But i would not feel safe in my own home unlocked, even though I'm in a gated community with tons of outside lights, etc. For some reason I feel safe in someone else's house more than my own.
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Other related messages found in our database I have relatives in fairly rural Maine who never lock, and I feel totally safe there. nm
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Kids want/need bounderies. Makes them feel safe
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I totally agree, my Chevy Suburban has 213,000 miles on it - sm
and going strong. Though they are a lot cheaper used now, friends got theirs for about $14K, we paid $26K, ours was 2 years old when we bought it in 1999, their's was about 5 years old in 2005. Granted we could save some on gas, and my DH is constantly trying to get me to get a new car to save money on gas. But I see little point in spending $30K so I can save $50 a month on gas. I plan on running my Suburban into the ground and then picking up a smaller used SUV or a wagon of some sort (Honda, Toyota). But I still have 2-3 years before that happens with any luck.
He was 86. I have many relatives
in their late 90s & a couple over 100. When your parents reach their 80s, you won't be saying things like that because you'll hope they have many years left beyond 86.
RELATIVES FROM OTHER COUNTRIES
My husband is a first generation American. His folks came here legally, worked their buns off, and did it the right way. My father-in-law became a citizen as did his sister. My husband's sister married a man whose entire family came here LEGALLY from Beirut during that awful war where they lost everything, their businesses, their homes, couldn't even leave their hiding places to buy grocersies because they were shot at, so they went without food for quite some time. They were singled out there because they allowed the females in their family to go to college. Can you imagine? They came here with what they could salvage LEGALLY, then got jobs and saved their money until they could start their own businesses. All of these humble people respected our laws and now are part of us. They are all Americans now except my mother-in-law who passed away still with her green card, but she always showed up and did what she needed to do legally to stay in this country and she loved it. None of them worked for anyone illegally or under the table. I say send all the illegals back. All of them. She is right, we don't have enough natural resources or cash to take care of all these people who do not respect us anyway and take and take and give nothing to to contribute to our society except more illegal things in order to earn a buck. Like sell drugs, drive drunk, pretend to be Jose Somebody at the ER so they won't have to pay the bill that we all cover. Enough.
I'm sure some of your relatives are feeling sm
the same horrible crunch. Feel them out gently. Together you can approach the insensitive members of your family.
Instead of saying you "won't be buying any gifts," say you "can't" instead. It's the sign of the times, and not a reflection on you.
You can have a very merry and wonderful Christmas without gifts. It's love that makes Christmas Christmas!
Merry Christmas to you and all the other posters and readers! People can get pregnant on an IUD. I have two relatives who did.
You have to wonder why she hasn't had her tubes tied, and why he hasn't had a vasectomy and gotten a full-time job since he's perfectly able-bodied. At least if they're living off the dole, one or both should be going to college on grants to eventually be able to support four kids.
Who are you buying for, your kids or relatives? If you
know someone is going to return whatever then go with a gift card and let them get whatever they want themselves. But, whatever you give them they can do with what they wish. You have no control over that.
awkward conversations with relatives
Sometimes there is not much more to say when it comes to the cookies. Sounds like she had just enjoyed the conversation and wanted to keep it going... maybe she liked hearing from you guys.
Wanted to let you know what happened to relatives
I went with my two sisters on two separate occasions to fill out forms at social security. One sister was applying for social security benefits and when asked about her marital status she told them single. The women then said, have you ever been married? The next thing my sister had to do was to give the names of all previous marriages and the dates they were married and then the woman said she was listed as divorce. Another sister, who only lived with this man for 22 years after his death went to see if she would be able to get any kind of help from them. You should see the form she had to fill out. It was called a marital relationship something or other and it went on for miles. We were told they ask about previous marriages and the like to see if people might be getting money from other places. With the married sister according to the years she might have been married to either 1 determined whether she got social security on that marriage. According to SS if married, gosh don't want to mess this up, but seems like over 20 something years then you would perhaps be able to draw from that marriage even if you are divorced from them so when applying for things like that if married previously you are not considered single.
I have had this happen with relatives and friends alike - sm
I am actually surprised now when someone actually calls or writes to say they received something I sent and *thank you* for sending it. How sad is that? I was also told to send a thank-you note or call the sender the very day you receive their gift, no matter if you like it or not. After all, they cared enough to send SOMEthing. Guess we are a dying breed???
Charmed...I have similar relatives. Here is something to remember
MISERABLE PEOPLE LOVE TO MAKE OTHER PEOPLE MISERABLE.
That is why the saying "misery loves company."
I know they are your family. However, if they treat you that badly, dump them and move on. I went through this years ago. I have family like this. They never had anything to do with me unless they needed something from me or they wanted to belittle me.
One can find friends who are more like family and treat you with respect. Make sure you have caller ID and DON'T ANSWER WHEN THEY CALL. That is the first step. LEARN TO SAY NO. It will not kill you, I promise. When you empower yourself, you learn to like you for yourself and it no longer matters what these people think of you. When it no longer matters what they think, they will see it and pick on someone else.
Anyone who has relatives in assisted living, high rise places, anything?
I have a dear aunt that went to live with her son and his fairly new wife of about 2 years. My aunt really needs the assistance of someone but this is not working out. She is 86, called me tonight, wants to go back home and I told her I would try to assist her. She is my second mother since mine died several years ago. I have heard that high rises go by how much income a person has. I do not think assisted living is a possibility as might be too much money involved for her, she does not get that much from social security. She has both Medicaid and Medicare and I wondered about inhome help also. Anyone out there who has a situation like this that can give me any information I would appreciate it. TIA
Better safe then sorry
I support your reaction/action to the situation. It would seem to me that the FBI would not prosecute, and the court would not find him guilty, if it was sent to him in error. Be supportive to your daughter's friend's mother - but hold firm. Women's intuition is generally correct.
Did I say anything about not being safe?
That wasn't even the point of the OP. She wanted to know about in-laws or anyone else just walking in without knocking. My family and friends don't have to knock before they come my house. That was my point.
I live in a rural area that I grew up in, everyone knows everyone else. I have a nice, loud watch dog who lets me know when anyone is around. The windows are locked. The doors are locked at night and when we leave the house. I know what kind of a world we live in. The Pony Express brings the paper every couple of weeks back to the sticks. I try to stay informed.
Better Safe Than Sorry
Better to be safe than sorry, especially with beef -- that can be a very bad GI problem if the beef has gone bad with bacteria.
Happy New Year!!
is there nothing safe?
How can any of you get so excited and downright mean about something as basic as a vitamin question? Gee whiz, it's just a discussion board. So contentious.
Can't make them safe.
A 14 year old I know was killed on his bike a few weeks ago. You can't make them live in a bubble. I will pay for my kids insurance and their cars. Of course they will have rules, although our state has plenty as it is for young drivers. I will teach them to be responsible drivers, walkers, bike riders, etc. Just because life can be hard, doesn't mean you have to make it be harder. I moved out of my parents house just before my 15th birthday and took care of myself. While it can be done, it doesn't always have to be.
Just now getting up to lock the door?
My husband can be home- doesn' matter- I always keep my doors locked. I see people on TV news who are broken in on, murdered, assulted, raped - they said where they lived didn't think it would happen there?? Happens everywhere.
lock windows
I made my fiance nail shut all the windows in the house when I moved in with him until we bought new windows because lo and behold none of his windows locked. While this was probably not smart in case of a fire I would rather be alive to throw something out the window to get out rather than have someone come through the window at night (or day) and do who knows what.If they kids are safe there - just let it go.
Some families do holidays as major events. If the stepmom and her family are half descent people and the kids are safe there then don't worry about it. :)
A little on the bossy side with my dogs, but...LOL! She's here and everyone is getting along for the most part.
You either need a door with a lock or - sm
to set up some kind of boobie trap that scares them first (I.e. something popping out at them when they enter the room). A taste of their own medicine would do them good
I go out and forget to lock
the door when I come back in, have left the keys in the lock. I hate it when husband sees that.
She needs to learn about safe sex. Either you SM
discuss this with her or, better yet, see doctor and have her given some form of birth control. I think this is imperative. If she is having sex, I don't think she is going to stop. You somehow have to convince her to act responsibly. Condoms would be the best thing.
I always lock my doors
my husband can come home and I never even hear him enter the house. My dogs usually bark at strangers but not at my hubby. If they are in the backyard the bark at leaves falling off trees, so I don't know if they might be barking if I am in danger or not. My son laughs cause I lock our glass stormdoor when it is warm outside and leave the large door open. He says there is no way that little piece of glass is going to stop someone from coming in but I say at least I will hear the glass break. I'm really glad you are okay.
SAFE HAVEN LAW
Wow, this just blows me away. Last year or early this year a mother aged 17 or 18 gave birth to her 2nd child without parents or anyone for that matter knowing she was pregnant. She walked into an Omaha Hospital and left her child in a restroom and walked out. Please note at that time Nebraska was the ONLY state which did not have a safe haven law on the books. It was pushed through shortly after and is now a law FINALLY. Which is good because now mothers, who do not want to or cannot take care of their children have a safe place to take them without being in trouble for doing so.
Well, to my understanding this law (NE only), does not have an age limit as to how old the chid can be when dropped off at the hospital. Other states have it cut off at 14 but none have ever seen a child OVER 3. This information came from a radio show about the new law yesterday. Since the law was put in place a mother dropped off an 11 year old, a different family dropped off a 9 year old and this mornings news has the following
OMAHA, Neb. -- The state has taken temporary custody of a teenage girl who was dropped off at an Omaha hospital Saturday under Nebraska's new safe haven law.
A representative from the state Department of Health and Human Services said the girl, 13, was left at Immanuel Hospital around midday. No other details were released.
The girl was the third child dropped off at Nebraska hospitals in the past week.
The state's safe haven law took effect in July and allows parents to abandon children at hospitals and other locations. The law does not set a minimum age after which a child can't be left without prosecution.
Does anyone have any thoughts on this? I agree with the law all the way. I am just concerned about the after shock of having an older child dropped off at the ages stated above, what kind of damage is that doing to the child? I do not agree with child abuse and know that older children are abused all the time but is there not another way we could deal with this?
Just wondering what everyone else was thinking.
I do know the reason for the zip-lock
The zip-lock bag for socks is to prevent people from gouging a hole in the plastic bag to pull out the sock and look at it (for what reason, I'm not sure) before they buy the bag. Then, of course, they put that one back and take a virgin bag to the register! It is already from a safe contact
I can open all mail, but where pics should be (and were before hotmail changed the look) are just boxes. It isn't just from one contact, but from all my contacts that I used to receive pics from. Now what? I sent an email to the contact site, but they have not answered me yet.
Don't lock your car with the clicker!
A police officer friend of mine told me not to lock your car with the clicker - manually push the button down when you get out of the door. Criminals are sitting in parking lots watching people coming and going and have an electronic device that can copy your code and open your vehicle. They can be in your car in seconds and clean it out! They are able to open doors or the trunk.
Please be careful Christmas shopping!
Rural, no still don't lock
doors. When i think of doing it and do, my husband just unlocks when he steps out to smoke and does not re-lock. But i'd say the majority of people here don't lock doors. and some leave keys in their cars too.
I always lock mine. You just never know who
There's been a time or two when I've forgotten to lock it, or worse, left my house/car keys in the front door. (DUMB!) But leaving my keys in the car? NEVER! That's just asking to get it stolen. Even if I'm just filling up at the gas station, I take the keys with me and lock the doors. People sometimes carjack at gas stations, or open the non-driver's side door to grab your purse. (I keep that on the floor out of sight, NOT on the front seat.)
I used to be one of those who didn't lock until --
I lived in the country until about a year ago, very rural less than 2000 total population. Never locked my doors, didn't even carry the key. One day I came home from work to find an ambulance and the state police on my lane. Thinking one of the neighbors up the lane must have had a medical issue, I went about my business -- UNTIL the state police knocked on my door asking me if I'd heard gunshots the night before. I said sure -- I always hear gunshots, even at night. Our neighbors across the road like to camp out and shoot targets into the wee hours. Then he started asking me if I saw any strange cars going up and down my lane. I said sure -- the people above us are always fixing someone's car and they drive like a bat out of he!!. He looked at me again in disbelief. Then he asked if I knew about the double homicide that happened on my lane less than 1/2 mile from my house the night before. I had no idea what he was talking about. Apparently, there was a drug deal gone bad between 2 couples and 1 couple got shot. The other couple left the scene and went a little past my house to a neighbor's house to use their phone. Never thought it could happen in my little hometown USA. After that, I always lock my doors. I'm with these other posters -- I especially lock my doors when I'm home.
When I was a kid, I used to sleep on the porch in the summertime. Now I wouldn't dream of letting my kids do that. My parents never locked the doors during the day, even when we ran errands, unless we weren't planning on coming home that night.
Scarier stuff every day. Dr. Phil would say to lock the door.
If they knock, you ask if their hair is on fire. If it's not, then you tell them it can wait.
He's actually talking about interruptions of something else, but I thought of his advice anyway.
So I'm havin' a Coke, staying sober, and hopefully I'll live to enjoy yet another year.
We lock our doors, rural here - sm
we do not have much crime here but that may change with people out of work, etc. We have on occasion left doors unlocked when we go out for a while, by accident, and all has been well. We live on a private road though with 13 houses so we all look out for each other and strangers cars driving by (only 1 way in or out), etc. Routinely leave the dining room back door unlocked just because we let the dogs in and out there and forget to lock it when we go out. But one of the first things we did when we moved in was I insisted on key deadbolts on the front door and the door from the garage which opens into our family/great room and our 3 back doors (too many doors on this house--have 4, one is a slider). So we have double locks on those doors, cannot hurt. Everyone I know locks up, foolish not to no matter where you live.
Do you lock your doors at night?
I thought of this question last night while reading. Do you lock your doors at night? Do you ever on purpose leave your car keys in the ignition?
I guess I just assumed everyone locked their doors. I know in the old days people in rural communities didn't all lock their doors, but I figured they do now. But I read a couple of books recently which were set in modern times and they talk about how no one ever locks their doors in their small towns. Do you, or know of anyone, who does not lock the door to their house?
I double lock the door and have a
security latch as there's been a lot of break-ins at gun point lately. We live in an apt and since I work overnight I've actually had people that thought my door was their door and tried to unlock it...drunk ones, of course.
I've thought about leaving my keys in the car and the windowns down (1999 car with 137,000 miles on it)....JOKING.
I lock mine all the time
I'm a little paranoid, but then again, I'm a female living alone. You never know. All it takes is one time... I feel better knowing I have a big dog, but now I'm nervous someone might steal him! LOL
my kids had a safe haven to come sm
home to and they knew it and still know it. They have come back twice when times were tough and we didn't charge them a dime until they got on their feet in a couple months. I just think is an injustice to not charge them at all and let them go and do as they please when working and not going to school. You don't get to blow your money as you please as an adult, why should they if they are not in school?
Abstinence is not Birth Control, it is SAFE SEX.
Abstinence is truly the only SAFE SEX....but it is NOT considered birth control........
Here's a couple of safe pet food sites.....
http://www.flintriver.com/
http://www.petpromiseinc.com/
I'm going to turn out the lights, lock up the house, -
and instead of doing the trick-or-treat thing, am going on a Halloween night costumed inline skate through the streets of S.F. with my skate-buddies. Most likely WE will eat the candy I originally bought! ;)
lock the door, take a while to answer it, seem preoccupied
nm
I hope your family stays safe. It looks really bad.
I hope they decide not to ride it out though. I have been watching on TV all day. Senator Kay Baily Hutchinson was just on Fox News and she believes Galveston is going to be underwater due to the storm surge. Not sure where your family is, but hopefully they thought better about staying and left.
on your keyboard, make sure SCROLL LOCK Good grief, they deserve a safe sm
plce to live! They are not going to remember the big house, etc when they are grown. They WILL remember the abuse you subjected them to and did not get out.
yeah, I lock my doors, but have been told sm
it is not necessary. I just leased a new place I am moving into next week, and she told me she never locks her doors, could barely come up with a door key for the new place for me.
MT, work at home. I am more concerned about locking the doors when I am at home than when I am gone. Not a lot of crime in this area, thank goodness, just don't want to be intruded upon.
Why not stay safe AND support the US economy
San Diego, Santa Barbara, Santa Monica/Venice Beach, LA Jolla, Pismo Beach, etc.
Also early spring is the best time to see the Grand Canyon, Southwest, etc., before it gets hot, and the hordes of tourist busses arrive.
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