A twist off topic, but that's the opposite of my MIL
Posted By: Lllls on 2008-12-05
In Reply to: DIL who returns everything! sm - anonamiss
She wouldn't return anything, and expects no one else to, EVER. She cuts all the tags off and then claims to have forgotten where she bought things. She has even gone so far as to cut the size tags out of gifts. She once whispered to my husband, "I had to buy her an extra large, so I cut the tag out. I didn't want to embarrass her." That was for a robe she bought me when I was pregnant. Believe me, I knew what size I was! I hate to have her spend money that goes to waste on things that just don't fit, for example. Those could be simple returns, but she won't give gift receipts or even say which store she bought the gift at. I've given up. I appreciate the thought of the gift, but if something doesn't fit, I just donate it to the next clothing drive that passes by. Someone will use it.
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Same here, but with a Southern twist -
Some young child grinning from ear to ear shouts in his hillbilly accent that I can barely understand (and I transcribe plenty of ESLs!) why one should buy cars from his dad. I want to tell them I might if I could understand something besides every tenth word...Brother!
A twist to that question
How many women marry men that are like their dads?
My MIL is not bad looking, but her personality is by far so far away from me. DH is glad for that too. He gets exacerbated talking with her.
Okay, a bit off topic but here goes
So many women talk about the bonding that happens when you breast feed that does not happen if you don't. Now it seem to be okay to let someone else breastfeed your child if for some reason you can't. Where does the bonding come in? Who is the child bonding with? For me I breast fed the first child but did not the second. Who am I closer to? Couldn't tell you!
A little off topic, but
I was out to lunch one day with my DH and on my way home I came upon a crash that had just happened at an intersection...one of the drivers was a young girl (she happened to go to the same HS as my DD). The other driver was a 30-something mother of 2 or 3. The young girl had run a red light and T-boned the other car. The mother was instantly killed in the crash, with 2 of her children in the car with her. When the teen girl got out of her car...yep, she was on the phone...! And obviously she was not calling 911! So sad...my DD said this girl went off the wall after this accident.
Not a funny topic at all.
I agree, i hadn't been reading all the posts (although i did now) and i think that it isn't a funny topic at all. My son is 6 and by this age they have discovered what their private parts are and they get aroused and i just think it's sick. Have you ever heard of Oedipus complexes? It's where the children become attracted to their parent! This can happen and it's not healthy and i just think (VERY PERSONAL OPINION AND NOTHING MORE!) that you're putting your child at the risk of developing some sort of issues. I 100% agree with Breastfeeding, i did for a little over a year. But at some point you have to disattach yourself from your child and let them grow up on their own in some areas and by treating them like a baby does not help them mature and go out on their own any. This was my 2 cents as well and nothing more, i just found it disturbing.
This is very interesting on this topic
http://www.jugglezine.com/CDA/juggle/0,1516,30,00.html
ongoing topic
I live in Florida and this is an ongoing topic on forums of local newspapers. We have a large Hispanic population here and while many of them speak English, many of them do not. If you go to Wal-Mart here, all of the signs are in English and Spanish. Many of the food products are in both languages. I actually know a couple through a family member who moved here from Cuba, must have been 35 years ago now, when Castro took their farm. The wife speaks virtually no English. She worked for Disney in housekeeping or something and retired from there. Even Disney didn't seem to care if their staff learns English.
I worked at a bank prior to becoming an MT. I had about 4 bilingual coworkers and we needed them. We had numerous customers who came in to cash checks or even had accounts there and didn't speak any English. I taught myself enough Spanish independently on the Internet and through books to be able to serve their needs. Now let me ask you, if I can manage that why can't they?
I don't think it's being racist or having a bad day. We all have to listen to ESL doctors who are practically incomprehensible. I wonder sometimes how in the world they passed the equivalency exams. I also know as doctors they can certainly afford a few diction classes but they don't bother. Meanwhile, we can't understand them, I don't know how their colleagues understand them, nurses probably have a hard time understanding them and many of these doctors are administering to elderly patients who don't hear as well. God only knows how they understand them.
English is the accepted universal language in the business world which is why people in other countries learn English. If you are going to do business in a predominantly English-speaking country then learn the language.
Good topic...
I am making my shopping list around coupons, buying more store brand items, cooking at home a lot more, and just generally hanging out at the house on the weekends cause we can't afford to do anything else. I cringe when I have to go somewhere in my car cause I don't wanna burn my gas. Thank goodness I can work at home, my son rides the bus to school, and my daughter drives but it's only less than a mile away.
Good topic- sm
In my lifetime I have had a Pembroke Welsh Corgi (best cow dog EVER), purebred ChowChow (real sweetie) two giant mutts (brothers), they were some kind of lab/shepherd mix. Both of them were with us for almost 17 years.
Also had an Irish Setter and this dog was a nut.
When my son was very small and we lived out in the country, he would todder down our long driveway. The dog would follow him and keep a watchful eye.
If the dog thought my son was getting too far from the house, he would gently knock him over and bark at us.
Pretty soon, baby boy would get up and head further down the driveway. After a few feet, the dog would again knock him over and bark at us.
This would go on a few more times until finally the dog would knock him over and just lay on top of my son and start howling like crazy... "COME GET THE KID!"
We had it on video but I don't know what ever happened to it.
That is a topic to just get me going today.
Ex-Idiot#1:
He got remarried to Satan's daughter (actually she is 12 years older, she might be Satan's sister). She beat my children and he allowed it so they deserve eachother.
Ex-Idiot#2:
He used to beat me. He took my son from me at 5 months old to travel the country in an 18-wheeler so that I couldn't find him. I did find him and got him back. Now he remarried. Thing is, the woman grew a brain cell. She booted him with nothing. He deserved what he got for what he has done to so many women over the years. I haven't heard from him in years, which is probably a good thing.
I told Satan's daughter to say hello for me when she visits Idiot#2 at her "brother's house".
Let's get back on topic, please.
This isn't a discussion about statistics.
Ahh a tricky topic...let me tell you the one about.....
Hex nut in the urethra man. Yeppir, AND he was a repeat offender, having been brought in for numerous urethral extractions..... his hex nut being his best.
Then there was toothbrush swallowing guy. (really!) You would think the curve of the toothbrush would prohibit swallowing. This guy was also a repeat offender. Lightbulbs, toothbrushes, razor blades, whatever ya got!
I love these guys. 
Off topic - mac and cheese
I must be living under a rock, but I was watching the Food Network, and they were talking about restaurants that serve mac and cheese pizza. I might have to try it, it sounded pretty good, but I can't think of anything more fattening - unless you add bacon to it.
Topic of conversation here lately
I was talking about the wages being offered now for MTers and no raises, pay going down and the like just the other night. I said pretty soon looks like the MTSOs will be charging just to have the people working. I am so very glad that most of my working in years past because like the previous person said, I also did around 60,000 years ago and now more in the 20,000. My husband said this can only happen if MTers allowed it to happen. I am not caught up in this hot mess like I would have been years ago but I understand what it is like to try to raise a family and yet the money might not be there. I don’t know what it will take but the workers here 1 day will have to do something about how this profession is heading
My GYN is the opposite....sm
I asked them about this and they're giving it to anyone asking for it but not pushing it yet because they're concerned that it hasn't been out there long enough to know for sure if it really works. I'm with the other posters concerned that with the way the FDA approves drugs then oftentimes goes back and pulls them that they don't have enough data to prove for sure this prevents cancer and that it's not just a money maker without long-term results that it's really safe.
My mom just the opposite
Funny, its the other way around for me. My mom is completely not interested in spending time with me or my child. She would visit her DIL in my town and forget to visit me and my baby. I moved to her town - she'd visit me twice a year if I was lucky. She would babysit her other grandkids free - I had to pay her to get her to spend time with mine. She would run to my other sibling's houses for any little thing they needed - and told them she never came to see me because "I never need anything". I moved far away - she visited me for 2 hours once in 4 years, while on the way to spend 2 weeks with her sister (who she visits at least 2ce a year for a month at a time). She has time for everyone but me, or my kid. Luckily my child has many other relatives on the other side that spend time with him. But I only have one mom. I have begged her to visit me at my new home, which is a couple hours drive from a place she likes to vacation - but I am not holding my breath. She'll just wait till she gets back from her vacation and tell me all about it, to rub it in that she was that close and didn't tell me or even offer to let me meet her there. I suppose I should give up and stop asking her. I visit her once a year and I guess that's all she needs to see me.
Well for me its the opposite
For me I'm the one who is not into having sex so much. The reason is not because I'm unattracted, just that I'm so tired all the time and have a low libido. I'm in my late 40s and husband can't keep his hands off me. I'm not attractive or thin (almost 190 pounds and never considered myself to be pretty - so its not like I'm a young hottie), but he's always got to be touching (private areas). He wants sex all the time. A few years back I heard of some vitamins to improve the libido. Never did take them, just forced myself to want to do it more so we wouldn't be arguing. I'd research into low libido for men because maybe that is what it is. I think my hubby bought some pills through GNC (whatever that health place is) that increases sex drive. So, I'd check out the libido thing or come out and ask why he's not interested so much.
I too get the opposite
Lots of people call me or ask me for medical advice. I don't like it because, although I am familiar with most medicines, disease, etc., I am by far a doctor and hate to diagnose someone's illness. I do however like to make an educated guess as to that I think it is, but that's as far as it goes...
Actually just the opposite with this one:
This one affects mostly young healthy adults worst, they guess because their immune systems try to fight it harder:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/24/AR2009042404075.html
They also say it's not really the 'swine flu' because it's a mix of avian, swine, and another one, all mutated and jumping human to human without animals involved:
http://in.reuters.com/article/domesticNews/idINLR47878620090427
On the topic of consumer reviews :)
I generally have had very little luck finding a really comfortable bra. I am big busted and use underwires (yuck). Anybody care to share what their favorite brand of bra is as far as comfort for us more well-endowed women?
coming in late on this topic
I'm the grandma who has custody of grandchild. My custody papers allow 2 visits a months with the parents and more "as agreed to by both parties," but all are supervised and no overnight visits. I will not allow either parent into my home, so we were meeting at a fast food place with an indoor playground.
Because of suspected (and now admitted) drug use, I suspended visits until a clean drug test could be produced. In a few weeks, it will be a year. I talked to my lawyer about this before I suspended visits. I could not withhold visits due to failure to pay CS. I could be held in contempt of court and go to jail. However, since no judge is going to say it's okay for a parent on drugs to visit with the child, that is a different matter. In only 6 months, the parents are behind by $6k...I'll never see any of it.
My attorney told me the only way to withhold visits is if there is a situation that would place the child at risk - child abuse, parental drug abuse, sexual abuse, etc., otherwise you have to follow the court order or go back to court and ask the judge to revise the order with documentation of the reason for the request.
The noncustodial party can always go to court and ask for a revision of vistation as well to get more liberal visits.
OK. This is weird and maybe should be under the Confessions topic.
But I love the Godfather. I mean, I really LOVE that movie and Godfather II. I've watched those two movies a zillion times, director's cut, saga, DVD extras, you name it. (Not so fond of part III.) I'm not sure why I love it so much. Maybe my upbringing? I wasn't raised by mobsters, but I was surely raised in an Italian household. (I don't need the subtitles to know what's being said in Sicilian/Italian.) I like the complex theme, seeing Michael Corleone go from a righteous good guy to a powerful mob boss, twisting the admirable quality of protecting family into the distorted mess that brings him to his ultimate realization of his own guilt.
When I have I have the time, I get out some nice primitivo, some good cheese, lovely chewy bread and roasted peppers and watch those movies.
I wanted more info as well on this topic (sm)
so I Googled "delawing pros and cons" and then also tried "declawing video". I must say, after looking at both sides and hearing about postop complications, if I were in your shoes I would find an alternative to it, especially if its an older cat. Apparently the practice has been banned in California. Very enlightening stuff out there on the net about it.
This is a hard topic for me - I see both sides (sm)
I have had prayers answered, but I have seen such suffering too and I know those people have cried out for help. You can always ask, but you never know if it is going to be God's will to solve the problem for you or not. I don't see how you can have blind faith that your problem will be solved when not all problems that are prayed about are solved.
hey gourdpainter, i know this is off the topic of your post but
i think gourds and painting them are so cool. My husband has a big garden, and he usually plants some gourds. The only thing I've done with them is let them dry and keep them around for a while. It would be so cool to be able to paint them if I had the time and talent.
Discussion topic today
How on earth did you get custody of your deceased ex's cremated remains? Did you divorce him after he died? LOL
Probably because it was a valid discussion topic below.nm
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Relationships - new type of topic
I'm reading through all the posts below (where did you meet your spouse, what was your first meal, etc). I'm wondering how many of you out there would be perfectly happy living by yourself. I absolutely hate those dating commercials (eharmony, etc). Why does society try to make us feel that we have to have that "someone special" in our lives or we are nothing. A lot of times that "someone special" turns out to be "nobody special" but you don't find that out until your married and its too late. HA HA
I have always believed that before planning your life with someone you should first be true to yourself. Get to know yourself. What is is you want out of life. Can you achieve that goal on your own. I always have felt I did not enter with world with a man attached to my side and I won't be leaving this world with one attached to my side either. I'm am me, I'm a whole person. I have interests, thoughts, and beliefs, that are not always the same as my "other halfs". I am married right now, but to tell the truth I would be perfectly happy living on my own also. I've got lots of family and friends to do activities with, so there is not an issue of ever being lonely. You can be alone without being lonely.
Just wonder how many people are so attached to their spouse they feel life would not be worth anything if they were without them and if so why.
it was about her shoes - not a political topic
I would just ignore it. Started off about fashion. You can't control what people are going to write about a certain topic. Sometimes the two can blend together. Since we're not talking bout the O I would just ignore it and write another post about something else.
I have the opposite problem
It's a regular twin mattress, and actually padded which would make it a little higher I would think, but there is way too much sheet. It bunches on the sides and I have to actually tuck it in.
Go figure...
Dealing with it on the opposite end...sm
My middle daughter is dealing with weight issues on the skinny end of this issue. Kids are just as cruel when the child is extremely small and skinny. My daughter is going to be 10 in September and weighs in at 45 lbs. She is also very short for her age. She was a premie baby and has just never caught up with her age group. We are trying to add weight to her without stuffing her full of junk. I suggest talking to your pediatrician. They should be able to help you with guidelines and safe ways to encourage healthy eating and weight loss. It just seems kids find anything to pick on...but weight is a big issue even at 10. My daughters best friend is overweight, so the two of them together make quite a pair! They are able to relate to the same hurt they feel when being made fun of, even though one is skinny and one is overweight.
Oh heavens no, just the opposite
My hubs spoils me rotten and gives me more attention than I would have ever anticipated. If I bring up his name in talking, he wants to get the subject to anything except him. He is a love and a keeper.
I should note--I did the opposite of what OP is asking
I'm the youngin'. DH is the oldie but goodie.
Have the opposite problem!
DD went off to college this year 250 miles away from boyfriend of a year. I was hoping she would forget about him, but no such luck. He has already visited after only 3 weeks. They will probably both come home for long Columbus weekend, and they are already planning a weekend visit in November. Do I want to see her heart broken? No. But if it meant she was rid of this guy, definitely!
no my dear...just the opposite...
suppresses appetite and because of this you can lose weight until your body gets used to it...but NO you do NOT gain weight...I lost weight. I can gain weight just sniffing bakery goods...so Adderall was great for the first few months with weight loss.
opposite thought -
the tougher the cut of meat the more time you marinate.
A New York strip or T-bone is a good (and more expensive) piece of meat so you would marinate it much less time. i usually keep it very simple and just do a splash of redwine vinegar, garlic, salt and pepper for these.
A flank steak, skirt steak, sirloin like for kabobs or fajitas (usually less expensive) need more marinating time to soak in the flavor and tenderize the meat (which is usually the main reason for a marinade). i have done kabobs in 30 minutes but they are better if you have a couple hours. sometimes the meat will not be as red after marinating for a long time but that is because any vinegar, lemon juice, or acid is beginning to break the meat down and make it more tender. a good marinade to try some time is regular italian salad dressing right out of the bottle. it gets a little sweeat when it hits the grill. i only go about an hour for this with all the acid though.
I am the opposite. My son met a woman--sm
with a 15-month old who I fell in love with the first time I saw her. She climed up in my lap all dirty, tangled hair down to her butt, smelling of old urine and for the past 17 years has not left my side. She has had a horrible life but I have chased the mother over three counties to get her-and then a year later my son's daughter-every weekend. They have spent every birthday, holiday, and summer with me for 17 years. The oldest turns 18 in Jan and is planning on leaving her mother to live with me. She has spent so many hours trying to find similarites between us, we both had blud eyes, both are left-handed, love to read and quilt that she has convinced herself she is my granddaughter. People often think we are mother/daughter and she never wants me to correct them. She has had to be the mother to her sister and has had to grow up fast, but she is the most wonderful child.
Open you heart--the step granddaughter will benefit but not as much as you will. Sounds like she needs all the love she can get.
We were talking last weekend as we were putting up the tree that neither girl can remember having any fun times with their mother and how all the birthday and holiday pictures are at my house and any memories they have are here. Rhiannon is always telling me how lucky she is to have me as her grandmother, little does she know I am the lucky one.
Actually I have the opposite experience. Everyone
I know seems to think I am a doctor and can answer all their questions concerning their medical symptoms and those of their family. I have had people call me asking me about meds and what I think they should do.
Need help with opposite problem sm
I have chestnut brown hair with blonde highlights which is getting too expensive to keep up. Stylist was charging over $100 and I told her thanks but I would have to start going to Super Cuts or someplace cheaper although I did appreciate her beautiful work. Well, she came down, then went back up again to $85 and that's too much. I have never ever colored myself and she said she had to start coloring my whole head with the brown, used to just highlight with both colors. I hate to lose the highlights as they make me look and feel better than just the drab brown. I see products that say highlight but if I have a brown base, how do you get both colors to come out??? Kinda lacking in knowledge of hair, perhaps someone else does this. TIA
opposite problem
For the last 20 years we have been "forced" to participate in the gift exchange regardless of our circumstances. This year, all of a sudden, we must all abide by a new "budget," but now we have money! I think it is just a power play and nothing more.
We had the opposite problem
That's why we have a real tree. My cat was slowly eating all the fake needles (I didn't know she was doing it)and they finally got so imbedded that she had to have emergency surgery and she had so many pine needles in her stomach that when they took them out it was a huge packed glob of them actually in the shape of her stomach. So ever since then we've had a real tree.
I had the opposite problem sm
I am a gifted dressmaker and did this professionally for many years. I mean, I can make anything from jeans, to triple lined parkas, to mens' suits from the fabric up. I am good and we can leave it there.
So, I marry this man who thinks that if it isn't very expensive from a nice STORE it is pretty well $ _ _ _ and he would never wear it or use it! I divorced him and part of it was his extremely prolific high spending habits.
I had purchased a piece of fabric to make him a suit, from Italian wool. The fabric and findings for that suit set me back $400 (in about 1990). When my younger son graduated high school, I offered to take him shopping for something to wear. He nearly cried and said NO MOM I want you to MAKE me a suit. I have waited my WHOLE LIFE to graduate and have you make ME a special suit. So, I did and that expensive stuff when to someone deserving.
It is all in how they were raised. My dad was raised to believe that all women should sew. He and his mom insisted I learn and I topped even her excellent skills. I have learned you can't change their opinions of this, no matter what side of the equation they may fall on. I would suggest you learn to do some sewing, OR learn to tolerate him taking his little projects elsewhere. Even if all you do is crafting and some quilting stuff, that is probably enough to impress him favorably.
That said, he has NO RIGHT to give away your sewing machine, it is YOURS.
Just the opposite in my family.
I'm Italian and grew up living next to and with my cousins, aunts, uncles, grandmother. My grandparents were "right off the boat" and everyone yelled. We yelled when we were happy, sad, mad, when the food was ready... you name it! It was loud and fun. My husband's family is not that way. I don't think my MIL would yell if she dropped something on her foot!
Anyone really satisfied with their PCP or just the opposite?
I went to get a mammogram done this morning and got a lot of questioning about my last Pap, last breast exam by a physician, etc., etc. I over the years have really gone thru a lot with different physicians both for me and my daughter. I told the tech this morning could not remember the last time a physician had asked about my having a mammogram and I visited the PCP about 3 times in the past year. I also am under the care of a nephrologist, have seen a rheumatologist and the like. I just wondered if anyone else felt like they have the best of care and if some feel like the care they get is somehow lacking.
It is not saying we are more accomodating - it's the opposite (sm)
It means women over 40 aren't going to put up with the BS that many of us put up with when we were younger. It is a rebuttal to the old "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" cliche.
I feel exactly the opposite of you.
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I wish that was the case, but I'm the opposite.
Even after 6 years I have a very hard time with ESLs (and my largest account the doctor is from Peru). I hate when someone from another country tries to ask me something, I can never understand them and I feel like a total dope. One time I told a lady I didn't know where the item she was looking for was, when actually I couldn't figure out WHAT she was looking for!
Just the opposite here, hubby is into
what he terms as good food rather than fat food (fast food to us) restaurants. I wish I could eat out more but usually when I ask him, nah just fix something here. He is the cook so don’t argue with his cooking and to tell you the truth, most of his food better than what you get out, well Carruba's is high on my list.
Travel Agent... off original topic
Always looking for a new career away from MT...Since your DH is travel agent, would you recommend it? Can you make a good living at it? How to get started? Have thought of this in the past, but never really knew how to go about it. My DH and I love to travel and he will be retired in a few years, so a career change may do us both good. Thanks for any info. 
Dr. Phil DID cover this very topic a few months ago...
and there was a guy who supposedly went to Africa and needed all this money to eat, get out of prison, get home to see this woman he was chatting with and told he loved so much. She fell for the whole thing until Dr. Phil exposed the whole story on his show and had other women there who had also fallen for this guy and sent him money. I don't know if you can get a DVD of the show or not, but it might be worth it to try.
I didn't realize I started the same as the topic below - nm
haha
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