A few things . . . what state do you live in?
Posted By: OldMT on 2008-12-17
In Reply to: husband - MT
In Michigan, we have a mandatory reporting law. That cop was wrong. All law enforcement, medical, mental health, teacher, and clergy are mandated by law to report any signs of abuse they are aware of. He should have helped you or gave some advice.
Get your kids out of the situation now. This is abuse, both physical and mental. There is also sexual abuse involved, in regards to his grabbing you and harrassing you. The domestic violence shelter can help. They will help you get a lawyer. The court should make him move out of the house so you and the kids can live there until the divorce is final. I don't know all the legalities of it, but get out now.
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Look into the state where you live.
Most now have online FAQ sections. Look for child custody or friend of the court with your state. I know in my state they mandate court appointed psychological evaluations. They do them as a mix of the family. (i.e. father-son, son only, mother-son, and so on.) I think this format would definitely be in your favor.
What state do you live in?....sm
I had no idea you could make up to that much. That must be just in the state where you live. I haven't seen anything around here like that, but I will keep my eyes open.
I think a lot depends on the state you live in.....
Sometimes the houses are in really bad shape inside. Is it empty? Are you able to go look in the windows? Also, if the past owners are still in there, you may have to pay to have them evicted and, depending on the type of people they are, they may destroy the place before they move out. You need to check the laws in your state/county/municipality. Good luck!
I live for state fairs!
I'll drive up to 2 hours away...I especially love the really small country fairs. The more animals and ag displays, the bigger my smile. I always don my overalls and boots too--gotta maximize the overall hayseed effect doncha know, plus you never know when you're gonna step in poo so might as well dress appropriately! ;-)
Yuck for you! What state do you live in? sm
Crowns are a lot more expensive here in Georgia, especially around the Atlanta area, going rate is $1800. Crazy isn't it?
Is gas still high where you live? $2.45 to 2.90 in lower NY state. nm
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its crazy but it depends on what state you live in.
here in Missouri there is no law stating that a kid has to be any certain age to be left home alone. isnt that rediculous????crazy..makes no sence. my nextdoor neighbors kids are home everyday after school for 3-5 hours...depending on what time the mom gets off work, they are 9-girl and 6-boy..she checked on the laws before telling me cuz she knew i would turn her in. i just told her adn the kids if they ever needed anything, i am right next door...but i cant babysit.
It depends on the state you live in with regard to the requirements to get a CPA.
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I live in a state with Tax-Free shopping. No Sales Tax ever. nm
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If you live in Florida and have State Farms insurance
you might start looking for others. State Farm is pulling out of the insurance business in Florida.
I live near Ft. Lauderdale, Fl. Things are high here. But that's
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Precious! Many places will have state-to-state drivers form a chain
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Think you can go to dot.state to get h'way conditions, but here in lower NY state, we've been
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I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
I do live in Arkansas - my parents live up in Branson so I'm in Missouri quite often!
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Calling all you animal lovers - live and let live or intervene? - sm
I have a dilemma. I am an animal lover and have something I cannot come to a conclusion about. At a restaurant where I eat lunch every Friday with a friend of mine, I have noticed a young male kitty hanging around outside looking for food. This past week he ran up to my friend and rubbed her legs and quietly meowed. I purposely did not try to pet him because I knew I would get attached and ignored him. Well, ever since then I find myself thinking about him and wanting to rescue him. Meanwhile, I already have 4 inside cats (2 rescues, 2 Maine Coons) and hubby really does not want another cat in the house because a few years ago I promised we would never have more than 4 (had up to 5 at one point previously). I actually have a huge screened deck he could stay on indefinitely because I do not believe in letting cats run loose for their own safety. I could provide plenty of food, a warm place to sleep, and veterinary care. At some point I would even probably work him into our household, but I just cannot do it at the moment. Just not sure I would be doing right by that kitty because I am sure he would be upset and confused for a good while as to where he was and what was going on, but is that better than being hungry and cold? I know there are lots of animal lovers out there. What does everyone think?? 
I'm a live-and-let-live person but had to draw the line
after I found HUGE holes in the walkway between my house and barn. I thought they were just little mice stealing grain, but then I spotted one and it was a HONKIN RAT! My poor olderly cat was out there with me at the time and saw it, and he hissed at it and ran away!
I asked for advice on what to do at a local agricultural board, because I have other animals and didn't want to use poison and conventional traps weren't working. They advised putting a large pale of water out with some seeds floating in it, figuring the rats would go for the seeds and end up drowning. That was a no-go because the water just froze up solid. I wound up reluctantly going with Decon because I just can't have my house destroyed. I haven't had seen any more rats or evidence of them stealing grain, so I'm guessing they have died. The guy at the grain store promised me the rats would not die in the building and stink the joint up, rather they would crawl off and die outside. I don't know if I believe that, as it is still winter here and decomposition would be holding off until it warms up. We'll see, but at least the destruction has been halted.
Good luck and I too say have no mercy, because you just don't need them destroying hour house or causing a spark chewing wires and burnin' the place down. It is war!
 (How un-PC is this emoticon?!)
The State of Arizona is opting out. Anyone else's state opting out? NM
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Make them live outside? This is so funny! Ours live outside, where they WANT to be. sm
Not all dogs want to be in "indoor" dogs, mind you. They have plenty of space to run around and play, fenced, and if they are brought in during bad weather they whine at the back door to go back out! So before you comment on outside dogs, you really need to get your facts straight. Seriously. Not all dogs are made or want to be inside all of the time.
Where do you live?? I live in Atlanta
and have been to the symphony here and definitely no hats- you can never go wrong with black dress/slacks. I like to dress a little more for this but the rules are definitely not prim and proper here.
I come from the old school, but live and let live - sm
Well, I tried "cohabitating" with a boyfriend when I was 22. We dated for a year, and 3 weeks after we moved in together, he went back to his ex-wife. Never again. I've been married 18 years now to the same guy. Guess I lucked out.
I don't think it's right to do in a biblical sense (even felt that way when I moved in with a guy but my young hormones took over my common sense) but it's sad more people aren't married, they choose to just live together without a great commitment. Then again, as my atty (he lives at the end of our street so I see him often when walking the dogs) always says, his father told him it should be $5,000 for a marriage license and free to get divorced.
As far as the children are concerned, well, I think you should be married before you have children but again, live and let live. I just don't like seeing children have to grow up without the other parent if it can be helped.
The NFL network recently interviewed a former NFL player, Warren Sapp. He was asked why we have so many jerks in the NFL like Terrell Owens, Adam Pacman Jones, etc. He said they all shared a common factor - no father or father figure in their lives growing up. He said to look at players who are humble and don't cause trouble - they are the product of a 2 parent household. It's sad to me because it's commonplace now, not the exception to rule, which I think it should be. I graduated high school in 1985 and even back then, a girl in school who got pregnant got sent away "to live with her aunt for a little while". It was a shame to be pregnant and unmarried but it's a sign of the times.
I sometimes wish I could have grown up in the 50s instead of 70s. :-)
Must be that state of the art leg
she just has to program it and it does the cha cha, disco and rumba all by itself. The other contestants don't have a chance this year.
In my state . . .
Not sure about this, but I think the doctors in my state do an ultrasound before any abortion procedure anyway just to see how far along the mother is. I guess the mother is not required to look at the monitor? I don't believe in abortion for myself, but at the same time I do not thing anyone has the right to tell you what you must and must not do. It is a woman's body and she must live with her decision. I will say this-both times I was pregnant seeing the babies made it all seem real. I knew it was real, but seeing it really hit home that I was about to be blessed with a small wonderful new life.
LOL. Well, he was at our state
fair and we were going anyway, so we figured we would just go the night that he was going to be there. I was absolutely crazy about him when he first came out, then it faded! It was really good last night, though
#1 what state are you in....
I'm curious as to what state you're in and if this is public or private school (I didn't read the entire thread). I want to add that writing something 100-200 times was outlawed in many states years ago - this just makes kids STOOPID (more stoopid). As I know it, also paddling was outlawed DECADES ago in many states........so I'm curious if you're talking about public vs. private school. PADDLING FOR BEING LATE????????? OMG......they better find another way (the schools)........
gee, the censor here said I had to change the spelling of stoopid (bad word apparently).....
What state are you in and
what's growing in your vegetable garden right now?
Broccoli (ending), snow peas, onions, garlic, spinach, red lettuce, dill.
Just planted yesterday: tomatoes, sunburst squash, bush beans, with much more to come . . .
Well I do know that our state is 50-50 (sm)
so 50% of the house is mine but so is 50% of all debt. Regardless of whose name it is in. I have talked to mine about it in the past but not recently. He told me not to ever mention it again unless I was ready to go. As far as family, mine lives 8 hours away and is in no position to help anyway. All I have is God, my kids and my friends. But you know I am very grateful for all of them.
What state are you in?
Oh, I would be road-kill if I brought home another kitty though.... *whine whine whine* :)
in my state...
I can call my contact person at the child support agency and they can draw up the papers to have the child support increased. No cost to me. Or, call the legal aid in your town and see what they suggest.
Please use state boards. NM
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I do not think underpaid here in my state
nice that the person won, however as far as putting up with the children, most teachers would never have to do that if the PARENTS did their job now days and taught the kids to respect, mind their elders, share, get along, in other words prepare them for life once they get through school. I think the parents are failing, not the schools.
Once again, depends on the state.....
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Sad state of affairs when he is in the top 2
because if people are really thinking they are voiting for talent, far from it. I think the vote is the cutesy vote, not anything close to anyone with staying power nor star power the likes of Carrie. Oh, could be a shooting star, flash across the night and then gone. He is really 1 of the weaker singers I have ever seen on this show and watched it each and every year. Malinda will do very well. She is strong and will probably outshine most on there this year. I hope people will come to their senses and at least vote Jordin in.
ummmm, D, it looks like CNG is a no-go in my state. SM
Sounds like some fraud and duress has been going on.
Here's a report I found: http://dfi.wa.gov/consumers/news/2006/check_n_go.htm
Wow that's great, what state?
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I don't, but there are individual state
boards too, see State Boards right under Word Help.
Sad state of children
Good for the boys who have been guided under your scout leadership. They will truly have a gift to pass on to their children some day. My boys are 8 and 10, both cub scouts, the oldest crossing over at the end of this year. Most of the boys at school feel that scouting is just for those who are not popular and laugh at it. Fortunately, my oldest son is assertive enough to smile and let them know that he is proud and feels fortunate to belong to scouts, even stating that some day he hopes to be an Eagle Scout who will become President. He has learned so much from scouting--including the true meaning of RESPECT and practices it on those who do not even deserve it. We have to keep plugging away to keep these values in our children, so many kids are lost with parents who are lost. Thank you for your years of dedication and teaching....maybe with one child at a time we can turn this sad trend around.
You state below that you done know if you can make it - sm
or let him go, etc. You never "had" him in the first place. He responds by saying, "you are strong...you will make it." From that response I deduce he does not care, as long as you go away quietly and don't cause him any trouble. I cannot relate unfortunately as I have never gotten involved with anyone over the internet and don't ever intend to. You have made your "relationship" with him into much more than it really is. He says his wife is a "good woman" , that alone speaks volumes and the fact that he is sweeping you under the rug and you can only contact him at work, which is conveniently ending soon and he is cutting you off so his wife doesn't get PO'd. Email and speaking on the phone does not totally tell the whole picture about someone. You have never met him, you have no clue his idiosyncrasies, habits, etc. All you know about him is what he has told you, which is not much from the looks of it. If you cannot handle your "breakup" on your own, then go to a therapist, cleryman, trusted friend, or someone who is close to you and can help you through this. You vested way to much in an unattainable man, which as pointed out below is a definite issue and you need to find out why you did that. Concentrate on the positives, you say he has helped you become a better person, well w/o him try to continue to be that better person and go out and do things, get involved with and organization and keep busy and try not to dwell on this "wonderful guy" who lied to you about being married, and tosses you aside when he deems it unacceptable to continue being your "friend".
I DID state my opinion. Where do you see a
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You can state yours w/o criticizing someone else's though (nm)
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me too (lower NY state)
had to go out for son's teacher conference
Gas prices here in NY State
It's anywhere from $3.19-$3.25 a gallon. We're going away for a few days next weekend and I can only imagine how much it'll cost to fill up (Usually around $60.00).
I think I would tell here you just could not afford it, and state what
you can do, i.e., the week after. He is not obligated to go, especially if it is a $2000 trip with all things considered. If she cannot accept that, that is her problem. Be gracious, but just tell here there is no way to afford the trip. Or, why not just move your trip up a week, go for the entire week, and if there are not enough tickets for everyone, then your DH can go to the ceremony and the rest of you meet them afterwards.
That's the thing - they don't take out for my state.
just one of them things i guess!
Find out what state he is in as he
may not be from your state. Refer him to the suicide hotline of his state. Please be careful, Craigslist has had a lot of problems with stalkers, a woman was killed answering an ad, pedophiles, etc. You sound like a very caring person but please realize he may be lying. Think with your brain and not your heart in this type of situation. It can be very, very dangerous!!
Are you WA state? I am and you just described our weather!
My kids keep asking me to put on the heater but I don't want to because this is when I'm supposed to be SAVING money on electricity. I wonder if the mountain snow is a record of latest lower-land snow? This year has been CRAZY weather!
in state of stupidity nm
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State jobs.......
Problem is with state jobs the application process lasts for a good period of time, so he needs to review the cut off date for applications. It could possibly be another couple of weeks before the cut off. But, state jobs are horribly slow in replying to the applicants. I would give it this week, check the cut off date for applicants, and then call them and inquire if the position has been filled. At least he will know then.
I don't know what state you're in or if that
makes a different but when my husband was hired by the state, he interviewed in July and didn't start until September. First off, as someone else mentioned below, it depends on what the closing date is. Whether they have 3 applicants or not to interview doesn't really matter; it goes by the closing date. They legally cannot make their choice until the position is closed. After the closing date, they will do an extensive background check before notifying the chosen applicant. My husband's references called to tell him they had gotten a call. They only check the top choice's references. If his/her background check, doesn't pan out, then they move on to their second choice. After the chosen one's background passes, they notify the applicant via written letter that they have been selected for the position, but it is pending medical approval. You go through a bunch of blood work and a physical exam and a TB test. Then finally, you get a start date. Depending on the type of facility, he may need to go for training. My husband works for the state pen and had to go for 6 weeks of defensive training.
All in all, it's a very long process. The waiting is agony, but if he gets the job, it's definitely worth it. The benefits are unbeatable. Good luck -- hope your hubs gets it!!!
In my state you yield to the car on your right. - nm
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moving out of state
Check your divorce laws in your states. Many states will not let you or your (ex) spouse move out of state without permission of the other. Some even have a mileage radius. I think it's to keep both parents close to the kids and not having one parent run far away so the other can't ever see the kids again. My kids were 5 and 1 when I was in the process of getting divorced, and I moved out of state before I realized this. Fortunately my ex realized and understood the need for me and the kids to be close to my family for support, so it was written in the papers that it was okay for me to move out of state and he signed it.
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