A friend is moving there. I just SM
Posted By: Domestic Shorthair on 2008-03-29
In Reply to: Hi, I live here -- sm - dee
always imagined it as a tourist town. I suppose it really is a lovely city. He is specifically moving to North Myrtle Beach, SC.
I guess it seemed strange to me, because the person moving there is my rabbi. I'm sorry, I'm laughing! Anyway, Myrtle Beach will be getting a wonderful member of the community.
He will be missed deeply here in Pembroke Pines, Fl.
Hope you won't think I'm completely crazy. It just seemed strange a rabbi would be moving to Myrtle Beach.
If I have offended anyone, of any religion, living or not living in Myrtle Beach, I'm sorry. :)
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a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
We are moving...
In May after our DD graduates from HS. She's a senior and we don't want to pull her out of her HS that she's been in for 4 years now. We're putting the house on the market probably in Jan-Feb. If it sells, (yeah, right) we'll just rent an apartment or something until May.
why is he moving out?
If he does not like your rules or is a troublemaker, I am surprised his sister would want to take him on as it seems from your posts she is a responsible person. Are you a miserable person to live with? I ask because my mother was a misery to live with, and none of us kids could wait to get away from her.
All we ever heard was == All I do for you kids, no appreciation, etc. Believe me, we were not bad kids. She just resented the hard work of being a mother and blamed us for her misery. Hello, don't have kids if you don't want the responsibility, headaches, etc.
Also you keep referring to MY house. That sounds just like my mother. In my family, we call it OUR house.
you should have put that $500 towards moving
You really need to just get out of there.
I am too. I have tried moving to our
but the kids moved their computer by me. Seems whereever I go they follow. I had no big windows in there so I went back to the family room, which is now called the office. But it is more like the kids room with mommy trying to work and bothering them. They play classroom in here, webkinz, toontown, do homework, etc. I used to have it in the bedroom, for years, but got depressed because I literally never left the room except to take care of the kids and do chores. I got depressed and the doc said I had to take the computer out of my bedroom, because even when not working, in bed, I'd think about work or see it constantly.
I once had an office with walls, but the kids took up camp in there too. They are all 11 and under so I can't wait until they want mommy less and are teenagers for example. Maybe then, they'd spend time by themselves and only come to me for money. LOL. I love them, but the noise and clutter that come withs them well just not exactly a good environment for a doc who speaks no English and eats chips at the same time.
moving
I am moving 1,000 miles from where I live right now. The move is taking place on 03/19/2009. Since living in Ohio, I have been through so much sorrow and stressful things. I want to move on and go back where my sons live. The only thing I will regret is leaving my granddaughter's grave site. It is only a couple of minutes from here, and I can go any time I want. I know when I leave, I will not be back, and I will miss visiting her.
moving
I moved 21 years ago all by myself about 450 miles away. That way I got visited way less by family and no more surprise visits.
If you stay put, it implies that you are happy where you are, not that you are too scared to do something else.
He said he was moving, so I would say ok to that!
When you lump all husbands together you are not talking everyone. My husband wants me to be happy, not just him. When I first started reading your post I was thinking divorce in the works. Only married 2 years, do you really think it is worth 2 more? Why in the world do you have to do what HE wants? Does not sound like much of a mutual marriage to me. He sounds very immature. The marriage is in for a lot of trouble.
Very moving. Thanks for sharing. nm
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Very moving - see comment
Very moving, touching, sad, proud, thankful, greatful. There are not enough words to thank all the soldiers fighting for us. I was in the miliary some years ago and this brings back so many memories of why I joined. I can't thank enough these people who fight for our freedom and for freedom for others. I still have a lump in my throat from watching this video. What a wonderful tribute to the soldiers this 15-year-old did in making this.
moving out of state
Check your divorce laws in your states. Many states will not let you or your (ex) spouse move out of state without permission of the other. Some even have a mileage radius. I think it's to keep both parents close to the kids and not having one parent run far away so the other can't ever see the kids again. My kids were 5 and 1 when I was in the process of getting divorced, and I moved out of state before I realized this. Fortunately my ex realized and understood the need for me and the kids to be close to my family for support, so it was written in the papers that it was okay for me to move out of state and he signed it.
moving things around
I would just rearrange the whole _____ house until he feels better! I think he is trying to tell you something!
Hey, X, no wonder he is moving around alot!!.....nm
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I think I will probably stay here until that day comes. I hate moving. nm
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I'd be moving that bunch out of state!
What's the lowest-populated state?
Either that or I'd change the trim to iron somehow. Wouldn't that be funny to see them run up and try to chomp on iron? Attitude adjustment!
I wonder if it is some dental condition.
My dad's squirrels insist on stealing branches from his variagated hydrangea. He actually has to cover the bush with netting to foil them.
It's not as if they even use all the branches for their nests. They leave some scattered around the yard, the dorks.
I'm moving in 2 weeks - where do I start?
I'm not a novice to moving. Between 1996 and 2005, I moved 9 times, always with a U-Haul and hiring day workers to load and unload, except for the last move when I hired professional movers and it was smooth. I will be using professional movers again this time. Expensive but only 4 hours down time and in the MT business, time is money.
Here is my problem. When I moved in here 2 years ago, it was with my now 25 yo son. He has since moved out and now I am raising my 4 yo granddaughter. I've never moved wtih a preschooler underfoot (I'm single). I also thought I would be here a very, very long time, so I started making this a *home* again by buying nick nacks, restocking a respectable kitchen, hanging pictures, etc. I've gained a lot of weight and only have a drawer full of clothes to pack, but the 4 yo, oy, she has clothes and stuff animals and little bitty tiny things that seem to move around the house while I'm sleeping at night.
I decided to finally get rid of things I've been hauling around since 1996 (french lead crystal, a really nice Mardi Gras collection of dolls, faces, beads), shoes, clothes I now realized I am NOT going to be getting back into within the next year. Basically, I decided if I haven't touched it since I moved in here, I'm going to get rid of it. It is all going to the thrift store or dumpster. But, I'm finding that I am spending so much time organizing the getting rid of stuff or just throwing unusable stuff away, I'm not packing! I don't feel organized at all and I'm the type that NEEDS to be organized. And now I'm starting to feel panic that I won't be ready on the 28th when the truck pulls up. Of course, every time I organize one area, the 4 yo comes along with her stuff and I can't walk across the room without stepping on her stuff, so that sets me back. I've scheduled a service to come in 2 days after everything is moved out so I don't have to worry about cleaning, thank goodness.
What do I do? Am I doing this backwards? Should I go ahead and pack the stuff I want to take and THEN deal with the stuff I'm not going to take? I am limited to 50 boxes. I have so many collections of breakables now and the company won't let me pack them in the dresser drawers. I can only put cloth items in my drawers. It would be so much easier to pad the breakables in linens and clothing in the drawers, but I can't.
I wish I could just send the 4 yo to someone for the next 2 weeks, but that isn't going to happen. On top of that, I scheduled myself for a really heavy work load these 2 weeks because I'll need extra money for rent on the 1st. The new place is $300/month more than where I live now. I'm moving because the school district rezoned the street where I live and it's not a good district and little one starts school in August. I'm moving to a much better district. The daycare across the street will be $200/month less than the one I use now, so that will help offset the cost of the new place, but I won't feel it in my pocket until the middle of next month.
Please give me some tips and maybe a Valium!
What's her reason for moving out of dad's house?
I think that is a big factor. Is this something she does from time to time because she doesn't like the rules or gets in an argument? Or do you think she just misses you and wants to spend time with you? Do you think she plans on getting her own place at 18, going away to college, or staying on for awhile? I think that matters too.
If this is habitual or temporary, she can tough it out (as long as it's not an abusive situation). Life isn't easy as an adult and she will be finding that out very soon either way. You aren't a bad parent because you want her to be independent and not think everything is owed to her. The sooner she learns that, the better off she will be.
Suggestions for moving across country?
So I am from California, my little sister has been in North Carolina where her husband is stationed at the Marine Corps for two years. They just had their first baby (the first extended family member) and I flew back there for the birth
08-18-08 8 pounds, 3 ounces 19 inches long
And now that I'm back home (only got to spend a week of her life with her) I am missing her tremendously! The rest of my family is here on the west coast, but I'm feeling like I want to be closer to my niece. My mom thinks it is because I am at the age of wanting babies, but I don't want my own yet! Is this a crazy idea? I mean, most people are not able to take their work where they go, and I don't want to pass the opportunity up. I wouldn't live in Jacksonville, NC where they are, I was thinking more along the lines of Myrtle Beach SC... two hours away so they still have their privacy and I live somewhere where I think I would love (but have no idea really, I visited there one time)... I just don't know how you go about making plans to make such a huge move...
Any thoughts, suggestions, advice?
Obviously this is a quick assessment of my lifestyle, but I am willing to do it, but is it crazy to think i want to be around my niece enough that I would move 3,000 miles away from my home?
Thanks for the input
and i attached a pic cause i can't help showing her off! :)
This is Allyson Ayn!
It is supposed to be moving to Lifetime sm
but as far as when it will air, I really don't know as there have been some issues with the transfer between the producers and Bravo. There is an injunction against Lifetime from Bravo to where they cannot air the show until the legal mess gets sorted out, even though the season has been filmed, except for the finale.
I do like Top Chef on Bravo but it comes on the same time as Life on Mars, so I have to catch it on reruns.
Moving/packing tips???
My husband and I are moving to another state on FRIDAY!!! I can't believe how quickly the moving date has come around. We still have well over half of our packing to do. Do you guys have any tips or motivation techniques to get my butt in gear? I do NOT want to have to be up until 2:00 in the morning Thursday night, but that's what it is starting to look like. HELP!!!
Globes of my eyes moving- anyone else
Do not say should see neurologist, just did that yesterday for another unrelated matter and I did mention the eyes. I noticed this Friday. I thought at first it was the eyelids but no, got a mirror, checked closely and the right eye first was shaking in a vertical direction, a while later the left eye did the same, thank goodness not at the same time, might not could work. Has anyone had something similar and if so what was the end result?
Need opinions. moving from situation
Hi, I am looking for a little advice. I am moving from my apartment after 3-1/2 years. I am asthmatic and the lady under me is a very heavy smoker and the smoke infiltrates my apartment so badly that I have often thought of going to a hotel for the night. That is really not my issue. This lady has her rights and it is just time to move to a healthier apartment for me and my severe asthma. Here is the big question:
My landlord has been asked on several occasions to try to find where the smoke is getting through to my place. I have never made this a personal issue with the smoke, just a structural issue that might be resolved. Everything they tried to do never really worked. However, for the last 1-1/2 years, this landlord has been promising to put my DH and myself in another two bedroom apartment in the same complex. The time kept passing and it never happened. Finally, I had enough and decided to ask to break my lease (with a doc's note). The landlord THEN said to me "there will never be another 2 bedroom apartment because if another smoker moves under you, you will have the same situation." Probably this is not the case, as the buildings are 40+ years old and the particular building I am in has "settled" leaving cracks in ceilings, etc. Some of the other buildings do not have this problem. SO, my question.... Keeping me signing a new lease in the hopes of getting a new apt and then telling me no, is that not DESCRIMINATION against my asthma? I have been very patient and kind to everyone involved, and find that I am just getting kicked in the butt. I know that smoking is a brittle issue with a lot of people, especially smokers who have been kicked out of just about everywhere and made to stand outside. I understand that and I have not made this a "smoking war". I have tried to find a structural way to solve it and if it cant be done, then I am just moving out . Easy as that. Still, I can't help but feel bitter at the landlord who promised me another apartment and didn't deliver, saying I would have the same issues. I have lived in apartments all my life and never had an issue like this, probably because this lady is an extremely heavy smoker (4 packs a day) and she does not open her windows. The problem was inevitable. This is not a normal "smoker" issue. Any comments on where I could stand legally would help. I know this is a "constructive eviction" which means the apt. was not habitable for me because of my asthma and I moved due to that. any help is appreciated. tks in advance. Sorry so long.
thanks for your replies..i am moving next week to
a townhouse. No more upstairs/downstairs issues. People along the sides, but pure wall with no obvious way for smoke. This should be better. I will have two floors and nobody under I live in PA and there are no clauses in my lease for non-smoking so it is time to smell my own fresh air. It's a shame the LL didn't afford me the same rights as the smoker. Sure, my neighbor has the right to smoke in her own home, but I have the right also to not breathe her smoke in MY home. I know in some cases this is called trespass, but I am just too tired to fight it anymore. Next weekend I will be free free free! Thanksagain for your comments. I can always trust this site to give me a little support and lift my spirits.
was thinking of moving to central FLA from Miami
still praying for all those folks who got hit in the 40-mile range that this tornado went through......
Yeah CJ, so glad he is moving in the right direction - sm
Prayers will continue of course. Thanks for keeping us updated, I was wondering.
Went to see one in Mt. Juliet, TN. She was fantastic, told me I was moving (no plans at that time),
marriage would last--missed that 1 by 2 years, but pretty close. She hit my girlfriend exactly - initials of BF, etc.
I disagree. Women have gotten killed by not moving or changing their phone numbers.
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No, he is not..I have a friend...
coming to feed the cats (live in the country, have 8 outside cats!) and 3 inside cats. I feel bad making her come and mix food for him...we live 25 miles from town. A vet told me that he will either eat or just drink water and would be okay...but I will worry about him! I have been cooking extra chicken, turkey, etc. for him..my husband says he is spoiled!
I had a friend who had those and
apparently they just observe them. Maybe you should get a second opinion if you are having pain. Hope you feel better. 
too bad- my best friend
has 'the gift.' That is about the only way I know to put it. She cleans my house for me and she can do in an hour and a half what it would take me all day if not two days to do. And it just looks so clean and bright and shiny when she is done!! LOL I mean, there is clean and then there is CLEAN!! And when she folds my laundry I don't even need to iron it later! We have the best deal worked out- she has one of my vehicles on a sort of 'permanent loan' and I pay the insurance on it and I also try to pay her a little extra here and there, and she comes over and helps me keep my house clean and helps me stay on top of my bills. I have a pretty bad case of ADD.
If you were in this area I would maybe lend her to you for a while, LOL. I know she would like to find just one or two 'regulars' that she could clean for to make a little extra money on the side.
Friend
If she is really a good friend, stick with her. REAL friends love you warts and all. If her behavior is causing you true anguish and she is an acquaintance... go your separate ways. Money comes and goes -- true friends don't.
Lilly
My friend's SON. not MOM!
Sorry for the typo. I am a BAT brain today!
Friend? Some friend! sm
Yes you should be mad, but only at yourself. Giving $$ once I can see. Maybe twice. You have been used by this 'friend'. Doesn't matter how nice you think she is, you have found out otherwise. You are out $$ which you generously gave in thinking it was being used to help her out, yet she has taken advantage of you and therefore, that speaks reams about her character, or lack thereof. I would be disappointed in her and mad at myself for falling for her sob story. I'd tell her exactly how I felt from the heart and would end the friendship since it was based on lies. She has the characteristics of a con woman. Time to cut the losses and move on...and learn!
friend
If it is something that is opening her up to being hurt in anyway most defintely i would tell them. It is their choice then to decide what to do. You know how some parents really shouldn't be parents and others are great parents!
friend?
I actually had to call a parent before. My daughter had asked ex-friend to stop writing things about her in her online diary which she did for a while. When it happened again, with a statement to the effect of you asked me to stop writing about you, too bad!, I called the mother and had a little chat. Never happened again. In this case, she actually used my daughter's name so I brought up the fact that it was libel. Print out the bulletin to show parents if you have to.
Friend
I would want to know if it were my daughter. It might get complicated when you first tell them and could cause problems but in the long run you may very well be saving her life. Please don't hesitate to tell the parents.
been where you are, my friend -
I am so sorry. I know this is hard, but here is an idea to try. Have your vet get you some Buprenex to administer at home. It is a very small amount of liquid you give via syringe inserted between her cheek and her teeth. You shoot it into the mouth. Takes less than a second and is painless. It is absorbed nearly instantly. It also causes far fewer side effects than most pain killers. This has worked like a charm when my cats had to have teeth pulled, for one that had all its teeth pulled due to severe stomatitis, and one who had oral cancer in his jaw. Try baby food (the meat types) and AD canned mixed with Pedialite to get food in her and keep her hydrated. You will know when it *is time* to let her go, but please give these things a try and let us know how it goes! My best to you.
Thank you - about my friend (sm)
She was a Christian and throughout her illness she asked for prayers for God's will to be done, not for her healing (although many of us still prayed for her healing). Many of the people posting on here blowing the horn about what great Christians are, are not acting the way true Christians should. I will admit to everyone that I am confused. I can't answer the questions about the suffering that goes on. I am not going to say that those people suffering just didn't have enough faith. The fact is you are not going to get what you want just because you pray for it. You might and you might not. I still believe, but many things in the world still don't make sense to me. I think somewhere along the way, we have gotten the message confused. I posted a link above about some little children who I think have it right.
A friend of a friend has had it done - sm
She did it about a year ago and has lost over 100 pounds but recently starting having severe problems. They ended up having to take them out as she was unable to eat at all basically; nauseous, constant vomiting, etc. She feels much better now though. Not sure of the details but that is the basic gist of it for her.
I'd be mad...no one else is her friend, so why should you be? (sm)
No reason for you to put up with her any more than anyone else does. She's just a snob - maybe if everyone ignores her for a while she will get the hint!
Friend?
Ever hear of a toxic relationship? Sometimes they are terribly hard to break, but you will be much better off if you cool it with her for a while, just see her when you absolutely have to.
I have a friend that did this went from Bob to Rob - sm
I just had a hard time switching to the new name as I had known him for years as "Bob". To him it was more an acknowledgement of his coming out as gay I think. I could care less that he was gay (and had known for a long time before he "came out") but he got mad that I would not call him Rob and so cut off all contact (we are on opposite coasts now, and then, so it is not a big deal either way). Upsetting to lose a friend over something so stoopid, we were both wrong I'd say, I should have tried harder and he should have cut me some slack as I had been a good friend for years. ---This guy's family you mention probably has the same problem, they know him as "Michael"; he should cut them some slack as that is what they are used to. My brother is named Mike, and we all call him Mike, my SIL is the only one who calls him Michael (he has never asked us to call him Michael though). I think he should just learn to live with it and use his new name with new friends and leave his family alone.
I have a friend like that too, SM
She does have a chronic medical condition, but is doing very well. She exercises with a personal trainer several days a week, takes long walks every day, and recently helped her stepdaughter remodel her home! However, she has a handicapped sticker (she brags about never having to walk very far in the winter) and not only that, is on SS disability. She hasn't worked in several years. Oh -- and if her DH or one of her teenagers runs errands, they take her van so they can get the close spots too. :(
And yeah, maybe I'm being judgemental too, but I agree with you 100%.
friend...
You know I guess some people are different but if someone pays $1000 for something I AM NOT asking to borrow it. I don't like borrowing other people's things. If I break it I feel it is my responsibility to replace it. So I just don't. Some people have no problem with it.
Friend
My good friend had a baby 8 days ago. Beautiful baby boy! Well her husband took off work 2 weeks to spend time with the baby. Her mother also lives with them and helps her too. Her mom also took off a week. Well I am friends with her mom also. We talk on the phone too. I thought I would not call and bother my friend until her husband went back to work. She won't talk on the phone if her husband is home. I know, don't ask. They don't want to take away from time with each other from what I understand. I personally do talk on the phone when my husband is home. Different strokes for different folks I guess. Anyway me and my friend always talked on the phone before the baby was born almost every day. Unless her husband was off work. Well since she has had the baby and her husband went back to work, she just has withdrawn herself. Doesn't want to talk to anyone. Made the comment to her mom that she doesn't want any company. Her mom called yesterday and I knew my friends husband was working so I told her mom tell her to call me later when she gets a chance. The baby sleeps alot so I figured she would. But she didn't. I guess I am just confused. I never went through that. I wanted to talk to friends. After a few days of recooperating I wanted friends to see my baby and all. But I don't understand her. I know every one is different and I just have to respect her wishes but I as well as another friend of hers is confused. I should also mention her baby was born with clubbed feet. She has really been upset about this and asked me in the hospital not to tell anyone. How can this be hidden when the baby will wear casts for a while? I am wondering does this sound like postpartum depression?
friend...
That is why I haven't went. I am respecting wishes. I did not say I was going to go by unannounced. I am honoring her wishes so therefore I am being a real friend. I considered sending a card though.
No, I only had a best friend
back when I was about 12 or 13. I open up to people and think I can trust them and just when I do they turn on me. I don't trust people anymore, been hurt to many times. I see this all the time where I hear ladies talking and hanging out shopping and having a nice time and wish I had that with a friend.
best friend
I have not had a best girlfriend since college. . My fiance is my best friend now. . I like the idea of having a best friend but I think I am not trusting enough. . My daughter has had a best friend since she was 13 - she is 23 now - and I really think they will continue their friendship - I hope so. . I think it is a good thing, just doesn't seem like it is going to happen for me.
I like your friend. . .
xx
Okay, I think you are my new best friend LOL
I can't believe she is going to die! I can, cause she's way too nice for a soap, but I really like her and want her and Vicki to be friends again. Oh, how that death will put Vicki into a tail spin. She's going to feel so horrible for how she treated her. This will definitely push Nikki and Victor back together again too I think. Wonder if Victoria will take over the art gallery?! Wow, lots to think about.
Yes, Heather was going through Ji Min's belongings and found a picture of him with Walter. Paul just saw it as she asked him for help on the Ji Min thing. (not sure, you may already know all of this). Anyway, Paul asked for the complete photo as it was cropped and I'm sure David will be in it. Then all of this will go down in a hurry with the Nikki thing. Wondering if I should watch today's or tape it and watch it WITH Monday's episode, cause I know it will be a cliff hanger today.
Thanks for the website, I will have to check it out.
Also, his FRIEND would help for $200
It sounds like he is not charging you, but he is going to need help and his FRIEND wants compensation. I mean, for someone that doesn't know you personally, to help for only $200, I wouldn't be complaining. Also, if your daughter knows you don't like him, most likely he knows you don't like him. He isn't going to jump at the snap of your fingers to help you if he knows you don't like him. I am sure he will set the furniture where you want it, but he isn't going to unpack all of your things and keep moving furniture around so in other words, you better know where it is going before he gets there. I have moved many times and I have had the same experiences. I don't expect someone to help me design my house for me. Just be appreciative that he said he would help because he could have just said he was too busy PERIOD.
If I were you, I would stop being a meddling mother-in-law and let your daughter have a good marriage with this man if she loves him, or you may be a contributing reason they divorce. Let your daughter be happy! I wouldn't say anything to your daughter if I were you.
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