18 IS legally considered an adult.
Posted By: exasperated on 2008-08-07
In Reply to: Why don't you be a mom and take care of your daughter until she is an adult? sm - Disagree
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Legally, yes, but how adult were you at 18? nm
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Legally an 18 year old is an adult, so
therefore not a minor, however ethically a teacher should not be messing around with a student.
Legally
I just signed the form and had it notarized so that she can get him into school....I don't know why everybody is thinking that I put him out.....If it makes him happy to live with his sister because she can provide more for him....I don't have a problem with that.....I have posted another message because asking for an opinion about my house key.....with signing this form to get into school.....she has the authority to get him into school where she lives in that school district....signing this form...if he gets sick or something she is authorized to pick him up from school and get medical treatment for him...this form is not giving her legal custody of him.....I really appreciate all of the posts...that's why I was asking someone else's opinion about my house key because my mom said that I was wrong in asking him to leave the key.
Legally, there is nothing you can do. You
might talk to her, but that probably wouldn't do anything. Moving is probably the only answer.
Legally, he probably owes you more
If you really wanted to be technical, legally it needs to be served doesn't it?
Not if they are legally living here or if
they have become citizens. That is why Carly could not compete 2 years ago when she made the top 24. Her paperwork had not yet gone through.
I believe that legally as long as anyone
pays on a medical bill consistently, even as low as $10 a month, there is nothing they can do.
Legally they are his kids
DNA or not, they are legally Michael Jackson's children. His name is on the birth certificate and he has been their father for their entire lives. If a custody suit were to be brought about, I think anyone would have a hard time using that as a basis for the suit.
Plus, at this point the children are old enough to express opinions and to have those opinions taken into consideration by any type of family court judge. From what I understand, they have verbalized their desire to stay with their grandparents. I don't think anyone is going to be able to change that.
There must be something you can do legally, sole provider or not.
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& what part of *some of them didn't do it legally*....
Name changed legally in the courts and
the reason for the change, he tells me, is he always since a child did not like his given name and as adult, when he could afford, changed it in the courts. He thinks the only reason they are not calling the new (like I said, old name like Lewis and new name like Lou so it is just a shortened version) is just not respecting his wishes. He has told them before, not just this time. The entire name was changed but this is the catch, when he got the thank you note for the flowers sent for the funeral, they came in his newer name!! The person who died, his aunt, always sent him notes, cards, etc. in his new name so not everyone in his family not acknowledging, only the younger siblings actually (those being in the 40s,50s group). So your answer, not just at this funeral time and did because simply hated his name for years. In talking about your friend's name change, I see you emphazied if it MEANT that much to her, pray tell, why do you think someone might do otherwise (other than being in witness protection??) Another thing, just to let you know, his mother prior to her death knew, respected and called him his newer name.
Buying a house with someone who is not legally your spouse, is
Now it is considered, get this
astronaut stress. Well, I have QA stress. Anyone got a knife?
Well have you considered
dental hygiene? My other sister does that and last I heard made around $200 a day. She has a 2-year degree.
Oh BTW, am considered senior so
noticed how you signed and am sure probably older by lots of years than you!!
Have you considered a Kodak? sm
I just bought a Z712 IS, it is 7.1 megapixels, with 12X optical. It is really nice. I just upgraded from another Kodak with 4 MP and 10X optical that I've used over the last 4 years, taken thousands of pictures (daughter's high school years and marching band - some pictures even made it into the yearbook). So, was really excited about getting one with 7.1 megapixels, and 12x optical. Tried a few shots last night and they were great. Anyway, they have them on e-bay. We've been really happy. It is considered refurbished, but was never used before. Not a problem with our old camera.
and at what point is it considered
is it okay to spank as long as you only do it 3 times? or maybe if you only hit on the bottom? or maybe you "spank" with a belt? or whatever other object you can get your hands on?
The problem with spanking is some adults don't know when to stop. I, too, was beaten with a belt as a child and I have never laid a belt to my children and never will. Spanking with a belt is BEATING. I was "slapped" across the face numerous times as a child for speaking out of turn, and to this day, I still wince when my mom gets upset and raises a hand. It's not respect for my parents that I have in these instances, its fear. It's a shame that too many adults have come to confuse the two.
Have you considered Dyson? sm
We have had a Dyson for about four or five years now, and I adore it. You just would not believe what all it picks up. Hubby and I both have allergies AND indoor cats, and if we use the Dyson as often as we should, we can tell a significant difference. We bought ours after trying a friends. They are lighter weight than the Rainbows and Kirbys, and also have an added advantage of being significantly cheaper. Just a thought.
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But a lot of things are considered sins...
Like living together, sex outside of marriage, even using birth control of any kind, depending on your religious beliefs. Yet all grocery stores carry magazines and tabloids that report on celebrities and other people doing those things and more, and books (fiction and nonfiction) with that kind of thing. Why are those books and magazines with hetero sins any different from the ones with homosexuality? Isn't sin, sin? And it's everywhere, so how far do you want to take your boycott? I really do respect your opinion and your right to it. I just don't quite understand it.
I don't understand why some people seem to have such a seething *hatred* of homosexuals. I mean, gay people are just people, like anybody else. Some good, some bad. I don't want to know what they do in the privacy of their own home, but I don't want to know what hetero people do in the privacy of their own home, either! Either way, as long as it's two consenting adults, why would I care? It's none of my business.
BTW, I just saw Brokeback Mountain on HBO for the first time the other night. I thought it was heartbreaking. To think that two people who love each other so much could never really be together. How is that okay? (Yes, I know it was fiction, but it happens/has happened in reality.) I just think that's so incredibly sad. Don't we need more love in this world?
Okay, off my soapbox!
It is considered a double negative, sm
and not standardly use. Use "regardless", or "irrespective". It is considered bad grammar.
considered quality foods by whom? sm
I have heard many negative things about both of these pet foods for years. I do not consider them to be quality foods, by a long shot, and this was even before the tainted food scandal. That's what I am talking about.
Considered being the driver instead of the passenger?
I too have RLS. I have found that for some reason I do much better as the driver than as a passenger. Can't explain it but it's true.
Have considered it before - would they listen to me, his wife? (sm)
Would I have to show proof?
What exactly is considered Middle Class?
Unless I heard wrong last night, during the debate, $250,000 is considered "Middle" class. I don't think so.
Anyone?
Is Express Scribe considered a FTP?--nm
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anybody know if organ donation was considered? nm
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Well, there's an angle I hadn't considered...
Good point, longtimeMT...I hadn't considered the possibility that her 'type' are usually the ones on the boards of HOAs. The ones who think they know what's best for everyone.
I'm giggling so hard at her ludicrous posts that I fear I might wet myself. Talk about pretentious! I'll take my cozy little apartment with my hubby and pets and the WARMTH and LOVE therein over her snooty TRACT HOUSING any day.
Too bad she doesn't appear to realize she isn't IMPRESSING us, she's ENTERTAINING us!!!
What is considered appropriate if a neighbor's relative passes away. SM
My neighbor's uncle passed away. She and I are friends, but not best friends, we basically see each other every day as we walk our dogs and we talk every day. Her uncle just passed away and I was unable to go to the wake. The funeral is today, but I cannot go to that either. What is the appropriate thing to do here, a card, flowers, what? Any ideas would be appreciated. Thanks.
Have you considered a home equity loan to
pay off all your credit cards?
Have you considered Florida? They have some of the most beautiful beaches I have
ever had the pleasure of walking on in the U.S. My son was stationed at Eglin AFB in Florida; he and my DIL lived in Ft. Walton Beach, and I would go there quite often...I immediately fell in love with their beaches..I usually don't like sand but theirs is white and very fine..they don't call it the Emerald Coast for nothing. The people are very friendly and I had the time of my life there. I also love to fish and they have the best seafood. I am a native Californian but I LOVE FLORIDA. They have a very special place in my heart...just an idea for vacation..
Anyplace bluejeans are considered 'inappropriate' is
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Divorced, never considered myself single (?) and bought my own home
years ago - the price was unbelievable, 15,500 and sold it 2 years ago for $165,000. Quite a deal huh?
Iams and Science Diet are considered quality pet foods and they
ijl
Make sure whatever you use for skewers aren't considered a weapon by the school. sm
Some schools are absolutely militant about anything that even looks like something that might be used as a weapon, no matter the reason or who has it.
I had them as an adult (sm)
I had braces from about 27 to 31 years old. It was painful - but definitely worth it. I had a crossbite that was embarassing to me for years. You will get used to wearing the braces and won't be so self-conscious soon - it's just because they're new that it's bothering you right now. And it will be worth it when you're done!
adult boy
Thank you. I hate it when people blast others.
I have adult ADD....
as well as depression, anxiety and OCD. After battling for years with just the depression symptoms, there were still concerns in my life which I thought medication and therapy could fix but didn't. These things drove me crazy...Not being able to finish a project - for example a crochet throw I have been working on for over 5 years, various projects started and left hanging, never able to keep at the same task, etc. Now with the help of Adderall I am able to focus for a few hours at a time (I do have withdrawal effects) and I am able to work with less distraction. It has not been a cure-all, but it has brought me some peace of mind being able to get my work done in a reasonable period of time, rather than having the constant urges to do other things.
he was an adult, by our standards, and would have been--sm
accountable for his own actions if he had been arrested and sent to trial. However, if there was familial abuse involved which perpetuated this act of violence, it should be addressed in some manner, but not for the parents to be held accountable for what he did as a result of it. Sometimes even knowing about a person's difficulties is not enough to change them or prevent them from doing something horrible like this. Obviously there were a lot of people, in retrospect, who felt this person had severe problems and they chose to do nothing about it either. He was seeing a therapist, but should the therapist be held accountable, as well? It just comes down to every one being accountable for their own actions.
No, he is an adult and responsible for himself.
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on adult swim
I've seen it.....What about The Boondocks or South Park? I have too have a sick and twisted sense of humor.....
Too bad some responsible adult...
could not get those kids. We have a celebutard, immature, crazy mother against a wanna be anything hanger on who is only interested in money...some role models! I hope there is money put away for the therapy those kids will need. The parents even give white trash a bad name!
Adult Behavioral Changes
Call a neurologist who specializes, one who may probabably also have a PhD in Psych. Go in by yourself if you have to and describe what you are experiencing and maybe he or she can give you some direction and information that may help you have your husband evaluated. There are tests he can administer and others that he can send him out for. There are several things that come to mind, but without evaluation this is speculation. It is possible that after you consult a neurologist that he may send you out for evaluation by either a psychologist or psychiatrist, or both. Maybe he has family members or good friends who will help you to encourage him to be evaluated? No matter the outcome, it is best if you consult someone professional who can steer you in the right direction. Best wishes to you. I will be thinking of you. Let us know how this works out.
Perks of being an adult
Sometimes I feel like it really stinks to be an adult with all the responsibilities and stress and I'd love to go back to being a child. What are the little perks of being an adult that you have found?
I found a simple one this morning...I picked all the marshmellows out of the last bit of Lucky Charms to have extra in my bowl.  No I won't dare tell my 10yo I did that. I thought it was a better alternative to having a brownie for breakfast which is what I really wanted!
You're obviously the only ADULT between the two
Someone has to teach your daughter to have the money in hand for things you want; otherwise, when will she ever learn to work for what she wants? Handing it over BEFORE the money is made is a huge mistake.
I watched my husband do this with our son and he always said he would pay us back but he needed it NOW because it was on sale or some such garbage. He would be given more labor intensive chores around the house to make the money but never paid us back.
No matter how much I told my son he was not going to get a penny out of me without the job done first, my husband always went behind my back and bought it beforehand, gave it to him, and of course my son had absolutely no motivation to pay for anything. Long story short, he is now 23 years old and still doesn't get the point of working to pay for what you want.....
My husband is very good with money, as am I, but I was raised to pay for what you want and not on credit. Children really need to learn this lesson early on. I was always surprised my husband handed everything over to him because husband worked since he was 12 years old at jobs the labor laws would never allow now! If he wanted anything, he paid for it himself.....the end!! No discussion!
Our son is still loafing around in college, home for summer now, supposed to have a job but of course does not because he knows his dad will not do anything about it, and if I say anything, I get chewed out and disrespected by our son because he knows I have no back up.
You stick to your guns and do what is right..... you do not want her to turn out like that! Her tears will go away. She wanted to umpire, let her umpire and I would definitely tell her how her first responsibility is to umpire. NO CREDIT FOR A TEENAGER!! EVER!
I too met my "father" as a teen/adult.
I had always asked questions. My mom was always very honest when she felt we could handle it about why they broke up (he was abusive). He contacted my brother and me when I was 16. I met him, found out he wasn't my "dad" since that was someone who would have at least been there for me when I needed him or to even know so I consider my "father" as a sperm donor. I am glad I did meet him and have closure (like someone else mentioned) because I think I would have always been curious but I didn't pursue a relationship with him. My father-in-law has been a real dad to me but my blood relative father is not a dad.
I agree with what someone mentioned too that your mom may not have been totally honest, wanting you to not want to pursue meeting him. I was lucky, my mom never badmouthed him when we were growing up even when we had all these questions about him, why they didn't stay married, what it would be like if they had stayed together and everything else. I realize now of course my mom was smart to have gotten out at the beginning. Once an abuser always an abuser so I'm relieved now. If you want to talk about it more let me know and I'll send you my e-mail.
I am teaching an adult class sm
but will use this same lesson when we start back with our weekly youth meetings in the fall. I got the idea for this lesson from Fannie Flagg's book Can't Wait to Get to Heaven. The book is obviously fiction but has a "quirky" (most all the characters in the book are quirky-think Mayberry) person's take on heaven when she dies for just a short time and visits heaven. The book is a wonderfully funny read (just a few swear words but it is very clean). I have read all of her books and thoroughly enjoyed them all. Thank you for responding.
Maybe you can try adult conditioner. My daughter SM
has thick curly hair. I would wash it every day. She never did mind my combing or brushing it. You could also try one of those plastic brushes with bristles wide apart.
My daughter is now 32 and does her own hair.
Adult ADD? Never diagnosed but wondering (sm)
So all my life I have been disorganized, first it was papers hanging out everywhere from my notebook, now it is everything in the world stuffed in my purse. My mind wanders all the time. I do transcription but flip back and fourth between here and my work and my e-mail and other things on the net that interest me. And i have to have background noise while I do all this. My house gets very cluttered and than I have to work like a maniac to get it cleaned up but still things are kind of in haphazard places, not really organized. I just always feel overly busy, overly tired, and behind on everything. So....could I have ADD? Or am I just too busy, bored with sitting in front of the computer, and disorganized??
I was actually dxd with adult ADD several years back sm
by a psychiologist. I had symptoms similar to yours and was being treated for depression at the time and sent by my psychiatrist to this person who gave me a computer test and then gave me the same test 6-8 weeks later on medication to see if the results were different - and they definitely were. If I recall correctly it had to do with reaction times and how long my concentration was, etc. The results were a little shocking. I think I knew for years I had it - my oldest son was dxd years ago but it was just kind of lurking in the back of my mind and didn't come forward until I started having serious problems with getting my work done and making a decent living at MT... I finally took medication upped my BP so badly I had to quit. I just try to go with the flow now - I have white noise playing in the background while working, shut my door, note on it not to bother me unless house is on fire, set goals for myself and treat myself with done with work and try hard not to let emails and IMs distract me. I leave all my other chores until the very last minute/second and then rush to complete and am always late and cook everything on high and burn or overdo things as always in a hurry - can't remember all of the other things I do - they have just become a part of me. I did do much better on medication and if I seriously needed again would definitely look into another one.
My very first boxer as an adult had kennel
cough. I rescued her from a pet shop under similar circumstances. She had been there with her brother and her brother died. I refused to let her die in a pet store so brought her home took her to the vet and got her started on medication. The first month was rough, there were nights I just sat in bed and held her, she felt so miserable. She finally got through it and after that rocky start she lived to the age of 13.5 with not another medical problem the rest of her life.
Why don't you be a mom and take care of your daughter until she is an adult? sm
Boyfriend, spoiled, blah, blah. You are her parent. You need to provide her a place to live until she is old enough to do so herself. I would either allow her to move in with you and your boyfriend or I would rent her a place to live. She is not old enough to be expected to find a roommate and pay all her own bills yet. If you had done your job to begin with she wouldn't be spoiled or having such issues.
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