About the suicide. I had a very, very close family member commit suicide recently. sm
Posted By: Me on 2007-09-15
In Reply to: Wow. I hate to tell you this but I know of 2 specific cases sm - Me
Let me say this. There were absolutely, positively no warning signs whatsoever. None. One day he was there and the next I get a call that he had killed himself. If you talk to anyone who has a family member whose done this it is always a complete shock.
She's just using that as a cry for help. To get people to feel sorry for her. I'm telling you, if you are anywhere near a Joyce Meyer conference you need to drag her to one. This girl needs Jesus. She needs a complete and total healing. I believe that is the only way she will survive this.
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I think you are wise to think of the possible problems with the medication. . it may or may not be related.
Divorce is like suicide
It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Wait a while and things will get better. It always does. I have been married to the same guy for 40 years and I dated him for 5 years before I married him and based on this experience I give you my "aged" wise advice!
I think you are just ticked off that he never considers what you want to do and so you feel like if he went to Africa or somewhere for a few months it would give you a respite from anger. Go to counseling or get a friend of his (if he has one who is suitable) to let him know that your complaint is a valid one and that he needs to take a look at his behavior of always making plans without consulting you. Let him know that you guys are a "we" not an "I". Just temporarily, go downtown and get a pedicure and buy something new for your trip that he planned that you did not want to go on. You will feel better, have a new outfit or two, and your feet will be lovely until this resolves itself (and it will).
Sometimes it comes down to divorce OR suicide
I've known too many people who pretended it would get better someday and it never did. All it did was add years of misery to their lives. Depends on the issues and the big picture - sometimes divorce is the best answer.
assisted suicide
How do you feel about it? Negative, positive? I know each case is unique but it's always a terminally ill patient and usually there is quite a bit of suffering involved. What are your thoughts?
Assisted suicide here in Georgia
A man here in Georgia went a website called Final Exit as he had decided to end his life, had been suffering with cancer of the head, mouth, etc. Now the people who helped him have been arrested for participating. Apparently they use helium and the person or else the people around him then use a bag over his head and from what I am hearing they hold his hands because once he makes his decision and says yes, no turning back. There are some states that allow assisted suicide, Montana and Washington being a couple of them. What I want to know, I type and you probably have also of people at end of life being given morphine in the hospital to "make them comfortable" when actually all it does is speed up their demise by slowing down respiration, etc. I guess the medical profession is able to do their own "Final Exit" scenes but no one else?
Question re: disclosure of a suicide...
This is an odd question, but my neighbor's husband committed suicide in their home a couple of months ago. Understandably she has decided to sell the house. I have had two people state that she has to "disclose" that information to a potential buyer. Does anyone know if that's true? On the one hand I can understand this as I would want to know if something like that occurred in a home I was going to buy. I'm not saying I would not buy the house for that reason, but would like to know beforehand rather than hear it down the road from someone on the street. I suppose now I am curious if this is correct or not.
If you go off it suddenly, risk of suicide goes up. But,
It made life worth living again.
The risk of suicide is greater in people with depression anyway sm
I personally have suffered from depression for most of my life, and the only time I feel "normal" is when I am on some kind of antidepressant. It takes time and a patient understanding doctor to work with you until you are on the right one at the right dosage, but I strongly feel that it is irresponsible and dangerous to tell someone not to take an antidepressant if they need it. You don't go telling diabetics that they shouldn't take insulin because people taking it are more likely to have high blood sugar do you? Makes about as much sense to me
a family member will help us....
for the initial part and maybe refinance the house in a year or two and transfer it to our name.
New family member
DH and I had been waiting to get another dog. Sasha is hanging in there, which is great, but I've been eyeing a dog at a nearby shelter and DH went to meet him today. He loved him instantly and put down a deposit. He said he is very calm and sweet, so hopefully he will be gentle with Sasha right off the bat. I know he needs to get out of the shelter - it was noisy pandemonium in there, and Bear was completely silent.
i had a family member
that was such. Yes, they can sure turn it around. the predominant characteristic is that they tell a lie even when the truth would be easier/when there is no need to lie. but when they are trying to cover something, wow, there's no limit to the drama.
Anyone have family member on Coumadin? sm
Have someone coming home on Coumadin after IV heparin and states they are not dietary restricted. Just sounds frightening to me. They have a filter in place. I am just worried but also my input is not welcome. Just sounds not right to me, too many risks, I think some diet caution here but then again, I hear too much, don't I? I am my own worst enemy. For now, I am shutting up but not sleeping too well over it. Perhaps just venting will help, maybe I'm wrong.
Family member with small cell lung CA
Anyone have direct experience with this disease? I have done MT for longer than I want admit, so I know a lot about the clinical aspect of it, poor prognosis, neurological side effects of the chemo, possible brain irradiation down the line, etc.
My niece, who is 49 years old, was diagnosed today and is starting chemo tomorrow. She has 2 masses, one outside the lung and one inside. One mass is near the lymph system and at this time they are not sure if there is mets or not - will do a PET scan and an MRI in a week or so to better assess this.
If you pray, offer her and her family up, otherwise, please think positive thoughts for them. Thanks.
Family member has one that opens up like an umbrella! Cool. A
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Just be supportive and a loving friend/family member - sm
My son jokingly tells me that I have Super Gay-Dar because I have had a few friends out to me first.
When my friend Chris came out to me a few years after high school, he was a complete wreck.
He called me up one night after I had not heard from him for awhile and the conversation went something like this.
Him: I really have to tell you something (I could tell he was shaking terribly and just sounded so upset and scared.)
Me: Okay.
Him: I'm gay. There I said it.
Me: And?
Him: What do you mean AND?
Me: Are you serious? You think I DIDN'T know? How many times were we BOTH checking out guys "back pockets" in the mall? How many times did YOU help me pick out dresses for formal dances? How many times did my parents let you come over for slumber parties all the way through high school? Do you think they let ANY of my other guy friends do that? Did you notice there were no other GUYS at those sleepovers?
Him: He has such a funny loud, barking laugh and he just started laughing and then crying.
Me: You wouldn't be you if you tried to be a straight guy. You're more fun this way.
Him: I just love ya girlie, You're my bestest bestest girlfriend.
Me: You're my bestest bestest girlfriend too.
And that was that. We still laugh about it. He can always make me laugh.
Obviously you've never had a family member killed by a drunk driver.
Long ago? Time has nothing to do with it. The man has an alcohol problem and left the scene of a homicide. Sounds like you're ok with that. I'm not. It speaks volumes about his character.
Not mentioned, but a family member loves the Myrtle Beach area, very metroplitan, but they live
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How horrible. My family and I are so close.
I cannot imagine even using such terms about my family.
ever hear of Jessie Tafero - electrocuted for a crime he didn't commit
and the chair malfunctioned while he was being electrocuted, 6-inch flames shot out of his head
We are close in that we live about five miles from each other, but we aren't close like good frie
By husband and BIL WERE pretty good friends, though.
If you are set on closing, do not close the old ones, close a newer account first.
Your credit is based on a mix of things like history, types of accounts, mix of credit (revolving vs installment), usage/utilization of credit available, and payment history. Where closing could hurt your score is the part of the score that averages history of accounts/length of credit. If you decide to close, close out a newer account first.
The best way to protect from ID theft as far as credit is to freeze your credit reports. It's around $10 per agency to freeze them. Each credit reporting agency tries to sell your their own monitoring plan when you get to the how to freeze information, so make
sure you are freezing it.
You can't freeze it over the net they each require a letter by registered mail. It takes about 1 month to freeze it.
Right now you can place a fraud alert on your reports for free. The credit *should* not extend credit or do a credit line increase without calling the phone # on your credit report first. You only need to do it at one credit reporting agency and the other ones will be notfied. The number for equifax fraud alert 1-888-766-0008. It's automated.
If you are concerned about ID theft try one of the monitoring plans. I've tried a few of them and Equifax has the best one. Their Score Watch is great, you set the limits to be notified and any change they send an email literaly the next day. I used it after I discovered ID theft. It might be a waste of money for you. I would place the fraud alerts, then the freeze, and check your reports 2x per year.
I've had ID theft as far as my name/social but what concerns me more than credit ID theft is bank account theft. I don't know how we can fight that. It seems like consumers get the raw end of the deal as far rights when deposit accounts are stolen.
Yep, I'm currently a member of WW
I joined Weight Watchers back in early September and am down a bit over 13 pounds right now. It's not a "quick fix" program by any means, but it's something I know I can live with for the rest of my life since it's not a "diet". Best of luck to you, and I just know the scale will start moving for you! :)
A fellow member . . .
of the loss of a child. I understand and sympathize with you. I too lost a son 16 years ago in a tragic accident. He was 23 at the time. Yes, it does change your life forever. We all grieve differently, and somehow find our way back to a life. For me, it was our other only child, a son, that made me, forced me to make my house a home again back then. I thought about how my deceased son would want us to go on, and how it was hurting him to see us in so much pain. I thought about death a lot, and that we are all walking toward that end one day. I thought about how I need to help make my other son happy again. That helped me to gain some semblence of a life again. Now, I see death as part of life and try to focus on what I make of my life, and how I can make it happy for my loved ones. Yes, my husband and son, and I think of our lost one, but we try to think of him with a smile and how some day we will be reunited again. My sympathy to you and your family. It is not easy. You are so fortunate to have other children. God bless you all and give you happiness.
Anyone a member of Curves?
I am thinking about joining with a co-worker and would love some feedback from current members. Do they have treadmills, etc or is it only the 30 minute circuit training?
if you ask a church for help they ask if you are a member
but limit funds to help the needy
I am a member of a rescue
Wow. What it sounds like is your "friend" is a lazy good for nothing.
I belong to Ohio Pug Rescue. It is a volunteer organization but we do have fundraisers, yearly dues, take donations, etc. and four times a year, the money we take in and the money that goes out (and what it went for) is published for all members to see. (One year, I couldn't think of a thing I wanted for my birthday when the girls at work asked, so I asked them to buy dog food, dog toys, dog shampoo, *anything* dog. I ended up with a great donation for our rescue). We ask no questions when someone wants to give up a pug and nobody makes any money. We constantly have pugs coming in and they are automatically spayed or neutered, have any health concerns taken care of and have a teeth cleaning with possible extractions. They are sent to foster homes until they are found a forever home (and believe me, we're strict about who can take one in). Yes, there is a fee for the rescue pug - around $200-400 depending on how much vet work had to be done, etc. But again, we all do it for free. Any money left over, if there is any, is kept in the account because there are always new pugs coming in that need something.
Our volunteers volunteer in different capacities - some travel to pick up the pugs, some foster, some do the fund raising or whatever. My name and phone number are with all the local animal shelters and with the local dog warden should they have an unclaimed pug they're going to put down.
Is there a way you can get completely out of this thing you started with her? To me it sounds like she started making money on it and just squeezed you right out.
You may just have to cut your losses and maybe consider starting another rescue. Or, do a Google search. Perhaps you can join an existing local rescue. Bless your heart for caring. I walk our dogs in a field and around a plaza and there are about a dozen cats (I'm not saying this to be funny) that live behind the Chinese restaurant part of the plaza. Someone feeds them, has provided shelter and water. My neighbor took one of the cats in several years ago (it wandered up onto our street). Last year, we took one in that followed me home from a walk. We took it to the vet, got tons of mites cleaned from his ears, got him all his shots and had him neutered. I made him stay inside for a week (he loved to follow us on our walks, staying just a yard behind). The firt time I let him out after his surgery, he was run over by a car. How does that go? Que sera sera? I won't take anymore in. $300 in vet bills and a dead cat. He grew up an outdoor cat, there just wasn't any way I was going to be able to keep him indoors.
So, pugs it is and pugs it always will be for us. :-)
As a member of a large church I am always around others. We have different sm
groups and we do dinner once a month, shopping once a week (if you can make if of course), movies once a month, etc. Then I attend a Bible study on Wednesdays with another large group of women and we will get together a lot and talk on the phone during the week, etc. This, along with my family, sister, in laws, etc., and I am far from being an introvert working at home doing MT. Been at it for 8 years.
To be honest, and don't take this the wrong way, but as an MT or anyone who works from home, you decide if you want friends, a social life, etc. We work 8 hour days or some of us work 4 hours. That leaves you lunch hour to get together with a friend or 2, after work for dinner, shopping, and a movie, and then weekends for a couple of hours. We all need balance. It is not healthy to be at home all day with no interaction whatsoever. You will begin to suffer if you continue living that way. Trust me, as a former depressed person who suffered from post-partum depression for 4 years (yes, you read that right!), I had to make a decision that I would not exclude myself from my friends and family, would make NEW friends while I was at it, and it has turned me into a very positive and fun person to be with.
I can't tell you how many parties I've hosted since coming out of my depression. My friends call me Rachel Ray with a mix of Paula Deen (I'm leaning more towards Paula), since I LOVE to decorate and entertain and be a blessing to others, ministering to them if I can, lend an ear or a hand if I can and have an "open" home where people can drop by if they need to talk about something. My life has been fantastic since overcoming depression.
I'm not saying all extroverts are depressed, but that was the reason for me.
Good luck.
And, btw, I am one of the working poor, a member of
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...and another member of the Forum Taliban is
You people are nothing but terrorists seeking to impose your private notions of correctness on the rest of the forum population. We will be grateful if you retire to your cave somewhere in Afghanistan.
Anyone that is a member of AAA ever sign up for the cellular plan using
Consumer Cellular with them that can tell me how they like it.
Family is great but I am never back in my hometown where family is... So I always have extended fami
You can always pick your friends your stuck with your family. An Xmas for me is where my husband and kids come home to. It is what you make it!
A guest book attendant is not a bridal party member and should
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Summer. Friends or family? Family. Tired or Awake?
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Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
LOL. I love this show. I think Gene and Shannon and her sister are a riot! What characters. It really is amazing to me the kids seem so laid back and so normal. They seem like great kids.
Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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I was just recently .....
At the GYN, and had a PAP/HPV test and I was told it is actually the male who spreads HPV, and yes, males will be tested in the future as well. I was also told that the thing of the future will be the HPV test replacing the Pap smear. Interesting.
I had a friend who was recently
selling his house and buying another one who stored some things in a storage facility. He opted not to get the insurance on it. It got broken into and his things stolen. He thought it was an inside job since it happened not too long after he rented the place and no other units were broken into.
You sign a contract though usually when you get a rental unit. I bet you somewhere on that contract it stated they are not liable. That is why they have the insurance you can purchase. Kind of a different scenario. Plus, if they had stored them properly and then they were stolen, no, it wouldn’t be their fault at all. There are situations where some things are out of people’s hands. They acted negligently though.
Whether the husband should have made a better decision is really beyond the point. They both knew that storing them near the street could mean them getting stolen and they did it anyways, but they didn't put their quads there.
That is my point, yeah the husband should have made a better decision, without a doubt, but they completely had no regard for her property, but did for their own property. I think that is pretty crappy.
Had 1 just recently - that was fine
within the past 4 months, so next step??
I recently had a talk with my ex
I am the grandma, but I'm raising my granddaughter. Both parents have supervised visitation, but don't visit. My ex-husband, my GD's only grandfather, comes to get her every couple of months for a visit either alone with her or with his family. When this happens, she gets loaded down with presents. Even though there are other children in the family (although she is the youngest), none of the others are not treated equally. They all feel "so bad" for what has happened to my GD (granted it HAS been bad), but a special extended family dinner, huge bag of toys and candies for Valentine's Day was just too much for me. I asked him to please consider and talk to his family about these excesses. I reminded him that if he/they continued to treat her as "damaged," she will consider herself as being "damaged" and will always have a victim attitude and have the expectation that she should be treated differently. Once he thought about it from point of view, he understood better and things have cooled down. They still visit, but the gifts are fewer and not as over-the-top as before.
I think the same thing happens to children of divorces. The noncustodial family tries to over compensate for not being there as much as the custodial parent. I don't think your daughter needs to speak to the new "wife", but should try to have a reasonable and nonthreatening talk with her ex about always trying to think what is best for the child...not the adults. Every time I need to make a decision, I always ask myself "is this in her best interest." I've had to make some hard decisions, and this philosophy has made everything easier. Good luck.
I just recently saw her on a bunch of
with her new body, etc. So maybe instead of rehab, she went to a spa and got into shape, cause she does look great (at least on the magazine covers), but certainly desperately needs rehab and lots of therapy. She is a beautiful girl, can't say very talented, but it is a shame to see her so out of control and living so dangerously...
My dad passed away recently too
You say you think it is disrespectful to cremate and memorialize later.
Some things you should take into consideration. Did your cousin pass away far from home? My dad did. In fact, he was 1610 miles from home, on the road, with only my mother there with him. Options were limited.
Secondly, where is the family? All of us kids are on the west coast, my dad's family is in the mid west. As a matter of fact, my mom and dad had just sold their home here on the west coast and moved back to my dad's home town less than one month ago.
Third, who are you to decide what is the best for everyone? Our IMMEDIATE family has lost a father, husband, and grandfather. It is our choice and we are the ones who were informed of his wishes prior to his death, not our cousins, aunts, uncles, etc... How would you know?
I recently adopted a cat
from a rescue facility. She is a total sweetheart and so petite! I named her Tinkerbell. She shed like crazy at first but I think it was nerves because now a couple weeks later she has stopped shedding and seems to have settled in nicely, plays with my other cat (male) and loves my dog!
The only thing I've noticed is she is a bit gassy - not a lot but at times worse than others. My question is, is there something I can give her otc to help with her "problem"? 
Anyone have a mammogram recently?
I have to get one soon, but I am so afraid to do it. I'm 43 and it will be my first one. I know I should just do it, but I keep putting it off. Just the thought of those 2 glass (?) plates smashing down on the booberoos keeps me from going through wtih it.
Can anyone who has had one recently help me out....How bad does it hurt? How far down do they smash them? Within one inch? Two inches? or just enough to get a good view?
Had one recently, they're much better than they used to be!
I also have small boobage, and the more uncomfortable part is where the edges of the machine hit me during the strange contortions in order to get the boobage on the plate! The actual mammomash is more pressure than any pain, they only go far enough to get a good view and it's over pretty quickly.
One time I went they offered some sort of padding, which meant the plate wasn't quite as cold, but other than that no difference. The tech said that some women with sensitive breasts think they are awesome.
Just go! A couple minutes and it's done...and you really need this!
I recently learned that among those who are into -
New Age beliefs (which I'm not particularly), a personality type called "Indigo" exists. The 25 traits that make up an Indigo fit me and my authority-questioning ways to a T. It was quite a shock how exact the match was. Even more interesting was other people's descriptions of their lives, etc. as an Indigo. You might check that term out, cuz you just might be one, too!
According to the teachings of that group, Indigos often lead difficult lives because they spend much of them swimming against the current, but that they are ultimately the ones who will save the world.
Food for thought, when it comes to the differences between leaders, and followers!
I used to agree with you until recently. sm
We have had a few pits over the years and they were fine. DH brought one home from work recently that he bought for $200, 6-month old fully registered. We had 2 pigmy goats in their pen. Within 3 hours of him bringing this pit home, it attacked and killed one of our goats. My kiddos were trying to get it off the goat before I knew it, could have killed them but they don't understand the seriousness, they were only trying to save their pet. When I realized what was going on, DH and I both tried to get that dog away and neither one of us could until the goat was dead. DH took him and shot him. Fast forward about 2 months and now there is a wild pit I guess someone dropped off around here. I have seen it maybe twice. Killed my kiddos' kitten. Heard lots of commotion one night and went out to see the kitten in its mouth. Not the same pit but you could tell this dog was pit. DH wasn't here but we are trying to locate that dog and it will be disappear as well if I see it on my property again. They don't kill to eat, they kill just to kill. A few years ago, my BIL brought his pit to our family reunion. Had him on a chain and my DS at the time was maybe 6. He as petting him but had a bag of cheetos in his hands. The pit attacked him and almost ripped is ear off before we got him away and probably the only reason we got him away from the pit was because the pit was on a chain and saw it happen instantly. My kids will NEVER be allowed around any pit whatsoever. I say Amen to the representatives trying to pass this bill. I agree with them 100%. You never know when they will attack and I personally now believe it has nothing to do with how they were raised. It is in their genetics.
I just recently went out and got my own account sm
to avoid the arguments over money. He is not very happy about it, but I told him that after 18 years of being together I cannot have this argument any longer. My husband was a real mama's boy and he got whatever he wanted when he was a child (an ONLY child BTW). I came from a large family where I wore my brother's hand me downs and share clothes with my sisters. I have decided it is never going to change, but I needed to get that stress out of my life. I told him as long as you pay these bills, your leftover money is yours to do whatever it is you want to do. I am exhausted with this situation. I love my husband, the children adore him, so I am hoping this will help the stress in our marriage so we can stay together. I am sorry to stay this will only get worse. We don't even have a house, we rent an apartment for God's sake. He has no desire to even buy a house . . . I am going to try to qualify on my own. Wish my luck . . .
Been going up and up for 2 years around here not just recently!
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I recently realized
that I cannot compare my family to my husbands. It's hard when you grow up with such different values focusing on basic things like the importance of family and relationships.
MIL was recently in the hospital with heart concerns and they just dropped her off and went home. This is the 3rd time her husband has done this. Atleast this time he called the children. It is beyond me why one of her 3 boys (or their spouses) did not make the 15 minute drive to go sit with her. I would have but I was working and figure if out of all those people no one else could make the effort, why should I turn my life upside-down to do it. I can't imagine anyone in my family doing that, even if it was something routine or scheduled. My sister is the one who told me to let it go.
We went recently and stayed almost
100% of the time on the resort. The employees there did take people out on tours and we went with the employees and also took a boat ride over to the island (can't remember the name), but it was also a tour. Don't know I would run around by myself anywhere.
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