A mother's dream! My children are young so (sm)
Posted By: MeMT on 2008-10-29
In Reply to: Something nice my DD said to me last night sm - Very touched mom
right now they say sweet things, well at least my 8 year old does...lol. I only dream that when they are your daughter's age they will think that highly of me :-) Congratulations!
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Well, I guess I'm 75% of a young man's dream! n/m
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When children young, no problem
because shows were not as out there as they are now. However, I had some stepchildren living with me for awhile and I put down my foot and said NO to wrestling. It was full of sex and smut and nothing even 8 and 11 year olds should watch. I am no prude but if I thought too much, it was really too much for kids.
As the mother of two young daughters
one who got pregnant with her loser boyfriend at 20 - I can only send hugs and more hugs. No amount of talking did any good - she knew better and was making some kind of statement to us and she got pregnant still thought she was a smarty pants - they then split up, she met someone else, immedately became engaged, planned a wedding and got PG again before wedding. It has only been 18 months since the wedding but she knows she rushed through everything, has regrets but has learned lessons. I would just push contraception, I would let her know how disappointed you are - you have a right to your feelings - support her in other ways if you can and try not to let it ruin your relationship. She is due for a huge fall but they somehow need to experience this. I am so sorry!!
You must a) not have children or b) your children are young
I don’t see them as being spoiled- I see lots of kids in the age group of one (30+) who are totally in the me scene, not just the 1 I have- she married and her husband same - a me type person. The other not spoiled but just got nasty when he did not get the money left to me and he thought he should. Just to think, this was my chosen 1 if I had to choose. Oh well, live and let live is the way I see things now.
I know a young woman with six children who have six different fathers and just
announced she is pregnant with her 7th. She is 28, does not work, has never worked. One of the fathers has been in prison and she is breaking up with the father of her one on the way so she can reconcile with him because he's getting out of prison. She is on welfare, food stamps, any and all government assistance available to her.
Now, I realize that these day with the unemployment rate rising, there are families that need help and I think it is wonderful that this help is available to them. Sixteen years ago when I was pregnant with my son, I had a part time job at a bank with no insurance and my husband at that time was out of work, so I got on Medicaid and food stamps. However, I felt ashamed that I had to do this and my goal was to get off of assistance as soon as I possibly could.
Nowadays, it seems there are way too many irresponsible, unmotivated, and downright lazy people out there shamelessly living off the government teat. I think it is totally irresponsible to have 6 or 7 kids. The only people who can afford to feed a family of 8 are those in a higher tax bracket than I. And the truth is the people who have very large families usually cannot afford it.
Is that to me? I'm not that young. But my mother shares your point of view (sm)
I think it's an old school way of thinking that if you are not married you can be with whoever you want.
It's a mother's duty to protect her children
if at all possible and until she knows more about this woman she has no obligation to let her speak to her children - you have obviously never been in this situation. I understand what you are saying about way worse and horrible situations in the world but that is not this OP's problem - her problem here is the emotional wellbeing of her children and it is her call and IMO she made the correct one.
Mother of the new 8 babies, single and has 6 OTHER CHILDREN ALREADY
Talk about litters. She lives with her mother and father apparently. Be willing to say because she is a single mother with all that group she is on welfare. Your tax dollars at work here.
you are exactly the kind of mother children give a rat's ass about
when they are grown! Why should they help you when you are old and crippled, when YOU did NOT give them a helping hand when they needed it?
Maybe once you will remember what I wrote.
A mother ring with my 3 children's birth stones:-)..nm
 - My husband is good to me!
P.S. Before anyone calls me a bad mother or blames me for any of his issues, my other two children
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Recurring bathroom dream & ex dream
I have a recurring dream about having to go in a public bathroom and not only can everybody see me, but I am barefoot, wearing bell-bottoms and the floor is always wet. Yuck!
I also have recurring dreams about being back with my abusive ex and trying to get me and the kids away from him. We have been divorced 22 years, but I have these dreams frequently!
I have had the same dream
about teeth falling out. It is said that underlyling stress/anxiety can cause this, and also fears about personal appearance (think I remember something about money too). It's interesting to read about possible meanings of dreams.
Of course, "they" say too that sometimes it just means it's probably time for a visit to the dentist, so who knows (in my case I needed to go to the dentist, but I definitely had underlying stess issues as well. 
Your living your dream like never before?
?? That doesn't make sense.
My dream house ....
would have more than 1 bathroom and more than 2 closets. We live in the old farmhouse my DH grew up in. It has 4 bedrooms, which is great, but only 2 closets and 1 bathroom for 5 people. So my dream house would have at least 2 bathrooms and I would love a huge walk-in closet like I had when I was a kid. It would also have a library with lots of shelves for my books and a big stone fireplace with great furniture to curl up in and read. And if this wonderful house could be situated by the beach, I would be in heaven.
Dream Home
We just recently built a new home, not total custom build but we got to choose from about 15 different designs, and we chose the flooring, paint colors, fixtures (standard or upgrade), exterior color, brick, etc. The only thing I would change is the two smaller bedrooms (besides the master) could be a little bit larger.
BUT...the landscaping would be what made my dream home complete. I would love to have a nice-sized deck with one of those retractable awnings, with a nice big grill and comfortable seating. I would also love to have about an acre of land with some fairly mature trees where I could design wandering paths that would be highlighted by flowering shrubs, fountains, birdhouses, statues....
It was a dream/fantasy. sm
I was a little confused myself, but at the end of the episode Betty walked in and Hildy was crying in her bed. I guess it was her way of getting some closure. I hope that clears it up for you. 
dream trip
Been trying to get my mom to go with me to Ireland....she lost her DH last year....I'll keep trying!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQDPenBUC68
Never dream of being w/o the kids just - sm
the DH.......he is out of town this week, very nice and quiet here, no drama with the kids at night (usually there is something a few times a week, or him picking a fight with me). Though I would not say no to an evening or weekend all by myself, I probably would not know what to do (unless I had work, which I usually do). As for being bored and lonely, no I doubt it. I lived by myself for about 6 months while I was at school, loved every minute of it. I have plenty of interests so I'd find lots to do!
a girl can dream.. ;)
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I once had a dream that my dog got killed - sm
and a week later to the day, she did. And it happened exactly like in my dream.
67 Firebird is my dream car sm
Very similar to the Camaro. My dad had a 67 Firebird when I was younger and sold it when I was about 13 so my brother and I wouldn't be able to fight over it when we could drive. It got wrecked about 2 years later 
dream interpretation
but does anybody study dreams? I had a very vivid dream last night. I was riding in a car, a passenger in the back, and all of a sudden my oldest's father appeared beside me. He handed me a colorful bill with our current president's picture on the front with a $2 demonination on the front but he made sure I turned it over to see that it was worth $100. We stopped on a loney stretch of road and I asked him if he would like to come with me and he said no, i can't but we hugged and i told him i loved him and goodbye.
What's so weird is that I haven't seen him in 10 years. Our son is a product of a fling with no love involved and he has never met his child, though he has paid court orded child support whenever he feels like it. We didn't part on the best of terms, just more or less a straightforward admission that he didn't want anything to do with the child. I have honestly given him little thought in the 10 years since i left, much less dreamed about him. It's just strange how things pop up in your dreams.
I just wondered if anybody could lend any insight into this, I can't get it out of my head!
No, but if it is legit, it always sounded like my dream job!
 Paid to shop? I'm there!
I'm from the good ole' south. Would never dream of doing that! sm
But, on the other hand, I'm not against a woman's choice to do so either..Although my in-laws would definitely have a tad bit to say bout that one!
We're also going to see Dream Girls...sm
I got the Publix 1/2 off deal for the Wednesday night show so we could afford the orchestra level seats.
We go to local playhouses, i.e. Theatre on the Square in Marietta, Kudzu Theatre (Roswell) Alliance Theatre, Theatre on Main (Acworth) and used to like Big Top Theatre but they've just shut down and the head guy moved to Florida after the events that shut down the new Cobb Performing Arts Center in Kennesaw. I still can't believe that happened after they spent $35 million to build it and it was only open a few months but that zoning stuff got them into trouble.
Anyway, we watch for shows and get tickets for the ones we know we'll enjoy. Our teenager babysits the youngest child for the shows that aren't acceptable for a 7-year-old to see.
My dream would be a weekend of him helping (sm)
When he and I and the kids all work on getting everything back in order. But he would be angry the whole time, as if he shouldn't have to be doing it. I may end up hiring someone. I have thought about it all day. It would be worth it!
Dream Home Ideas....
Think of your dream home, and tell me something about it. Something that makes it different or special. Like how one room is made entirely out of fish tanks, or the whole 5th floor is a skating rink. Things like that.. be creative!
Dream Home Ideas
An indoor basketball court!! We have the room to create one on the outside because we have three acres (perhaps next spring), but indoors would take care of being able to do this year-round. We live in the country with a good-sized home, but double "his and hers" vanity sinks, instead of one, would also be nice.
LOL - I used to dream of Kramer when I was pregnant LOL (nm)
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I dream he and George are chasing me. Being them,
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no but I always dream about a snake biting
different situations but the snake ALWAYS at least breaks the skin, no matter how much I try to protect him. :(
I was a teacher's and parent's dream
I was the sort of kid who'd ruin the curve for everyone else. I studied all the time, had straight A's, was the Editor of the school paper and the yearbook, worked in the school office, and graduated at the top of my class. About the most outlandish thing I did was get a part-time job at Burger King. eek!
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
Mazel tov! Hoping it really is a dream come true for you! :)
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Grilled - I Dream of Jeanie or Bewitched. nm
Hi!
I should mention that I am 42, have 2 children and done with having children. nm
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Whatever my mother-in-law and mother are cooking--lol
we go to my in-laws for Christmas Eve and usually have ham and kielbasa (we are Polish) and then my mom usually has turkey or roasted chicken on Christmas Day
I agree - a mother is a mother and a daughter is a daughter for life sm
despite the problems they had, which i truly believe stem for anna's drug problems. obviously her mom wasn't too bad or she would not have raised daniel for a while. i think the mother wants her buried in Texas so the grave will be close enough that she can go visit it without having to come up with expenses of going to the bahamas to get there. although i contradict that too in poor anna needs to be buried with her son.
Too young for both
"If an 18 year old isn't mature enough to handle a beer, I dare say he isn't prepared for what killing another person could do to him."
Which is exactly why the military wants them at 18 rather than 21.
2 is too young.
He'll let you know when he's ready.
2 is not too young.
Both of my boys were trained before they were 2. I attributed that to the fact that I only used disposable diapers when we were not at home. All over the world, babies are toilet trained before they are 2. Human beings can learn this basic control very early. This is a fact. In the U.S., disposables are part of our culture. And since their introduction and widespread acceptance, the age at which American children are toilet trained has gone up. Then "big kid" disposables were invented, and now it's not uncommon for kids ages 4 and 5 to still have toileting issues. Others have posted here that their children trained once the pull-ups were stopped. Most people don't like the feel of being wet or soiled. When that is part of the equation, children let you know that they are ready to train much earlier than ages 3, 4, and 5.
Still think it is too young.
God forbid we let our babies be babies.
If they are terrified of the potty chair, they are too young.
I had 1 myself, at a young age, but then we had no
BCPs and ?? I did not want a child born out of wedlock, never. Had children when married and if my daughter wanted an abortion, would have gotten 1. Oh, I do have g'children by the way.
when I was young
I had a dream 3 times of my father dying in a burning car crash - one time I was with him.in the dream . . I never told him or anyone.. but I did worry somewhat about it. . My dad died a few years ago in his 70s of lung cancer. . I wouldn't make too much of the dream. . .
Okay, first of all, that is way too young
Is your hubby overstressed at work or personally (finances, etc)? Is he involved in too many extracurricular activities (little league, soccer, basketball)? How long have you been without? When I first read your post, I just assumed you were older -- 40s/50s -- not too offend anyone in that age group, but just because I think some men get bored with the same *meat and potatoes* and/or may have physical problems, such as the poster below suggested with the testosterone.
At any rate, I'm pretty close to your age and if you're going more than a month without, I would suggest you start asking him why. I don't want to put any suggestions in your head (you probably already have some) as to why he may not be putting out, so I'll just suggest that you talk with him openly about it.
As for me and my hubby, the motto is the same: Put out or get out!!! (LOL of course)
is 27 young enough?
Thank you SOOOO Much for your answer, ive been obsessive compulsively checking hoping someone would give me something!
I have no husband, no kids, but two dogs... the farthest i've moved was six hours from my home town and I love where I live now, been here three years but it is time for a change. I'm curious, where have you settled? San Diego is nice... but I feel at this time in my life, like there is nothing like the warm Atlantic Ocean... I also might be having a mid-life mid-life crisis of sorts! LOL. Thanks again i appreciate your input more than you know!!!
You are young! You need to get out! How about ...
volunteering someplace? There are tons of places that would be happy to have help even for brief periods. You could help someone in need, make some friends. It's good to feel needed, and with all the places who really need volunteers, you ARE needed. You can help others, get out of your house, and feel good about yourself at the same time!
You are either very young or very new. Yes, I work both sm
holiday. There are 24 hours, and I manage to work and spend time with my family, and cook, and enjoy both holidays. Health care is 24/7 and if you are in the field, then you should expect to put in a few hours on a holiday.
No, you do not "deserve" to have them off, of you should find another field. You won't go far in this one refusing to do your part on major holiday. It is not really a big deal. Just put in a few hours, then go enjoy your holiday. Or, put in a few hours at the end of the day. That is the beauty of working at home.
My son is young and works....sm
He went to a lot of trouble to get me a necklace that was a heart, said mom on it and had little "fake" diamonds. He is young, loves to work and it took a lot to save his money to buy gifts for everybody himself. I offered to help but he refused. This is not a necklace I would have chosen myself but because it was carefully selected by somebody that loves me that is what makes it so special. While it might not be something I would "normally" wear. You can bet because of the love and thought that was put into it I will proudly wear it daily because it was carefully chosen for me. How do I know? I was with him shopping and he was about in tears because he wanted me to "go to a different spot" so he could make his special purchase without me watching. While it didnt cost hundreds of dollars, yet was not cheap for a young person to buy I will cherish it forever and most certainly wear it proudly right along with the "real diamond" jewlery that I do have. If you ask me it is just as beautiful as it was a gift from the heart.
I also don't care if they are young
and committing such a horrible crime on someone else who is more vulnerable.
The excuses run out eventually. If they give the excuse that THEY were molested as children then they absolutely KNOW that what they are doing to someone else is COMPLETELY wrong. No sympathy. Not one teeny tiny little bit.
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