9-year old bride "marries"
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Beautiful bride!
Congratulations to ALL of you ;-)
Are you serious? What bride pays for the dresses? LOL
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You are not unreasonable...the bride sounds..
like a pain, I feel sorry for the groom! If she does not like your dress she can buy you a new one and any accessories you might need to go along with it. Or you can simply not be the keeper of the guest book, which is what I would do if I were you! Good luck and don't feel bad! If this ruins her "special day" she is pretty shallow!
Gaaa.... what a snotty bride! Here's what I would do -sm
Tell her you'll 'look around for something, but at this late date you don't know if you'll find anything.' Then WEAR the red dress. Totally do your hair and makeup, and you're gonna look SMASHING. Go ahead and look better than the bride. Serves her right for being so snotty.
And oh, yeah - 'Guest Book Monitor' - BLEAH. The first wedding I ever went to was my best junior high friend's wedding. But I guess I was no longer even a 'good' friend in high school or jr. college, 'cause at her wedding I was left out of the wedding party and told I had to be in charge of the guest book.
I stood by it in the church, and that allowed me to have my preferred seating.... way in the back of the church! Then at the reception, there was that danged book again, and her mom telling me I had to make sure EVERYONE signed it. Well, I lasted maybe 5 minutes, until I smelled food. After that, I left the book to it's own fate, and went in to the reception and ate to my heart's content. As soon as the cake had been cut, I got one of the first pieces. I'd been seated at a table with a bunch of older people I didn't know at all and had nothing to talk about with. Never did see my friend all day, other than walking down the aisle! So, I developed an 'upset stomach' and left early so I could go home and go for a nice long, QUIET bike ride. Didn't say goodbye to anyone. And I never signed the Guest Book, either.
Bride 65, grooom 68, 2nd marriage for both. No
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Was it rude of my bride friend to register for...
My friend just got married. When I went to the store and requested a copy of the bridal registry, I found several $200-$600 items on the registry. I was shocked.
I do not know if it is proper or not, but I have always been told you "pay for your meal" in the gift you bring, so I always assume at least $75 to $100 for a sit down meal. But, she and her fiancé are both middle class at best, so I was not initially expecting a big wedding.
When I saw so many $200 to $600 on the registry, I concluded, incorrectly, that they had decided to throw a big bash. I bought my gift very late and the registry still did not show that ANY items over $150 had sold. I spent $150 on my gift, which was more than it looked like anyone else was paying, but if you wait until the last minute, your options at the low end are very limited! That is my own fault!
They actually served a very low budget buffet, prepared by neighbors and friends, for the meal. It was actually a lower budget wedding than I expected. I am not criticizing their decision to save money on the wedding. I think lots of people spend way too much money on weddings. BUT, I do think it was rather presumptuous of her to register for such pricey items when most of her friends and family cannot afford them and when she was not throwing a fancy wedding.
I am not complaining about spending $150 and not getting "my money's worth" from the meal...that is NOT my point at all. BUT, I do think if you are going to put items like that on your bridal registry you need to consider who your friends are and whether or not your circles can afford such items. I am in a financial position where I could decide to buy a $150 item, but not all of her friends could even go that high and there was very little below $100 to choose from even if they were the first ones to shop.
Is it really typical for middle class people to request such high ticket items for wedding gifts these days? Or was it actually as presumptuous as I perceive it to be?
The guest list is up to the bride & groom....sm
no one else! Of course if grandma wants to foot the bill for the wedding then I'm sure they'd consider her desires.
The bride magazines say no white, ivory, too sexy, and don't
try to match the brides maid colors. Ask the bride for her ideas of color, styles. The style should be similar to the mother of the bride, if possible, such as length. A 2 piece suit would be nice and tasteful, short for day or long for evening.
The majority of bridesmaids buy their own dresses unless bride's family
is extremely wealthy.
I've never had a bride offer to pay for the attendant's dresses. nm
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This is tthe same bride?!?! lol, the one having bridesmaids, flower girl, etc.
and was upset about you wearing red? I absolutely thought you were talking about a much younger gal like in her 20s!
She is 65? This is just way too much!
LOL.
stick to your guns and let the bride and groom decide who they would like at the wedding(sm)
Twenty years ago there were 150 people at my wedding. I knew MAYBE 20 of them. My parents INSISTED on inviting every single long-distance cousin and relative, most of whom I (and certainly my husband) did not know and had never met. Granted, MA and Dad were paying for the wedding but I've always felt like I missed out on having MY wedding because, in order to stay within their budget, I only invited about five or ten friends. And my husband and his parents felt like they COULDN'T invite anyone because of the budget restraints and my parents' guest list. We ended up with about 20 people on my husband's side of the church (basically his immediate family), three of his friends, five of mine, and the rest were mostly my distant, DISTANT unknown relatives (with a few close relatives scattered among the many distants). I look back now and wish that I had taken better charge of the situation. It certainly would have cost my parents less money because I wasn't going to invite that many people.
This is a REAL contract a bride asked her bridesmaids to sign...
*Bridesmaid’s Contract*
Hello my beautiful bridesmaids! Let me just say again how happy I am that you are going to be a part of my special day! Below are just a few guidelines for the wedding that I’d like you to review, please initial by each point, sign at the end and send back to me. Just want to make sure they’re aren’t any surprises! The planning bride is a happy bride!
Thanks a bunch! Love ya!
-The Bride-To-Be
______ My hair will remain at the length it is now or longer.
______ I will not change my hair color without first consulting BRIDE and providing a sample photo or hair swatch for consideration.
______ I will use Sally Hansen’s “Maximum Growth-Daily Nail Growth program” every day for the 4 months before the wedding day.
______ I will not gain more than 4lbs from the weight I was when I was asked to be a bridesmaid.
(Sarah and Anne only for the point below…)
______ I will join a well-known weight loss program and through whatever means necessary will lose the desired amount of weight as previously discussed with BRIDE at the time when asked to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.
______ I swear to attend all showers, (lingerie, kitchen, bridal & bachelorette) to arrive in a timely manner and do everything in my power to support and “be there” for the bride.
______ I will purchase the DESIGNER style # 464 dress below in Pistachio/Ivory within 3 weeks of today.
______ I will NOT knowingly get pregnant without notifying BRIDE at least 6 months prior to the wedding so a suitable alternate can be found. I will also give my purchased bridesmaid dress to said alternate.
I do hereby swear that I will adhere to all of the above & other understood bridesmaid duties for the wedding on DATE, 2008
X_________________________
(sign, print and date)
Bigger issue - a 16 year old living withi a 29 year old and liability
Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
My 14-year-old is going to be a mother-in-law (so funny) if you google it and 11-year-old daughter
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
nm
What a difference a year makes! Last year, sm
we had the same problem. Fines everywhere for watering.
Paid $60,000 on principal last year and this year
planning on another $30,000 after my taxes paid for the year. We are getting our house paid down very quickly.
55-year old woman has birthday sex with 12-year old
DAYTON - Gloria Murphy gave children celebrating her 55th birthday alcohol and then had sex with a 12-year-old boy at the party on Thursday, Jan. 29, according to police.
The boy got into Murphy’s bed at 5440 Rawlings Drive, where the married woman had sex with her adolescent neighbor, according to police and Montgomery County prosecutors.
Two of the children at the party ran home at about 6 a.m. Jan. 30 and told a parent they saw the boy and woman having sex, according to 911 audio.
The parent then called police at about 6:15 a.m., according to a police report and 911 audio.
Murphy did not force the boy to have sex, but since he is younger than 13, it is considered rape, Lt. Patrick Welsh said. No other children were involved in the sexual encounter, but some other children at the party consumed alcohol, according to police.
A 17-year-old would have the same goals as a 20 year old (sm)
Only the 20 year old is hopefully more responsible and based on what you say about his character, would be a better choice than someone her own age.
I have a 9-year-old son that sounds just like your 10 year old...
Lately he has been so negative about everything...trying to make him have a good summer and whenever I take him somewhere, he is just a brat when we get home...I think they are called tweens at this age...not quite teenagers but have the attitude like one---LOL
We skipped it entirely last year, and THIS year?
This 40-year-old got dumped for a 30-year-old
http://www.gqmagazine.co.uk/CoolNewStuff/Photos.aspx?StoryID=53859
This year will be our 35th year
The first couple years it was literally 5 or 6 times a day every day (more on the weekends). Over time it gradually slowed down (once a day) and over the past few years its been 2 or 3 times a week. Not sure that is average or not. There were times were I felt it was too much and him not enough, then there were times where I wanted it more and he didn't. Guess everyone goes through a phase. I guess because of how long we've been together, now it's just comfortable - nothing exciting about it. Just a routine. I have to make it exciting in my mind and pretend I'm someone else.
I don't know what it is, but you are correct...after awhile the lust and infatuation wears off and you get in a routine. I guess for us it was that we really didn't know each other when we married (we dated for 3 weeks then eloped). Once I got to know him it was too late. Now 35 years later it is just comfort (and amazingly we never once used birth control and never had any kids). My mom still tells me she's amazed at the frequency of our encounters that not even once did I even have a "close call" with getting pregnant.
But 35 years once or twice a week and 3 or 4 times on weekends. Not sure if that is normal.
My 7-year-old dog is very ill.
One of my two huskies started getting sick Saturday or Sunday. Her symptoms suggest poisoning or a brain tumor. She has always been sensitive to airborn allergens. Her eyes itch terribly if she the dog bed has cedar, and we avoid foods with wheat or corn or too many carbs, trying to keep her healthy. Anyway, it seems the slip cover I put on the dogs' chair may have been treated with something like formaldehyde and she is reacting to that. But I removed it when I started suspecting it on Monday night, and left the window open all night. She seems to get better and then gets worse, even though I'm not letting her back up on that chair. We have ordered an air filter for the living room. But symptoms wax and wane, and they are mostly neurological: squints eyes, acts like she can't see, walks in circles, breathing is slowed, she's very lethargic, presses her head on me for comfort (she's done this for years, but now I read head-pressing is a neurological sign), drooling, forgets to to outside to urinate and has incontience in the house.
Please pray that the Creator has mercy and heals her for us. Misha is sweet.
We are getting my son the PS2 this year,
and that in itself is around $140, around $40 for his leggo set (on sale at that). It adds up.
How about over $500 this year
for your tax return? That is through one of the biggest places we have, not some fly-by-night. Mine are more in depth because of rental, selling a home this past year and my working from home but this year am getting back over $6,000.00 but guess what? I am always just glad to get back any amount rather than paying!!
I go through it every year, though last year - sm
they did surprise me after saying it was delayed a month, I ended up getting it about 10 days later. When it has been delayed it has taken about 5 weeks. The website should give you a date of when to expect it, and that is generally right on the money. As for the date, contact the courts and have him arrested, maybe jail will teach him to pay on time. Good luck.
This is such a bad year
that my allergies are acting up, and I've had very little trouble for the past 10 years or so. Interestingly, my allergies decreased to near nothing after I was on an antifungal medication for an extended period. There are theories that all the increased allergies and asthma are related to they heavy-duty antibiotics we are able to use now for bacterial infections. Maybe these are messing up our airway flora and increasing problems with allergies?
When you say you've been on nasal sprays, what about the asthma ones, like albuterol nad Atrovent? That's what they had to put my sister on.
Hope you get some relief. Allergies are miserable.
What year is your car? sm
My husband works at an auto parts store, and I'll ask him what he thinks, but I think he needs to know the year.
My 17-year-old DD
has been wearing a size 10 or 10 1/2 ladies for the last 3 years. She is 5Ǝ" or 5Ə". My 20-year-old DS wears a 12 mens and has since high school. I wear an 8 or 9 and my hubby only wears an 8. We have no idea where these kids get their height or those feet! Our 15-year-old DS is following in their footsteps, excuse the pun, as well. He is in a 10 mens sneaker and already a head taller than my 5ƌ". Unbelievable. 
I did this last year
If it's the one I think it is, my friend send it to my last year, and I almost had heart failure. I screamed so loud I thought I'd wake up the house. I also had the sound on really loud and never again! LOL
6-year-old
Country MT, you are not harming your son. I am almost 52 yo, have a great niece on weekends, 2-1/2 yo. It is the only stability she gets. If she wants to sleep with us until she is 15 it will be okay! Her only requests as she comes in the door are "I want my bottle, blankie and rock-a-bye." She lives in a horribly unstable household and we are like heaven on earth to her. Before anyone blasts me, I have called DSFS - they are short on foster parents, so no help there. Her mom is too selfish to let us keep her all the time, is pregnant with her 4th. We also keep the 14-month-old baby boy one night during the week. New baby is due 12/18. Baby boy prefers the crib unless he is suffering with teething. My mom has an ongoing fit about me giving Sarah a bottle at all. Sarah drinks the bottle while we rock, hands it to me when finished and life goes on. Sleeping with us comes from her being sick as a tiny infant and not sleeping much at all. I slept with my grandparents when little and grew up to get married, have 2 kids, and am not sick or perverted. Listen to your heart, not negative people. Your son will love you for it forever.
I was there this year, last year, the year
before, etc. etc. From what I see in the casino as you walk in, the place is just below where I would stay, say the smoke filled place versus to I personally saw a person walking into the Bellagio being asked to put his cigarette out by security. I like that. The Flamingo is 1 of the older places - the location is good but it is right across from Cesear's and catty-corner to the Bellagio so I just love staying in a little classy place.
Doing it again either New Year's Day or New Year's Eve
:)
Not a fan of New Year's eve
I guess I'm a party pooper. I just stayed home and didn't even stay up to see the ball drop. Boring, I know . . .
Me too. Maybe that's what the new year is about...
I have been sitting here thinking my resolution needs to be to have more fun this year and worry less. But then again I am not in the party mode either...maybe it's all about taking care of ourselves and celebrating by going to bed early is a good thing! Hope your day goes well. I'm gonna type til my fingers fall off today so I can make extra money to go to Disney (see if that ever happens LOL). :)
New Year's Eve
We celebrated at our friend's house across the street. We go there every year. We played Deal or No Deal on a television computer game and ate a lot. We watched New Year's Rockin' Eve and got home at about 12:30 a.m. Today is a day of relaxation before work tomorrow. I've been off for a week and a half so I'm not looking forward to it.
New Year's Eve
Our two teenaged kids had previous plans to spend the night at friends' homes, and we would be communicating with them via text or phone call at midnight. My husband and I together made a romantic dinner with candlelight and wine. We had a fabulously fun and romantic night together (details left out - lol). We also tuned in for a brief time to a Twilight Zone marathon. Getting in touch with past phenomenon such as that really brings to mind our youth, memories, and awareness of such. A great night, especially with everyone safe.
I hope everyone here had a great holiday and will have a healthy, happy 2008!
17-year-old
My 17-year-old cat, Cyrus, died one year ago. . He always wanted a lot of attention - loved people - but toward the end, he seemed to want attention/being held, even more. . I am so sorry you are going through this - it is not easy. . I miss my Cyrus every day - he was a true friend.. we went through A LOT together...
You have been with him for over a year and have
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Had one about a year ago -
needle for local anesthesia, then very quick - left barely a little scab. Takes several layers but not deep. No pain and nothing afterwards - didn't even require any bandage after initial band-aid. On my breastbone area so probably one of the most tender places.
My 12-year-old goes to bed at 9 and gets up at 6:30
It sounds like right now your child actually goes to bed at 10, so if you extend until 10 it'll really be more like 10:30.
Mine started complaining a bit last year about bedtime, but this year started realizing how much better you feel/look when you get plenty of sleep. This year has been the easiest time...with child actually wanting to go to sleep. Of course, summer is coming and that throws a wrench in everone's schedule:-)
I was on it for about year ago and after
you find the things you like it isn't that bad. You just have to pick and choose, and I did lose almost 20 lbs., just have to be careful when you go off if it.
i would never allow my 5 and 9 year old
a few years back on his. He was with his children on it, he threw them off and they lived but he didn't.
My 11-year-old *man*
is also more emotional of late. I think a lot of it just depends on the kid. My guy has always been a little more sensitive than his brothers. He's about 10 pounds overweight and it bothers him that the kids call him fat. He's not fat. I told him if they didn't pick on him about that, it would be something else. Kids are cruel and they definitely find the ones that are most vulnerable. I would speak with the youth director and see if there might be ways to build up his self-esteem. I think more than anything he's suffering from a low self-esteem.
Some kids are just naturally confident and that makes them popular. He'll grow into himself soon enough. I've found that by inviting his friends over really helps to build his self-confidence. We just had his 11th birthday party at one of those party places with laser tag, arcades, jungle gym and we allowed him to invite 7 friends (that's all our 2 vehicles would hold). Although I guided him in who to pick, ultimately the decision was his. Not one of the kids he asked was in the "popular crowd", more on the outskirts like him. They all said it was the best birthday party they'd ever been to. They're still talking about it at school a week later. I think a couple of the more popular kids were upset they didn't get invited, but I hope it taught them a lesson and maybe even brought them down a peg or 2.
The kids change, but the attitudes don't. It was the same thing when I was in school. There will always be someone who gets off on making you feel bad. You just have to teach your kids how to cope with it and let them know how important they are. I said about inviting his friends over because usually kids are more confident in their own home. Letting his friends see his self-confidence at home will probably help him be more like that in school. Good luck with your guy.
almost 10 year old son
My almost 10 y/o son gets emotional like that also. If he is trying to explain something and cannot find the words, he tears up. Any frustration and he tears. He does have some anxiety, but his doctor said this is not abnormal. If we have complaints from school then we need to think about doing something, but for now we just try to nip it before he gets too upset. Unless he starts to tear over something reasonable (heck, even I can tear up if I get frustrated enough!). These kids have so much pressure on them now days. Just keep supporting him and helping him through.
One year...sm
for a church party, I wore sweats and pinned socks and other small clothing items to my clothes with some drier sheets and went as static cling. Very cheap and good for a some laughs.
The 2 and 4-year-old are doing well...sm
It is just the 8 year old who is not. Not to say the other 2 aren't sad that they can't see their mom I'm sure but they are not as distraught like the oldest. He seems to understand more what has happened.
I have a 16-year-old and 14-year-old.....
They don't go anywhere on the weekdays!!! They come home after school or practice. Why do they need to go out "socially"? They are at school socializing all day......Yes, I'm too strict!!!
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