A few years back I tried joining a ladies bowling league sm
Posted By: I'm 32 on 2007-09-13
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on Tues. mornings. Worked out perfect since I'm off Tuesdays. Here's the dilemma. Most of the women (90%) were so rude to me. No matter how friendly and nice I was to them (which I am very outgoing) it just did not matter.
I'm thinking of joining it again. How does one put up with bad attitudes in this situation? Don't I have the same right as they do?? I mean, just because I'm young doesn't mean I can't be there. The bowling alley was the one who put me on the stupi*d league in the first place! I should add that my average at the time was 160 (I've been on leagues since I was 8 years old) and I am an above-average bowler. Now my average is even higher. I was constantly winning small pots due to high game (200s or more).
Why am I so afraid of going back? There were at least 75 women in the league. Most of them retired. Why do older women like that have bad attitudes? Is it the environment? Jelaousy? You'd think after all those years they'd be over that. There are no men around, so it can't be jealousy. I'm so upset and annoyed and I haven't even signed up yet! UGH!
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Isn't there another league that you can join where you can meet people that are nicer where you can have fun. I bowl Thursday nights and I love it. Most of the people are very friendly and we have a great time. I would never subject myself to these rude people. You want to have fun and not be afraid to go bowling for fear of not enjoying yourself.
ROFL!!!! Gonna be some funny looking old ladies in about 40 years...lol nm
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American Legion ladies for years sell paper red poppies
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re: joining up
Dear Scared mom,
A few months ago my 17 yr old son was thinking about joining the army and I knew that Iraq would be in the picture if he did. We told him that whatever he felt the Lord leading him to do that we would be behind him all the way and trust the Lord for his safety. I know that is very hard but I really had a peace about it. Later on he changed his mind and now wants to go to bible college next fall and get into the mission field. the mission field can be just as dangerous...but he belongs to the Lord and whatever he wants to do we need to support him. So support your daughter and give your fear to the Lord...He will watch over her and guide her and who knows it may be the best thing that ever happens to her! Or she may even change her mind knowing you'll support her decisions...just get behind her...be honest with her about your feelings and love her...thats all you can do...I think she'd rather have you loving her and supporting her than leaving to spite you..just love on her...she may grow up just in knowing that you are behind her no matter what...God bless!
Jan
I had something like that a few years back - sm
and it turned out I was sensitive to DRYER SHEETS (fabric-softener). I stopped using them, and the problem went away.
I went back 11 years ago...
... and graduated in 2001 at the age of 45. Got my degree in info tech in business--and then decided to stay in the MT racket anyway. The reasons why are no big secret, and if anybody wants to hear 'em, I'll be glad to expound.
Well thanks for joining us sweetie! nm
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I did years back, but made up with her..and then
SO.....don't waste that emotion *hate* because we don't know when our lives end. My sister was 30 when she died, in the late 1970s. I'm just happy we had made up 6 months prior to that. Her death was a shock to all of us. One of my children was named after her AND even looks like her....
One never knows around the corner........
I was actually dxd with adult ADD several years back sm
by a psychiologist. I had symptoms similar to yours and was being treated for depression at the time and sent by my psychiatrist to this person who gave me a computer test and then gave me the same test 6-8 weeks later on medication to see if the results were different - and they definitely were. If I recall correctly it had to do with reaction times and how long my concentration was, etc. The results were a little shocking. I think I knew for years I had it - my oldest son was dxd years ago but it was just kind of lurking in the back of my mind and didn't come forward until I started having serious problems with getting my work done and making a decent living at MT... I finally took medication upped my BP so badly I had to quit. I just try to go with the flow now - I have white noise playing in the background while working, shut my door, note on it not to bother me unless house is on fire, set goals for myself and treat myself with done with work and try hard not to let emails and IMs distract me. I leave all my other chores until the very last minute/second and then rush to complete and am always late and cook everything on high and burn or overdo things as always in a hurry - can't remember all of the other things I do - they have just become a part of me. I did do much better on medication and if I seriously needed again would definitely look into another one.
One day a few years back I was driving
to work (when I actually left the house to work) and I saw a man shoveling snow in his driveway, dressed like a normal man, but wearing a pair of red pumps. I almost crashed into a parked car doing a double take. He was tall and husky, built like a man, so I know it wasn't a woman. I got to work and told everyone and I don't think they believed me.
Not only that, but a few years back the USPS sm
sponsored the Tour DE France and was a MAJOR advertiser spending MILLIONS of tax payer dollars to advertise. Who the he** doesn't know who the USPS is? That ticked me off. I know: Try NOT advertising and pass some of the savings on to the consumer!!
Oh, I remember back way years earlier
when Elvis was serving in the army overseas and he met Priscilla- get this, very hush, hush now but he brought her to live with him when she was only 14 or 16 years old, just a child and he was in his 20s. She finished high school in Memphis. Heard years later she was living with his family, not what happened. Now what would that be called today? Older guy, really young girl?
I will be 40 in August and am back in school after 20 years -
I will be graduating with my associates degree in accounting in December. May go on for my 4 year, but may just do an associates in business management also. I am like you - ready to ditch the MT world.
Do you have friends close by? Joining a church can be very
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Well, the last time I watched the show (few years back) I sm
remember Phyllis as a conniving you-know-what! I'm surprised that ya'll like her. She must have changed A LOT! I loved him with Sharon...
Years back we lived in the country, and mice
were commonplace in the old farmhouse we were renting. One year, though, our landlord moved about 30 round bales of oats or wheat and lined them up next to the barn outside. Apparently it wasn't a good year to sell it as grain, so he baled it to feed his cattle. Anyway, those bales of grain really lured the rats to the property, and one got in the house. I was shocked and horrified. I think we got it out by using a sticky trap, which slowed it down enough so that we could corral it into a trash can and take it outside. However, the barn cats which we had a-plenty DID NOT catch and kill these rats. They didn't know what to do with them, I guess because they were so much bigger than the mice they were used to. I remember watching one of the cats when he had a rat cornered, and the rat was hissing and squeaking because it was trapped, but the cat never killed it. He just looked perplexed and a little scared himself. I guess my point is that you can't necessarily count on a cat to solve this problem. Good luck, though. Mice are bad enough, but rats are downright creepy.
Darn! I meant to say FORMER not fellow! I moved a few years back sm
but would LOVE to visit. My dad was stationed at Griffis AFB in Rome, outside of Utica..they moved and I stayed and attended college in Syracuse with a few friends. After a few years I finally left the area. Unfortunately, I don't know anyone in that area anymore!!! So sad....I would LOVE to take my family there one day and show them the Adirondacks, etc. I actually have step-grandparents in VT who owned a 100+ acre farm they just sold for a million dollars....Now they have a small log cabin in the mountains but they are in FL most of the year! I actually live just outside of Atlanta now....I remember being snowed in the dorms for 2 days during a bad winter storm. You are right! The snow is like NO ONE ANYWHERE can even imagine..LOL Nice to meet you!
I was sore from bowling!
After playing it all night when we first got it, I woke up this next morning and my right shoulder was killing me! I mean, I lift weights regularly, and I don't even get as sore from that! I also love the tennis one, and I take the Wii Fitness test almost every day! I am getting Mario Galaxy and the Mario Olympic games next week, and I can't wait! I also have to recommend the Rayman Ravid Rabbids game as that has to be the FUNNIEST game I have ever seen! Shooting toilet plungers at crazy screaming bunnies! LOL!
I'm sorry. It's rough losing a pet. I lost my dog, Tate a couple years back. SM
He was a sheltie and he used to lay under my desk when I worked and I would rub him with my foot and he was a great foot warmer in the winter! I used to say, he wasn't my dog, I was his person. He got sick and then his liver failed and I had to have him put to sleep because he was suffering. I cried for weeks! I still haven't gotten another dog. My kids have been begging me and they've almost wore me down, but for a long time after Taters died, I just couldn't bring myself to even think about another dog. I compromised and got the kitty last summer. I've never had a cat before, so I didn't know if I'd like a cat or not. I've always been a dog lover, but I've been quite taken with my little cat. He's ornery little guy and I love to play cat and mouse with him.
Listen to me just gush! Sorry about that.
You aren't possibly related to that vice-president some years back who SM
spelled potato incorrectly are you? LOL. Sorry, couldn't resist that one! Have a good sandwich! 
My sis has a Wii and the bowling game is great....
you get some exercise, can have a drink or so while playing, and don't have to smell like cigarettes when you get home. Or spend any money on shoes etc. LOL.
La Leche League
Here is their website: http://www.lalecheleague.org/
They probably have a chapter near you. I'm sure they can help.
Just becaue the league itself
does not consider it fraternizing, your husband's job does. He needs to emphaze that to the league officials not only because of his job, but also because of the way your son is being treated. I would not heistate to bring this up.
However, concerning the background check, if theft was all this coach did, it would not disqualify him from helping with the team.
We have emphasized this to the league
president. Unfortunately, he chooses to see it differently. I agree that this guy should not be prevented from helping the team. We've emphasized that as well to the president. He just chooses not to accept the implications of this situation with my husband's job.
As I said below, my husband is having the superintendent write a letter on his behalf. I'm not expecting anything, but we'll see.
More than anything, I'm irritated with the fact that the frustration of the situation is being taken out on my son. I'm pretty contained, but if this kid hurts (verbally or physically) my kid, I'm not going to be too calm about it.
Free bowling for kids this summer - sm
I just got told about this yesterday, it's a summer program thru Aug. 31 for kids to bowl for free, 2 games a day until 5pm, for the whole summer, just have to pay shoe rental. I signed us up for it, have a nice place here about 30 mins from us on the list of participating bowling alleys, and we are set. They also have a family plan that is $23.95, and up to 4 adults can bowl too w/o incuring any additional fees except for shoes again. Last time we went it was $100 for 4 people, 2 games, shoes, a pizza and a pitcher of soda. So this is a steal. Just thought I'd put the word out. I plan on buying us all shoes so we can save on rental, and will break even on those in 2-5 visits/person depending on what I spend. Our place charges $5/person/game and $4.50 for shoe rental, so one outing for us (4) with no food, 2 games, $58, so we go rarely. Just thought I'd pass this on!
www.kidsbowlfree.com
For goodness sake, it's only a little league game..
this is why sports parents should be made to just sit down and shut up. Wow, you have a lot of resentment towards this woman to make such comments about her. Bring the earplugs or stay home.
Small group family/friends out for bowling and pizza
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I was the first girl in the county play Little League - made the All Stars too! Girls rule! Also..
that very same year I won the county spelling bee! The word I won it on was "ptomaine."
One other special thing happened to me that year I got my ears pierced and hit a home run on my 10th birthday. I swear it... I totally remember touching my little gold studs before I got up to bat and then "crack." Even the people that didn't like me playing because I was a girl had to cheer. 1978 was awesome.
My grandma also played baseball during WWI.
This thing is not connected to the above, but I am related to Martin Van Buren, 8th President.
Then they can get right back on their tires and rafts and float on back to Cuba! nm
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Have any of you ladies
Ever had an ASCUS Pap Smear result?
Oh, so ladies not the only ones who do this
I went somewhere the other day, can't remember where but my husband said so glad when he drove up and my car not home. Folks, he had bought himself a new toy, so to speak. He has invested in another large, really large TV (he has bought 3 in the last several months, returned 2). He went and hid this in the garage (I am not using right at this minute but usually park my car there) and then came telling me yesterday he had to tell me something. Well, I think the worst and then he tells me he bought another TV! I knew ladies sometimes hide shopping items but men? Thought that was cute.
Okay ladies, here's how...are you
educated at all? Do you have a job? If you live in a community property state you are entitled to half of the household. If you have children you will more than likely get child support, sometimes alimony. You may have to pare down your lifestyle a bit, but what is more important, material things or being healthy and happy emotionally? I got out of a horrible, abusive marriage that I guarantee would rival any of your experieneces. If you don't have any family how about friends, church members, etc., who can help you along. Save some money, put it aside. Either do something proactive, get some counseling or get rid of him. Also, have any of you thought that maybe you may be partially to blame for how you are treated by the man in your life? It works both ways, men aren't always the B@#$ards in the relationship.
Ladies: What can I use to get rid
This is quite embarrassing! I wake up one day and have dandruff and can't seem to get rid of it. What will work without leaving my hair oily??? Please help!
Thanks a lot ladies
you just helped my diet along! Just kidding. These sound delicious.
Ladies, please after reading your
posts you are sounding like a bunch of feuding school aged girls. What in the world is your problem? Retract your claws and be friends again, ok?
Ladies, you all are missing so much
I just got back from a wonderful, wonderful vacation today. I read below the women writing in about their husbands and the lives they have to lead. I wrote a post earlier about going out west- I go on 1 vacation that I want to and then my hubby and I go to Las Vegas together. I have visited 6 states in 7 days including Utah, Montana, Wyoming, Colorado, Idaho and South Dakota. I do my own vacation each year - my hubby is a long distance driver and to take a trip like this would be just too much more traveling for him- last year Alaska. I meet up with a tour with others from all walks of life. I had 1 lady ask me on the trip "did you husband LET you come on this." I told her we are way past the age of letting 1 another do anything. Women, why in the world don't you wake up?? There are so many really good men out there that would love you, be really good to you. You do not have to put up with crap. You are wasting your life away. I have said this before and will say again- one of these days you will look back and wonder where your life has gone, in a flash you will find yourself in your 50s or 60s and why should you put up with anything other than the best in life? I have a honey of a husband that I adore, love and cherish with all my heart. He is my best friend and there is not enough money on this earth to take the place of him. He never fusses, screams, or even gets upset with me. The most even tempered person I have ever met. He is short, balding and the most sexy man I think I could ever meet. I thank the Man upstairs for this man in my life.
Ladies, please tell your mothers this
If they are in the midst of a divorce after all these years, they can get a very good lawyer and have most all their husbands have made or have. I know this for a fact, happened to my cousin. A wife after this long of a marriage (could be even less) gets money from not only what he brings home but can got after any homes (they have to either be sold and money divided or she might even get), they can go after any IRAs the male has, any savings, bank accts and even insurance money- say a guy has a 500,000 insurance on his life- in case of his death the longtime wife can even get half of that! A good lawyer gets good money for the wife- do not sit back and let them accept pennies- they can come out smelling like a rose. I have known scorned wifes who have sued for alleniation of affections in courts (old, old terms but your mothers probably heard of it) and won millions against insurance carrier of people involved. Ladies, please tell your mothers about the above, don’t let her settle for crumbs after all these years!
Ladies, you just have the wrong ones...
I met and married my present husband at age 59! He was never married, had no children. He is 10 years younger than me and the love of my life. He is a hardworking man, was brought up on a farm so he knows work. He has brothers, all married for years and no divorces in his family. He is loving, kind, thoughtful, complements me on my clothes, always bringing something home for me "because he was thinking about me," a professional chef who does all the cooking here plus does repairs around the home (just recently installing flooring and cabinets in a bathroom in my daughter's home). He probably is the best man I have ever met and that includes any men in my family,honest, upfront. I tell him all the time how much I appreciate and love him. He is funny, sexy and he makes me laugh. What a catch! Married 8 years and counting. He told me one day I was his best friend. What a joy to my life he is.
now read this one ladies
THE GEOGRAPHY OF A WOMAN
Between 18 and 22, a woman is like Africa, half
discovered, half wild, fertile and naturally beautiful!
Between 23 and 30, a woman is like Europe, well
developed and open to trade, especially for someone with
cash.
Between 31 and 35, a woman is like Spain, very
hot, relaxed and convinced of her own beauty. < BR>Between 36 and 40, a woman is like Greece, gently
aging but still a warm and desirable place to visit.
Between 41 and 50, a woman is like Great Britain ,
with a glorious and all conquering past.
Between 51 and 60, a woman is like Israel, has
been through war and doesn't make the same mistakes twice,
takes care of business.
Between 61 and 70, a woman is like Canada,
self-preserving, but open to meeting new people.
After 70, she becomes Tibet , wildly beautiful,
with a mysterious past and the wisdom of the ages...only
those with an adventurous spirit and a thirst for spiritual
knowledge visit there.
THE GEOGRAPHY OF A MAN
Between 1 and 70, a man is like Iran ,
ruled by Nuts....
Opinions, Ladies?
I took the bait and sent away for the free 30-day trial of Raw Minerals makeup. I normally use Bare Minerals, but this product was a bit cheaper and had some good performance reviews on the internet so I figured I'd at least try it (and if I don't like it, I can send it back and not be charged for it).
Has anyone here tried it and, if so, any opinion of it? I ordered mine Friday and it arrived today (speedy shipping, huh?). If you've used it, any advice on application, or is it just like Bare Minerals?
TIA for your thoughts and opinions, ladies!!! 
Ladies can you remember what you ...
cooked for your to be hubby for his first meal?
I know what I did !!!
Meatloaf with a tomato gravy,fried okra,mashed potatoes,Squash casserole and corn bread stx ,banana puddin' !!!
I got flowers at work the next morning !!! woohoo!
You ladies sound really young as you
have no idea this is not something new on the scene. Back in the 40s ladies fainted with the swoon singers and like the post said above, if you did your research you will find not a new finding- bulemia and anorexia not an issue then and the ladies acted like that, had nothing to do with self-esteem- that is why our world is soooo mixed up today, everyone wants to put a diagnosis along with a part of a growing up process that is in the past, will continue now and after we are gone from here. As long as the stars and entertainers around, this is just part of what goes along with this type of rapture from these young girls. My girl loved Bon Jovi as did her little friends. I went to a Barry Manilow concert 2 years ago and the ladies swooned with him. Just goes with the territory.
Ladies, these posts have made me so sad for everyone sm
who is experiencing the same thing I am, which looks like quite a bit of you. Wow.
I have a to say, but right now I don't have the time or energy to reply to everyone....Thank you all so much for your responses, though. It's so nice to know I'm not alone, yet makes me sad so many of you are going through the same thing. What is wrong with our husbands????
Ladies, can you buy Viagra online?
My mum plant aren't doing well around the flag pole. Can you buy Viagra online?
Little ole ladies, gift suggestions?
I have 3 older ladies (in their 80s, still very much active) and then 2 I would say in their 50s, also working and active. I am at a loss as to what to buy them for Christmas. I would like to buy mostly the same thing so 1 would not think playing favoritism. Any suggestions at all would be helpful. Thanks.
gifts for the older ladies sm
Usually older people have "enough stuff" and gift cards are great, Perhaps you could present them in a little basket or a teacup with some non-caffeine tea. Make sure it's to a place they can get to without any problem. Usually by this age they have enough lotions and soaps to last them until they die. Stamps, now they have "forever" stamps which are pictures of "bells" I believe and supposed to be good even if postage goes up, This would be nice with a box of all occasion cards. I checked with a local deli who delivered and paid them ahead and gave them a paper menu and a card stating they had - X-amount of dollars paid up. Older people are funny, they hate to even spend YOUR money, so it's very hard. I think transportation is always the problem, just be sure they can get to where you're sending them. How about Netflix, or the local movie store, but be sure they have a DVD. Tough choices.My mom used to ask me to record movies for her, she didn't care that they were secondhand. Paid-for manicures - probably don't get there on their own, they have them in Wal-Mart and all over now. Food is so expensive, the local market gift card would be great. Nice of you to think of them. I'd say certificate for a delivered pizza, but they would have to like it.
Ladies - I know this strikes a nerve with some of you (sm)
Just remember-everyone is different. The situation is not the same as yours as they are all different. I asked for opinions and I got them. I said I HAVE been making them go. I am just wondering if I SHOULD continue that. Some think I should and some think I shouldn't. This is not the same as your SIL telling you off or your DIL not letting you see your grandchildren. She sees them as much as she wants, any time she wants. I got to all the family functions she wants us to go to even if her son can't go. I help her when she is sick. I call her on the phone and check on her. We all spend several weeks throughout the summer at the lake with her. We spend EVERY holiday with her. How do you figure this woman is being short changed?? My own mother is the one being short changed - she lives 8 hours away. She never gets to see me or her grandchildren for holidays because my MIL would have a FIT if we were not at her house for these events. When we visit them once or twice a month, we spend ALL DAY at their house. How is she being cheated if she doesn't get every single thing she wants but does get at least 95%?????????
Ladies how did you meet your hubby?
Where and when and did ja' like this guy ?Was your heart justa jumpin'?
For those middle aged ladies on here, if you are
5' 3-1/2" and a medium build what weight do you like to keep yourself at without looking too gaunt or too heavy.
A "Lunch Ladies" opinion
I work in an elementary school in Ohio. With a lot of hard work we have pretty much removed junk food from our menus. Just today we served Chef Salads for one of our choices. The kids love them. As one first grader said "My mouth is watering just looking at my salad!". We have a lot of freash fruit and vegetables too.Please let your school system know your concerns. There really is no reason to serve sodas and they should be removed. I do serve ice cream, but once or twice a week. We laugh sometimes when they call us their Lunch Teachers. When I ask why, they usually say because I teach them how to eat right. As far as the grandmother who brought home food from the kitchen, I hate to tell you but that is stealing!
Severe Avon ladies
Not busting on you personally, but I had to chuckle picturing the severe Avon ladies!
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