....therapy or a Marriage Encounter weekend, if that's still around...nm
Posted By: nm on 2007-03-26
In Reply to: If he wasn't like that while you were dating, he ain't gonna change now. Maybe some couples th - in your future? nm
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Not all regret their first encounter
I started early at 15 and I don’t regret it, only regretted probably not more with the same guy. I was in 10th and finished school without another encounter but I would disagree with a psychological impact- just does not apply to all.
Lots of times you encounter medical assistants
They have varying levels of education (depending on the state) and are generally less expensive to pay than a nurse, even an LPN. The LPNs and RNs are all credentialed personnel that should really know those abbreviations.
A person who represents himself or herself as a nurse who is not actually a nurse is committing a crime.
Yep, I had therapy for awhile too
Therapy didn't take the nightmares away and didn't take away my fears. My anger from it is better but not gone.
I think if I stay a little angry, I will be a little more vigilant and protective of myself. It will not happen to me again.
I can feel sorry for the jerk but can't forgive him for taking my security away from me.
And, before the "holier than thou" people jump on the religious aspect of forgiveness and healing, let me just tell you this.
I have seen many different counselors over the years for this. I even sought counsel from my church back then and I was basically turned into the church sideshow.
These were people I trusted but they let everyone in the congregation know that I was a little sinner and had brought a horrible shame upon myself and my church family.
This was not some kind of fanatical church but I won't say which one.
So in case Georgia Gal is wondering which church, she will continue to wonder. Just know that I will never get over this and I just can't see how she could. Church or no.
I believe in God, I just do not believe in church anymore.
Your doggie needs some therapy
It has no clue what it is, a Siberian and you call it a poodle. Poor thing. It has issues and I would suggest a good therapist!
you don't need therapy-you JUST SUMMED IT UP!!
This post says it all - and I think in your heart you know what would be the best road to take......it's scary but not for very long.......change can be scary but change is a constant in the life....and one door closes and 20 more open (doors and windows)....if you stay in the relationship, you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of never-being-able-to-please-this-person and then hence, yourself. You only get to do this one time - as far as we know - wouldn't you want it to be THE BEST...?
Good luck, I so know it's sooooooooooooooo not easy.....
Was he cured by therapy
or medication?
hehehe.
I remember when DH and I were just engaged, he looked lovingly into my eyes and said the most romantic thing he could think of - "I promise not to be one of those guys who makes his wife a football widow."
Men are funny.
Try massage therapy - sm
It can do wonders. Tell them exactly what your complaints are. Best of luck! 
Yes he needs intense therapy
and they can probably get him disability which would help pay for it.
Question: Why do you keep saying retarded? Haven't heard that term used in years.
Question: Why in the world would they bring a 2yr old little girl into this situation. You said he has needed help for 16 years. What were they thinking. And as far as money goes, if they can't afford therapy, how could they afford to adopt a child from China?
Massage therapy!
 I try to treat myself every 3 weeks or so. PLUS i play a lot of online Jeopardy...
I agree with HER...I think he needs therapy.
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I so agree - left at 18, therapy from 8-28...sm
And have been in fine shape ever since. I became my own hero the day I walked out the door for good at 18, never looking back...never went back, not even for dinner, though kept in touch all the time with my father via his work/job, phone or going directly there, my father always trying to be the peacemaker. I tried for several years and several different time but once one is so poisonous - you have a choice...and I always chose not to be involved with poisonous types of people.
Therapy IS the ticket FOR SURE and there's all kinds of therapies out there today for all kinds of personalities. Thank goodness for that - I was into the new-wave therapies back in the late 1960s-70s....
Bless everyone going through all of this either prior or now.....Bless ALL.
I have never taken hormone replacement therapy like you
because I knew from years ago, before the gov study that hormones were being linked with breast cancer, among other things. My elderly aunts (in their 80s) also refused to take hormones, one being a nurse. My mother took hormones and she died from uterine cancer. A previous physician told me I should take them (this was not OB-GYN and I just felt I had all the information I needed to make a sound decision, that being not taking them.
My Therapy Dogs are certified through
Therapy Dogs International. They have to pass two sets of tests..the first is the AKC Good Canine Citizen, then the TDI test. Any breed or hmmm-what-kind-are-you? dogs can become a Therapy Dog.
The dogs need to have a physical, stool testing, and vaccination history is sent to TDI along with a recent photo of your dog. You then will receive a photo ID that has to worn with each visit.
A lot goes into the training, but it is well worth it. Just to see the look on a patient's face really does bring on the tears. Deb, don't hide your tears....the patient's don't mind. You and your dog just might be the most emotional packed figure they've seen in a while. Everyone else who tends to them, while smiling, are distant and almost sterile. Your tears means you really care about them.
Info on the AKC Good Canine Test:
http://www.akc.org/events/cgc/training_testing.cfm
and the TDI test:
http://www.tdi-dog.org/tditesting.html
New scents, aroma therapy from YC
Love the ones you mentioned as well as Water Garden and Sweet Violet.
The SO (he's such a sweetie) brings me YCs all the time. He just gave me a boxed set of five Aromatherapy Spa candles:
cinnamon/frankincense
peppermint/basal/rosemary
lavender/ylang-ylang/geranium,
jasmine/sandalwood
tangerine/vanilla
I've only tried the first one so far and it's very nice. Don't know what's in them but the dog freaks when I get the box out. She rubs herself all over them while snorting like a pig. Very odd. You should see what she does when the YC catalog comes with those scented pages!
When my brother was in therapy, he used that technique.
Never would use the word "you" in a sentence when discussing an issue and constantly repeating back to us what we said in order to validate that we were heard. Our entire family hated it, especially because his issues were HIS issues. Beating three wives, always out-of-control, and demanding emotional support whenever he made repeatedly stupid decisions. He just couldn't repair the huge damage he had done by trying that one on us. (And he only tried briefly.)
It's not a bad technique. It's actually quite nice to be civilized that way. But whenever someone mentions it, I'm reminded of my brother who had hurt so many of his family members, emotionally and physically, and then couldn't figure out why the technique his therapist taught him didn't work like a magic charm. He never did figure out that the trust was gone from every relationship in his life.
Sorry! That was off-topic. It just stirred up some unpleasant memories.
Love the Italian therapy! My dad and uncle were...
raised that way...no coddling or worrying about hurting the little one's feelings. My grandmother would have made a fortune from her therapeutic thwaps!
Bless your heart for having Therapy Dogs!
I think that's a wonderful program and hat's off to you for taking the time to do it!
It's therapy. At least for me it is. I don't mind it. Just don't read the posts if you know
they will bother you. I'm sorry to be so rude, but you can't dictate what other people posts unless it's religion or politics. If you start getting into the media and bad news, then you are really censoring the board and you don't want to do that.
Hope she saved lots of the tips for you for therapy...
just kidding ;)
I overted one of these last week with Avon Moisture Therapy sm
and I swear by it. This time of year I cream up, especially rubbing into the areas that these occur, then put on some socks on my hands for the night. I have not had one of these until recently and like I said, I averted it with this stuff. I am nice and comfy this week.
It is next weekend...nm
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weekend
Decorate graves Saturday, daughter's wedding reception Sunday, take it easy day Monday.
Weekend
Luckily I'm off weekends. We went to an early dinner with friends yesterday, and I spent the rest of the day reading for once in I don't know how many years. Also went to the mall. Today we went to church came home and one of the teenage boys in the neighorhood had an Easter egg hunt for the little kids in the neighborhood. Tonight a friend came over the we watched the latest James Bond movie. Now it's off to bed for a busy 4 days of work next week. I'm off Good Friday. I hope everyone has a good week.
What I did this weekend
I worked Sat a.m., then had hair cut - mine was looking like something could have been living in it. Then it was grocery shopping and came home, cleaned and discussed about whether or not we'd move and where to and watched a movie. Sunday got up piddled around, DH got up and we again talked about where and if we were going to move (the talks usually last about 2 - 3 hours), then we boxed up some stuff, made dinner, talked more about moving, watched a movie, talked more about moving and I went to bed exhausted as it was another weekend (this has been going on for about a year now) of not coming to decisions. It isn't really that great when the town you live in more and more people are leaving (where they went I don't know but it's local cos every once inwhile they drive by), but more and more houses are being foreclosed, we hear of families moving in with other family members, schools laying off, all libraries have shut down, crime is rising, no employment here and none anywhere else. We've done so many long distance moves and they never worked out (at least for the first couple of months). Then we listened to the bully kid next door blasting his music. DH is going through mid-life crisis I think. It was just an exhausting weekend.
Misha's weekend
I don't have much new to report about Misha, except that we did get out and go to PetsMart and she enjoyed more attention than usual from two-footed admirers of all sizes. My new prednisone dosing technique seemed to work - no crashing. She wouldn't eat out of a dog bowl, but she would suck canned food- Blue Buffalo lamb recipe - off my fingers, which was quite endearing. Sasha watched me hand-feed Misha and wouldn't touch her bowl until I had hand-fed HER 3 bites too. So I'm creating two monsters, but it felt pretty good at the time. I also got her to eat some Jumbone-type treats also, so at least she's not going to starve. :o}
Plans for the weekend?
Anyone have any fun plans for the weekend? We have no big plans...may do some clothes shopping for the kids if I feel like it.
Weekend Plans
It's my husband's birthday Saturday so we're going out to dinner with friends. It's supposed to be a hot weekend so we'll spend much of the time in the pool with our daughters. We also usually have bonfires on the weekends with the neighbors/friends and/or a cookout since the weather is so beautiful.
My weekend plan:
It's pretty self-explanatory. Buy a nice seedless watermelon, insert funnel and pour in oodles of liquor of choice...vodka, schnapps, rum, etc. (You'd be amazed at how much booze these things can drink!) Let sit overnight in your fridge if you can stand to wait that long, cut up and serve or drill holes into melon and give your best bud a straw and watch the magic happen. See you in rehab.
Attending our first this weekend sm
since I was a little girl. We live in VA but are just across the state line from WV which is where I grew up. My DD is in her first horse show there this weekend. It is about 1 1/2 away. I am a nervous wreck for her already.
Around here Labor Day weekend
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Weekend coming. What is everyone doing?
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Weekend Plans
Saturday we're going to the Zoo. One of the elephants is having a 40th birthday party celebration there. And Sunday the family's driving about an hour away to go visit my parents.
Just got in from Las Vegas so the weekend
should be a little less active.
Weekend plans
We're going to finish school shopping and then on Sunday we're going back to the NYS Fair to see the American Idol concert and Monday probably a cookout with our friends.
The weekend after Thanksgiving
We go out and get the tree and decorate the inside of the house.
Saw some like those at the Bass Pro this weekend nm
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So, what's everybody got planned for the weekend?
I'll be working Saturday and Sunday, but I might have a few extra minutes to go to the fabric store. I'm going to try to finish a few UFOs (unfinished objects - sewing). And, I'll be stopping in here, of course. So, what's everybody else doing? 
Memorial Day weekend
So what fun things do you guys have planned for the long weekend?  
I have to work.  
So, so sad. Especially Father's Day weekend.
He will be so terribly missed, especially during the election coverage. I will remember him with the white board and writing all over it. I always enjoyed watching him. He sure knew his stuff. Way too young.
Girls weekend? I'm in....
Those are the best. A new place each time. What fun that would be!
Yep, my weekend to work...
Put in 10 hours yesterday and 8 today. Not as tired as I thought I'd be, but getting there.
What about a weekend in the mountains?
You can usually rent cabins pretty cheap and you could give them a gift card for a nearby restaurant. Usually if you let the cabin rental place know it's their anniversary they'll throw in some extras. That way they could go hiking and what not since you said they were active.
Thank you - we will be out shopping this weekend - nm
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I give up. weekend yet? NM
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techno weekend
Totally techno day today. Got MP3 for Vday - not fancy or anything and never really something I knew I wanted, but spent the morning downloading and LOVE IT Will mostly use when walking the dogs. Anyone have any ideas on best way to buy music? I got a Rhapsody CD with a free month. Do I need it? I actually like offbeat stuff, movie soundtracks or old stuff like Jackson Browne. Running on Empty was my first download and Christian Automobile by the Dixie Hummingbirds my second, so very eclectic taste.
Secondly, anyone attempt to use the new TV converter boxes? I apparently bought the exact opposite of what I needed (dig to analog instead of other way round) and used the $40 coupons, so that will be a fun return/refund. We have never not had cable/DISH, but my husband had a fight with a phone cust rep in another country shall we say and got mad and discontinued service. This was a month ago and after a short withdrawal period we find we love not having so many choices. Who knew?
I think once disgust happens, lots of therapy is needed to feel love again. Lots
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I will not work on Thanksgiving day, but over that weekend -sm
when I choose to work. I will have 90 minutes of work to get done by Monday; so will probably just do 30 minutes each morning and still the day free for the most part. As for Christmas, I am probably have to work on Christmas day but only because I will not have had time to do my work before then. I will only take 60 minutes for that weekend but won't have much time to do it until Christmas night, so that will be interesting. I am going to try to do it Friday night/early Saturday morning of the weekend so I will not have to work Christmas night. It will make me more tired but I'd rather be tired than have to work the night I get back after driving 200 miles. But I don't have to work on the holiday. We are off when the hospital is off, which follows state mandates, so we get all the major holidays.
There is a funeral in our area this weekend for ...
a soldier killed in Iraq and just found out those wonderful people from Kansas are planning to attend. 
Maybe a day at a spa just for her and her friend, or maybe a weekend getaway for
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My dream would be a weekend of him helping (sm)
When he and I and the kids all work on getting everything back in order. But he would be angry the whole time, as if he shouldn't have to be doing it. I may end up hiring someone. I have thought about it all day. It would be worth it!
First time in 9 years that I have a 4-day weekend...
And I plan on doing NOTHING! Happy Labor Day!
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