After suffering a miscarriage, I'm pregnant again!....sm

I had a miscarriage in November at 8 weeks after having abnormal test results and got pregnant after my first period in December. I'm now 7-1/2 weeks and the baby looks great on the ultrasound and blood work they drew. I'm due on September 14th and my husband & I are tickled pink (or is that blue?)

For those of you who responded to my post in November about having the miscarriage thanks for the support and encouraging us to try again. I've had a lot of women tell me that they had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage and while the emotional pain of the miscarriage is still there, it was comforting to know I wasn't alone.

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I am the one who said that I am a Christian but that I don't understand the suffering in the world either. I also disagree with Christians being self-righteous - this article/video shows that Christians and Muslims should be able to live together in harmony and we should all realize that when we become too intellectually/religiously arrogant, we forget the whole point.

a hysterectomy because mine has grown double in size in the last three years (the size of a 14-15 week fetus). I am not crazy over surgery (because of the size it will have to be abdominal not vaginal). I have heavy bleeding and clotting but really no pain otherwise. I have been trying to lose weight because I read somewhere where that would help. I have lost not quite 20 pounds by walking everyday but I haven't noticed a difference yet. I just turned 40 a month ago. Anyone have any words of wisdom for me before I commit to a hysterectomy (he said he will leave my ovaries so I don't have to deal with menopause now) but I just don't want to be laid up for 6 weeks right now.

8 weeks into the pregnancy. Yesterday I e-mailed my friends/family the entries I had made in a journal starting the day after I found out I was pregnant. If you're interested in reading the various emotions that I've (and others that have been through a similar situation) been through then keep reading (Rick is my husband, Kyley is my stepdaughter and Kerstin is our foster child we're adopting)....

Over the past week I�ve had a few times where I felt like you do when you go over a dip in the road too fast. I know these sensations are you moving around in my womb. Dad is already rubbing my tummy & talking to you because we want you to know how much we love you. I love saying things to you & rubbing my belly as well � it feels so good knowing you�re in there � God�s gift to us. We love you! Mom

October 22^nd:

Today we told Kyley, Kerstin, grandparents, aunts & uncles about you. Everyone is excited & eager to meet you next summer. Kerstin was so happy she danced & kept screaming �we�re going to have a baby!� then asked me to take her to Target to buy you some things. She wanted to buy you a lot of things but I told her that we had to hold off a little bit as we could get somethings now & more later. I love you, baby Oldham! Mom

October 23^rd:

Today we told our friends about you. They�re all eager to meet you in the future! For lunch I had Spaghetti-O�s and about an hour later I could feel you moving all around � so I think you like them!

Kertsin likes talking to you & telling you that she loves you whether you�re a boy or a girl � but she thinks she wants a brother. We�ll see as time progresses. Love, Mom.

October 25^th:

Kerstin stopped people in the hallways at choir tonight telling them about you. We�re so excited!

October 29^th:

We had a busy weekend, baby. Your nana sent you some booties. We went to Kerstin�s soccer game, the Smyrna Jonquil Festival, church & Drew�s soccer game and and didn�t make me feel sick at all. However, some Wendy�s french fries with supper didn�t settle well with indigestion agalore. Dad & I love you & are excited that this week you grow arms, legs, eye rims, intestines & pancreas. You�ll be quite busy for sure! Love, Mom.

October 30^th:

Hello sweetheart! I continue to have occasional sensations of you & love every minute of it & knowing you�re growing inside of me. You are very much loved by me, your dad and sisters. Love forever, Mom.

October 31^st:

We had our 1^st Halloween with your being a part of our family. While at the church fall festival tonight Rick & I looked at the babies there & commented that next year you�ll be 4 months old by then. We can�t wait to dress you up & show you off!

Your dad has given me 2 very sweet toy stuffed baby dolls to remind me of your coming in the future. Your have a GREAT dad who is very excited to have you growing in me. We all love you very much! Love, Mom.

November 2^nd:

Hi angel from God! I love you & want you to know that you are a true gift from God to your dad & myself. We love you immensely. Love, Mom.

November 5^th:

Hi Sweetie! You�re entering your 7^th week of growth. This week you�ll start developing your fingers, toes, eyes, ears, nose, intestines, & teeth. Dad & I are very excited thinking about seeing you on ultrasound on the 13^th. We love you immensely & look forward to being your Mom & Dad. Love, Mom

November 7^th:

Hello honey! I�ve had yet another wonderful day with you continuing to grow inside of me. I still have indigestion after eating & occasional flutter sensations, but both are neat because I know that they come from you. Dad & I love you VERY much! Love, Mom

November 9^th:

Hi �Baby O� � life has been great this week knowing you�re working hard at growing to be an incredible child. Your dad & I went to an OB class at the doctor�s office tonight where they talked about your upcoming arrival. We both love you VERY much & look forward to your 1^st photograph on Monday. Love, Mom.

November 11^th:

Little angel, we had a good day today. Dad, Kyley, Kerstin & I went to the zoo & we look forward to taking you there in the future. Dad & I went to Hobby Lobby where dad picked the softest yarn for me to make you an afghan with. I started this project tonight. You�ve had a busy week with all of the growing you had scheduled to complete. In 2 days we get to see how well you�re doing. We love you! Mom & Dad

November 13^th:

Hello honey, we went to the doctor�s office today for the ultrasound & found out that you�re not as big as we expected. They drew lab work on me & will repeat it on Wednesday to see if you�re OK. Dad & I are trying to not worry & remember that your life is in God�s hands. We�re praying that He hasn�t called you to heaven & that you�ll continue to be with us still here on earth. We love you sweetie. Love, Mom

November 14^th:

Little angel, Dad & I were at the doctor�s office again today because I started having some bleeding this morning. Dr. Morell & the staff were great & sympathetic, and it�s too early to know what will happen. The good news is that you are still in me. I�ll go back tomorrow for more blood work. They�ve put me at bedrest for a couple of days. Dad dreamed last night that you were OK so we�re trying to stay positive with that & my dreams I�ve had before & after we found out that I was pregnant & you were fine. You�re in God�s hands now for the final outcome. We love you honey. Love always, Mom.

November 15^th:

Hello sweetie! We found out that yesterday�s HCG level was good & high. Tomorrow we get the results of the Monday & today�s tests. We continue to hop & pray that the numbers are going up. I didn�t work today. The bleeding is less but still present. We�re still rooting for you honey. We love you very much! Love, Mom

November 16^th:

Hi honey! We found out this morning that my lab work was inconclusive so they�re repeating the HCG tomorrow. We�ve got a lot of people praying for you, Dad & I that you�ll continue to grow & this scare will end soon. I did work today but was able to take breaks to rest & didn�t do much of anything else. Dad & I love you tons. Love, Mom

November 18^th:

Hello little angel in heaven. Dad & I were devastated to find out that you will not be joining us here on earth but instead are already in heaven on yesterday. Please know that we both loved you while you were in my womb & look forward to the day in our future when we meet you in heaven. We love you, Mom

How did you get through the time period when your baby was due? I lost my little angel at 11 weeks and the baby was due mid-June. Both my husband and myself have had good and bad days since the miscarriage but I'm fnding the closer to the due date I get the more sensitive I'm becoming. I just about burst into tears when walking into Target tonight I saw a lady that looked like she was around the stage of pregnancy I should have been at.

I have had 2 miscarriages over the past 1-1/2 years, the last being in January. Both times I had a D&C. The first time I got my period right back within a month and stayed on my normal track for periods, which I've been having for 25 years now and are calendar regular. Now since the 2nd miscarriage and D&C (at 11-1/2 weeks of pregnancy) my hormones have been crazy. I didn't get a period for 3-1/2 months and that was only after they gave me progesterone to induce it. Then I started the next month on time, followed by periods every 2 or 6 weeks, no regularity at all now.

Anyone else have a hard time with their hormones just bouncing all over the place and the body not understanding what to do with regularity anymore? My OB/GYN says this doesn't happen very often but isn't concerned yet and since I'm trying to get pregnant again I don't want to go on BCPs.

I appreciate all of you who responded to my original post 3 weeks ago. Physically I'm doing well with the recuperation from the miscarriage and subsequent D&C and the doctor told us that we can try to conceive again in a couple of months, which we will do.

Emotionally it's still tough but getting better each day. I miss the baby very much. I'm keeping up the journal that I began during the pregnancy and writing my thoughts to the baby in heaven when I feel like it and it helps to know I'm communicating my thoughts to our baby. I'm actually able to say the words "I had a miscarriage" this week without bursting immediately into tears. My husband continues to be very supportive and we both shed tears together at times over our loss. Our friends, family and church family have been incredibly supportive and that helps tremendously and we've definitely felt their support through their prayers and expressed concern.

For any of you who encounter a woman who has had a miscarriage in the future, the best thing you can do is be there for them and show genuine concern.

Did you notice certain symptoms before taking a test or going to the doctor? I am just wondering because my period is 2 months late and my breasts are so swollen and ridiculously sore. I am hesitating to take a pregnancy test because we have been trying for almost 2 years and every time I never turn out pregnant. Looking forward to reading your replies. Thanks!

WASHINGTON (AP) -- Scientists think they have figured out why pregnant women don't lose their balance and topple over despite ever-growing weight up front.

Slight differences in the spine allow women to carry the growing load of pregnancy without toppling over.

Evolution provided slight differences from men in women's lower backs and hip joints, allowing them to adjust their center of gravity, new research shows.

This elegant engineering is seen only in female humans and our immediate ancestors who walked on two feet, but not in chimps and apes, according to a study published in Thursday's journal Nature.

"That's a big load that's pulling you forward," said Liza Shapiro, an anthropology professor at the University of Texas and the only one of the study's three authors who has actually been pregnant. "You experience discomfort. Maybe it would be a lot worse if (the design changes) were not there."

Harvard anthropology researcher Katherine Whitcomb found two physical differences in male and female backs that until now had gone unnoticed: One lower lumbar vertebra is wedged-shaped in women and more square in men; and a key hip joint is 14 percent larger in women than men when body size is taken into account.

The researchers did engineering tests that show how those slight changes allow women to carry the additional and growing load without toppling over -- and typically without disabling back pain.

"When you think about it, women make it look so very easy," Whitcomb said. "They are experiencing a pretty impressive challenge. Evolution has tinkered ... to the point where they can deal with the challenge.
"It's absolutely beautiful," she said. "A little bit of tinkering can have a profound effect."

Walking on two feet separates humans from most other animals. And while anthropologists still debate the evolutionary benefit of walking on two feet, there are notable costs, such as pain for pregnant females. Animals on all fours can better handle the extra belly weight.

The back changes appear to have evolved to overcome the cost of walking on two feet, said Harvard anthropology professor Daniel Lieberman.

When the researchers looked back at fossil records of human ancestors, including the oldest spines that go back 2 million years to our predecessor, Australopithecus, they found a male without the lower-back changes and a female with them.

But what about men with stomachs the size of babies or bigger? What keeps them from toppling over?

Their back muscles are used to compensate, but that probably means more back pain, theorized Shapiro, who added: "It would be a fun study to do to look at men with beer bellies to see if they shift their loads."

Thomas Beatie, who used to be a woman, appeared in the most recent issue of The Advocate, a magazine for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender readers, Portland, Ore., television station KPTV reported.

Beatie wrote the article, which includes a picture of him while he was 22 weeks pregnant. According to the story, he went through a sex change, but decided only to have chest reconstruction and testosterone therapy.

Beatie was able to keep the reproductive organs he was born with. The article said he stopped getting the injections and was able to get pregnant.

Beatie, who lives in Bend, wrote he was once pregnant with triplets, but the pregnancy was life-threatening and he lost the fetuses. Now, Beatie said he and his wife, Nancy, are expecting a little girl in July.

In the article, Beatie described some of the challenges he and his wife have faced -- they said doctors won't treat them. The couple met 10 years ago and Nancy is not able to have children.

He wrote in The Advocate that their situation "sparks legal, political and social unknowns."

The couple were out of town Monday and unable to speak with the station.

When I was pregnant that was the only time I experienced Charlie Horses! I would get leg cramps so bad at night it would literally jolt me out of a sound sleep! I wonder if it also has something to do with the pressure the baby is putting on the pelvic area and somehow affecting the blood flow to the legs, in which case, supplements aren't going to help?

that in itself will make this situation feel 10 times worse than it is. Having said that, I do agree that I would be a little miffed, myself. It's not like you're intruding on her wedding day/weekend. She's already married and this is simply a celebration party for her on Friday night.

I would also agree with the poster below that you have grown apart. Being that you've been married for 10 years and are expecting, I would venture to guess that you're probably a little more mature (for lack of a better word) than she is as well. I'm not busting on single women, here, it's just that I remember the "fun years" before I got married and then before I had children. You're just at different places in your life.

The best way to handle the situation is to go to her party as planned. I would not splurge for the $50 gift card. I'd go with something a little more subtle. If you'd like to rekindle the friendship, you might include a photo of the 2 of you back in your "wild days." You don't need to stay for the entire party, either. Anyone would understand a pregnant woman would be tired from such a long travel and then the party. When you leave, be sure to seek her out and let her know that you'd still like for her to come to your celebration the following day. If not, let it go.

If you haven't done so yet, be sure to send her a thank you card for the gift. Believe it or not, some people would think they didn't need to get you anything if they weren't coming to your party (not that that makes it right). You have so much to look forward to and baby showers are way better than bridal showers/receptions anyday. You can eat as much as you want and all your guests will say is how "cute you look". Don't let this dampen your day.