A couple of options
Posted By: jss on 2008-10-27
In Reply to: OH...what to do...??? - Lolabug
I would try to host your own. They should be understanding that you want to celebrate being a new couple doing the family things. Or you could go to one on Thanksgiving day, the other on the day after and then do the opposite for Christmas Eve and Christmas. Ask your husband what he thinks, certainly he knows his family well enough to be able to know how they would take it.
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Wow, a couple of people need to take a couple of happy pills!
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options
The only option is leaving? There's no hope for a passive/aggressive? Is this really true?????
somewhere in * options *
you should have the choice of checking to alert you when an email has been read. I believe this is the case in Outlook. Not sure about the others, hotmail, yahoo, etc.
She has some options -sm
The first of which she needs to see her first shirt or commander. She could maybe get reassigned to another base stateside and not be deployed right now. She also could take emergency leave. She could also allow her parents or another close relative to take care of the child for a time. The thing is, she has signed a contract that is hard to break. While her superiors will most likely work with her, she is under obligation to serve as expected along with everyone else. If she goes AWOL, as someone suggested, she is subject to jail time when she is caught (and believe me, the military can find you!). Been connected with the military for 45 years now. That is just the way it is.
There many Catholic options
If you want something prepackaged:
www.setonhome.org (regionally accredited.)
www.kolbe.org
www.chcweb.com
www.olvs.org (They are traditional.)
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/cathswap/
Cathswap is a yahoo group for buying used Catholic curriculum.
I would give her 2 options
Someone did this to me. I told her there were 2 options if she needed my help this badly. I told her that I do work, just from home so her options were:
1. Since it takes time away from my work, she would need to make up the income lost including transportation costs. Since I make about $20 an hour, she would owe me at least that much each time I had to drive her kid plus a transportation fee of $5 a day (gas and what not).
2. If she didn't want to pay, than she would get to take care of my kids at her house when she was off of work. If that meant she was off at 6, got home at 6:30, and still needed to do what needed to be done at home (dinner, cleaning, spending quality time with her family), she would have my kid with her so that I could work since I had to take time off to help her out. If I had to work at night, she could watch my kid (or just take my kid to work with her if she wanted her nights).
Needless to say, that made her realize that I do, in fact, have a job and she would need to rely on someone else. She wasn't willin to pay $25 a day nor was she willing to give up her nights for my child.
do they have vegetarian options
As I am vegetarian, would like to check into it further, but if they do not take this into account, do not want to waste the time. Thanks
They do have payment options
it may be if you're not already in arrears with them, but I have had a payment plan with them before. When you file for the automatic extension, it only allows that the deadline to file the return itself is extended to August 15th, but if you are going to owe, you are still supposed to pay by April 15th. (What's the point, right?) I think it is more a means for people who have complicated returns to get more time to complete them, but still have to estimate how much they owe and go ahead and pay that.
I did about a month ago. There are other options.
Workin at the Q. Money is real tight.
But there are internet sites like Hulu where you can watch TV shows for free. Also at least I know on NBC who can watch some TV shows on there for free, too. Just about any news channel you can watch recorded news stories and sometimes even live if something major is going on.
Also, I found on YouTube that you can watch shows and movies. They have started putting commercials on them, though (same with Hulu). But who cares, you would have to see them on cable TV, anyway.
There are actually a ton of internet sites. I actually got into watching old *Kojak* reruns on Hulu (I know, but I liked that show back when.) They have a ton of old shows.
There is also Netflix or Redbox - you can get the cheaper options for movies.
I can watch my local news on the internet, too.
So, just seek out what options are out there for you. I figure even if it is only temporary (I have some job interviews this week) I can still watch things on TV but on the internet until things are better.
Honestly though, I will have to think about that because I haven't missed my cable TV not one bit.
Have at it. You are limiting yourself to options daily.
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You may not feel that you are limiting YOUR options SM
but it sure sounds like you would try to limit other people's options. What a sad, intolerant attitude. The fact of the matter is that there are gay/lesbian people in the world and there have always been. They are human and they have rights and they have needs and some companies are giving them the opportunity to purchase what they want/need. Not all stores are bible outlet stores or catering to the PG audience.
I agree about society and options, etc. (as
You don't have to have an eating disorder to be thin. Not everyone who is thin has an eating disorder.
Don't wish that horrible fate upon yourself.
If you want to lose weight, just set your mind to do it. Decide before every meal, snack, or drink you have, if what you're eating is undermining your desire to look better and be more healthy, and decide if instant gratification is more imporant that this.
Oh, and by the way, just because you are thinner, does not mean people will give you more attention. Believe it or not, it is what's inside that counts to the people who really love and know you. Yeah, you might turn more heads, but you are still the same person inside.
Having said all that, I do agree that society does judge people on their appearance.... beauty, body, blah blah blah... I could go on about my philosophy of that, but I'll save it for another time :-)
There are a lot of options for at-home high school (sm)
There are many online high schools used for homeschooling. Some community colleges and 4-year colleges and universities have high school homeschooling options to check into. You may also have the option of her taking some college classes, but watch out...they may be run by gays and lesbians. What is wrong, again, with a gay and lesbian club?
When looking at the two options, the monthly payments were much higher
if buying, I mean by double in many cases. Also, my husband knows the car dealers where we bought, and they were the ones actually explained all of it to us and why most of them lease! I'd rather pay under 300 a month forever than pay 500 or more a month for 5 or 6 years for the same car. Yes, you may not have car payments for a few years but what are you really saving based on the above? Plus, NO repairs and always having a brand new car. Some even come with free OnStar and satelite radio for a year, and other perks like that. Oh, I've bought many times in the past; and for me this is just a much better deal. To each his own.
simply explain that for several years KFC has had many side options
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not normal...usually a plan covers all the fancy phone options sm
if that was my phone bill I would freak out. Heck I don't even pay that much for electricity during hot summer air-conditioning months. A good cell phone plan, with data included should not even cost that much because you get allowances for texting, etc. whose ever that is really needs to revisit their contract.
My mom had a couple of
brothers who wet the bed until they were about 13! There was no abuse and it was a model household. Bedwetting is very common in boys. My brother also wet the bed until he was about 7 or 8. He quit when he got a brand new bed. My step-dad (ignoramus!) thought that proved he was being lazy, but this is a phenomenon that happens a lot, that a new bed stops the bedwetting. Michael Landon even made a movie about it. 
My daughter wet the bed until she was about 4. (My two boys never did.) The solution for her was simply waking her up at about 12:30 every night and walking her to the bathroom. After about 3 or 4 days (I am not exaggerating) she never wet the bed again. That is all it took to train her body to wake up when her bladder was full. I'm not saying that it would necessarily work for this child, but I am saying that his mother, winner that she is, probably never thought about how she could help him solve this problem. It might be easier than you think.
Other couple....
If other couple are that into sex that they like hanging pics around and acting out in front of people, maybe they are using him for a third person (if you get my drift...) Lots of people in that lifestyle that you would never know about.
I have a couple (sm)
Inis, which is a perfume from Ireland that smells like the sea, and Amazing Grace by Philosophy. I am looking for a new scent, though, as I have been wearing these for a while. Am interested in Dune by Dior and the lily of the valley perfume....hmmmm
A couple from me...
My nephew (now 27 years old) used to day "pink-honk" for ping pong and "cowadoctor" for helicopter.
I also hate to hear "ax" for ask.
here's a couple
feminine products and birth control. they are the dumbest commercials and do they really need to advertise them anyway?
I took a couple....(sm0
...English (the 6-hour) and Psychology. Basically, what you save is the tuition, not the study. You'll see people on various forums saying they studied for 23 seconds and passed, but don't believe it.
Study guides vary in quality, so I can't really advise you on that except to check reviews on Amazon and places like that, and also make sure that it's one that covers the current exam because CLEP does change them.
The exams themselves aren't "tricky", but they do require you to know the subject.
A couple of thoughts.....sm
The pain could be from either the swelling, peripheral neuropathy or a blood clot. You should see a doctor right away as if you have a clot it could break off and cause a stroke or heart attack.
sometimes in couple relationships
one couple is the _leader_ couple and the other is the _follower_ couple. It may just be that after a period of time, this couple is feeling that they want to spread their wings a bit and establish their own traditions...and just don't know how to communicate that to you without hurting your feelings (which hurts because of the noncommunication and you are left to wonder what is going on!).
You have extended your offer for your New Year's party. Maybe pick a time when you know that no one will be home at your neighbors and call to leave a casual message that even if they have something else planned, they are welcome to drop in for whatever time they could spend so you and yours can wish them a happy start to the new year. Otherwise, I would just let things play out. When the time is right to talk about what is going on, you and the other family will know it. Try to keep an open mind and a good relationship.
I have a couple of techniques.
I read the bible in bed. It is the only book that I am motivated enough to keep redirecting my brain until it focuses on the message. Otherwise my brain keeps doing what yours is, reaching for the same addictive ideas to obsess over.
Are you aware of any thoughts that trigger relaxation? There are just a few memories I can conjure up that cause the relaxation to start. Like lying in my grandmother's hammock in the sun, listening to leaves rusting in the breeze and the occasional motorboat buzzing by on the river below. Ahhhh, I'm there.
Another one is swinging on my swingset on a very sunny day in my back yard one sunny summer day. Overhead there is the occasional sound of a prop plane high in the sky, sounding like a big, lazy insect.
If you can remember something like that and have your mind go over those details and allow yourself to relive the relaxation, then you are "meditating."
But I didn't figure out how to even recognize this until I took biofeedback.
(But I also use melatonin, Effexor and lately Benadryl to help my annoying brain, and I can tell you there are meds that cause BIG problems for me, like Topamax).
just a couple more ideas
Some good ideas on stretcher.com and suite101.com for using leftovers. I always end up with a few tbsps of corn or fresh peas, carrots or other veggies. I keep a bucket (icecream) container in the freezer and add my veggies to that and then make veg. soup. I also save the juices off of roasts, hams, canned veggies if not used, etc. and put in freezer in ziplock bags to make soups or even gravies. Good idea to freeze in ice trays and add as needed.
I have to include my favorite daytime lunch for myself. A batch of instant potatoe soup in a jar. There is nothing hot that can be quicker. I gave everyone one I knew a jar of this for thier desk last year for christmas.
Potato Soup Mix
1-3/4 cups instant mashed potatoes
1-1/2 cups dry milk
2 Tb. instant chicken bullion
2 tsp. dried minced onion
1 tsp. dried parsley
1/4 tsp. ground white pepper
1/4 tsp. dried thyme
1/8 tsp. turmeric
1-1/2 tsp. seasoning salt
1 tbsp popcorn butter flavoring.
Combine all ingredients. in a bowl and mix. Makes 6 servings. Place in 1 quart canning jars to store. Instructions to attach to jar: To serve: place 1/2 cup mix in soup bowl and add 1 cup boiling water. Stir until smooth.
Couple of methods.
For slimming without looking like you are building muscle, jumping rope is just the ticket. Of course you have to wear really good, supportive shoes and have undamaged knees to do it.
Otherwise, yoga, pilates, working with light weights, and an eliptical machine have been my favorites.
I currently walk my dogs for my workout, but with huskies I get an upper body workout and ab workout at the same time, LOL. And dogs are very good motivation for walking if one fits into your lifestyle. :oD
couple recipies.
Cornbread salad is an easy quick one that lasts about a week so it can be made a couple days ahead of time. I do this and bring home and empty bowel every time. I also add a can of white shoepeg corn. http://www.recipeusa.org/Salads/Cornbread%20Salad%2012903.htm
Shoepeg Corn Salad - 2 cans white shoepeg corn drained, 1 lg bellpepper, 1 lg onion, 1 lg tomatoe chopped, 1/2 cup mayo, S&P, Chill. Make a couple days ahead of time. Can double or tripple recipe.
Have recipe for Italian chicken roll ups like cordone blue with ham, cheese, italian breadcrumbs, olive oil that you bake and can slice or serve whole, make ahead of time or serve cold after baked.
Also Chicken roll ups that you do with chicken, green onion, cheese, lemon peper and roll up in crescent rolls, mix remaining with cream chicken/cream mush. and bake.
If you have company you need to throw a breakfast casserole in fridge for breakfast next morning, just bake and serve.
sorry should be couple of months.
;(
I loved the first couple of those they did but since then
it has gotten just too cutthroat for me, and the people they have on there are not likeable enough to make me want to root for any of them.
I read a couple of them too
and thought they sounded really nice, especially the ones on Friendship and Marriage. Congratulations to you both!! I hope you find just what you're looking for.
I say there are a couple of things to look at....
1. What would the apartment or extended hotel cost? I'd look at the latter because a lot of people use them when they commute. With gas being $3/gallon and him making a 4 hour total commute a day it is probably cheaper to do this.
2. With his job, is there any way he can change his work hours to avoid the worst of the traffic?
3. If it were my husband I'd probably be willing to do it just until we moved because I wouldn't want to drive 4 hours a day myself! However, I would miss him being at home but we'd talk a lot on the phone while he'd be at the place he's sleeping at.
A couple inside
If you want to put together your own curriculum, sort of in the Charlotte Mason, classical style of education, there is nothing better than
http://amblesideonline.org/. They kind of lay out a plan of study for you for each level, and most of the materials can be found online or free at the library. My sister is using it for her 2nd and 4th graders.
Another one that I use for lots of extra printouts is
enchantedlearning.com
In fact, I was just printing out some of the Christmas worksheets for my 2nd grader to work on.
I have a couple of questions
When is your daughter's b-day? I.E. is she "young" or "old" for her grade? Also, is she involved in a lot of extra curricular activities, sports, etc? I had a child in advanced math and one was just too tough so he took it later on. Really I see no harm in waiting either.
A couple of suggestions are.....sm
1. Buy baby clothes/onesies in 3-6 month or 6-9 month size. Everyone buys the newborn/0-3 stuff and moms always love it that I give them something for the child to grow into.
2. Make the mom a basket of lotions, bubble bath stuff, etc. for her. She'll appreciate some extra pampering tools!
Here's a couple for you -- you pick!
1) I was on the phone with my boyfriend sitting on a no-back barstool. I was rocking back and forth against the wall when the barstool went out from under me. It not only went under me, the leg came back to jam me up the rectum. Of course I dropped the phone and immediately started yelling, IT HURTS, IT HURTS!! My boyfriend stayed on the phone all that time and my mom had to pick it up and tell him I'd have to call him back later I just gave myself an impromptu colonoscopy. Talk about red!! My butt hurt for like a week. I couldn't even poop for 2 days after that.
2) My boyfriend (now husband) and I were making out in an orchard one night. Afterwards, he took me home and the next morning I awoke to find my entire backside covered with poison ivy. I also noticed I was missing about $60 I had shoved into my pockets the night before. I immediately called my boyfriend and explained that it must have fallen out of my pocket in the orchard. Since $60 was a lot of money to me then (now it barely fills up my tank), I asked him to go back and look for it. Lucky for me he found it and I used it to buy some Calamine lotion. Man, did my butt itch for a week. We still laugh about this one. 
couple things
maybe get a prepaid? i did that when i first got a cell and would buy the minimal minutes and they would last for like three months, but had to purchase more minutes before the time ran out or the number would change and the minutes would run out. when i purchased more minutes, the other minutes were added to the the ones i bought.. hope that made sense.
also, i have heard that you can have a phone and not have any service, yet still be able to dial 911 and get through.
Couple of ideas
If you decide to go gray and have hair color other than blond, you might want to color it an ash blond so the transition won't be so obvious.
I have dark hair, and when my gray roots grow, it looks weird ... I think it looks worse than a blond with dark roots.
My skin and hair is really dry (worse with age), so I only shampoo my hair once a week and, if need be, just wet it and use a styling product on it in between.
Olive oil (just use cheap stuff) is a very good conditioner. Coat the hair and put plastic wrap around it for a bit. Seems to come out fine with shampoo after.
I also leave regular conditioner in my hair after shampooing. Helps quite a bit.
Let us know what you do. :)
couple of thoughts...
In no way judging you... I have 3 teenagers and none of them "demand" anything -- they know they enjoy the priveleges they have as long as they show a solid record of making good choices. If they don't, they lose internet, cell phones, driving cars, privacy, etc. Possibly you might be a bit more afraid of husband's reaction than your daugthter is? If you're not telling him, she's got you right where she wants you -- silent. A united front with both parents in agreement would be a good approach. Her moral compass needs some adjustment from the both of you. You don't want her to end up in rehab while you raise that unexpected grandchild!!! Best of luck!
A couple of more suggestions.
I experienced this with both of my daughters. The oldest was trial and error, but with the second, when I found out she was skipping school, etc., I took her to her medical doctor for a physical to make sure everything was okay and to get an expert opinion. We also had HIV testing done to let her know the seriousness of the situation. Then I took her to a psychologist who said this was normal teenage behavior and she did not have any mental problems. We had counseling sessions (me, Dad, and daughter) together and alone. The psychologist also had her keep a diary. It wasn't easy but we got through it. I just found the situation easier to handle with professionals involved. As parents, we need all of the help we can get.
A couple ideas.
Here's a couple ideas...
First, if you have a hobby where you make things that can be fun. I'm a quilter but haven't gotten to the "money making" part. I've made lots of table runners, bags, lap quilts, and other little things here and there for family and freinds. They all say I should go into business but I don't feel I'm that good yet, plus the expense to buy the supplies to make the projects would cut into any profit made. Another way to go which my mom (she got me into quilting) told me about is to purchase a quilting machine. They cost about $6K, but people charge $25/hour to have the quilts quilted (this is for large quilts like queen and king size and anything too big for your sewing machine). One of my freinds did a king size quilt for me and it took her 4 hours.
Second idea and this could really pay off is this. If you have a digital camera or scanner there are tons of ideas, most of which I have entertained and am still looking at this (just get caught up MT'ing and never find time to "get into it"). Anyway...with the digital camera you can take photos of people possesions for insurance purposes. I read on a website quite awhile ago that some people were looking for someone to take pics of their possesions so they would have a record of them for insurance purposes. Or another idea is if you love to take pics of anything and everything we have been looking at stock photography. If people like the pic and want to buy it you would get royalties. Another idea which I have started doing (not to make money though), but if people have slides or photos they want scanned in for whatever reason. I also have photoshop and have been restoring old worn out photos. I've also been scanning in slides that my DH's grandfather took of my DH and his siblings when they were growing up, and then more slides when they came to Germany to visit us. There are literally over 1000 slides for me to scan. Also they didn't take real good care so am using photoshop to get rid of a lot of spots, lighten/darken, fix colors and the results are fantastic. My husband says I really have a nack for this and has been encouraging me to take some more advanced photoshop classes to look for work using photoshop. I understand they pay quite well depending on the job. It's been a blast seeing my DH's childhood and I'm having a lot of fun organizing the pics. Once they are all scanned in, then I will be creating CD's to give to his siblings (he has 3 siblings), plus his mother.
Another idea I was thinking about, which my DH told me I should do is offer services to people to help put their photos and family history into albums for them to pass on to their children. There are lots of grandparents out there who have tons of intersting stories to tell, and am sure lots of wonderful photographs. I thought about putting together some kind of busness where I could record their stories and type it up and somehow match photos with stories. I'm doing that myself. I've been doing genealogy research now for the past 20+ years and am having a blast creating a family history album with stories and photos for myself (even though I don't have any children to pass it on to), but I'm sure there are a lot of people out there who just don't know where to begin. I don't know how much time that would take or what anyone would charge for it, but I think it would be fun.
Hope that helps a bit. Sometimes all one needs is a fresh idea (or two).
MTing can get tiring. Especially when the hands start cramping up. Everyone keeps saying you have to take frequent breaks, but if I take frequent breaks I don't get my work done and I don't get paid.
Well I see a couple of things here (sm)
You may not like all of my answer but take it from someone who knows from growing up in a "blended" family. The one who is "not your grandson" is obviously jealous of the attention you give his brother and is resentful at having to babysit his brother when he is only 8 years old. 8 year olds don't know how to babysit and discipline a 6 year old sibling - they don't even know how to take care of themselves! I have an 8-and-a-half year old. No way would she ever be in charge of another child or be left alone. I am assuming the dad of the 6-year-old is your son? WTH is wrong with him and his wife? I know if you say much to them about the way they are raising their children it may cause a problem but they need to be in charge of the household. It sounds like the 8-1/2 year old is expected to practically raise his half-brother. Doesn't sound very fair to me. I'd probably be ticked off too. Why don't you try getting there earlier on Sat if you know they are up and inviting both children to visit with you together? That might be a good place to start.
Actually going to be in the 60s within the next couple of days
here in NJ. Just too early. I hope this is not a sign of things to come for this winter.
I had it done a couple of years ago too
It really was not that bad. My understanding of why they only will do two quadrants at a time is that it is because they will not numb up both sides of your mouth at one time, so it is an upper and a lower quadrant done together.
My sister also had to have it done last week, but the weird thing is they only said she needed two quadrants done (I believe on the same side, so upper and lower). She or I neither one could get our heads around that, so she decided to "treat" herself and have the other two quads done as well.
Also, I do not have dental insurance, but had bought a plan from dentalplans.com (had the Patriot Plan at the time I had this done). It was about $90 per quad with the plan, but around here it was $300 per quad without the plan.
Good luck!
Thanks & couple thoughts
I found some segments on Youtube and have one playing now.
In a debate with Kirk Cameron and some other people (Christian vs Atheist) and the point was brought up that most people are atheist (with many Gods people once believed in) ... all those myths we all think are obviously untrue.
When you realize people did (and do) believe in some pretty bizarre things, you can't help but look at your own beliefs and think twice. That is what originally got me questioning things. I went to massage school and encountered a lot of strange beliefs by other students (that I thought were ridiculous). I realized they really believed them just as I believed what I did. Also all the other cultures; they feel just as firmly that they know the truth.
I have the feeling that none of us has it right at this point.
Thanks again for all the tips everyone! :)
Maybe a couple inches my way...sm
not much, and it has pretty much melted away now. Very windy last night, though. Had the trusty generator ready just in case. Sorry you have to deal with so much of the white stuff. You know how hard it is to predict the weather out here, so keeping my fingers crossed they are wrong about your area getting more. Have a hot toddie (sp?) and keep warm!
A couple of different ways to do it.
The lazy way is simply Fritos with Chili on top, but in the Lone Star, we wouldn't dare think of serving chili without fresh shopped onion and grated chedder on top, heated through really good so that when you stir it up, it melts the cheese. Other garnishes used can be lime juice on the fritos, chopped avocado and cilantro on top of the cheese. If the chili is on the spicy side, some folks put a generous dollop of sour cream on the chili before the onions and cheese.
An alternate method would be to layer Fritos, chili, onion, and cheese twice, ending up with generous cheese in a large casserole dish sprayed with cooking spray (or a 9 x 13 baking dish with one layer) and bake at 350 for 45 minutes to an hour. Let cool for about half an hour so it will set. when prepared this way, it sort of cuts in wedges.
The cole slaw is a good complement for this because it is creamy and helps take the edge off the spices in the chili.
If you imbibe, a tall, really cold longneck beer is an excellent side kick for this dish or dial it up a notch with a pitcher of frozen margaritas.
Ok, well I had a couple of thoughts for you
First off, drama, drama, drama. This is all these kids see. Most of the TV shows they watch nowadays are full of it (Reality TV). This is what they see the "cool people" doing, so they are trying to be that way.
Girls really aren't any meaner now than they were back when I was in HS some 20 years ago. A lot of the same stuff went on back then.
What I would have to say to your son is what I say to my 16-yo son and 17-yo daughter. They are kids still, not quite adults yet. High school is a small community. When they move on to college or after, they will actually meet other people. Whether his rep is tarnished in HS will not matter to him in such a short amount of time.
When you think about it, a small fraction of life is spent in childhood. Most of our lives are spent as adults. It is important to look at what the future holds. I am sorry your son is having problems. However, in 5 years he will probably look back at this and realize hindsight is truly 20/20.
A couple of things.......... sm
Without having read what the other posters replied, I will tell you that there is no such thing as a painless divorce, especially when children are involved. I went through an almost identical scenario to what you have portrayed a number of years ago, and it was likely the biggest mistake of my life.
I deprived my children of their father on a more accessible basis. They do see him every other weekend when he picks them up to take them to spend the weekend with his "new family", a witch of a wife and a spoiled brat step son who gets everything he wants while my kids get nothing. My oldest did not even get a Christmas gift, not even a shirt, while my youngest got a second-hand hunting bow that was purchased from the spoiled brat stepson because he wanted the cash rather than the bow.
As far as your children's feelings for their father, make doubly sure that you are not projecting your feelings onto them. You don't say how old your girls are, but I am assuming they are under the age of 18 since you want to be with them on your own. Chances are there are more feeelings for their father than you care to admit to, and don't make the mistake of thinking that he will be out of your lives forever because he is still their father and has a legal right to see them unless there is some legal reason why he should not. You will still share future celebrations with him....graduations, weddings, grandchildren, etc.
Another consideration that I underestimated was the financial support of my children. While my ex-husband and I did't have a very big combined income, at least we didn't have to make tough choices between putting gas in a vehicle and paying the electric bill, etc. While my ex does pay child support, it is not a large amount, and if something comes up, he might be a little late with it which can throw my whole financial picture into a tailspin. Also remember that some men just won't pay child support and eventually end up running away as dead beat dads or going to jail if/when they are caught which also means no child support.
This post probably sounds blunt and uncaring, but I can tell you that I have been there and done that. I was selfish enough to believe that what I wanted was more important than what my children needed. Unless your husband is some sort of deviant and should not be around the children (mine was not, I was just unhappy), then I suggest you study long and hard before making this very important decision. As adults, we should put our children's lives first and our happiness second. I know I wish I had. It's not the bed of roses you might imagine it to be.
A couple of ideas ...
Since you were not specific about why your floor does not look clean, I am not sure if this will help. Sometimes, I get a buildup on my floor that does not come off with any kind of mopping or even elbow grease. I recently bought a mop head that is made from the Magic Eraser material and that works great to get buildup off of my floor.
Also, I do not mop my floors with a cleaner that contains any type of detergent. Although they work well, they also can leave a residue that can attract dirt (some how this is due to polarization of the dirt and the detergent). I use diluted ammonia (not so great for the environment) or sometimes just really HOT water.
Just some thoughts.
I just went through that a couple months ago.
I found the best coffee to be Dunkin' Donuts. It's 100% Arabica beans. I saw Aldi's has their own brand and that's 100% Arabica, too, and I'm going to grab a bag this week and see if there's any difference. I use 3 scoops for 8 cups of coffee. It's a Mr. Coffee scoop and I just measured the scoop at 2-1/2 tbsp.
I just had to get a new coffee maker. My Bunn was 10 years old and started leaking, so DH bought a Black and Decker.
I used to keep my coffee in the fridge, but read that it could collect moisture and destroy the flavor of the coffee, so now I keep it in an air tight container in a cool place. I also clean my coffee pot once a month by filling the coffee pot with 10 fl. oz. of vinegar, let it sit a few hours, then run water through it until it tastes like water (in my Bunn, it used to be 10 times). Since I just got this new one, haven't done it yet.
I MISS MY BUNN!!!
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