(my daughter's) Lost coat update for those interested - sm
Posted By: Laura E. on 2006-11-14
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Believe it or not after 3 weeks it has surfaced! One of the 3 girls I had not been able to locate a phone number on told my daughter today at lunch that she had it. She had not been in dance last week (and they did not have dance the week before). It was in her dance bag. She had picked up the scarf and coat (supposedly) because she saw Jess had left them, and then had forgotten about it which I find a little hard to swallow as she sees my daughter every day in school (in the same class/home room all day together). But regardless of all that, she came forward today about it. So I don't know why it took so long, but I am glad my daughter got them both back. So if he taking it was not so innocent I hope she learned something, and my daughter has learned to be a bit more careful with her things. 
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If it were me, I would be angry as heck at my 8 yo for not being responsible for her things. Forgot that someone might have taken it, the child was irresponisble. At 8, she should know better than to leave her things behind. Too bad, so sad, no coat, maybe she'll remember her things next time when she has no coat because she's cold. Learning life lessons are tough and 8 is really old enough to take responsibility.
Just another perspective.
lost coat
Maybe she actually left it at school or someplace other than dance, but is certain in her mind that she last had it at dance. You could be looking in the wrong place. I don't ever trust my memory on things like this because when life is really hectic (whose life with kids is not hectic?), sometimes events run together in my mind. Maybe her coat is at school in the lost and found or in the back of the van under a seat, etc. Just a thought. 
Lost Coat
You bet!! Unless shehad the money to purchase another one. She left it, so it got stolen. If it was grabbed off her back and stolen, that would be another story.
Kids can be kids, but they have to learn responsibility some time. It's the parents that don't teach it that are having issues with their kids. Mine learned early and often that their actions have repercussions, good and bad ones. And they learn from them.
For example, 15 yo daughter is a competitive dancer. When she was probably 10 or so, she goes to a competition and forgets to pack a tutu that she needs for one of her numbers. Do I got back and get it? Nope. Her responsibility and she had to expain to the others in her group that it was at home. Did she ever forget her tutu again? Nope. It usually only takes one time.
We need to be parents, not friends and teach them to live and survive in the world. It is never too young to learn. My 4 yo knows that if she walks out the door without her lunchbox for school that she doesn't have lunch. How many times did this happen? Exactly once. Kids are smarter than you think they are.
Nothing to update really, still no coat - sm
Called several parents, they don't have it, one has not called me back yet and I still need to track down 3 other parents that did not leave their home phone info with the teacher. Teacher did not have it either. I plan on leaving my signs up for at least a month and hope it turns up somehow. Many know I am on the lookout so I hope they spread the word or see it somewhere.
Update on hysterectomy for anyone who is interested. sm
Hi everyone. Well I had the hysterectomy this Tuesday done laparoscopically assisted and robotix assisted, so less trauma to the surrounding tissue. Have 5 very small cuts on my abdomen and uterus, tubes and right ovary (the only one remaining) were removed. It all went well. Stayed overnight at the hospital and came home Wednesday morning. Feeling really well. Was sore for the first couple of days and only had to take Motrin. Feeling really good today with hardly any soreness. I have to take it easy for a few weeks without any exertion, but otherwise feeling well and am so relieved it is over. So far no symptoms of hot flashes or anything, but I'm still waiting for that to happen, so we will see. I am happy to say I am please with the outcome so far and now I feel I can move on without worrying about that issue any more. Thanks to everyone who gave me advice and words of wisdom.
so what you're saying is that if your child lost her coat you would make her go the winter(sm)
without one simply because someone ELSE may have stolen it? Wow.
Update on daughter sm
The problem is there is not a constant rash so when she saw the doctor about 2 hours ago she couldn't find anything. Actucally the only time you see anything is right after she has scratched and then when she stops scratching it disappears. Doctor gave her a stronger antihistamine, stopped her minocycline, and we are keeping a diet diary. The doctor said I could try the Selsum Blue shampoo as someone on here suggested so we picked some of that up. It really seems less today so maybe it could have been stress as someone else suggested. Hopefully time will tell. Thanks guys for all your help.
update on 16 YO daughter. sm
Well, here is the latest. She saw the therapist on Friday and the therapist recommended that my husband and I be on the same page about what the limits and boundaries are, but that my husband be the one to take over the disciplining, be the one to have the conversations and explaining the expectations, compromises etc. with her. She recommended that we make it very clear what the limits are and make sure she understands them. She recommended that we stay calm and try to avoid threats, but rather try to communicate with her calmly and positively. That does not mean that she can do what she wants, it just means that once she understands what we expect, then how she makes her decisions will guide the consequences.
So I have basically pulled myself out and told her that anything she wants to do she must get permission from her father and work out the details with him.
He is much better at this than I am and I am hoping that she will develop enough respect for him/us to be willing to do her part. Time will tell.
For now, she is still here and it seems to be working positively so far.
We still have a lot of work to do and I am sure it will be a long, bumpy road, but if we can get her through these next couple of years and be successful in keeping her interested in going to college, that is my goal. I would hate to have her give up on that.
However, on the other hand, if things don't work out and if she continues to be defiant, then as I have told her, she will have to live with the consequences of her actions. The end result will be up to her and she is well aware of that.
Thanks again for all the support and great advice.
I do feel relieved that I am no longer carrying the burden by myself. I still hurt a lot and I am sure that pain will be with me for a while. This is very hard for me, but at least now whatever happens, I am not alone and my husband is in it with me 100%. That in itself is helpful. I am hoping for the best, but I won't be surprised about anything at this point. Bottom line, I do know that we are doing everything we can. The rest is up to her.
Thanks again.
My sister lost her daughter to SIDS 7 years ago. (sm)
Of course the calls, cards, and visits were comforting to her but the biggest help was another couple from a surrounding town who had gone through the same thing came into their lives and were a tremendous help. They were strangers to her, but they were able to comfort her and help her through some of the grief process like none of us were able to.
In years later, my sister and her husband had likewise reached out to families that have had a loss to SIDS. Hopefully someone from that organization will reach out to her.
latest update on 16-year-old daughter.
Well, I did it. I told my husband. He had a good stern talking with her about how what she is doing is not good and will not be tolerated, and told her that the rules were expected to be abided by. He grounded her for 2 weeks and we took away her license and car keys. She is beside herself and of course hates me more than anything because I betrayed her to her dad. Go figure. Anyway, now she states that there is no way she will stay in this house and will just run away. Or she will get a job and as soon as she can get some money together, she will emancipate herself from us. My husband told her that if she runs away, the next step will be something like military school. What a mess. He says we have to be tough or she won't get the message. This is so hard for me. I feel like I lost her. She wants nothing to do with me. I just hope and pray that someday she will understand that I did what I think is best for her.
At least now he knows and he can help me handle it. If she does run away, at least now he knows. I told her I love her more than life and I am doing this for her own good. She just reiterated how much she hates me.(sigh)
Thanks for all the good advice everyone. Please pray for me and my daughter. I never thought being a parent could be this hard.
coat
Doncha think you should wait to talk to the owner before you get so upset?
re: coat
Another child from the class might have recognized it as your daughter's and took it home (so it wouldn't get stolen), thinking they'd see each other next time. Give it a couple of days to show up. Depending on the size of the community, if kids all know each other, when would someone get to wear it without it standing out?
may be you in the coat....
Maybe you in a coat and nothing else waiting for him?
Here it is for those who are interested
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the land of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together, for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
I am very interested
in this. Where do I purchase the DVD? Thank you so much for this information. I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
Who is interested in this?....s/m
Did you lose all your teeth that you have to soak your bread in milk to make it mushy?
I do not think that your sex-life story belongs here, not even on the Gab board.
Tell us more about your sex life, then we will call it 'Porn Board'.
You are crazy!
I'm interested too. Is there anything less/about
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lucky coat
Wish all I had to worry about was my kdis lost coat. I got bills - not trying to be disrespectful - your lucky - I'm a MT is USA
here's some info is anyone is interested sm
http://www.sweetpoison.com/aspartame-information.html
Why she might be interested in younger men . . .
It sounds like your mother was devastated when your father died. Wow! Nearly 50 years together! If they had a happy marriage, she probably misses that closeness and wants to experience that again. And, maybe she's looking for younger men, because someone much younger is not likely to die before her. That means, she wouldn't have to experience the pain of being widowed again.
My uncle died just recently. He had been married to his second wife for just two years. His first wife died of cancer five years ago. And his second wife was widowed seven years earlier. When I spoke to his wife after the funeral, she talked about how horrible it was to be widowed twice, and that she didn't want to go through that ever again. But, she also talked about how lucky she was to have experienced two wonderful marriages.
Maybe your mother is looking for the same.... she wants another wonderful love in her life, but she's afraid of being a widow again. That would be reasonable, I think. However, she definitely sounds gullible, and she's looking for love in the wrong place! Has she had any grief counseling? Maybe you can talk to her about what it is she's really looking for. People do things because they are trying to fulfill needs. They repeat behaviors because there's some sort of payoff for what they're doing. She's getting something like a "sugar rush" when she meets these men online. Briefly, her fantasy is fulfilled. But, when the truth is revealed, she's devastated again. I know I'm sounding like a Psych 101 graduate, but that's really what it sounds like to me. She keeps doing this, because she likes that sugar rush. There has to be a way to break that, and to really find a way for her to be comfortable with herself.
I'm so sorry for her pain. She must be so sad after having lost her husband.
For anyone interested in adopting a pet
Here is a link where you can search on breed of animal and state. It's where we found Jake. Many excellent animals there, some of them just given up because owners didn't have the time for them, etc. My DH is worried we're going to end up with a house full of animals, but I wouldn't do that, limited time and great just with the one right now, although you never know... I've always been a supporter of animal rescue and participated volunteering for a puppy mill raid one time years ago, of course ended up bringing a dog home, but my other one needed a friend .
Yes! I'm like a dog shedding my winter coat! nm
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I call it like I see it, don’t try to sugar coat
What do you call a single person intentionally taking fertility drugs when having 6 kids already? As far as the reduction thing, that had been brought up by the physicians when this person was pregnant- I was not the first to think of that and it is done all the time with multiple pregnancies. Check it out on google.
Here is his info in case anyone is interested
Truly I do not have that good a heart. This Christmas will be hard for my family. My mother, his grandmother who helped to raise him, died October 31 from lung cancer and we are all still reeling. I want to help him but, from a selfish point of view, I'm hoping that maybe getting involved in doing something for him and his buds will help me with the loss of my mom.
Blake is 20. He is married. He is a "good ole Georgia country boy" type guy, by his own admission. Loves trucks and Nascar, football, fishing, magazines related to those sorts of things. I know that phone cards are always welcome (they're only allowed to use AT&T ones for soem reason). He loves sweets but not particularly just chocolate. He likes taking pics when he is not otherwise occupied and he uses myspace to post his pics and keep us up to date with what's going on with him. It's funny (funny weird not funny haha) that he has fairly easy access to the Internet and very limited access to phones.
He is a really down-to-earth kid with a great sense of humor. He amazes me. He lost a guy in his unit, a guy he had been with since basic at Ft. Stewart, and has had a close call or 2 himself, but he takes it all in stride and stays grateful for what he has. He had been home on leave right before my mom died so he got some time with her, thank God.
The idea for the single drink mixes was awesome - I would have never thought of that.
If you would like to send Blake or his unit something, please email me for the mailing address.
Sounds like you are not yest interested
in another relationship. My kids were 3 and 8 when I was divorced, I felt funny about bringing any man around for a while, if I dated I only saw them the weeks I did not have the kids (my ex and I have joint with having them every other week). I have been divorced 12+ years and they only met 2 guys I went out with, the first I dated for 2 years, and the present BF I have been for 8 years.
If and when you are ready then you will get out there. But in the meantime, go out with friends, don't just sit at home. If you are in a church, go to all their social events, volunteer time at the local hospital or libraty, whatever. You never know when you must might meet someone to change your mind. One thing for sure, if you are staying home all the time you will never get a chance to meet anyone, they don't come knocking on the door.
Male or female so I will know if I am interested. NM
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Laura, what happened with the coat???? Any updates? nm
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My son was told to go the back to the coat closet
His teacher would call me and write notes home, your son has been farting in class. Well, finally I had to explain to her before she marked in his chart that he was a terrorist (letting off noxious gas), that he was born with pyloric stenosis. He had the surgery at 8 weeks old. This kid could vomit from my shoulder to the nieghbor's house. He still can burp very loud, and is gaseous, but he has grown older and learned to let them out silently if possible, but at times I have told him if he thought that was silent, then he needs a hearing test.  I am in no way making light of the original post, just trying to shed some "stink" on my experiences with schools and flatulence. If you do not know what pyloric stenosis is, then look it up, he was 12 hours away from death by dehydration.
nope, mine was born with a fur coat :)
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Sure beats the ol' COAT-HANGER method......
Yuk.
Slather them with a thin coat of vegetable oil SM
and rub on some salt, pepper and a little red pepper. Put them in a baking dish and bake in the oven at 400 degrees for an hour. Then you can slather them with barbecue sause and serve with some rice and veggies.
We love him! He doesn't sugar coat...
anything, which is why I like him so much. If you are in debt and drowning it's usually your own fault by overspending, buying too much house, trying to keep up appearances. While I do understand when there are medical bills, etc, causing debt, when you have a couple of car payments, a huge mortgage, a boat payment, and every credit card charged to the hilt, it's your own fault, not the credit card companies. Live like no one else so later on you can live like no one else! We loved seeing him in October and will probably go see him again this year.
Pork roast...details below if anyone is interested
I do mine with tomatoes, basil and a clove of frash garlic and just a tad of oliver oil. I wrap that in foil and put it on the grill. I make this with red potatoes (slice partway open and put some butter inside, wrap in foil and grill also). I usually steam some green beans to go along with it, but this is a throw it on and forget about is for 45 minutes. Not great for those thighs but tastes heavenly!
you might be interested in this. I have a feeling we'll all be needing it.
99 Cent Store Cookbook
http://www.amazon.com/99-Cent-Only-Stores-Cookbook/dp/1598694693/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1208650285&sr=8-1
Description:
Tired of forking over hundreds of dollars for entertaining her friends and family, Christiane Jory made a decision. She challenged herself to create more than 100 gourmet recipes for appetizers, side dishes, main courses, and desserts-solely with items she found at 99¢ Only Stores! In this delightful, practical cookbook, Jory serves up delectable dishes, including:
Artichoke Spinach Bake on Homemade Pizza Bread
Green Beans Au Gratin
Chicken Tetrazinni
Pinot Noir Poached Pear Tart
This handy guide is filled with sample menus, a glossary of cooking terms, and space for creating recipes of your very own. Each recipe includes an estimated cost and helpful kitchen hints, such as uses for recycled milk cartons and how to freeze egg whites. Never again will finances be an excuse for not entertaining with pizzazz. With The 99¢ Only Stores Cookbook, feeding a family, playing host to five or six, or even simply cooking for one at home needn't cost a small fortune ever again!
Central WA - 4.09 a gallon. I'm selling my SUV! Anyone interested?
American Idol night! Anyone interested
in commenting/gabbing about the performances as they happen tonight & making predictions? I love when the competition starts getting tight like this.
I'd be interested...email me with site when it's ready!
I love accessories and all that that entails *sigh*
I don't think anyone would be interested in my boring hermit MT life.
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Anyone interested in ALW broadway plays or NFL football?
As far as NFL, I have been, and always will be, a Minnesota Vikings fan. They have broken my heart so many times but I've been a fan 35 years now. I grew up about 90 minutes south of Cleveland and have never even been to MN. But I loved the color purple, the Purple People Eaters, Frank Tarkenton, Matt Blair, Chuck Foreman, etc. It's my second longest relationship (my family being my first - LOL).
As for Andrew-Lloyd Webber plays, I know every word to every song from Evita, Jesus Christ Superstar, Cats, and Phantom. I also love A Chorus Line (not an ALW play). I've seen it twice live and cried both times. Most of the dancers' stories are just so sad. "At The Ballet" is my favorite. Here's a youtube link. Watch the third girl who comes in during the song (Maggie - played by Kay Cole) and watch her belt out a high E like you've never heard. (around 4:54 into the song).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cPBWzsQ5zo
As a side note, the first girl who sings (Sheila) is played by Kelly Bishop who is on the Gilmore Girls (never saw show, just heard she was on it).
These people are the original Broadway cast.
I've seen Evita live several times as well as JSC. I actually got to see JCS with the original Jesus and Judas from the movie made in 1973 (Ted Neeley and Carl Anderson) at a performance in CT (Foxwoods Casino). Unfortunately, we lost Carl Anderson (Judas) to leukemia a few years back. There will never be another Judas like him, AFAIC. Godspeed, Carl.
So, anyone else an NFL or ALW/Broadway play fan? Anyone have any different Broadway plays they really like?
Do you wear holiday earrings, pins on your coat, or a
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Gorgeous! Very nice coat! Does she have a bit of corgi in her? Looks like our corg/shep. mix. nm
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hmmm...pretty quickly went from you ever heard of to contact me if interested
Why not call him at home or mail a note to his house & let him know you're interested? Or see if
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Daughter's phone is daughter's responsibility. Valuable lesson learned.
It should be between the daughter and the friend if the friend is going to pay any of the fees. They are teenagers, not preschoolers.
If I lost say 60-80 lbs
I would be so full of attitude even my hubby probably not able to get to first base with me! Nah, just kidding. I also need to lose that much, just gonna have to do it it seems.
lost
Note - next week is 2 hours. Starting at 9.
Yes - they said the woman who parachuted was with an expedition that Penny sent.
Locke really appears to be dead.
lost - and am I!
I don't really know how I feel about the fast forward - but of course there is something wrong there because he said "call my father" and we know his father was dead before he hit the island. Why didn't Charlie hold his breath and swim up through the port hole? Whose funeral did no one want to attend?
we lost one of THE BEST!!! nm
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LOST! (nm)
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lost ours . . .
Four years ago both of them at the same time. We still have their son . . it was just heart retching. My husband and I actually cried harder than the kids . . . isn't that crazy???? We were devastated.
I did WW for about 2.5 yrs and lost 72 lbs! sm
It works but you need to stick with it. Don't get discouraged on the weeks you do not lose weight; it is also not "a diet" but a lifestyle change. Do try to find some fruit/veg that you enjoy; the fiber definitely helps you feel full and lose. Low sodium V8 is a good 1 pt or 0 pt option to get in 1-2 servings of veg daily. Eat a piece of fruit for your snack. I found that I really began enjoying fruit-veg after a while. Get active, drink water and give it a chance - WW does work well and nothing is off limits.
Gee, I think I should rejoin! Good luck.
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