she usually got gifts that the receiver picked out and then was just discarded or sold. I agree with the other posts, give gift cards.
I am putting my post inside so no one has to read
I think it is just a matter of personal opinion, no winning or losing to it. Just as mt101 called me paranoid, I dont take it personal. I am my own peson and my happiness/well being is not wrapped up in what another thinks. I dont know that person and she can think what she wants. I would never try to tell her she could not have that thought. The whole "sticks and stones" thing. I just think it is sad someone can let anothers opinion make them feel so miserable.
deenie, I posted above before I read your post
It seems like basically we are both thinking the same thing. I have a daughter who is 16 and there is no way that she is mature enough to make that decision.
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