Absolutely accepted!
Posted By: sm on 2007-09-24
In Reply to: Accepted in the family that you married into? - into?
I love my in-laws! They're really great. My husband wasn't very close with his family growing up, but is now that I love being around his family. He's also close with my family, so we are very lucky to have both sides of our family to be friends with and we love having everyone over for bbq's during the summer. Then again, I'm the kind of person that gets along with everyone and I like to think that everyone has at least some good in them and I think this definitely helps with being accepted into other peoples' families.
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I could not be accepted by MIL
as she died before we married but I wish I had known her- if she was anything like the man she raised, I would have loved her as much as I love her son. I see the rest of his family here and there but everyone is out of town but all on good terms.
Definitely accepted
I love my in-laws. My husband is one of 10 (some step) and we all get along really well. I don't have a sister, so my sister-in-law and I are very close and I consider her my sister. I don't know what I'd do if they didn't like me. I can't imagine being married to someone and not being able to get along with their family.
Accepted - but my MIL drives
So I keep my distance. She's a martyr at times and very gossipy so you have to watch what you say around her. SIL takes advantage of her all the time. I try to remain cordial and let DH worry and deal with her.
Totally accepted
I was totally accepted. My MIL is one of my best friends, even after the divorce. Still talk with the brothers and wifes although not as much as before but I still feel accepted but now because I am me and not his wife. So there are nice in-laws out there. Can also say that my family has always accepted spouses into the family, may not be our best friends but have always been accepted and treated well. My brother sure put this to the test with his six wives but we liked all of them and probably more than him. Still in contact with several as he had children and my mother when she was alive never lost contact with any of the grandchildren or even step-grandchildren when it came to birthdays, Christmas or whatever when there was a divorce. Anyway, there are good in-laws or ex in-laws out there. Patti
Totally accepted
My FIL was a better father to me than my own dad. My MIL said she learned more about her son's life from me than she ever did from him (that's true).
And after my MIL passed away, my FIL remarried a few years later, and I was fortunate enough to get another SUPER MIL who has been not only my friend but the best grandmother I could ever ask for to my son.
Am I lucky, or what? I feel very, very blessed.
Totally accepted
I was immediately accepted by everyone in his family, and they all loved me right off. His mother is constantly buying me things, even though I don't exactly like all of the things that she gets me!
Accepted in the family that you married into?
How many people are REALLY accepted into the family that they married into? I don't just mean the EXTREME cases of, "You STOLE my son, you brazen hussy!" but the more subtle stuff too.
Accepted for who we are and not for what people perceive us to be. sm
Looking at most of my relationships now that are bitter or no more, this seems to be the case. My 2 SILs hate me with everything in their being and I've never been anything but myself around them. This is a very hard pill to swallow. To not be accepted for who you are.
Thank God I found Joyce Meyer. She's ON MY SIDE! I love it!
Totally accepted by DH's fam but not by my own family
Hubbies mom, sis and brothers make myself, our child and my children from a previous marriage feel so comfortable (I will not bring up their jealous spiteful wives) however my own mother, father, brother and sister make myself, DH and our kids feel like outsiders.
Your apology is accepted, Ella...sm
I've never had a person apologize on here to me. :)
I was totally accepted by my 1st husband's family but
when I married my second husband, I was never accepted by his mother. Of course, she didn't even like my husband. The rest of his family accepted me and that was all that mattered.
The funny thing is...when she was dying, she asked me to forgive her for all the nasty things she did to me and of course, I did. It wasn't her fault she was like that. Life made her that way.
Between the 2 MIL's, I'd take the first hubby's mother any time. We spoke and visited even after the divorce, even invited them to parties we (2nd husband and I) because he liked them too. . . and they always came. I miss them.
But wait! Act now and I will throw in one for free! Check or M.O. accepted. nm
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You don't need a proposal; you've already accepted. Go to a jeweler and pick one out together
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But this is not a school-wide accepted teaching practice, it is individual (nm)
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ABSOLUTELY . . .
If children find out on their own, they think they have figured out the great mystery of life, if someone tells them (especially an adult), they are taking away a precious, magical childhood time. My daughter believed up until she was 11 . . . and now that she and my almost 11-year-old son have figured it out, they think THEY have uncovered a great mystery!!! They think it's funny, actually. My 7-year-old still believes and he will until he is at least 10, if I have anything to say about it. That's like talking to them about faith in my opinion. That's the parents' responsibility
Absolutely..
My stepmother had a TAH almost 20 years ago and has had hot flashes ever since then. Sorry, that's probably bad news!
Absolutely don't do it
Same story here. Sit through sales pitch, very very hard sell, push push push. Then, instead of the "jeweled timepiece" which was the LEAST expensive prize, I got a cheap Timex that didn't even run.
Run run run away from this!!!!!
absolutely I would have said something
What if these kids are in his care a lot?
What if he does this behind closed doors (very likely if he struck out at the little one in public) when mommy isn't around?
What if he isn't their dad (or is) and he's abusing them but she doesn't know it?
As a mom, I would definitely want to know if someone struck my kid. Especially if I was a single mom (which I have been) and this guy was a boyfriend who was responsible for caring for my kids while I was at work or otherwise occupied. I would never leave them with him again, I could tell you that for certain.
Doesn't really matter what their personal situation is. The fact is, the kid was struck for no good reason and the jerk should have been called on it.
If he made a stink or if she made a stink, SO WHAT, follow them and get a license plate number then turn them in!
You-re absolutely right
A few months ago I was at a class I take at the YMCA and one woman was telling us how her daughter-in-law had a miscarriage. She was saying how hard it was and finally I spoke up and said I too had miscarried. After I said that, at least 4 other women (out of a group of maybe 10-12) admitted they too had miscarried. I was stunned. I had no idea how many of us there were. Knowing I wasn't alone might have helped when I was going through it.
On the other hand, if anything good came of it, I think it made me a better mother. I cherished every moment of my children's lives and took none of it for granted.
Absolutely!
Men like that feed off of control. My ex did the same thing. Just pull your boots up! It'll be okay. Talk to your family (parents? siblings?), see a lawyer (don't tell your husband), and look at getting into counseling. I've been exactly where you are and I know what you're feeling. It's awful, but the sooner you get free, the better you'll feel and the better off your children will be.
Did I read that he stays off for days without contacting you?
Absolutely...sm
Any and all prayers appreciated. Thank you so much.
Sorry you went through the same thing. It certainly isn't good at all.
Absolutely NOT!....
You'd better give that to me and I'll take care of it for you. 
(I am absolutely staaaving!)
This is absolutely
And surprisingly cute! Thanks for sharing...BTW, did you wear the ones you were given? 
Absolutely
You have the right idea!! Where I live, Hard Rock Cafe had their 10th year anniversay Saturday night. My husband and I and a couple of friends (who are about 5 years younger than I am) decided to go. Rich music history here in my neck of the woods. When we walked in, the young girl standing at the hostess desk looked at us and said "Just to make sure you know it is our 10th anniversay and we will be having loud rock music tonight in case you want to eat dinner somewhere else". I asked her why she told me that because she didn't tell the couple that was in front of us. She said "well, I thought at your age you might not like it." I couldn't believe it. That's why we were there, to hear the bands that were playing.
Absolutely right!
The world needs more kind people like yourself and you are 100% correct about the animal cruelty!
Absolutely!
 I met my best friend in 1975 when we worked together. I tell people I've had her longer than I had my husband (28 years). We have seen each other through second marriages, second divorces, the entire deal. Talk daily sometimes 2-3 times. And yes sometimes "a friend sticketh closer than a brother", in this case anyway!
Absolutely!
How could you do any less for a member of your family? You're not crazy at all; you're a sensitive, caring human being who puts love before money. Take care of yourself; everything will work out.
i have absolutely no
rear end. It's flat as a pancake. :=(
Absolutely
I have a family member with Parkinson's disease. He has the adolescent onset version so he's only now 39 and on disability. He cannot sit all day and work at the job he used to have at an investment firm. He has been in a car accident due to blanking out on medication. The only thing the doctors had left to tell him was take this medication which should work for about 10 years so you can work but after that you'll probably be debilitated. Well having 2 small children at the time, the answer was simple, be able to raise my family or be able to work. So he went on disability. Now he is able to active occasionally but his hands are real shaky and so is his voice. Whenever he has to go to the disability office, he is treated with contempt and disbelief until he hikes his 1 foot thick medical record file on their desk!
I also know of someone who was on disability that actually worked for the MT company I used to work for (this is hearsay mind you). Evidently she was using her husband's social security number to earn a paycheck! Whenever I meet someone or hear of someone cheating the system, I want them to meet my family member and explain to them why they think they are entitled to take money out of his pockets and his children's pockets. Makes me so mad!
Absolutely not. nm
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ABSOLUTELY!!
I posted above about my Canadian boyfriend. The taxes to pay for their universal/provincial healthcare are outrageous!!
Absolutely.
As an MT I cannot stand transcribing a social history that states "smokes 3 packs of cigarettes a day but denies the use of alcohol or drugs" and then has a positive alcohol or marij. screen. Why is one of the 3 considered acceptable in society and the others are not? To me, they are all essentially at the same level. They all have addictive properties and the potential for longterm complications, bad decisions, etc. If marij. has the potential of doing some good for anyone then I think it should be legalized.
Another good point you bring up is the cost of housing the so called "criminals" who have use it recreationally and could have just as easily used recreational alcohol and been involved in a drunk driving incident. It's all about education and setting limits. Sure there have to be guidelines but I don't think all should be punished because of the few exceptions.
You are absolutely right, he
could have done any of a number of things to cause A PIT BULL dog to attack and kill him. He could have yelled at the TV. He could have stepped on one of their feet. He could have fallen down. We don't know what happened, but the point is that no pet should ever be capable of killing a human with whom it shares a home. Other breeds recognize their master and other humans in their living space and take their rightful place. Most good, smart companion dogs would have recognized this man's special frailty and give him a wider berth. The instinct of these dogs to attack overcomes them and they can't turn off that instinct. This breed should never be kept as pets.
You should visit the web site I posted and click on the tab about pit bull owners. I find it very interesting that you have used the same phrases that most owners use to defend the breed.
Can you name one desirable character trait that a pit bull has that you cannot find in any other dog?
Absolutely!!!
I just met the love of my life 1-1/2 years ago, and I have a daughter in college, so I don't believe happiness is rendered elusive after a certain age.
After my man and I got together in what is indeed a story for "the grandkids," we discovered we had been at the same time/same place on multiple previous occasions, almost like fate kept dropping us into one another's paths until we finally interconnected. I had always held out and refused to settle, and I've ended up with the most wonderful man who treats me better than I had ever imagined. And, most importantly, someone who can make me laugh no matter what's going on around us.
I used to be a total skeptic about "love" and all that it entailed; however, once I met "the one," it totally changed my perception of love and just how life-changing and wonderful love can be. My friends say *glow* since I've been with him, and even his mother has seen a huge change in him since we got together. As corny as it sounds, I feel "complete" for the first time in my life.
Don't give up hope...Use your head to get yourself out of a bad situation, and then use your heart to follow your dreams. We ALL deserve happiness in life, and I'm a firm believer that fate will eventually have its way with us, and we end up right where we're intended to be.
You go, girl...grab that golden ring and don't let go!!!
You are absolutely right.......... sm
I found myself in a similar situation several years ago. The man, whom I loved very much and still do, decided that it was not within him to have a relationship with me because of religious beliefs. I do still love him very much and always will but I have come to understand that we are to never be together and I have moved on with my life. Hardest thing I've ever done, but I feel much healthier for it. My suggestion to the woman in the original story is that if she does love this man, then she must respect his decision and the sooner she does it, the quicker she will heal from the pain.
Absolutely not!
If it happened even just once, I'd be out of there in a flash.
absolutely and I think he is too! sm
My husband and I have been married for 13-1/2 years and were best friends for 4 years leading up to that. The single that I love most about him is that if I'm having a bad day, I can tell him that. I can say I need a hug cuz I'm having a really bad day and he's there for me. He listens if I want to talk about it and if not, he just holds me.
As for the groping thing, we always do that. Sometimes it turns into something more and sometimes we just end up giggling. We have 3 kids, so we've had our ups and downs. They range in age from 6 to 11. I think the biggest thing for us is that we're friends, first and foremost. I love him because he makes it easy for me to smile.
Absolutely
Better to agree to disagree than start a fight which is all too prevalent on the board. Have fun watching tonight. My daughter and I are always screaming at the TV when it's on. I definitely agree that most of the women were off last night. The girl you're talking about, I think you and I are thinking of the same one. That second guy I don't remember at all from the auditions.
Absolutely
Funny, when kids were spanked at home, they behaved at school. Now it's a crime to spank your child and the schools are filled with rowdy uncontrollable children who they now control by medicating them. Funny how no one had ADHD 40 years ago.
Absolutely...
I just hate that it always seems to be the fruit that I have to give up. When apples were 6 bucks a bag last year, I left them right in that store. A couple of weeks ago, the week right after V-day, strawberries were 4 bucks a pint, Seriously? The day before they had been 2 for 5. They stayed in the store. Grapes are expensive always it seems but my local grocer packages them smaller so I'm not paying as much, not getting as much but still it gives my kids a good snack for at least a day. S A D!
I have had this and it can be absolutely
terrifying. One time I felt like someone was sitting on the bed next to me and I was the only one home. I have had it happen 3 or 4 times.
I have had this and it can be absolutely
terrifying. One time I felt like someone was sitting on the bed next to me and I was the only one home. I have had it happen 3 or 4 times. You feel totally helpless.
You are absolutely right
From the start, this whole argument has been skewed, saying Bush banned stem cell research. Not exactly. It was not banned, it was NOT FUNDED by government money. What has actually been lifted is the funding issue, which simply means there is another way for government to p*ss away our money. (Like they haven't found enough ways already!)
Absolutely.
I moved about a year after high school. Had to get away from my dad who told me I belonged to him until I got married and I had to do what he told me. Well, since I had no desire to get married yet I took off and moved 1000 miles away. Best thing I ever did for myself. Had a blast! I look back on those days between high school and marriage as the best learning experience and the most fun I ever had.
Oh absolutely!..........
It's a gotcha kind of thing. After all, whose is going to bury your loved one? What you need to remember is to look for those that sell caskets wholesale in your area. The funeral home industry tried to shut them down a while back, but the law said they had EVERY right to sell caskets without operating a funeral home business, which of course they do. This country is supposed to be based on "free enterprise". Now, of course, the funeral homes hate this because they make LOTS OF MONEY selling those same coffins you can get for wholesale prices and thousands less!!
We just buried my brother in law and my husband said up front he was not going to fall for all those bells and whistles because we were his guardians and we were NOT going to let the funeral home take what little he had less and could hopefully leave something for his son. Well, my husband told them what he wanted, basically part and parcel, instead of the "package deal" they give. I told him they would have him either way because they would charge way more for the piece by piece method instead of the package deal and sure enough, they did!
By the time you paid a separte charge for transportation of the coffin to the burial site, the separate burial charge from the funeral home (which by the way did NOT cover digging the grave....what a joke!), setting up the chairs at the graveside as a separate charge (are you kidding?), carrying the flowers out to the graveside (separate charge), and dozens of other "separate" charges, they had you nailed!
It ended up being cheaper with one of the "package deals" though we did try to keep the cost of the coffin as low as possible.
No matter what the economy, the funeral business is a "recession/depression proof" business!!
Absolutely
I couldn't have said it better. Look where Chris Daughtry is, though. I think whether Adam wins or not he'll have a great career.
Absolutely!! sm
That way he learns life is not free and has some concept of budgeting. I think it will also give him a sense of pride knowing he is pulling his own weight. 
Absolutely
My mom did it to all of us when we graduated. She was very clear. If we went to school she would continue to pay all expenses. If we chose not to go to school, then we would need to get a job and contribute to the household expenses. It never made me resent her and it never made me feel like I couldn't go back home for any reason. It wasn't a large amount, either, but it was just enough to let us know that we had obligations.
Absolutely not!!
We have to set high standards for our children, they are our future and we are their examples. Draw a line and don't cross it. Teenagers still need their parents and will greatly appreciate that line drawn, it shows them you care and love them (even if they act like they don't like it, they do like boundries.)
No, we are absolutely positive about where and when -sm
it was left, I will be checking the schools L&F though just in case the guilty party returns it to there to escape detection.
Absolutely, and she should be fired...!
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