A broken love story - who do you agree with?

Two people were both in very bad marriages when they met - her husband had been cheating for years but she was afraid to leave, his wife had kicked him out repeatedly but had him come back to live basically as a roommate to help pay the bills. They fell in love. He was a strong Christian and started to feel terribly guilty and told her through many tears that it had to end, that God had to come first. She, being a backslidden Christian herself saw that he was right. Through many tears and lots of prayers for forgiveness and help, they let each other go. Later, his wife kicked him out again, this time permanently. About six months later, his love decided to finally leave her still cheating husband. She told the man she loved. He said that he missed her terribly and it was the hardest thing he had ever done, but because of the way their relationship started, they could never be together again, because it would be a sin. She disagreed, feeling that they had been forgiven for what they had done and that neither of their marriages ended because of each other. Who do you agree with?

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HELP...... My son is 17, almost 18 years old. His girlfriend of one year (a lifetime at this age) has just left (two weeks ago) for college about 4 hours away from hometown... my son is having a HORRIBLE time adjusting to this. She is partying, not text messaging, no emails, etc. etc. all the while claiming she loves him but just does not think about him much anymore. I was up until almost midnight last night with a crying teenager and trying to explain to him that this too will make him stronger and all the crap you are supposed to say, none of which seemed to make him feel any better. He is horribly lonely... they have not officially "broken up" though she said if that would make him happy she understands... What is a mother to do? Back away slowly and let him walk through it... make cookies and wring my hands until I go nuts... watch him be depressed and say nothing at all???? Any other Mom's who have gone through this??? ANY help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

She said in an interview awhile back that if it wasn't for her baby, she'd be with Daniel whereever he was. She wanted to leave this earth.

You did the right thing. He needs to learn otherwise you are going to have a yo-yo on your hands.

I wish I

had stuck to my guns the first time my son did that. It took me a few years to learn. Moving away from home is NOT something small. It is a BIG thing and you son needs to realize that. I WISH I had listened to someone besides my mothers advice and maybe my son would be better off.

IMHO--- People should get real - You took YOUR key back You did NOT kick him out you were giving him what he wanted. You did NOT put him out into the streets.

soccer kicker's toe, football kicker's toe, etc. RICE is the treatment for it. It looks worse than it actually is. (RICE - rest, ice, compression, elevation.)

For the most part, she blames her actions on stress from her illness. I can (somewhat) see someone stealing to pay bills or to put money aside for savings, but not for a lavish wedding or cruises.

GOFFSTOWN, N.H. -- A woman accused of stealing more than $1 million from her nonprofit employer said she used the money to pay for medical bills, vacations and her daughter's wedding.

"My daughter was getting married; I wanted her to have a nice wedding," said Linda Bevins, who has colon and lung cancer. "I had nothing, it all went to cancer. I thought I was going to die. I wanted to have a good life. I wanted my husband to have peace of mind."

Bevins was fired in June from her job as a payroll supervisor for the Crotched Mountain Foundation, which runs a disabilities rehabilitation center in Greenfield. She, her husband, and daughter now are being sued by the foundation. A criminal investigation is also going on.

Bevins was diagnosed with colon cancer in 1999 and took a job as a payroll specialist with Crotched Mountain in 2001 to help pay her medical bills; she was promoted to supervisor a year later. She told the New Hampshire Sunday News she began taking money in 2004 after doctors told her the cancer had spread to her liver, and the prognosis was not good.

Bevins said she's not certain how much money she took, but doesn't dispute Crotched Mountain's estimate of $1.3 million. She said at least $200,000 went to medical bills for her cancer treatments and another chunk paid for her daughter's wedding, which included a custom-made wedding dress. Bevins said she also took her family on two cruises and used stolen money to make donations to churches and other organizations.

"It bothered me a lot because I was not the type of person to do that," Bevins said of the thefts. "I would get depressed that this was happening and I'd say 'I can't do this anymore.' But then something else would happen and all of a sudden I'm doing it."

An audit commissioned by Crotched Mountain revealed allegations that Bevins issued payroll checks to her daughter, Holly Sears, and herself, and funneled foundation money into personal bank accounts. Bevins said biannual company audits didn't catch her scheme, nor did a co-worker who helped her with the payroll.

Neither her daughter nor husband knew anything about the thefts, though she acknowledged that sometimes she asked Sears, 26, to cash checks for her, Bevins said.

Bevins said she's ashamed of what she's done, but blames at least part of her actions on her former employer.

As the only employee who could handle the payroll, Bevins said she was constantly on call, even while on vacation or sick leave. She said Crotched Mountain workers even called her cell phone while she was in the hospital, and nurses became so fed up by the they asked a doctor to put a stop to it.

"If I didn't have the stress, maybe I wouldn't have gotten sick and wouldn't have had the bills and maybe (the stealing) wouldn't have ever started," she said.