Absolutely, it is a disease, but one that a person can recover from if they
Posted By: anonymous on 2007-03-08
In Reply to: I guess he can, but I don't think it's right. Alcoholism - Wannie
have the desire to be sober. Unfortunately, there is no test to tell you prior to your first sip of alcohol that you area an alcoholic and will suffer from this disease and hurt everyone, including yourself. Fortunately, however, there are steps to recovery and, albiet it not a cure, it does not have to debilitate you. I am a recovering alcoholic and have been for 13 years. My recovery started with admitting my problem and taking the necessary steps to change and find other ways to deal with my self-esteem, problems and anxieties other than a drink. Since my recovery I have not only become "sober" but a much better person and very serene with my life, which of course has made a very producitve member of society and not "disabled." I think someone who accepts disability based on their alcoholism has not only accepted their fate, but accepted its consequences and not willing to change. I really think that is very sad.
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absolutely. its a disease, and a super prevalent one also.
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That seems to be debatable even in the medical field. Disease or not disease?
things that could lead to diabetes and hypertension are true, they are still diseases and could obviously occur with or without staying away from known causes.
But for you to come here and say alcholism is "NOT" a disease is a little extreme and maybe should have been accompanied by IMO? That is my opinion anyway.
It IS NOT a disease. The use of it causes disease but
alcoholism in itself is not a disease. My husband was also predisposed to it by *genetics* (his mother and father were also alcoholics). He should have had better sense than to ever pick up the first drink, but he didn't. Now, for the rest of his life he will have to battle with the fact that he is an alcoholic (albeit, a recovering alcoholic). He CHOSE to drink. He CHOSE to take the chance and it caught up with him. It's just like cigarette smoking. That's not a disease, but the effects of the cigarettes cause disease. If one is predisposed to something harmful, they need to take control of themselves and stay away from whatever causes the problems associated with it. Both of my parents are diabetics, so that predisposes me to diabetes. They are both hypertensive (as am I). I'm predisposed to have hypertension, but I have to use my common sense and stay away from things that could cause the hypertension to blossom into something much more serious. The predisposition to alcoholism has to be handled the same way. STAY AWAY FROM IT!!!!!
Are you a night person or a morning person?
Just curious . . .
Does anyone have a dog who has Cushing's disease? sm
My mom and dad's daschund was diagnosed with Cushing's disease. She's 15 years old. She's going to have to be medicine for the rest of her life. I've read on a web site this can be fatal. Has anyone ever had any experience with their pet having this? thanks.
lyme disease
Friend's dog was chewing paws because joints were sore from Lyme disease.
Disease question
As someone in recovery for more than 9 years this is my take on it. Addiction (alcohlism) is a combination of nature (genetics) and nurture (environment). One can be predisposed to addiction but never know it if they never ingest the substance. Many people drink but not everyone is an alcoholic. Drinking the alcohol is a choice that one can control, but once an alcoholic or addict makes the choice to drink, they no longer have control over how their body reacts to it.
If classifying it as a disease is a way for health insurance companies to pay for treatment and healthcare for the alcoholic or addict, then that is fine with me. But it is NOT an excuse to drink and once one admits or realizes one is an alcoholic they ARE responsible for what happens after they take a drink.
To the original poster wife: The best way you can help your husband is to take care of yourself and your children through Alanon, Alateen and/or counseling. The only person YOU can control is YOU. Lives by example. Your husband just might find his own way to changing his life by watching you change yours.
thyroid disease
I have hypothyroidism and take Unithroid. I'm up to 150 mcg a day. The only thing I am sensitive to is hot and cold. My internal thermostat does not work well. No medication sensitivities though, but that does not mean much as each person is different. We all reactive diferently from each other. Good luck though. Hope things improve with this.
Foot-in-mouth-disease
At one time or another we have all suffered from it. Sometimes, things just pop out of our mouths before we have had a chance to edit them. What was probably a poor attempt at conversation turned out to be an embarrassing situation for both of you. Accept his apology and move on.
A lifer here, too. It used to be called a disease!
That really freaked me out on hearing that diagnosis. Cysts and pain come and go - supposedly we are to avoid chocolate and coffee/caffeine. yeah, right! No way! I do not do breast self-exams, and was also instructed not to do them as well by my OB/GYNs and surgeons, as we will always find a lump and then freak out. I have yearly detailed mammos - dozens of shots for surveillance. Had a cyst aspirated now and again, and have always been fine. In my 50s now and have gotten used to it - not lazy about it, but just not so afraid. Information is power! It is a very common "condition", by the way! We are all in good company!
Polycystic kidney disease....
My husband was just diagnosed with this. It is the mostly common inherited disease there is and many people don't know they have it. It generally leads to renal failure later in life. There is a new clinical trial beginning right now for a drug that is supposed to shrink the cysts. This is the third phase and so far it has been extremely successful. The clinical trial is at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore. Let me know if you need more info.
...going on here, including a few disease processes. nm
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My thirst is Sjogren's disease! sm
I am always, always and forever chronically thirsty, but I don't have the polyuria to go with it.
I have dry eyes, dry nose (to a point where it is usually pretty full of scabs), dry mouth with caries at the gumline. I have gastroparesis and proctalgia fugax which often go with Sjogren's just like the rest of it. Dry skin and feeling like you are drying out from the inside out is part of it. I even get a nasty, clay-like sludgy feeling in my mouth and throat from my stomach being too dry to digest.
It is misery and even better than a gallon of water a day doesn't fix the dry feeling, but it keeps my kidneys from shutting down from being dry.
Lovely huh?
My 13 y.o. niece has just been dx with Grave's disease. Does anyone here have any info or sm
advice on what I can tell my brother about this? They are such a precious family. Brother visibly upset over this because he has been disciplining her for behavioral problems, etc., when all along it's been here thyroid. They want to do radiation right away to help shrink it? Or possibly remove thyroid altogether. She is so pretty. I spent the summer with them and yes, she did act diff. from other 13 year olds, looked very developed for her age (to me), and her eyes weren't bulging to me. I'm so glad they caught it today. It sounded like she was in the early stages of shock with fever, shakiness, etc.
Anyone with experience in this? Thank you so much.
Every woman in my family has thyroid disease...
and only about half of them are overweight, so that's just another excuse. You really need to stop blaming other people for your weight problems and take control of your own situation. I too have hypothyroidism, but I am a size 6 and was only overweight when I was eating unhealthy and not exercising. If you're really only eating one meal a day, I can guarantee this is why you can't lose weight! Your body is probably holding onto everything you eat because you're starving it!! You absolutely need to eat 3 (small) meals a day and 2 snacks. There's a book called The 3 Hour Diet that can really help you with what you should be eating, how much and how often. You sound like a very angry person and like you don't want accept that you're responsible for your own health. Honestly, you're not overweight because of what the government does or doesn't do, it because of what you're doing to your body.
And the scariest part is, they then carry this disease
among many others without even knowing and spread them around.
I studied the disease back in 98 when diagnosed
and thank goodness for the web!!! I continually get educated all the time from being online. I love it. Glad you're feeling well!!!! Attitude has much to do with it.....
Anyone with thyroid disease experience sensitivity
I have had thyroid disease for about 5 years now and am on Synthroid for it. I find that I cannot tolerate caffiene very well and narcotic/anlgesic medications, such as Novocaine make my heart race and make me feel so weirded out I can no longer tolerate this. I cannot even have a wisdom tooth pulled because of this.
Anywa, I thought it was just me but I recently read in a magazine that thyroid disease could cause sensitivity to medications. It would stand to reason once your thyroid levels were adjusted this would go away, but such is not the case with me. Does anybody else have this problem?
If you have a child with a life threatening disease
you possibly would think a little different about this issue. I do and saying full steam ahead.
Thank you for sharing that. Yes, thyroid disease left untreated can sm
be a very serious thing. I appreciate your response. Good luck to you!!
My daughter has hand, foot and mouth disease
She has 4 ulcers in her mouth and, of course, is in pain and won't eat anything. I put some cereal and milk in the blender this morning and she drank that okay, but her poor little mouth is really painful. We tried the saltwater rinses, but that didn't help. We have been using Orajel on the biggest sore, but was wondering if anyone has any other ideas for pain relief. She's been coping pretty good with the blisters on her hands and feet so far, but this is only the 2nd day. Hopefully, this will be over soon. Thanks for any help!
Check out celiac disease from gluten allergy
Many times it is mistaken for IBS - my grandson is being tested for this by GI doctor on the ball!
Incidental finding, polycystic kidney disease
Not something that I would have liked to hear but being as older, told the doctor maybe can outlive the cysts, i.e. having to be on dialysis and/or dying because of them. I had an MRI of another region and those picked up, told someone in my family had to have and know of no one. The cysts I have can go anywhere in your body so they will watch them every few months, no abnormal lab tests or the like, found those about 2 years ago. The kidney cysts are the only ones I know of.
It probably varies from person to person (sm)
With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him. I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces. The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?
Second child, same experience. She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs. I had already put my regular clothes back on as well. My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.
I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases. With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.
Received a dx today of fibrocystic breast disease. Painful lumps in my breast. Going for a mammo
towards the end of the month. Anyone have any info on this disease?
ABSOLUTELY . . .
If children find out on their own, they think they have figured out the great mystery of life, if someone tells them (especially an adult), they are taking away a precious, magical childhood time. My daughter believed up until she was 11 . . . and now that she and my almost 11-year-old son have figured it out, they think THEY have uncovered a great mystery!!! They think it's funny, actually. My 7-year-old still believes and he will until he is at least 10, if I have anything to say about it. That's like talking to them about faith in my opinion. That's the parents' responsibility
Absolutely..
My stepmother had a TAH almost 20 years ago and has had hot flashes ever since then. Sorry, that's probably bad news!
Absolutely don't do it
Same story here. Sit through sales pitch, very very hard sell, push push push. Then, instead of the "jeweled timepiece" which was the LEAST expensive prize, I got a cheap Timex that didn't even run.
Run run run away from this!!!!!
absolutely I would have said something
What if these kids are in his care a lot?
What if he does this behind closed doors (very likely if he struck out at the little one in public) when mommy isn't around?
What if he isn't their dad (or is) and he's abusing them but she doesn't know it?
As a mom, I would definitely want to know if someone struck my kid. Especially if I was a single mom (which I have been) and this guy was a boyfriend who was responsible for caring for my kids while I was at work or otherwise occupied. I would never leave them with him again, I could tell you that for certain.
Doesn't really matter what their personal situation is. The fact is, the kid was struck for no good reason and the jerk should have been called on it.
If he made a stink or if she made a stink, SO WHAT, follow them and get a license plate number then turn them in!
You-re absolutely right
A few months ago I was at a class I take at the YMCA and one woman was telling us how her daughter-in-law had a miscarriage. She was saying how hard it was and finally I spoke up and said I too had miscarried. After I said that, at least 4 other women (out of a group of maybe 10-12) admitted they too had miscarried. I was stunned. I had no idea how many of us there were. Knowing I wasn't alone might have helped when I was going through it.
On the other hand, if anything good came of it, I think it made me a better mother. I cherished every moment of my children's lives and took none of it for granted.
Absolutely!
Men like that feed off of control. My ex did the same thing. Just pull your boots up! It'll be okay. Talk to your family (parents? siblings?), see a lawyer (don't tell your husband), and look at getting into counseling. I've been exactly where you are and I know what you're feeling. It's awful, but the sooner you get free, the better you'll feel and the better off your children will be.
Did I read that he stays off for days without contacting you?
Absolutely...sm
Any and all prayers appreciated. Thank you so much.
Sorry you went through the same thing. It certainly isn't good at all.
Absolutely NOT!....
You'd better give that to me and I'll take care of it for you. 
(I am absolutely staaaving!)
This is absolutely
And surprisingly cute! Thanks for sharing...BTW, did you wear the ones you were given? 
Absolutely
You have the right idea!! Where I live, Hard Rock Cafe had their 10th year anniversay Saturday night. My husband and I and a couple of friends (who are about 5 years younger than I am) decided to go. Rich music history here in my neck of the woods. When we walked in, the young girl standing at the hostess desk looked at us and said "Just to make sure you know it is our 10th anniversay and we will be having loud rock music tonight in case you want to eat dinner somewhere else". I asked her why she told me that because she didn't tell the couple that was in front of us. She said "well, I thought at your age you might not like it." I couldn't believe it. That's why we were there, to hear the bands that were playing.
Absolutely right!
The world needs more kind people like yourself and you are 100% correct about the animal cruelty!
Absolutely!
 I met my best friend in 1975 when we worked together. I tell people I've had her longer than I had my husband (28 years). We have seen each other through second marriages, second divorces, the entire deal. Talk daily sometimes 2-3 times. And yes sometimes "a friend sticketh closer than a brother", in this case anyway!
Absolutely!
How could you do any less for a member of your family? You're not crazy at all; you're a sensitive, caring human being who puts love before money. Take care of yourself; everything will work out.
i have absolutely no
rear end. It's flat as a pancake. :=(
Absolutely
I have a family member with Parkinson's disease. He has the adolescent onset version so he's only now 39 and on disability. He cannot sit all day and work at the job he used to have at an investment firm. He has been in a car accident due to blanking out on medication. The only thing the doctors had left to tell him was take this medication which should work for about 10 years so you can work but after that you'll probably be debilitated. Well having 2 small children at the time, the answer was simple, be able to raise my family or be able to work. So he went on disability. Now he is able to active occasionally but his hands are real shaky and so is his voice. Whenever he has to go to the disability office, he is treated with contempt and disbelief until he hikes his 1 foot thick medical record file on their desk!
I also know of someone who was on disability that actually worked for the MT company I used to work for (this is hearsay mind you). Evidently she was using her husband's social security number to earn a paycheck! Whenever I meet someone or hear of someone cheating the system, I want them to meet my family member and explain to them why they think they are entitled to take money out of his pockets and his children's pockets. Makes me so mad!
Absolutely not. nm
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ABSOLUTELY!!
I posted above about my Canadian boyfriend. The taxes to pay for their universal/provincial healthcare are outrageous!!
Absolutely.
As an MT I cannot stand transcribing a social history that states "smokes 3 packs of cigarettes a day but denies the use of alcohol or drugs" and then has a positive alcohol or marij. screen. Why is one of the 3 considered acceptable in society and the others are not? To me, they are all essentially at the same level. They all have addictive properties and the potential for longterm complications, bad decisions, etc. If marij. has the potential of doing some good for anyone then I think it should be legalized.
Another good point you bring up is the cost of housing the so called "criminals" who have use it recreationally and could have just as easily used recreational alcohol and been involved in a drunk driving incident. It's all about education and setting limits. Sure there have to be guidelines but I don't think all should be punished because of the few exceptions.
You are absolutely right, he
could have done any of a number of things to cause A PIT BULL dog to attack and kill him. He could have yelled at the TV. He could have stepped on one of their feet. He could have fallen down. We don't know what happened, but the point is that no pet should ever be capable of killing a human with whom it shares a home. Other breeds recognize their master and other humans in their living space and take their rightful place. Most good, smart companion dogs would have recognized this man's special frailty and give him a wider berth. The instinct of these dogs to attack overcomes them and they can't turn off that instinct. This breed should never be kept as pets.
You should visit the web site I posted and click on the tab about pit bull owners. I find it very interesting that you have used the same phrases that most owners use to defend the breed.
Can you name one desirable character trait that a pit bull has that you cannot find in any other dog?
Absolutely!!!
I just met the love of my life 1-1/2 years ago, and I have a daughter in college, so I don't believe happiness is rendered elusive after a certain age.
After my man and I got together in what is indeed a story for "the grandkids," we discovered we had been at the same time/same place on multiple previous occasions, almost like fate kept dropping us into one another's paths until we finally interconnected. I had always held out and refused to settle, and I've ended up with the most wonderful man who treats me better than I had ever imagined. And, most importantly, someone who can make me laugh no matter what's going on around us.
I used to be a total skeptic about "love" and all that it entailed; however, once I met "the one," it totally changed my perception of love and just how life-changing and wonderful love can be. My friends say *glow* since I've been with him, and even his mother has seen a huge change in him since we got together. As corny as it sounds, I feel "complete" for the first time in my life.
Don't give up hope...Use your head to get yourself out of a bad situation, and then use your heart to follow your dreams. We ALL deserve happiness in life, and I'm a firm believer that fate will eventually have its way with us, and we end up right where we're intended to be.
You go, girl...grab that golden ring and don't let go!!!
You are absolutely right.......... sm
I found myself in a similar situation several years ago. The man, whom I loved very much and still do, decided that it was not within him to have a relationship with me because of religious beliefs. I do still love him very much and always will but I have come to understand that we are to never be together and I have moved on with my life. Hardest thing I've ever done, but I feel much healthier for it. My suggestion to the woman in the original story is that if she does love this man, then she must respect his decision and the sooner she does it, the quicker she will heal from the pain.
Absolutely not!
If it happened even just once, I'd be out of there in a flash.
absolutely and I think he is too! sm
My husband and I have been married for 13-1/2 years and were best friends for 4 years leading up to that. The single that I love most about him is that if I'm having a bad day, I can tell him that. I can say I need a hug cuz I'm having a really bad day and he's there for me. He listens if I want to talk about it and if not, he just holds me.
As for the groping thing, we always do that. Sometimes it turns into something more and sometimes we just end up giggling. We have 3 kids, so we've had our ups and downs. They range in age from 6 to 11. I think the biggest thing for us is that we're friends, first and foremost. I love him because he makes it easy for me to smile.
Absolutely
Better to agree to disagree than start a fight which is all too prevalent on the board. Have fun watching tonight. My daughter and I are always screaming at the TV when it's on. I definitely agree that most of the women were off last night. The girl you're talking about, I think you and I are thinking of the same one. That second guy I don't remember at all from the auditions.
Absolutely
Funny, when kids were spanked at home, they behaved at school. Now it's a crime to spank your child and the schools are filled with rowdy uncontrollable children who they now control by medicating them. Funny how no one had ADHD 40 years ago.
Absolutely...
I just hate that it always seems to be the fruit that I have to give up. When apples were 6 bucks a bag last year, I left them right in that store. A couple of weeks ago, the week right after V-day, strawberries were 4 bucks a pint, Seriously? The day before they had been 2 for 5. They stayed in the store. Grapes are expensive always it seems but my local grocer packages them smaller so I'm not paying as much, not getting as much but still it gives my kids a good snack for at least a day. S A D!
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