Adult ADD? Never diagnosed but wondering (sm)
Posted By: NCMT on 2007-11-21
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So all my life I have been disorganized, first it was papers hanging out everywhere from my notebook, now it is everything in the world stuffed in my purse. My mind wanders all the time. I do transcription but flip back and fourth between here and my work and my e-mail and other things on the net that interest me. And i have to have background noise while I do all this. My house gets very cluttered and than I have to work like a maniac to get it cleaned up but still things are kind of in haphazard places, not really organized. I just always feel overly busy, overly tired, and behind on everything. So....could I have ADD? Or am I just too busy, bored with sitting in front of the computer, and disorganized??
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no, was diagnosed 8 yrs ago but have had...
I have had it since my 20s, I remember my LFTs were crazy then, they had no test for this in the 70s-80s. I didn't KNOW I had it. My husband had it (ex) and he was tested in 1992 and many friends had it and all told me to get tested, but I felt/feel like a million bucks so I laughed them off or poo-pooed the issue
In 1998 I decided ok - get tested and my case was so mild that it looked like I was only a *carrier* but on further testing I had it. Last year I went to that GREAT specialist (who really specializes in C and is an older MD-I like that, not *green*) who confirmed my suspicions. My tests are excellent and for decades now, I take care of myself.....and I don't eat raw fish...(my ex did and still does and another MD told me he's nuts to do so), and I will NOT die from it - because I have had it forever....
I also read that online years back......that if you've had it for 30-40 years and doing great, you'll die from something else......but if one continues to drink and drug - well, then, you will die from the disease.
My dad has been diagnosed with
a bacterial infection that is very rare. The word sounds like Narcartia but I am not able to find anything on this bacterial infection so I'm probably spelling it wrong. Does any one have any suggestions or know where I can go to get this info?
He became very sick, had a couple of episodes of losing his sight. When I found out about it (a week later) and he went to the ER, the initial diagnosis was spinal meningitis. This diagnosis eventually "evaporated" for the lack of a better word. CT scan revealed a lesion on the brain. This was not able to be identified. Brain surgery ensued and this biopsy was sent across the nation to multiple labs. One lab finally made an association with "agriculture, ground, farming." About six weeks ago, my dad had spread chicken manure on his garden. What complicates the matter is that he has arthritis and is on Remicade with a depleted immune system. This is probably why this affected him. They are treating him with an antibiotic IV every six hours around the clock. There is only one antibiotic that will treat this bacterial infection. This is making him very sick. The antibiotic does contain sulfa and I don't know that he is allergic to that but I have heard that sulfa medications can make some people very sick.
One other note to help in getting info on this. This must be something that is sometimes seen in AIDS patients because of the depleted immune system. I have tried to Google it in conjunction with AIDS and still cannot come up with info.
That's the story and any info that anyone can help me with would be appreciated!
They are probably diagnosed with
lung cancer because either they had it when they quit or because they are susceptible to it because of the smoking. My dad quit and died 2 years later. Either way something is going to get you. When it is your time, it is your time--that has always been my philosophy.
Anyone diagnosed with shingles and if so
how long had you had before the diagnosis and have you had any complications from it, such as constant pain, etc. Thanks
I have been diagnosed with fibro but
I have fatigue sometimes and don’t know if from that or from the hypothyroidism that I have, double duty so to speak. I have appointment this week to see what exactly is happening with me. Terrible, terrible pain for days on end- thought fibro, now not sure. I have some hydrocodone and take 1/2 pill of that when severe pain with fibro, supposed to start rehab for mild exercises but too much pain involved now with ?? I had a boss 1 time and she said she started exercising and that was the only thing that helped her. I just have had some setbacks to where I have not been able to start yet (including shingles!!). Hurt so much with the fibro and think the shingles started because of that. I can sleep at night, no problem there but some mornings unable to stay in bed because of hurting. I will give a follow up when I visit my physician this week and see what he has to say about if this is fibro, what does he think is problem, things you might do for fibro, etc.
Yes - i've been diagnosed
for many years now - just was not aware of this somatization disorder and its correlation with fibro and CFS. I would skip the rheumatology route and go straight to pain management - you will save yourself a lot of time and money. I live in a large metro area and have access to many very good doctors, but until I went to a pain management group of anesthesiologists, I never got any relief. My internist who I fired kept me on prednisone for 8 years and he actually got mad when I told him I was taking control and going to a PM specialist - that I was tired of him jerking me around and I resented having bought his car and put his kids through private school because of his inability or unwillingness to treat my pain issues. Yes, I am on narcotics - don't let that deter you - they work and not everyone that takes them becomes an addict. My life has been much better since I have been out of pain and am mostly bothered now only by the CFS - which no one has found anything really to help that. I sleep a lot and have learned my limits - I would just really hate for you to waste your time with a rheumatologist - they are for people with arthritis and inflammatory conditions. Fibro is not an inflammatory process and the rheumies don't offer any real treatment for what ails you.
Just reread your post - I would be interested to know what treatment the rheumie has planned for you -
Yes. I was diagnosed 10 years ago
with early stages of cervical cancer. Had a cone biopsy done which showed that the cancer did not spread or in situ. I decided to have a total abdominal hysterectomy, kept my ovaries, because I did not want to go back to the DR. every 3 months for testing and the chance that the cancer could return. No chemo or radiation. I was very lucky.
What makes you think you might have cancer?
Have to get those PAPs every year ladies. This is a very treatable disease.
Has she been formally diagnosed?
I get an outbreak on my nose every now and then, and the doctor prescribes Acyclovir. Don't know if it's the same when it's on the lips. Acyclovir works great, and you can use it either prophylactically and take it every day so you won't get any outbreaks, or you can use it when an outbreak is coming on and it's gone within a day or so, and it never has a chance to get bad. Again, I don't know if the lips are different than outbreaks on other body parts. My husband gets one on his leg and he takes Acyclovir too.
I have been diagnosed with fibro about 9 SM
years ago. You mention the pain is in your ribs. When I was diagnosed that was not one of the key points, of which there are many. I have pain all over, really. I have very much pain in my neck, wrists, elbows, shoulders, lower back, etc. I have terrible burning and pain in my muscles in my arms and legs as well. I have advanced osteoarthritis and chronic fatigue, which can also accompany fibromyalgia, as I am sure you know. Symptoms can certainly vary from one patient to another. I wish you luck and success in your efforts to control pain. I wish I had the answer for everyone suffering daily with chronic pain.
Anyone here diagnosed with Lupus?
I've been getting worse and worse physically and am in the process of being ruled out for all sort of stuff and this (Lupus) is one of them...some test came back positive but it's not definitive and I may have to see a specialist. I should really pay more attention but it's so hard to focus when a bazillion things are racing through your head while you're sitting nekkid freezing your hiney off on a paper-lined table.
So, yeah, anyone got this disease and, if so, how are you dealing with it? I'm just bummed out with the amount of pain and fatigue I have. I mean, I'm all crippled up and can't even sit here at my desk for more than an hour at a time anymore and chores that used to take 20 minutes or so now take up to 2 hours. I actually was so exhausted and in so much pain I curled up in a ball on my living room floor in front of the wood stove and slept for almost 2 hours before my husband found me and got me up on my feet. I'm only 35 and this just ain't right! Any advice is much appreciated.
While I've never been diagnosed with
lupus, I sometimes think I do, but when my rationale kicks in, I realize it is the wear and tear my body has taken over the past 40+ years, in addition to overwhelming perennial stress. Stress can cause lots of symtoms that mimic other diagnoses.
I do wish you the best and hope you get to the bottom of it and feel better. You are a delight to have on this Board.
she's been diagnosed as bipolar
of course, that's according to the press.
My dad is bipolar and has s/a and alcohol problem. I know how heart breaking that can be. It's like people who overeat. We all feel sorry for fat people but if you chose drugs then you are such a bad person but it's the same thing, really. A compulsion is a compulsion, no matter what you are taking into your body.
Diagnosed with this since the late 80s,
in fact I went in and told the doctor what to check for, had the classic symptoms, intense itching (waking me at night with urge to scratch), terrible coldness all the time, having to sit under blankets. Mine now has turned into Hashimoto's thyroiditis, I was told just a few months ago, thyroid totally gone. Now with the Synthroid, I told my physician did not want to take any more, loss of hair really bad, heard Synthroid noted for that. I asked and now on Armour thyroid and seems like loss is not as bad but still some. People on here have posted against Synthroid.
I was diagnosed 11 years ago and that along with SM
other physical conditions is why I cannot do a full day. I support myself and still have to do it without benefits, etc. I have tried different things for pain, but they either upset my stomach or were even taken off the market. I know exactly what you are going through. Sometimes I feel so bad I can't even put it into words. Good luck to you.
some people never get diagnosed at all because they
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i was just diagnosed with diabetes
No insurance. Went to the doc yesterday to go over lab work I had done in November. My blood glucose was 127 (upper limit of normal being 126). I am 45 yeard old and overweight, but I never had this happen before. He then did a glucometer reading (after I had had three cups of coffee, each with two sugars, of which I was still sipping on as he took the reading). He then ordered new lab work as a recheck, but stated he had to put NIDDM as a diagnosis on the requisition form. I don't feel a diagnosis can be made that simply. What's really upsetting is the fact that he informed me that now since I had been diagnosed with NIDDM that I would probably never be able to get health insurance with a pre-existing condition such as this. I feel that through correct diet and exercise over the next few months I can easily lose ten or more pounds, and that this more than likely will change the status of my next lab values. I feel so very sad about this. What do I do??
My mother was diagnosed back in her 40's..
Hers came on after a stressful injury, as I've read this tends to come on after a very stressful situation, injury, or illness, and she got progressively worse. She hurt all over, was so tired she could barely move, was trying to work while this was going on and it was about to make her crazy. There would be days she would cry she hurt so bad all over and then would fall asleep into exhaustion. This did go on for several years and then began going away little by little. She just has a flare now and then, but mostly under stressful situations. My doctor did tell her that she should continue to exercise, force herself to do what she can, and then she definitely needed to rest, get enough sleep, eat a proper diet. He said there could be a day or two flare, weeks of a flare, or years, as in her case.
To answer your question, she did get much better and doesn't hurt all over all the time. She was just so tired she couldn't function, which I had never seen in her before.
I have been diagnosed wth fibro about 10 years ago SM
and know what you are going through. I read somewhere that it is impossible do describe the pain, and that is how I feel. It is a gnawing, pulling, burning, aching, fatigue all the time. No one has helped, and what meds I have tried gave too many other bad side effects, stomach upset, etc.
My daughter was diagnosed with ADD in 2nd grade
We took her to 3 different doctors who did a bunch of different tests and all three said without a doubt she has ADD (without hyperactivity). So, we put her on medication. The medication made her VERY cranky and she was a holy terror to live with!!! So, we went back to the doctor and he switched her medication. This medication made her mood better, but her appetite was virtually nonexistant. My husband and I read every book and website we could find on ADD to see if we could help our daughter. We ended up taking her off the medication and changed her diet, making sure she eats every 2-3 hours. We eat pretty healthy anyway, but we really have to make sure that we don't let her eat too many carbs or junk. She also has to eat pretty frequently to keep her attention span up. It has been 2 years now and she is doing great at home and at school. She just started a new school this year and this teacher is excellent at letting the kids have a healthy snack during class so the kids stay focused all day long.
In other words, before you even think about medication, I would monitor his diet and make sure that he's eating healthy and then make sure he's eating every 2-3 hours (if possible at school) and see if this helps.
I had a "slow Mohs" in 12/00 after being diagnosed sm
with melanoma in situ on my left cheek near my eye. I had about 8 shots and I didn't feel a thing. I guess it was called a slow Mohs' because the procedure was about 4 hours long. The wound was open for 1 week until results came back that he got it all out. So for a week I was doped up, as I had a hole in my face that I could put my finger in. I barely have a scar there, he did an excellent job. And so far, no return of the cancer.
My cat was just diagnosed with lymphoma last night.
She is 10 years old. I noticed that her back hind leg looked very swollen last Friday. When I felt it, it was a huge lump. She has not been eating and not drinking any water at all. I think it has been there a long time and just did not notice it until last Friday. I was given the option of amputating her leg, which I cannot do. Give her prednisone and start chemotherapy, but how much time will that give her? She looks so sad and sleeps all day and it not using the litter box, about once a day.
I had to make a very hard decision this morning, and I am having her put to sleep. It makes me so very sad, but I do not want her to suffer. I am going to bring her home today and place her to rest in my garden under a park bench I have out back. I could not think to just leave her there. I am going to miss her greatly.
Just needed to talk as I have been crying all morning and trying to work. I am not going to get much done.
I was diagnosed with GAD in 2005. I think everybody's different as far as meds go. SM
I am on Effexor XR 150 mg a day and it works wonderfully for me, although when I forget to take my pill, I do get that strange dizzy, buzzy feeling that someone below described. I also have Klonopin if I need it. It's not as strong as Xanax, but it takes the edge off and helps with sleep.
I'm curious what was the catalyst for you being diagnosed? I have always been a "worrier" ever since I can remember. I bite my nails, but it was always manageable worrying. Then in the fall of 2005, I had a full blown panic attack. It was the worst experience of my life and I hope that I never have to go through it again. I had a gallbladder attack. I new it was my gallblader. I knew I wasn't have a heart attack and yet it was like one half of my brain could not convince the other half. I started feeling lightheaded, dizzy, and like I was in a tunnel. I was at work and someone told me I should go to the employee health nurse. I did and my BP was through the roof, my pulse was 130, and the nurse just ripped that BP cuff off my arm and said you need to be seen in ER and made sit in a wheelchair and wheeled me down there!
The irony is the more urgent she acted, the worse my panic got. Finally, it was established that I was not having a heart attack, but still my body was freaking out. I could not calm down. Then I started crying and cried for two weeks straight. I couldn't sleep at night. I didn't want to be home alone. I didn't want to go out in public. I just basically sat in my house, on my couch for two weeks straight crying and fretting. My doctor tried me on several different medicines including Lexapro and Zoloft, both did nothing for me but make feel nauseous. Then he wanted to prescribe an antipsychotic which made me freak out even more. Being a medical Transcriptionist and knowing about drugs, side effects, etc. was NOT conducive to my anxiety disorder!
Finally, I found a female nurse practitioner who was wonderful. She new exactly what I was feeling. Told me her daughter had the same issues and started me on Effexor. I have been panic attack free going on three years. I get what I call mini panic attacks where I can feel myself starting to freak out, but I've taught myself relaxation and breath techniques that calm me down.
I'm just jazzed to meet people who have the same "disorder" as me, ya know. When I've described my anxiety and panic attack to my family and friends, they just look at me like I should be committed and when I was going through it, my family didn't have a clue what to do with me or to say to me. They were afraid of me, really. My mom kept saying "you need to snap out of it." Yeah, ma. If only it were that easy!
My lab was diagnosed with an allergy to pine needles and had the same
symptoms you are describing. Now, I live in North Carolina where pine trees are as common as grits, so I thought the poor things was doomed!! My vet suggested a cortisone injection in the early part of the season before it got to really take off and then 2 tablets of Benadryl twice daily, which seems to have worked great for the past 6 years, but if I delay that darn shot and she starts that itching then I run into problems because not only is she itching from the allergy, but from the irritation caused from the scratching.
I studied the disease back in 98 when diagnosed
and thank goodness for the web!!! I continually get educated all the time from being online. I love it. Glad you're feeling well!!!! Attitude has much to do with it.....
Hope you aren't diagnosed with fibro
because no one believes you anyway. I had heard about before, did not know really much about, if I typed on it paid no attention, diagnosed in 2004 and not having fun yet. This is so far uncontrollable for me-mine might have been better controlled if diagnosed with rheumatism- I would suppose rheumatism feels a lot better than being over the entire body.
Have any of you been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder?
I have within the last week or so. Just wondering what meds your doc put you in and if it is helping and how long it helped all of your symptoms. I guess I was expecting "a feel-good feeling", too, but not really. The anxiety is definitely better. Had gone to the ER 3 times in less than a week, thinking it was my heart, but not.
Any help would be appreciated.
My husband diagnosed 1 time with diabetes, get this
he ran 1 high blood sugar and was diagnosed. He did have elevated blood pressure but for years and years controlled his blood sugar and the elevation was always and I mean always low- the insurance company would NOT cover him because of that 1 only diagnosis. I tried talking to them- they told me 2 counts against him- unable to get life insurance on him. This diagnosis was made on a job entry and for 7 years he kept his blood sugar average or below, made no difference. I have been there.
I read MRSA first diagnosed in 1961
There are things that unless you pick them up, may never know. I have an example: Had carotid ultrasound done. I asked for and got the report (I save any and all that I can including lab work) and the neurologist said ok. Well, happened to have 50% stenosis of the left carotid artery. I asked is that a concern to you and he said well, it should be watched ever so often. Another time, going to have elective surgery done, got EKG and lab done ahead for that. The EKG read abnormal (this was one I was picking up from a previous appendectomy surgery I had). I then asked my internist about it. Never mentioned to me at all. Needless to say when I see abnormal on something, only surgery is a have to surgery, not elective. I see mistakes all the time on my records, not sent out but diagnosis for a scan- had it showing me having hypotension and I have hypertension. Even when the people in the office doing the click and go reports before seeing the doctor, have found errors there. These are not outsourced reports, done right here in the USA. I always get copies of everything.
I was diagnosed with fibro but the rib pain, front and back
started 2 years ago when I got back from vacation and has been there off and on since. Sometimes horrible pain, sometimes just there but never completely gone. I went for 1 acupuncture but it is $70.00 out of pocket for each treatment, insurance does not pay so instead I am doing the 70% chocolate, 2 pieces a day because read that might help because of the antioxidants and flavinoids. As long as I am not touched anywhere around the ribs do pretty good. Have tried the chocolate for a week now, cancelling doctor appointment this Tuesday and will see if that holds the pain. The chocolate lot less costly than the treatments. I have found absolutely no assistance with any physician I have gone to, none including pain specialists, rheumatologists, ortho, etc. I sometimes have extreme fatigue, can lie down for a while and it seems to go away. I have hurt all over with the fibro but now my pain issues are the ribs (oh, forgot about the feet but too long story on that). Did your physician give you anything for the costo? I do not take anything for the fibro nor the costo. I had to dust my fatcat today and I thought she weighed a lot, she is only 20 but still had to pick her behind up and put her in the bathtub.
I had them as an adult (sm)
I had braces from about 27 to 31 years old. It was painful - but definitely worth it. I had a crossbite that was embarassing to me for years. You will get used to wearing the braces and won't be so self-conscious soon - it's just because they're new that it's bothering you right now. And it will be worth it when you're done!
adult boy
Thank you. I hate it when people blast others.
I have adult ADD....
as well as depression, anxiety and OCD. After battling for years with just the depression symptoms, there were still concerns in my life which I thought medication and therapy could fix but didn't. These things drove me crazy...Not being able to finish a project - for example a crochet throw I have been working on for over 5 years, various projects started and left hanging, never able to keep at the same task, etc. Now with the help of Adderall I am able to focus for a few hours at a time (I do have withdrawal effects) and I am able to work with less distraction. It has not been a cure-all, but it has brought me some peace of mind being able to get my work done in a reasonable period of time, rather than having the constant urges to do other things.
How funny! I have clinically diagnosed my hubbie as Bipolar too!! LOL! We really are in the wrong fi
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Senator Kennedy diagnosed with malignant brain tumor.
He has to have radiation and chemotherapy. Hopefully he can recover from this.
Yeah, tons of info online. I have a friend diagnosed
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he was an adult, by our standards, and would have been--sm
accountable for his own actions if he had been arrested and sent to trial. However, if there was familial abuse involved which perpetuated this act of violence, it should be addressed in some manner, but not for the parents to be held accountable for what he did as a result of it. Sometimes even knowing about a person's difficulties is not enough to change them or prevent them from doing something horrible like this. Obviously there were a lot of people, in retrospect, who felt this person had severe problems and they chose to do nothing about it either. He was seeing a therapist, but should the therapist be held accountable, as well? It just comes down to every one being accountable for their own actions.
No, he is an adult and responsible for himself.
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on adult swim
I've seen it.....What about The Boondocks or South Park? I have too have a sick and twisted sense of humor.....
Too bad some responsible adult...
could not get those kids. We have a celebutard, immature, crazy mother against a wanna be anything hanger on who is only interested in money...some role models! I hope there is money put away for the therapy those kids will need. The parents even give white trash a bad name!
Adult Behavioral Changes
Call a neurologist who specializes, one who may probabably also have a PhD in Psych. Go in by yourself if you have to and describe what you are experiencing and maybe he or she can give you some direction and information that may help you have your husband evaluated. There are tests he can administer and others that he can send him out for. There are several things that come to mind, but without evaluation this is speculation. It is possible that after you consult a neurologist that he may send you out for evaluation by either a psychologist or psychiatrist, or both. Maybe he has family members or good friends who will help you to encourage him to be evaluated? No matter the outcome, it is best if you consult someone professional who can steer you in the right direction. Best wishes to you. I will be thinking of you. Let us know how this works out.
Legally, yes, but how adult were you at 18? nm
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Perks of being an adult
Sometimes I feel like it really stinks to be an adult with all the responsibilities and stress and I'd love to go back to being a child. What are the little perks of being an adult that you have found?
I found a simple one this morning...I picked all the marshmellows out of the last bit of Lucky Charms to have extra in my bowl.  No I won't dare tell my 10yo I did that. I thought it was a better alternative to having a brownie for breakfast which is what I really wanted!
You're obviously the only ADULT between the two
Someone has to teach your daughter to have the money in hand for things you want; otherwise, when will she ever learn to work for what she wants? Handing it over BEFORE the money is made is a huge mistake.
I watched my husband do this with our son and he always said he would pay us back but he needed it NOW because it was on sale or some such garbage. He would be given more labor intensive chores around the house to make the money but never paid us back.
No matter how much I told my son he was not going to get a penny out of me without the job done first, my husband always went behind my back and bought it beforehand, gave it to him, and of course my son had absolutely no motivation to pay for anything. Long story short, he is now 23 years old and still doesn't get the point of working to pay for what you want.....
My husband is very good with money, as am I, but I was raised to pay for what you want and not on credit. Children really need to learn this lesson early on. I was always surprised my husband handed everything over to him because husband worked since he was 12 years old at jobs the labor laws would never allow now! If he wanted anything, he paid for it himself.....the end!! No discussion!
Our son is still loafing around in college, home for summer now, supposed to have a job but of course does not because he knows his dad will not do anything about it, and if I say anything, I get chewed out and disrespected by our son because he knows I have no back up.
You stick to your guns and do what is right..... you do not want her to turn out like that! Her tears will go away. She wanted to umpire, let her umpire and I would definitely tell her how her first responsibility is to umpire. NO CREDIT FOR A TEENAGER!! EVER!
I too met my "father" as a teen/adult.
I had always asked questions. My mom was always very honest when she felt we could handle it about why they broke up (he was abusive). He contacted my brother and me when I was 16. I met him, found out he wasn't my "dad" since that was someone who would have at least been there for me when I needed him or to even know so I consider my "father" as a sperm donor. I am glad I did meet him and have closure (like someone else mentioned) because I think I would have always been curious but I didn't pursue a relationship with him. My father-in-law has been a real dad to me but my blood relative father is not a dad.
I agree with what someone mentioned too that your mom may not have been totally honest, wanting you to not want to pursue meeting him. I was lucky, my mom never badmouthed him when we were growing up even when we had all these questions about him, why they didn't stay married, what it would be like if they had stayed together and everything else. I realize now of course my mom was smart to have gotten out at the beginning. Once an abuser always an abuser so I'm relieved now. If you want to talk about it more let me know and I'll send you my e-mail.
I am teaching an adult class sm
but will use this same lesson when we start back with our weekly youth meetings in the fall. I got the idea for this lesson from Fannie Flagg's book Can't Wait to Get to Heaven. The book is obviously fiction but has a "quirky" (most all the characters in the book are quirky-think Mayberry) person's take on heaven when she dies for just a short time and visits heaven. The book is a wonderfully funny read (just a few swear words but it is very clean). I have read all of her books and thoroughly enjoyed them all. Thank you for responding.
Maybe you can try adult conditioner. My daughter SM
has thick curly hair. I would wash it every day. She never did mind my combing or brushing it. You could also try one of those plastic brushes with bristles wide apart.
My daughter is now 32 and does her own hair.
I was actually dxd with adult ADD several years back sm
by a psychiologist. I had symptoms similar to yours and was being treated for depression at the time and sent by my psychiatrist to this person who gave me a computer test and then gave me the same test 6-8 weeks later on medication to see if the results were different - and they definitely were. If I recall correctly it had to do with reaction times and how long my concentration was, etc. The results were a little shocking. I think I knew for years I had it - my oldest son was dxd years ago but it was just kind of lurking in the back of my mind and didn't come forward until I started having serious problems with getting my work done and making a decent living at MT... I finally took medication upped my BP so badly I had to quit. I just try to go with the flow now - I have white noise playing in the background while working, shut my door, note on it not to bother me unless house is on fire, set goals for myself and treat myself with done with work and try hard not to let emails and IMs distract me. I leave all my other chores until the very last minute/second and then rush to complete and am always late and cook everything on high and burn or overdo things as always in a hurry - can't remember all of the other things I do - they have just become a part of me. I did do much better on medication and if I seriously needed again would definitely look into another one.
My very first boxer as an adult had kennel
cough. I rescued her from a pet shop under similar circumstances. She had been there with her brother and her brother died. I refused to let her die in a pet store so brought her home took her to the vet and got her started on medication. The first month was rough, there were nights I just sat in bed and held her, she felt so miserable. She finally got through it and after that rocky start she lived to the age of 13.5 with not another medical problem the rest of her life.
Why don't you be a mom and take care of your daughter until she is an adult? sm
Boyfriend, spoiled, blah, blah. You are her parent. You need to provide her a place to live until she is old enough to do so herself. I would either allow her to move in with you and your boyfriend or I would rent her a place to live. She is not old enough to be expected to find a roommate and pay all her own bills yet. If you had done your job to begin with she wouldn't be spoiled or having such issues.
18 IS legally considered an adult.
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sounds like you will have to be the adult in this situation as the ex is not ---
and follow the mother's lead - she knows her daughter, she sees/hears the tantrums and probably way more often than you; she is being the adult in the situation as you are, so don't lose it.
food for thought: she was hurting at the funeral. sometimes people put all their hurts in one pocket and never deal with it, never heal. gram died, the pocket opened and out it all came. you may be only one situation she put away for a rainy day.
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