Home     Contact Us    
Main Board Job Seeker's Board Job Wanted Board Resume Bank Company Board Word Help Medquist New MTs Classifieds Offshore Concerns VR/Speech Recognition Tech Help Coding/Medical Billing
Gab Board Politics Comedy Stop Health Issues
ADVERTISEMENT




Serving Over 20,000 US Medical Transcriptionists

A military man shot his wife

Posted By: in my hometown Friday night. I feel sick to my st on 2007-07-15
In Reply to:

This man was our son's recruiter when our son signed with the military three years ago. We had several meetings with him. He was a "fun" guy to be around, always smiling, always happy. But now, this and I can't get over the sick feeling in my stomach. He is on the run, of course. He left behind his little boy, with no mother and now no father. Temporary insanity?????


Complete Discussion Below: marks the location of current message within thread

The messages you are viewing are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select the boards given in left menu


Other related messages found in our database

Military wife with a suggestion
Beef jerky is a great gift and Jolly Ranchers. My husband is very popular at mail call time.
Military

Well, I was in the military, and that is one of the big reasons I chose to get out! I got out in 94, so I'm not exactly sure what has changed, but here goes...


First, my mouth dropped open when I read your post! I have a 14 and 7 year old and can't imagine leaving them, sick or not! But a 3-month-old baby! When I was in, it used to be if you got pregnant, you had the choice of being discharged. Last I knew, you could request a hardship discharge, based on the circumstances of the baby being in the hospital, preemie, etc. But here's the catcher to all this...it IS the military! If they don't want to let you out, they don't have to! They can do anything they feel like! That's what is BS! Sorry, this mom should NOT be going anywhere, let alone Iraq, with her baby in this state! Wow! Okay now you got me going!


18 ONLY if they are in the military
xx
Same here - military fixed him tho
His pants were hanging down really low and I had asked him a million times to just pull them up a little bit. He wouldn't do it.

Went to the recruiter's office with him and his recruiter met us out in the foyer between all the military offices. Son reached out to shake his hand and the recruiter instead reached over and jerked his pants down. Didn't say one word. Turned around walked into his office.

Son pulled his pants up to where they should have been. The recruiter then comes right back out, says hello, and shakes his hand.

Son never wore his pants like that again and, yes, he still enlisted. :)
If I had a child in the military now,
sorry but probably would do as a lot of families did for Vietnam war and that was to head for the border, namely Canada. I thought if gay in the military, supposed to try and keep it quiet?? These to me are ever bit as bad as protesting at funeral of AIDS patients. You have some really sick people in this world to do things like this and please, like you, I don't want to get started on the other folks president in Washington.
Was that supervisor in the military or something?

One day you should have all plotted together and when she came in the room, jumped up and saluted. ROFL


I had a barium enema quite a while ago and my splenic flexure goes up really high and then twists. Sometimes gas will get stuck in there and it will hurt like the dickens. I'm glad I had the BE, though, because I know what it is and that it will pass in a little while. If it didn't, I would be at the urgent care pronto.


Sons in Military - Thank You
Thanks, next time I hear from either one of my children, I'll ask them about this. I wonder why the military just doesn't supply them with it ????? Thanks so much.
yes her husband is in the military.
x
military appreciation??

I'm trying to help my son with his writing project.  the subject is military appreciation.  I can't think of anything they do for us other than fight for our country/rights and help out in times of need (such as in Katrina)


anybody have any ideas?


military appreciation
Can he send a letter to a deployed soldier and write about doing that for school? When my husband was in Iraq, he loved getting mail from kids.
Also, he could look up different occupations they do, such as Seabees help rebuild war torn countries. They also built a bridge in Maine to help the sea life. Let me know, I can email articles.
Being a military spouse, I think that...
she should qualify for unemployment, but not indefinitely. She paid in to California unemployment insurance and had to relocate because her spouse is serving our country. She should, in my opinion, be able to draw on unemployment from California for a reasonable period of time until she can get another job. However, that is one of the reasons I like this job. I take it with me whenever I move.
Heh. Try military medicine

My husband woke up with RUQ pain, which got progressively worse.  I took him to the navy hospital ER.  They said he had a GI bug and told him to go home, drink fluids, yada yada yada.


We got about 10 minutes from the hospital when he started kicking and punching the inside of my car because of his pain.  I knew immediately what it was because I had seen both my dad and uncle go thru it. 


I flew back to the hospital and drove up to the ambulance dock, which was closer to the ER.  He was telling me not to park there - he'd get into trouble.  I told him I didn't give a rat's behind, that he was sick and that's where he was going.  There were 2 guys sitting in the ambulance who helped him into the waiting room while I parked the car.


We sat in the waiting room for a couple of hours.  They finally called him back.  Every so often, the corpsman came out and gave me an update.  I finally, almost rudely, asked him if they considered doing an IVP or a cystoscopy because of the location and severity of the pain?  He looked at me and mumbled something about them thinking about doing an IVP.  Anyway, he had a massive kidney stone.  So, they sent him home (this was on a Friday) with Tylox (Percocet equivalent).  He threw up all weekend and we thought it was due to the narcotics.  I didn't know better.  Narcotics had made me throw up before too.


I rushed him back Monday morning and he was admitted immediately.  He was septic and close to septic shock.  The uro doc said his ureters looked like tissue paper and they had to place stents in both of them.  Then, he finally gets discharged with a stent in his bladder, that was kept open, so he constantly dribbled urine.  One or two days later, I heard a loud moan.  He walked out of the bathroom with the stent in his hand.  They hadn't placed it right. 


Anyone still want government run healthcare?


Please remember our military today!

Happy 4th to everyone!  Please just take a minute today to remember all of our wonderful, brave men and women who have fought to make this day possible.  This is not just another holiday to get time and a half, or just another day to complain about no work, bad hours, etc.  This is a day to celebrate our freedom, the freedom that is made possible by every member of our military!!


 


Please remember them in your prayers today. 


She needs her keester booted into the military!
Let them apply that tough love and discipline and she can even get herself an education, food, medical care, and housing.
Happy Thanksgiving & we thank our military! (sm)

http://www.sgtstrader.org/msg/2006tdm1.html


 


You will have to cut and paste this link I guess - it is worth it - very beautiful and touching!


 


military school? it worked for a guy i know. nm
x
It's been shot down....
You can relax. The satellite was hit yesterday and pieces are falling toward the ocean with the largest the size of a football. You can't worry about what you can't change. Go get some anxiety medicine or something, but grow up....
Either the bank or Military Surplus store.

There would be only two reasons for me to run away from my home.  One reason would be voluntarily, as in winning the lottery--hence the bank.  The other would also be voluntary but there would be retribution involved--hence the Military Surplus store.


   


I agree, even with the shot you can still
get it....and maybe even when you are an adult and get it worse.

Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes things slip our minds. You are only human. Don't beat yourself up over it or let anyone else make you feel worse than you already do.

I hope he gets to feeling better real soon! :)
New Cancer Shot
I saw it on the evening news here in PA. Unfortunately, it is for real. There are two ways parents can opt out, but they have to jump through hoops to do it.
There are 8 more episodes that need to be shot
They aren't supposed to air until next year though! Can we wait that long?!
Just a shot in the dark here, but
it sounds to me like he has a warped mind regarding sex and women, the most likely culprit being pornography, or childhood abuse.
better shot of the front - sm
try, try again. This is before the previous owner refinished it, it is totally black now (with all the rust removed).
Send a free Let's Say Thanks post card to military

Xerox has a website set up where you can send a free printed postcard to U.S. military personnel stationed overseas showing your support and appreciation for their service to our country.  Click on the link below to be directed to their website.


Thanks, I'll give it a shot . . . nm
nm
whoa!! That was a cheap shot LOL, but I'd rather have a
x
Good for you for giving it your best shot.
You obviously found something that attracted you to the man since you are with him.  Any and all relationships require work.  We are each different individuals, and in order to live together, need to find the balance that makes each happy.
Try a latte but ask for half a shot sm

a small drink usually is one shot, a medium larger is usually two shots - you can actually ask for decaf espresso also - there are so many things you can ask for - just tell them at your local shop what you told us here and see what they suggest.  A latte is a shot of espresso topped with milk and then foam, a mocha is chocolate milk, so I would stick with latte for now - there are also frozen drinks at Starbucks with no coffee in them at all - but cannot think of the name right off the top of my head - good luck!!


That's a hilarious shot, showing
your dog's wrinkled forehead. I can tell it's part of his breed mix characteristic, but then again it kind of looks like he's worried that a rat is attacking his mama! HA!

Do you have to watch a domesticated rat all the time to make sure they don't chew your stuff? I've seen rabbits running around a store once, and they were chewing the walls up.
the kind of action that could get you shot in this
x
Yes. Gas prices have shot up $.60 per gallon
in less than two weeks here. I drove the kids home from school one day, made a mental note to get gas, and the price had gone up $.25 by the time I got back to the gas station. Ridiculous!
Anyone have a cat with reaction to rabies shot?

Has anyone here had an experience with their cat having a reaction to their rabies shot booster?  My 4-year-old Persian just had a rabies booster 2 weeks ago at a new vet's office.  (Just moved - have only been going there for about a year).  My guess is they use a different brand or manufacturer of vaccine than my old one did.) 


Yesterday morning, exactly 2 weeks after getting her shot and seeming just fine, I found a large, 2x2 cm lump on my cat's right lower hindquarter.  Thinking it was a hair mat, I put on my glasses for a better look.  It wasn't a mat; instead, it was a subcutaneous lump that felt similar to a lipoma, but was firmer, not as soft and squishy as a lipoma.  She had also vomited 4 times during the night -- food, not hairballs.  She's never done that before.


I took her to the vet right away, and they aspirated some fluid out of the lump, looked at it in a microscope, and said she had a lot of white cells.  (She also had a fever).  They sent off the slides to the lab to see if this might be vaccine-associated sarcoma - something I never even knew existed until yesterday!   While waiting for the lab results, she's on an antibiotic, as well as an anti-inflammatory for 5 days.


So, I got on the internet and did some research about these vaccine-related sarcomas, and would advise any cat-owner to do the same thing.  The information I found was NOT encouraging!  Did you know that the occurrence of these sarcomas has been increasing since the early 90's, when they started making adjuvant (more inflammatory) rabies vaccines?  The sarcomas are VERY aggressive in cats.  (I had a former cat die in only 7 months after a mastectomy for breast ca. with adenosarcoma.)   They think some cats may be predisposed to developing sarcomas at the site of injection for both rabies and the feline leukemia / FIP vaccines.  The rescue where I adopted my cat advises its adopters not to get the leukemia/FIP vaccine, so I don't get that one.  But this is the first I've heard about the rabies shot being dangerous, as well. 


My reading brought to light the fact that vets almost always give the rabies shot as distally as possible in the RIGHT rear quarter.  The reason?  If a sarcoma forms, they're very invasive, and they found that tumors from shots given between the shoulder blades or in the scruff of the neck tended to spread into the spine and lungs.  (Oh, GREAT....)   Even more thrilling to learn is the reason they give the shot in the lower rear quarter:  It's so that if the cat gets a sarcoma, the best chance they have of prolonging the cat's life is to amputate the entire leg. 


Each state differs, but in California, rabies shots for cats are recommended, but NOT mandatory.  Had I known this, and about the danger of the adjuvant rabies vaccines, I would have skipped the vaccine altogether.   My vet recommended that if she gets a rabies shot in the future, (which I don't intend to do with either of my strictly indoor-only cats), there is a SAFER brand -  Merial "PureVax".    It's a non-adjuvant vaccine that is much safer.  (My guess is that it's probably more expensive, too.)  It's also apparently not easy to find.   My vet office doesn't use it (WHY, I don't know, since they're recommending it...), so that's just one more reason for me to say "NO" to rabies vaccines in the future.  However, If I were getting a new kitten, I would make sure it got the Merial PureVax instead of the regular kind, provided it's approved for kittens.  It's disadvantage is that it's given yearly, rather than q.3 years. 


Anyway, regardless of whether my cat's lab tests come back positive or negative for malignancy, after what I've learned from researching feline rabies shots, I thought I'd pass the information on to everyone who's interested, so they can talk to their own vets about it and at least make a more-informed decision about vaccinations than I did!  


 


After he shot the first 2 victims, he mailed this package
to NBC I believe before he started the second assault. That was only part of the whole package. There were the pictures and a video that he apparently made over a long period of time. Some of what he says cannot be understood either because he is mumbling.

The package was given to the FBI and I am sure they will release some kind of statement after going over everything.

His thoughts were so erratic, and I find it odd how he did mention so many political references. I also think there might have been some molestation going on.

I do not think he did this because he was Korean, but that does not mean that his family were not anti-American and teaching him hateful propaganda which in turn could put that hatefulness in his heart towards others.

Most all Asian people I've known or been around are very productive members of society, very well educated, have good work ethics and are great people.

Something in this boy's life made him so hateful though. He was not just born that way.

And, revolution? That just sickens me. What did these kids do to anyone or to him for that matter?
lol - but she may have a shot with the governer being Arnold Schwartzenegger and all : (
x
Here's another shot that shows his relative size.
Yes, he is missing his tail. This species uses the tail as a single-use defense mechanism (where, when threatened by a predator, the lizard goes one way and the tail goes the other), and it does not grow back, unlike some other species.
WHy when I did a shot of whiskey it help my very very sore throat and cold??
It was suggested to me to do a shot of whiskey (which I hate by the way) because I had a very bad sore throat, the kind of sore throat that is deep down in your throat like towards the bottom of your neck...anyhow I had been battling this for over 5 days worse with it getting worse with each day...So, I do the shot of whiskey and it helped reduce the intense pain immediately and while my throat still aches, the intense deep pain is gone....Why does this work?
Must've been a small town, since nobody got shot. *sigh* NM
X
Sounds like you need another triple shot coffee drink
I thought you were going to tell me your kids told you something great about yourself.
Loved Lolabug's response (at least your not in denial) HA HA HA.
I read this and thought...wow...now there's someone who knows herself. HA HA. The only thing that I am best at doing is keeping my mouth shut when DH is yelling at me for something I didn't do.
A shot of something might help, blackberry brandy, etc. Or that old tryptophan standby, a turkey
s
If I drank tea in middle of night, I'd pee 3-4x before sun up. A quick shot puts me right
s
I found this on Epinions, so can't verify the effectiveness, but worth a shot.
Fly Trap:

Need: 1) a glass jar, any size, but taller than wide
2) a piece of paper
3) a piece of masking tape
4) a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar
5) a piece of decaying fruit

Put the vinegar in the jar and add water so that the liquid is about an inch deep. Add fruit bit. Twist the paper into a cone shape, leaving about a 1/2 inch opening in the bottom of the cone. Place the cone in the jar so that the opening is at least an inch, but not more than 2-3 inches, above the liquid. Tape the cone to the jar rim so that there is no opening other than the one at the base of the cone. Place the jar where there is air movement, as the flies will be drawn by scent. When the liquid starts to fill with dead flies, pour it out and make a new batch.

My son met his wife somehow
on the internet. They've been married 4 years..Very nice girl... Also know 2 other couples who met online and happy together. susan
Does he have a wife?
Maybe you can talk more calmly with her about it. I would be furious too! But if confronting him you don't know what you may do or say and your daughter doesn't need to lose a friend right now. Dyslexia is not the worst thing that can happen, although right now to her and you it may seem that way.

Have you looked into the disability act laws and getting her some support or into programs for this?

Share the below with your daugher, if you haven't already, it is a list of famous people that had dyslexia; Albert Einstein. Tom Cruise. Thomas Edison. Many others.

http://www.dyslexiamentor.com/famousdyslexics.php

All the best to both of you.
To wife sm
Try some on-line help anonymously for awhile. Just Google recovery or AAonline and you should find some help there. Give him credit and help him. Remove all alcohol from the house, support him and realize it IS a disease, not a flaw in his personality, he inherited this in the gene pool but although there is no cure, it can be turned around with the right support. I know someone who will not admit it and he has lost everything.He thinks beer is not alcohol. So be grateful for the awareness and pay no attention from those who judge. Good luck, it takes a lot of work, it didn't come on overnight but with your help and his higher power, he can do it if he is ready.There is Al-Anon, AA, Adult Children of Alcoholics but beware, some go to these meetings and tell all they hear there. You can decide later if you want the whole community to know. Usually those who judge point the finger, having three pointing back at themselves. It's not always anonymous. Get some professional advice and get rid of all the temptations. You may have to change playmates and playgrounds. You will figure this out as you go along. Only listen to the positive, ignore all who judge, they know not of what they speak, it's a disease. Just treat it as taking the sugar away from the diabetic, same scenario, help but do not enable!
My son and his wife - sm
have been married eleven years and over time developed a pattern for Thanksgiving, at least - they trade off years, one year coming to our house for dinner and her parents' house for dessert, and vice-versa. Of course, she's not a cook and has never been interested in hosting their own holiday dinner. They've always slept over Christmas Eve at our house as we have two more children still in school (had actually, one's not in school anymore but living at home) and shared Christmas morning with us, then go to her parents' house for Christmas dinner. I don't know if that's going to change now that the last of the kids are basically grown now. Unfortunately they aren't able to have kids, but if they did I would encourage them to stay home and we would come to them.
Yes. My son's second wife never

cooked. It was always McD's, Taco Bell, Pizza, etc. She never cleaned either. All she knew how to do was spend the bill money. (She didn't work, BTW).


Now my grandson is on a diet at 15 yo, 195 pounds.Thank heavens, my son woke up and got rid of her.


My mom worked every day and when she came home, made supper and it was always on the table by 5-5:30. If my father was on the 2nd shift, she'd make him a hot meal, put it in a square metal container and I would bicycle it to his work. When I was old enough to use the stove, I would make supper once or twice a night. In the summer, I would clean the house so she would have less to do.


I worked 2 jobs most of my life, but always had time to take my boys to their baseball practice, wrestling practice, and when old enough, to their PT job and pick them up at 10-11:00 when they would get off, went to open house every year to see how they were doing, etc. I also made sure their homework was done (not that boys really bring homework home in those days LOL), had a meal on the table for them every night, never had snacks like chips or pretzels in the house. The only thing they had to drink was water or milk. No soda.  BTW, my husband during this time was away from home all week, so it was all left to me.


The parents today are too pressured, as are the kids. Kids are not allowed to be kids anymore. They are 7 going on 70. I think it's time they get back to being normal kids. They need breathing room. I don't know who ever decided that the kids had to be in every sport, every club, every volunteer activity the school has, but it's crazy. Not all kids fit that mold and they shouldn't have to. Plus their grades are expected to be A's and B's, nothing less. Perfection is the norm and no one is perfect.


What's wrong with this picture?


I'll jump down from my soapbox now.


 


Talking to the ex-wife
Your boyfriend/husband talks to his ex-wife because he is mature. She means nothing to him. He would be with her, not you, if that was his choice. Don't you have ex-boyfriends? Do you speak when you meet them in the street? Please don't go down this road or you will experience a LOT of pain. You cannot ever "make" someone be faithful to you. Either they are or they are not. Dogs need to be tossed aside because life is too short. Work on your self-esteem. Choking someone to death with your insecurity and jealousy is the quickest way to make your boyfriend/husband say, "Bye-bye." My grown children stay with my husband's ex-wife when they are in her city visiting. We have had her over for Thanksgiving dinner. Was it 100% comfortable? No, but we did it for the children. Everyone has a past when they are over 18. Accept it, don't make it bigger than it is, and enjoy your relationship. That is very good advice.
Your knowing the wife well would be
much more important than you hubby talking to his buddy now and then. She's the one stuck with cleaning, getting a guest room set up and worrying about meals. Some women enjoy that, but many are just too busy to drop everything.
I agree that he should always put his wife first
but my brother was pretty much the same way...family was always an after thought if he thought of them at all and I assure you he is not gay.
To confused wife...

It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT.  The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS.  It probably will not matter what you change about you to him.  If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.


Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't.  Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.


And your child is being hurt by these outbursts.  She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time.  In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.


You all need help, even the child.  Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help.  Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right.  Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate.  Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...


confused wife
It sounds to me like you are being verbally abused. I went through the exact same thing until I said enough is enough. You are worth more than to be reduced to a *itch. I feel for you, I was in the same situation for 12-1/2 years, everything was my fault. Research the phenomenon of verbal abuse and you will find yourself and your marriage reiterated over and over in the stories you hear. Believe me. You sound just like me and what I went through. You have nothing to lose by just looking into it. Maybe you will find your answer. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that one more day, you are a human being and have God-given rights. I will be praying for you.