A guest book attendant is not a bridal party member and should
Posted By: wear whatever she normally would. nm on 2007-08-19
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Why do they need someone in charge of the guest book?
You leave it on the table by the placecards, and people sign it when they get their table assignments. I have never seen anyone in charge of a guest book before. Talk about micromanaging.
I once was assigned guest book duty.
Like you, I didn't know what that entailed. When I arrived at the reception, I was told to hold the thing as people walked up and signed it. Basically, I was a human podium. If that's what the bride wants you to do, tell her to leave it on the table! How rude of her to expect so much! Show up in the red dress and don't even sign the silly guest book!
This new guest book thing is dumb anyway
something else to add to the list of a gazilion ways to fawn all over the couple! Gag. Who really cares? Can you believe people are so full of themselves these days? It's truly mind boggling. And with the divorce rate being 50% or higher, why do they even bother?
I'd definitely be there in my red dress for sure, would maybe even stuff my bra so my cleavage popped out!
Anything to get out of the dumb guest book thing!
It's actually insulting, you too are supposed to be a guest :)
Let us know what happens!!!
What's the point of a guest book, anyway? They'll have the cards and
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Are you the hostess or the guest for this Thanksgiving? If a guest, what
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Red dress attendant at wedding
Just got back from vacation and saw the post about bride not wanting red dressed attendant at wedding. Getting past keeping the book part (some know about it, others do not, some agree, some do not) but I am talking the red thing. First of all, anyone wearing red is usually saying LOOK at me. The bride has every right in asking anyone in the wedding party NOT to wear red. This is her day- NOT anyone elses. It falls under the same thing as no one wearing white to the wedding- that is supposed to be reserved for the bride only. Wearing red would be about the same as wearing sequin dress and I guess also most do not know you should not wear black although I see women doing that also at weddings. I think the problem now days is most do not know manners - I recently saw the most outlandish dress for a funeral, bare arms, bare midriffs, very short skirts, capris and/or bermudas. Any request a bride makes for her wedding for her attendants SHOULD be followed to HER liking, not theirs. Any who disagree with this post really just do not know etiquette but should brush up on theirs - try reading Emily Post to begin with.
I've never had a bride offer to pay for the attendant's dresses. nm
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Tessier's Surgical 'Word Book, old but good. And the Quick Look Drug Book and Saunders
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I meant playing peek-a-boo with the flight attendant..c'mon now.
Just a joke. This kid was too big and she refused a blanket. I have nothing against people breastfeeding infants in public, discreetly. However, for toddlers, I say bottle it, please.
I just went to a sweet bridal shower..
It was at a restaurant in a private dining room. The mother had a stuffed animal that the bride had loved forever and it was dressed like a bride and there were pictures of the girl at various ages holding that stuff toy. A short letter was read from the animal about all of their adventures together and how she was all set to go with the bride on her honeymoon.
All of us were given nice poster cards, decorated with lace, and we were told to write down some advice for the bride. Later on she read them out loud (some were funny and most were good advice). Then they were laced together into a book for the bride to keep.
We had a cold salad lunch and had cupcakes decorated nice for dessert (beats having to cut a big cake). Gifts were opened and then we were on our way. Forget to mention the groom and the father of the bride showed up with roses for the bride and then they ate somewhere else. A bridesmaid dress on a hangar was displayed and I think there were some little decorations on the table.
David's Bridal Shops all over the country I think
I think Chadwick's might carry larger sizes, too. And stop in a bridal shop & at
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I have been asked to handle the bridal shower for my niece's wedding and I need ideas!
My niece is 18 and getting married very young, but not getting married because she "has" to, if you know what I mean. However, the maid of honor is my other niece who is 17 and not in a position to plan and pay for a bridal shower and so I've been asked to plan and then co-host the shower with my neice, the maid of honor for my niece, the bride. Confused yet?
And the wedding is in August! So I need to decide on a theme, location, and get invitations out by July. I want to do something unique and fun, but right now I can't seem to work up a unique idea to save my life! Help!
I read this book also. Wonderful book.
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Bridal shower atire would probably be fine. Find out if hats are "de riguer" for the occasion.
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I'm a guest
We go to my parent's house every year. We usually just bring some cornbread or some type of dessert.
Guest...
And all the guests bring a covered dish, a dessert, and a drink. The hostess does the meat (turkey) and a veggie or 2, plus desserts...plus all the cleaning, planning, etc., which is why I'm glad it's not my year to hostess!
Until they become family they are a guest...
and should sleep in the guest room like anyone else! Totally agree :)
Guest books are not new
I had one at my wedding 22 years ago. I was also guest book attendant for a friend from high school. Got there early, got to see everyone as they came in and say hi to people I hadn't seen in awhile. Not that big of a deal. Of course, she didn't tell me what I had to wear, either.
No, I mean she is the ONLY guest of honor and I am ignored (sm)
We have to celebrate how she wants, where she wants, etc. and she is lavished with attention while I am barely acknowledged as being a mother that day at all. Of course she still qualifies as a mother - but I am one too!
Yep, I'm currently a member of WW
I joined Weight Watchers back in early September and am down a bit over 13 pounds right now. It's not a "quick fix" program by any means, but it's something I know I can live with for the rest of my life since it's not a "diet". Best of luck to you, and I just know the scale will start moving for you! :)
Your post, she is always the guest of honor?
even though you are still raising children does not make sense to me. Do you mean once a child grows up you don’t qualify for a mother anymore?
Is it rude to ask a house guest
how long they will be staying. My MIL came Sunday to go to a doctor's appointment Monday. Well, the doctor appointment is over and it is already Wednesday and she is still here. She does tell us pretty much when she is coming but there is no end in sight. She is super sensitive and cries a lot with "you don't want me" so I don't know how to ask without any water works. I just want to know what to expect.
a family member will help us....
for the initial part and maybe refinance the house in a year or two and transfer it to our name.
New family member
DH and I had been waiting to get another dog. Sasha is hanging in there, which is great, but I've been eyeing a dog at a nearby shelter and DH went to meet him today. He loved him instantly and put down a deposit. He said he is very calm and sweet, so hopefully he will be gentle with Sasha right off the bat. I know he needs to get out of the shelter - it was noisy pandemonium in there, and Bear was completely silent.
A fellow member . . .
of the loss of a child. I understand and sympathize with you. I too lost a son 16 years ago in a tragic accident. He was 23 at the time. Yes, it does change your life forever. We all grieve differently, and somehow find our way back to a life. For me, it was our other only child, a son, that made me, forced me to make my house a home again back then. I thought about how my deceased son would want us to go on, and how it was hurting him to see us in so much pain. I thought about death a lot, and that we are all walking toward that end one day. I thought about how I need to help make my other son happy again. That helped me to gain some semblence of a life again. Now, I see death as part of life and try to focus on what I make of my life, and how I can make it happy for my loved ones. Yes, my husband and son, and I think of our lost one, but we try to think of him with a smile and how some day we will be reunited again. My sympathy to you and your family. It is not easy. You are so fortunate to have other children. God bless you all and give you happiness.
i had a family member
that was such. Yes, they can sure turn it around. the predominant characteristic is that they tell a lie even when the truth would be easier/when there is no need to lie. but when they are trying to cover something, wow, there's no limit to the drama.
Anyone a member of Curves?
I am thinking about joining with a co-worker and would love some feedback from current members. Do they have treadmills, etc or is it only the 30 minute circuit training?
if you ask a church for help they ask if you are a member
but limit funds to help the needy
I am a member of a rescue
Wow. What it sounds like is your "friend" is a lazy good for nothing.
I belong to Ohio Pug Rescue. It is a volunteer organization but we do have fundraisers, yearly dues, take donations, etc. and four times a year, the money we take in and the money that goes out (and what it went for) is published for all members to see. (One year, I couldn't think of a thing I wanted for my birthday when the girls at work asked, so I asked them to buy dog food, dog toys, dog shampoo, *anything* dog. I ended up with a great donation for our rescue). We ask no questions when someone wants to give up a pug and nobody makes any money. We constantly have pugs coming in and they are automatically spayed or neutered, have any health concerns taken care of and have a teeth cleaning with possible extractions. They are sent to foster homes until they are found a forever home (and believe me, we're strict about who can take one in). Yes, there is a fee for the rescue pug - around $200-400 depending on how much vet work had to be done, etc. But again, we all do it for free. Any money left over, if there is any, is kept in the account because there are always new pugs coming in that need something.
Our volunteers volunteer in different capacities - some travel to pick up the pugs, some foster, some do the fund raising or whatever. My name and phone number are with all the local animal shelters and with the local dog warden should they have an unclaimed pug they're going to put down.
Is there a way you can get completely out of this thing you started with her? To me it sounds like she started making money on it and just squeezed you right out.
You may just have to cut your losses and maybe consider starting another rescue. Or, do a Google search. Perhaps you can join an existing local rescue. Bless your heart for caring. I walk our dogs in a field and around a plaza and there are about a dozen cats (I'm not saying this to be funny) that live behind the Chinese restaurant part of the plaza. Someone feeds them, has provided shelter and water. My neighbor took one of the cats in several years ago (it wandered up onto our street). Last year, we took one in that followed me home from a walk. We took it to the vet, got tons of mites cleaned from his ears, got him all his shots and had him neutered. I made him stay inside for a week (he loved to follow us on our walks, staying just a yard behind). The firt time I let him out after his surgery, he was run over by a car. How does that go? Que sera sera? I won't take anymore in. $300 in vet bills and a dead cat. He grew up an outdoor cat, there just wasn't any way I was going to be able to keep him indoors.
So, pugs it is and pugs it always will be for us. :-)
The other day Racheal Ray had a guest with a good suggestion.
She soaked a cotton ball with vanilla extract, placed in a cute, little glass dish and set it in her fridge. Bet that would work for you!!!
The guest list is up to the bride & groom....sm
no one else! Of course if grandma wants to foot the bill for the wedding then I'm sure they'd consider her desires.
Missouri wedding guest...please report in! :) nm
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As a member of a large church I am always around others. We have different sm
groups and we do dinner once a month, shopping once a week (if you can make if of course), movies once a month, etc. Then I attend a Bible study on Wednesdays with another large group of women and we will get together a lot and talk on the phone during the week, etc. This, along with my family, sister, in laws, etc., and I am far from being an introvert working at home doing MT. Been at it for 8 years.
To be honest, and don't take this the wrong way, but as an MT or anyone who works from home, you decide if you want friends, a social life, etc. We work 8 hour days or some of us work 4 hours. That leaves you lunch hour to get together with a friend or 2, after work for dinner, shopping, and a movie, and then weekends for a couple of hours. We all need balance. It is not healthy to be at home all day with no interaction whatsoever. You will begin to suffer if you continue living that way. Trust me, as a former depressed person who suffered from post-partum depression for 4 years (yes, you read that right!), I had to make a decision that I would not exclude myself from my friends and family, would make NEW friends while I was at it, and it has turned me into a very positive and fun person to be with.
I can't tell you how many parties I've hosted since coming out of my depression. My friends call me Rachel Ray with a mix of Paula Deen (I'm leaning more towards Paula), since I LOVE to decorate and entertain and be a blessing to others, ministering to them if I can, lend an ear or a hand if I can and have an "open" home where people can drop by if they need to talk about something. My life has been fantastic since overcoming depression.
I'm not saying all extroverts are depressed, but that was the reason for me.
Good luck.
And, btw, I am one of the working poor, a member of
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Anyone have family member on Coumadin? sm
Have someone coming home on Coumadin after IV heparin and states they are not dietary restricted. Just sounds frightening to me. They have a filter in place. I am just worried but also my input is not welcome. Just sounds not right to me, too many risks, I think some diet caution here but then again, I hear too much, don't I? I am my own worst enemy. For now, I am shutting up but not sleeping too well over it. Perhaps just venting will help, maybe I'm wrong.
...and another member of the Forum Taliban is
You people are nothing but terrorists seeking to impose your private notions of correctness on the rest of the forum population. We will be grateful if you retire to your cave somewhere in Afghanistan.
Totally agast, unwelcomed guest, how to handle
Last Christmas my husband's nephew was invited for Christmas breakfast and his friend came along. They were from out of town. They about ate us out of house and home and the friend after breakfast helped himself to the remote, changed channels and then spread across the couch and decided to go to sleep. These guys have no manners (older group here and they are hip-hop type guys). They later went to another family's home where they again were unmannerly. Get this, now the nephew calls (we had invited some other people) and he told husband he said he would be glad to give these people a ride! I know he probably is planning to have another dinner here (now not only his friend is in town but also wife and 4 kids). I would be so mortified to have all those folks show up, I probably would be very, very rude and it would be Christmas. My husband is not confrontational and did not say anything when his nephew said he offered to bring others and from another state. Ok, what would you do in this situation? Thanks!
Brunch guest who can't have dairy or salt - snowed in!
Out of ideas! Also, looking for simple recipe for brunch requiring stuff I have on hand. Martha always has some confounded ingredient I never heard of. Lost my hash brown recipe. Have frozen hash browns, sour cream, cr. chicken soup, butter & chips, forgot how I put them all together last time. Locked in, more snow coming, zero degrees in NE, don't even know if people will make it here. I'm frustrated. Have a spiral ham on hand, thank goodness! Sounds like I'll be cooking but will they come in the stormy weather. Darned if I do, darned if I don't! The no dairy, no salt thing is driving me up the walls.
Oh well, have a happy holiday. Tip: Put furniture polish or cooking oil on your snow shovel and the snow won't stick.
Anyone that is a member of AAA ever sign up for the cellular plan using
Consumer Cellular with them that can tell me how they like it.
Family member with small cell lung CA
Anyone have direct experience with this disease? I have done MT for longer than I want admit, so I know a lot about the clinical aspect of it, poor prognosis, neurological side effects of the chemo, possible brain irradiation down the line, etc.
My niece, who is 49 years old, was diagnosed today and is starting chemo tomorrow. She has 2 masses, one outside the lung and one inside. One mass is near the lymph system and at this time they are not sure if there is mets or not - will do a PET scan and an MRI in a week or so to better assess this.
If you pray, offer her and her family up, otherwise, please think positive thoughts for them. Thanks.
Family member has one that opens up like an umbrella! Cool. A
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Just be supportive and a loving friend/family member - sm
My son jokingly tells me that I have Super Gay-Dar because I have had a few friends out to me first.
When my friend Chris came out to me a few years after high school, he was a complete wreck.
He called me up one night after I had not heard from him for awhile and the conversation went something like this.
Him: I really have to tell you something (I could tell he was shaking terribly and just sounded so upset and scared.)
Me: Okay.
Him: I'm gay. There I said it.
Me: And?
Him: What do you mean AND?
Me: Are you serious? You think I DIDN'T know? How many times were we BOTH checking out guys "back pockets" in the mall? How many times did YOU help me pick out dresses for formal dances? How many times did my parents let you come over for slumber parties all the way through high school? Do you think they let ANY of my other guy friends do that? Did you notice there were no other GUYS at those sleepovers?
Him: He has such a funny loud, barking laugh and he just started laughing and then crying.
Me: You wouldn't be you if you tried to be a straight guy. You're more fun this way.
Him: I just love ya girlie, You're my bestest bestest girlfriend.
Me: You're my bestest bestest girlfriend too.
And that was that. We still laugh about it. He can always make me laugh.
Obviously you've never had a family member killed by a drunk driver.
Long ago? Time has nothing to do with it. The man has an alcohol problem and left the scene of a homicide. Sounds like you're ok with that. I'm not. It speaks volumes about his character.
Not mentioned, but a family member loves the Myrtle Beach area, very metroplitan, but they live
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About the suicide. I had a very, very close family member commit suicide recently. sm
Let me say this. There were absolutely, positively no warning signs whatsoever. None. One day he was there and the next I get a call that he had killed himself. If you talk to anyone who has a family member whose done this it is always a complete shock.
She's just using that as a cry for help. To get people to feel sorry for her. I'm telling you, if you are anywhere near a Joyce Meyer conference you need to drag her to one. This girl needs Jesus. She needs a complete and total healing. I believe that is the only way she will survive this.
Boy's 7th B-day party
I am trying to think of a birthday party idea for 7-year-old boys at home. We usually do bowling or Chuck E Cheese-type party, but this year we are trying to not spend as much on the party because we are going on a big vacation 2 weeks after that. I am thinking scavenger hunt in the back yard, but any ideas would be great. Thanks!
B-day party
I think it was my daughter's 13th birthday that we rented a karaoke machine. There were kids ranging from 3-18 at that party and they had the time of their lives!
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how about manicures and pedicures
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Kerstin...What a lovely name! Do you have a pool nearby (recreation center)?...We used to....and it was free if you lived in the township....That'll be good recreation and exercise for kids and adults. Just make sure all the kids can swim...and don't rely on a lifeguard (I jumped in once after a kid before the teen lifeguard who was chatting up a young lady could be bothered to even look up).
Light snacks after swim....Knorr Swiss spinach dip with bread and taco chips, have a mild salsa available too, barbequed pork shoulder/pulled pork, barbequed chicken of just plain old hot dogs on the grill, buns, fresh sliced tomatoes and fresh fruit salad with seedless watermelon, canteloupe, strawberries, green grapes, pineapple chunks (Cool whip adds a nice touch) for desert. All these things you can do the night before (except the hot dogs) so you can relax and enjoy the moment. Just microwave the meat. Juicy Juice Berry always works....you could add a little ginger ale to make it more effervescent.
Considering there may be so many adults, you could ask them what their tastes are and if they'd be willing to bring a covered dish or help with prep.
All that matters is that Kerstin has a wonderful time. Peace and Joy to you Kerstin and all ya'll have a happy life together.
Cat
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That was a brilliant idea....I've gotta write that one down for when I have grandchildren....
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