A tea-length basic black dress?
Posted By: tired fingers on 2008-01-17
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What kind of company does your husband work for? Would that help in your decision? My opinion is you can't go wrong with black. Accessorize to make the dress "pop". Nicely of course. Congrats to your husband for his award.
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My above-the-knee little sparkly black cocktail dress! - nm
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But it IS basic
In fact, I've noticed most anything I've bought in the last few years is so cheaply made that I have to reinforce the thread, if I don't it starts to fall apart after a wash or two. I'm a pack rat for all my old clothes (amazing how many sizes I have, and how out of style they are too, some of them have even been back into fashion, LOL), and I know simply by comparing a T-shirt from 1979 and a t-shirt bought today, the quality of what you buy off the rack has gone steadily down hill. Anyway, I'm darned if I'm only wearing an item twice, so I repair it and continue to wear it! (That's a catchy little jingle that should become the new mantra - repair and wear!)
Basic skills best learned at home
It's kind of hit and miss as to whether kids learn to cook, sew, etc in school. Although I HATE using a sewing machine, I think basic handsewing is a life skill and taught my teenage girls to sew on buttons and mend rips. They also know how to do basic cooking, ironing, and have done their own laundry for years. My college daughter lives with two other girls, 19 and 20, and neither one of them can sew on a button (my daughter does it for them). Apparently their mothers never taught them.
Hair length
First let me say that I am appalled that some "neighbors" would have the audacity to tell you how to wear your hair.
Second, I just watched a segment on Today (Meredith leaves at 9:00 so I didn't get a chance to look at her hair) but they did a makeover on a woman that I would say is "retirement age" and the length was just above her shoulders and she looked fabulous.
Now adays we are always hearing "love your body", well that includes your hair. If your are happy and you are fortunate enough to have a hubby that cares enough to try to make you feel better, than more power to you.
length vs loss
Wear it as you want it and the heck with others.
Just a warning, though -- The women on my mother's side of the family lose their hair. My mother was BALD. So I try to keep what I've got. It's very fine, shoulder length in the front and longer in the back. I look hideous when it is down. I use a hinged thing (forget the name) or a scrunchie thing to keep it up out of the way but keep it loose, no pulling. I can't go short because too much scalp shows. At 56, it is still mostly chestnut with a little gray mixed in. Never dye it, never use rollers, perms. Nothing. Let it dry by itself and only use dryer when I must. Gotta save it and these things can harm it (or so I've been told/read).
I wrote this because in researching how to preserve your hair, it says that length pulls on the roots and in older women this causes hair loss so that's something to keep in mind. If it gets much longer than this, I can feel a pull and out come the scissors.
I also wear it in a French twist in the back when I want to get dressed up with combs in an upsweep on either side of my face. This is easy on the hair and draws attention upward with the combs and away from my falling face! I also use only Castile soap (from pharmacy) on it. That's all my great-grandmother used and she's the only one who had a full head of hair in old age. I don't need a conditioner with this and it feels clean after I wash it and not coated or soapy. It is bar soap and hard so a bar lasts a long, long time. Costs about $3.
Report length
The longer the better if it's by one of my favorites.
Not talking insurance, just basic care and the cost for that.
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I think just watching her for any length of time,
say 2 or 3 minutes and you absolutely know something is not right. She appears on a shopping channel with her jewelry and anyone can watch and see. We don't have to have anyone tell us, just watching is enough.
I agree...I think most of us in this age group don't find sewing a basic skill...
nm...
Hair length and age input appreciated sm
I am what one would would call "retirement age" and a grandmother. I have always had very nice hair and keep it neat and clean. I still have most of my light brown color and highlight slightly every 3-4 mos. I use hot rollers or a roller set if I am going out or if I feel I need it. My stylist and most people tell me I have very beautiful hair. I let it grow to about the length of Meredith Viera's on the "Today" Show but I get remarks from a few neighborhood "cats,", i.e., "At your age, perhaps you should cut your hair." My husband loves my hair and hates when I cut more than an inch off and yet I feel sloppy and as though I am trying to look "younger than my stated age." My husband thinks the few women who say this to me are jealous and I am kind of on the fence as I feel perhaps I'm kidding myself. Anyone else have hair almost chin length in their older years? Don't be mean - it's just a little "girl talk" here, Sometimes it helps to talk it over with the girls. Just keeping the conversation light for a change and trying to grow old gracefully without disappointing my husband. I have had worse decisions to make in my life! Much worse!
Just a basic Cover Girl cream compact type foundation. nm
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the length is about 80 minutes long, per the client, no special format.
nm
I think they start to become concerned when femur length is two standard deviations below normal
which equals about 5 weeks or 6 weeks behind in length. And you said you were told something like 2 or 3 weeks behind. I wouldn't worry. You may just be having a small baby who may be a short person or maybe your dates are a little off. There are so many variables in pregnancy.
Both my kids measured below the standard for femur length on ultrasound (about 2 weeks behind), but I'm 5 feet 2 inches and my ex-husband is 5 feet 4 inches, so my kids weren't going to be big. My son always measured in the 5th percentile and was always of the smallest kid in his class. Now at age 14, he's taller than his dad and is probably going to reach about 5 feet 9 inches! My daughter is still in kindergarten and she is the smallest in her class and measures in the 5th percentile. I've had doctors say things like "we need to watch his/her growth closely" blah, blah, blah. I'm little, my ex is little, and consequently, my kids were little.
Best advice, DON'T WORRY! When you're pregnant there's a tendency to worry about every little thing! I would suggest talking to the genetics doctor and going from there. Do your own research and have questions ready when you go.
Good Luck!
Dress
Every year they change the rules in those bride books. At my daughter's wedding, which was semi-formal, but outside (????? is this congruent?????) the mother of the groom wore white! My one pet peeve is that the mothers not wear white too! However she is a tacky woman, so what should I have expected? She was given the color scheme and the bride's mother has first choice, was asked not to wear white or pants, but not only did she wear white, she wore pants! May I add that she looked ridiculous because she chose some hippie-dippie flowing cotton things that would have looked okay at a parade or a yard sale, with huge pantaloon legs and wore flip-flop like sandals. (Pain is still coursing through my body from this faux pas 12 years later). But, having done this before more than once I found that at Nordstrom's they have wonderful salespeople and great dresses and they will bring you things to the dressing room that suit you and your budget just tell them basically what you want and what you want to spend. Stay away from bridal stores, they try to sell you "bridesmaid dresses" and will ooh and ahh over you even if you look like a clown and most of the dresses show too much skin or have ruffles and bows attached in all the wrong spots if you are over 23. I took my daughter whom I trust to know me and what I like as well as what looks best on me. Good luck! Hope your new in-laws are more fun than mine! They are still tacky, but then I rarely see them! 
Red dress or no dress.
Having a guest book attendant is popular in the South and is supposed to be an honour. Here is a website with some info but it does say coordinate color somewhat.
Given the circumstances, if she really felt uncomfortable with what you are wearing, I would keep it pleasant, it is after all her day and you might feel the same way if in her shoes. I myself would just explain to the bride (especially if you were asked to hold this position until the last minute)...
"I am honored that you have asked me to participate in your wedding, but since I was not expecting this, the red dress is the only one that I brought with me and I honestly cannot afford to purchase a new one right now. If you are still uncomfortable with me wearing this however, I would truly understand if you would like to choose someone else for the position."
That will leave the ball in her court. If she wants to offer to buy you one, so be it. The choice is strictly hers.
Wikipedia had some interesting info on the colors. Red for auscpiousness meaning luck or promising, and how white was originally for mourning and blue was the color associated with purity.
It should not matter to her as long as you don't outshine her. If anything guests will be talking "bad" about you not her, and in that case I wouldn't give a flip!
How about help her with a dress? sm
The dresses are extremely expensive and maybe if you could help financially with the dress of her choice, that would make her day the most memorable as well as beautiful pictures. She basically needs to feel like a queen.
You could pay for her to get manicure/pedicure, buy her jewelry, pay for picture setting at a photography studio, or school pics if someone else is not, pay for her to get her hair done or makeup done.
Ultimately, you cannot control the eating that day and activities unless you teamed up with her date and coordinated that with him to make sure he could afford a really nice place or pay for it for them.
I would suggest you going down and setting up a time before their prom activities to take some really good photos of them, play ones, serious ones, etc depending on their relationship. Just went through 2 proms recently with my DD and our pics we got are way better than any of the school pics. Sending them to Walmart to be printed as soon as I figure out what I want! Their pic packages are really reasonable. You could even put together a photo album of pics for her for later of her special day. Email me if you like, we have some adorable pics of my DD.
Bridesmaid dress
My cousin is getting married in a few months and is in the process of picking out her bridesmaid dresses. Her dress has cranberry trim on it, so she wants our dresses to be that color and she also wants them to be long. I went to the boutique with her and she showed me her top three choices.
1. floor length satin, strapless with a straight skirt.
2. floor length chiffon and satin with spaghetti straps, also with a straight skirt.
3. tea dress (mid calf) satin with a butterfly beading design, netting under the skirt, bow tie spaghetti straps.
If you were the bride, which dress would you pick for the bridesmaids?
Really, what do they dress like, the Amish?
Or wear a burqa/burka? LOL
Complete with red dress...
Weddings have become such shows...it's ridiculous! I've been to 2 weddings in 2 weeks, neither one too showy, but just money spent on silly little things (no programs!) like bubbles to blow at the bride and groom, which no one was left by the time they left...candies with their names on them, etc. Boy, can't wait til my DD gets married! 
I'm drunk enough now to tell you that you may have my dress,
but you will never have my hat!!!!!
He didn't see me in it, but he saw my MOM in the dress.
I wore my mother's dress, and her wedding pictures were displayed in our house. So he saw the dress before we were married. I don't think that counts. :)
Deep Purple Dress
Bridesmaid dresses in a deep purple. Not sure if I should go for metallics- gold or silver or stick with black? The wedding is in the afternoon in church and a reception at a golf course. What do you think?
Dress code for students?
Our school system is looking at implementing a strict dress code for all students...khaki pants and solid colored collard shirts (basically a polo shirt) but no brand-names are allowed. My children hate the idea..ages 14 and 16. Any opinion on this?
Your dress code is not being followed apparently,
because you yourself state your neice wore shorts too short and your son had to change his shirt. If your school had uniforms, these would not happen. Any disruption, such as having to pull this child or that child out for breaking the dress code or other things disrupts your educational system, understand?
I don't remember my dress size
being asked on any job applications. Are they supposed to be able to tell over the phone? Of all places to say this - around a bunch of people whose employers have, for the most part, never seen them!
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Red dress attendant at wedding
Just got back from vacation and saw the post about bride not wanting red dressed attendant at wedding. Getting past keeping the book part (some know about it, others do not, some agree, some do not) but I am talking the red thing. First of all, anyone wearing red is usually saying LOOK at me. The bride has every right in asking anyone in the wedding party NOT to wear red. This is her day- NOT anyone elses. It falls under the same thing as no one wearing white to the wedding- that is supposed to be reserved for the bride only. Wearing red would be about the same as wearing sequin dress and I guess also most do not know you should not wear black although I see women doing that also at weddings. I think the problem now days is most do not know manners - I recently saw the most outlandish dress for a funeral, bare arms, bare midriffs, very short skirts, capris and/or bermudas. Any request a bride makes for her wedding for her attendants SHOULD be followed to HER liking, not theirs. Any who disagree with this post really just do not know etiquette but should brush up on theirs - try reading Emily Post to begin with.
Jo got married and all we got was this bleep dress!
nm
The View. Dress or jeans?
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dress mani or pedi
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Why do some thin women dress
like hoes? I'd rather see the outline of a roll through an ill-fitting shirt than see some girl's entire butt crack. That's just NASTY.
Anyone been to a wedding on the beach in Hawaii? Need help w/ MOB dress.
I have already posted this on another board, but I need all the suggestions I can get, and I appreciate any and all help.
My friend has asked me to help her shop for a mother of the bride dress. She really has no idea what she wants to look for, and she has done no looking on her own. We are going to go shopping not this weekend but next. The bride said for her to just pick out a simple dress. The wedding is mid March, on the beach, and they say the temperature is 70s-80s year round there (I wouldn't have known this myself LOL). I don't know the colors they are using yet, but I'm sure she does by this time.
What kind of style should we look for? MOB is 48 years old, slightly overweight but not terribly so, and relatively conservative. Any suggestions? Thanks! Y'all seem to have great taste.
Some Georgia schools have dress codes...sm
and they work with school uniform vendors to provide them really cheaply, around $7-8 for each shirt and each pair of pants or shirt.
My daughter goes to a school with a dress code and it's nice not having the "what is OK to wear to school" discussions in the morning. It also eliminates kids who come from poor families feeling inferior to other kids over their clothes.
RE: Help on mother of the groom dress - see message
I'm only 47 and don't want a "matronly" dress. Wedding is in 6 weeks and I need help. Any suggestions?
single digit dress-size here
oops, well I guess I failed - i have 2 children, although do have second generation middle class values.
If it were MY child, I'd buy her a pretty dress to wear
You bigots are appalling.
Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress
like a prostitute, or someone proud of their anus hairs - lol. I've obviously struck a nerve with you though... Don't worry, you'll grow out of it someday and realize you're worth more than that.
it was a blue dress firstly and Clinton lied
She's mad that you'll usurp her presence in your flashy red dress! LOL..put the
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Not from CA, but what about a fancy sun dress and a sparkly wrap of some sort for the AC/night
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Will they all be barefoot or wearing flip flops? Would just go for a simple sun dress or sheath,
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I'm black
and was not allowed to watch shows with mostly black actors either. I got the beating of my life when I got caught watching Soul Train. My brother got the beating of his life when he got caught watching 'Good Times' with JJ and Thelma.
My mom was very serious about education and steering us away from shows that glorified negative stereotypes of black people.
I also could not watch:
BET
MTV
VH1 (could not watch any music videos whatsoever).
I find myself doing the same thing with my son. No matter what the race of the actors, I do not allow him to watch 'dumb' shows....shows that contribute nothing that is beneficial to him.
you could do orange and black
streamers (i think that is what they are called) like are used at bday parties. Outline your trunk with. Then a really cute idea I thought of was if you could find a scarecrow for cheap or make one that can sit, sit it in your trunk and put the candy on top of it like it is bathing in candy. You could also put a fake pumpkin or real in there on top like it is floating in the water for his rubber duck
No Black Friday
No Black Friday thing this year because I didn't see anything that jumped out at me in the sale papers....until dh told me about Walmart's secret items that they just found out about on Wednesday. They had a computer tower, mouse and keyboard for 148 bucks. (you had to supply your own monitor). I thought they would be great for the boys. It was one to a customer so I recruited Kristi (my 19 year) to come with me. I was up and out the door at 3:30, planning to pick Kristi up and be in line by 4 for the 5am sale. Walmart had their greeters handing out maps so that you could find the sale items and get in the right line. I was all over that store because these computers were not where the map said they were. I asked lots of associates and got pointed in lots of directions and I was MOVING man! LOL Kristi was like, MOM, it's 4 in the morning, slow down. You have to forgive her, she's never been to a Black Friday sale. I teased her that she should be able to keep up with an old lady. LOL
Finally, I'm back to the place on the map, with a huge sign pointing down to where those computers are supposed to be and flag down a manager, who goes in the back and checks. He comes back out to me and says that they never got any!!! What??? You never got any?? And he says there are no rainchecks either since they never got them. What?????
So that was the end of that. I did end up getting, on a whim, two gamer chairs...the last two they had. They were on sale for less than half of what they usually are. I NEVER buy things on a whim, but I figured if I bought them and decided it wasn't a good idea, I could always return them. If I didn't buy them and THEN decided it WAS a good idea, I'd be kicking myself.
At least I didn't walk out of there with nothing so that the entire trip wasn't a waste, right?? LOL
If you went to the sales in the wee hours of the morning, how did you do? Did you get what you went for?
pot/kettle/black
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She is only defending him because he's black
just like Jamie Fox said it which is probably where she got her idea.
First of all, get a black keyboard. (sm)
But I have alcohol wipes I use about once a week over the keyboard. It helps a lot. Or even HandiWipes help. But to get down in the valleys I do resort to a Q-Tip and alcohol on occasion.
Lewis Black
Ever see Lewis Black do his routine about the weather when he stayed in Boston? Pretty funny!
Two black beauties!
They look like the best of friends!
Or a black snake.
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Is this family black? sm
It sure sounds it. My experience growing up in a fairly racially segregated town is that white funerals are reserved and solemn, black funerals are loud and dramatic--whether celebratory or morose. I swear they try to outdo each other in their show of grief. I've never seen so many women pass out in one place as I did at a black funeral.
I don't think anything you say will "comfort" them because it's their culture to put on a dramatic grief-stricken show.
Black Hills of SD
There are dozens of interesting things there, from Mt. Rushmore, Reptile Gardens, lots of caves and beautiful scenery, especially Spearfish Canyon. Lots of cabins to rent. And Rapid City has a great mall!
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