**PICTURE of ER-MTs dog Chance**
Posted By: Hayseed on 2007-09-18
In Reply to: Hayseed how do you crop your pics? I'd like to add to the collection of animal angels here. - ER MT
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This may be your last chance, your only chance...
This may be the only chance--it may be the last chance for you to save your son.
My son started in with smoking pot and drinking alcohol at about the same age. I, unfortunately, was too soft, was a push over, and I, too, didn't want to go overboard. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't regret my decision.
Every time I hear the wail of a siren in the distance and it is coming toward this part of time, I cringe, and I wonder if they've come for my son. Every time I get a knock on the front door, the thought goes through my head that it may be "the knock," associated with the police coming to tell me my son is dead.
My son is 28 years old now, and he is not only an alcoholic (and a nasty, obnoxious drunk at that), he is addicted to meth. He will take anything just to get "high." He stole the phenobarbital that I give to my dog to control his epileptic fits. He drank 2 whole bottles of cough syrup with DMX just to get high and hallucinate. It doesn't matter what the drug is, he'll take it. His primary jones is with meth. I saw my son the other day for the first time in about a year, walking down the street. If he hadn't had the particular one-of-a-kind jacket on, I would not have recognized him. He looks like a walking corpse. His face has morphed, looking like the faces of meth you can google. He's 28, but he looks older than I am (55). He was, at one time, brilliant, with an IQ in the 160s. Now, he is what I'd describe as dull-witted, unable to reason his way out of a paper bag. Even his voice has changed. He walks the fine line between severe psychotic episodes and sanity--and he is toppling toward permanent psychotic behavior more and more. In short, my son is dying, and he lives every day to get more and more of the poison that is killing him.
Don't go into doormat mode. Tell your husband. Get mad. Do what ever you have to do--including having your son committed to a rehab facility against his will until he is of legal age. If you stay in doormat mode, you enable your son's habit--and it is a habit...one so well established that he thinks nothing of posting pictures of the crimes (and they are crimes, and YOU are responsible for what goes on in your home) on the Internet.
If you don't act aggressively and act NOW, you will be responsible for its outcome. My son is dying because of my inability to act.
Do whatever you need to do, including taking him to the police department--anything and everything. Once he tries meth, he'll be a goner.
I'll be saying some prayers for you and your family.
If you think I'm "too harsh" and don't do something, any refusal or inability to act right now may very well end up killing your son. I, unfortunately, am speaking from experience.
Is there a chance
he (and mother) might have mental issues? If this goes beyond family it seems as though he is missing something. I'm not saying it is an excuse but it could explain some of his actions. I always strive to understand where things are coming from. The explaination does not always change the outcome but sometimes it helps make a difficult decision a little easier to live with.
One (there are a few) of my family members I spoke of was my uncle. The time I finally decided not to put any effort to talking to him was when he told me flat out that I was a screw up because I went to college for 3 years and decided to stop going because I found a great job and wanted to settle down with my now husband, who was divorced and with a child of his own. This was shortly after I was married that I spoke to him and he basically told me what a mistake I had made. Well, here I am 10 years later and my life is very happy and fulfilled. I later found out that he's an alcoholic. I still would have made my decision but its much easier knowing that I wouldn't have exposed my children to his alcoholism anyway. I also don't feel that is something you can help someone with. They have to want the help themselves.
By any chance....
Did they do an I&D on the cyst? I actually went through the I&D for a pilonidal cyst years ago. I didn't know what it was, but my temperature was over 103 degrees and I just felt "weird" all over (the raging infection, I'm sure, wreaking havoc on my body).
Because it was "traveling" up my spine, the ER doc did an I&D, and that REALLY screwed me up. I felt most of the symptoms your SIL is describing. I don't know if it was a delayed shock reaction because when I went to the ER, I wasn't planning on the procedure, or if it was just an odd result of all of those toxins getting out of my system. I remember my dad being so worried about my condition that he dragged my mattress out into the living room so he could keep an eye on me, so I must have been pretty bad.
If she has a high fever with the pilonidal, or if she underwent I&D, I'd give her about 12-24 hours to recover; however, if the symptoms persist, I'd take her to her PCP or back to the ER.
Better safe than sorry, that's for sure.
Hope she feels better :-).
Is there any chance
I don't want to seem rude, but...
The fact that she misled you about the money and it's for her, not her husband...
The obvious desperation for $300...
The completely irrational behavior that defies logic...
Forgive me if I'm way off base, but could she have a drug habit and be desperate?
I certainly don't mean to insult your friend, so please don't take it that way. Lots of white collar people have prescription and other drug problems, no shame in it these days.
It's just that when people suddenly act extremely out of character and so very desperate for money that she wasn't honest about...well, stranger things have happened.
Again, sorry, and definitely NO offense intended if I'm way off base here.
Any chance
He's on probation? I've known people on probation who refuse to use their own address because they'd prefer to avoid having the authorities drop in unannounced to pay a visit on them.
Is he by any chance a deadbeat dad or in some other legal dispute where someone might be wanting to serve him papers?
I'd get the answer to these questions (and more) before agreeing to let someone use my address. I'd also suggest he retain a P.O. box if for some obscure reason he does not want to use his physical address for things.
Any chance a mouse is somehow
caught in the fan? Although when this happened to my mother's, it caused it to quit running and she had to call a repairman. On discovering the problem, she heard him muttering to himself, "Why me? Why me?"
Are you Catholic, by chance? :)
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Are you jewish, by chance? :)
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Just got a chance to pass thru - let me
know how your appointment goes. I know exactly what you are talking about. I have to go to sleep on my side or I get ill. I am rather large in the upper department also - would love it if insurance would pay for a reduction. I haven't ever mentioned it to my doctor either - mainly because for each test that they decide they will run, I see another bill I would have to pay.
When you get a chance, google the
Alday family in Georgia, rural, mostly farming family, all killed in the 60s by intruders- I think there were about 5-7 family members they killed that day plus raping the woman before slaying her also. Sometimes people have false sense of security.
there's a good chance
that boy & girl are seeing each other as they used to be, not as they now are, & through the additionally warmifying haze of longing & regret. I went through something similar but neither of us was married at the time we got back in touch 20 years later (I was divorced, he had never married). By the time we met up again, 20 years' worth of unspent passion had reached such a pitch that it was like being on a drug. We spent a lot of time together over the next couple of years but were not physically intimate this time around. Now here's the kicker: Not only did the feelings eventually pass, I now realize he is one of the most annoying individuals I know. Maybe he was always that annoying; I'm not even sure. At any rate, I think if we had become intimate this time, my conclusion would have been the same, except that sex would have made things completely icky. Now we have casual contact. We live in different cities. We talk every few months if that, & it's okay. It's nice to still be in touch, even if it's only to honor the past. I consider myself lucky that I was able to work all this out outside of another relationship and that no one was hurt.
It's useless to speculate on what we would have been to each other if we'd stayed together & been a couple all those years, how we might have ended up as people. Maybe I wouldn't find him as annoying, or maybe I'd be in prison for having murdered him at some point, who knows. The point is, we weren't together all those years, we went off & became adults & lived most of our lives away from each other & became who we became, & there's no changing any of that.
The moment when I realized that he was not now who he used to be 20 years ago was very difficult. A collision of past & present. I felt a lot of grief over the loss of him, loss of the feelings, loss of youth. It would have been easy to mistake all these feelings for romantic love. I'm not saying any of this is the case for the story in question, I'm just saying Girl should be sure before she unloads a good man. The process of coming to terms with the past may cost her dearly.
Its a no..turned down...not a chance
I had my meeting yesterday afternoon with my lawyer. Although I am clearly disabled I fall threw the disability loop holes. There are 2 types you can sign up for. The first you must have worked 10 years consecutively. I worked when I was first married and then when we had kids I stayed home with them until they started school and then went back to work as a substitute teacher. I had worked 9 years consecutively and had a stroke so I am disqualified there.
The 2nd one you have to have not worked or be low income. Low income meaning a little over $900.00 a month for dh and I. Kiddos don't qualify as dependants since they are over 18 or the income level would be higher. We are low income but not that low for the 2 of us. The only thing you can own is your home and one vehicle. We own our home and 3...the old truck we are trying to sale that might bring $500.00., the truck dh bought for $1000.00 and the car he inherited from his sis. Dh also inherited some land and some money from his sis. AND THEN there is the fact that dh and his sis had to put their dad's money in their names so they can pay for his care, power of attorney and all that, and although the money goes for ONLY his care and we use none of it it goes against my case.
So although I am disabled, in pain every single day of my life, I don't qualify for disability. Our income doesn't qualify us for Medicaid. Our income doesn't afford us insurance IF we could find someone that would cover me with all my health issues. I'm tired, defeated, exhausted, cried until I can't cry. I don't know how many knocks I can take.
I don't begrudge anyone health care...but how is it fair that I can't get it and its handed over to those that have never paid a dime in taxes? How is it fair that a convicted child molester will get his disability? (yes I know someone that is and will get his). I just don't get it. There needs to be decent affordable healthcare in this country for EVERY citizen. I'm not talking Socialized medicine. I'm talking decent affordable healthcare.
It should not cost $4000.00 for an ER visit and $500.00 for the doctor. Yes again that happened to me last summer. I would never have gone if I had not been doubled over in severe pain and my regular doctor sent me there. I left the ER with a huge bill, a prescription I could not afford to fill, and a huge bill I had to finish paying and I'm still paying. They made me pay $250.00 before I left the hospital. Another time when I fell and messed up my ankle my doctor sent me over there for an xray. My ankle was 3 or 4 times its size and they still made me pay for the xray before they would even do it. Something needs to be done with this crazy ridiculous business
Do they by any chance have a social worker you...
could contact? That way, if the social worker stepped in no one in the family would really be so "involved" and it might save hard feelings further down the road but might have the same results.
Have you already started the New Years before I have a chance?
chug-a-lug
Are they mountain climbers by any chance? - sorry, I had to ask! nm
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I'm more afraid of dying before I have a CHANCE to get old. nm
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Adam is so hyped. No one has a chance.
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Is there an age limit on being able to sign up?? I might have missed my chance. LOL
Sorry couldn't resist. I'll never be too old to think that sounds wrong 
I'm more annoyed that the court keeps giving her one more chance.
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Any chance you could visit family or a friend...
for a few days when he leaves the dogs? Or simply tell DH that you will only take care of your guys? Let hubby experience what a job it is. I have a cat and a large black lab and those two alone can keep me pretty busy. Can't even imagine what you go through on a daily basis, let alone when you have extras. I believe in karma, and you have a giant reward coming your way one of these days, as do many of you other kind-hearted posters.
Oh goody, a chance to play doctor....
Do you have high blood pressure? Have you increased the salt in your diet lately?
I take a water pill, have done so for most of the last 12 years. I was started on it for hand swelling actually (and high BP), but the last couple years, I've had leg swelling when I forget to take it.
Mostly, I think some level of mild leg swelling comes with age. Anything that causes you to need bigger shoes isn't mild though. That would be the point where I stop playing doctor and point you to a real one.
Giving him another chance?? When did he start showing remorse in
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get him a prescription for Chantix. It will give him a 44% better chance of quitting. nm
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She made her choice but parents at least owe their kids a chance (sm)
She was given that chance and blew it - some would blow it and some would not. But I still think that with the way our country works today if you do not at least try to help your kids get through college you have not finished your job as a parent.
I head that was a limited-time only thing. I never even got a chance to try it. nm
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Congratulations! Any chance you can email me the recipe. Sounds yummy! - NM
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Picture -- I got it!
Are we there yet???? Woof
She took a picture of him NM
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Picture?
Test. Made Avatar that picture. If it does not show still would someone explain how to do that please 
Here is the picture.
Finally. I was forgetting to put in the profile ID.
The big picture is what happens to the cat (sm)
or any other pet for that matter, when we move them onto someone else. Is there a guarantee they will find a good home--or a home that gives them as much TLC as you do?
I had a young cat that went right through my screen windows...I mean RIGHT THROUGH the darned screens to get outside and then used them to get back in! Ruined at least 5 of them. I thought about a cat door, but there are other critters out in these parts I do not want coming into the house to sneak a snack, so nixed that idea. I tried to see if he'd like being a barn cat and staying outsite 24/7 with a nice warm barn to sleep and nope, he wanted in (hence the crashing through the screens). He also shredded the rubber seals around both my doors.
I could just pawn him off on a shelter in an area where feral cats are up the wazoo knowing there was a good chance he would be euthanized if not adopted within the 14-day limit, or give him away to some unknown person (tales of cats being used for coyote bait do exist up here), or put up with the destruction for however long he lived.
My little niece came up to visit from out of state one summer and fell in love with this PIA of a cat. They were inseparable. She asked her parents if they could take him home and they said yes. I packed up his little kitty carrier with all his toys, some food, health records, and kissed him goodbye. She sends me pictures and is always updating me with his antics. He doesn't crash through their windows and follows my niece around like a puppydog. It's been 3 years now and thankfully it all worked out beautifully.
If I were in your shoes, love him, and could guarantee a lifetime indoor home for him, I'd have him declawed. The alternative could be much, much worse.
This definitely not my picture
The grandchildren on son's side only grandchildren I have. I have a daughter that I possibly see every 3 or 4 months- no shopping trips, occasional lunch out. When my grandson born (older than the GD) I asked if before going to the maternal GMs house after delivery if they would stop by the house for a minute so I could hold- had never even held the child (after being asked to not visit in the hospital 1 night, mother tired and then told next day G-aunt and maternal GM both there the previous night, held and diapered!) and told no, I could come over later to hold the G-son. Waited, waited, called and told to wait longer as others (including aunts, cousins, etc.) still holding. This started right from the get go. I always from the day my son married knew and expected for his wife to come first, before me, no question there- the only thing is I would have thought I could have at least shared some of the g-children. Before my last marriage I was charged for any and all things done at my home by my son, grands and the like- not the other side. Why would I be treated any different? This family on DIL's side have no outside friends- they are their own friends and socalize all together. I have always been last and I just finally accepted. Oh, by the way, did not tell about my DIL stealing money from me- I never ever mentioned that to my son nor others- I would certainly not be believed. She also hurt my credit for 7 years- allowed her to use 1 of my cards- she bought things for her G-mom and g-mom paid but DIL kept that money instead of paying the bill. This again I never said anything about, always just thinking well if I say anything, not believed and could keep the kids away always, now just threw in that ole towel!
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Why would we laugh? I love the cheetah print - I'm such a diva at times or was in my younger, much thinner years! You are a very pretty woman with a few years of maturity behind you. I wouldn't want to be in my 20's or 30's again for all the tea in China. Great picture. Thanks
My dad took a picture of my new car.
I got my Yaris a couple of weeks ago, and he took this picture for me last Sunday. If you are looking for an excellent little car that gets great gas mileage, you might like one of these too.
Another picture
Here is another picture of Santahoe
They should take another picture
using their hands to sign the L on the forehead (as in LOSER) and send that to the police dept and the school administration. Maybe that would get a message across.
see picture
(I know this should probably be on the main board, but could not see how to upload the image.)
THIS IS WHERE YOU CALL WHEN YOU HAVE TECHNICAL PROBLEMS.
THIS IS INDIA......
the big picture
They have lower prices because they do not pay their employees a living wage, do not provide benefits, etc., etc., etc. They are what is wrong with this country today. They did to retail what MTSOs are doing to us. And people are eating it up. They go into a town and drive all the other businesses out. People have no choice but to work there. Then they pay them crappy wages with no benefits so they can keep costs low. you are supporting an industry that does to its people what we are complain about in ours. Americans should boycott WalMart and force them to pay their employees decently and force them to provide benefits. WalMart was named time after time as the biggest offender in this regard. About 80% of their employees have no insurance because they keep them working "part time" (32 to 36 hours) and then don't have to give them benefits or when they offer the benefits they price them so the people can't afford to pay for them. Do some research on them. you may not like what you find. And try to find American made products there. Why do people not see that sometimes saving a buck costs $10 in the end. Cut off your nose to spite your face, as my mom would have said.
Let's see if I can do this - pug picture
This is Maggie. She is so sweet!!
I also had a picture up with me 35 pounds
heavier. it was not pretty. That was my motivation. by the way, I will walk 2 miles a day and have been doing so for 8 years to keep the poundage off.
here is her picture - her name is Gracie
http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory?id=3018035
I've had 2 dobies, both with ears down, 1 with a tail, devoted and loving. I cannot get past this. There is a way to make sure this human waste never does this again....
How about a picture frame that your
I know you can also find stuffed animals that record messages. I'm sure a sediment directly from your son using his "voice" would surely make her smile and know that she has done her job. If I were a speech therapist, the sweetest thing to my ears would be your son's voice. JMO. 
Oh--an AVATAR picture! Well, that I can help with!
The key there is SIZE of the picture--has to be 100x100 pixels. If you need help, you are welcome to e-mail me your picture and I will re-size it for you and send it back. Just click on my name to send it to me. If you already have it resized and ready to go, just go into your profile (which for some reason you can only edit when you post a message) and upload it directly from your computer.
Posting Picture.
Instead of posting a Quick Reply. Click the Button after follow ups "Post Reply to This Message", see the form there and you will find a box at the bottom -> Image:, where you can directly put your http:// link to image.
I saw a picture of a man from Albania...
Inside the huge cage, was a big pig (animal) and the man's wife sitting/squatting right next to the pig......
THIS is HOW THESE types of men treat their women..........
Everyday I'm glad I was born and raised in the USA and believe me I thank GOD DAILY for that....
From the picture you paint, it is SM
hopeless. No man wants to get divorced. This may sound funny, but they don't. Even if they hate the woman they are married to. I should know. I was a perfect housekeeper, but everything you said in your note applied to me. May have been married to the same man!
If you have been to counseling four times, I would say you gave it your best shot.
However, how old are your children? It is very hard raising kids alone. Can you stay there until they are older? High school? I was a long suffering woman, until my daughter graduated from high school. I am much older and we were taught to stay for the sake of the children.
Believe me, I know it is not easy to leave; but it does get a LOT easier once the children are grown.
You have a lot to think about and my heart goes out to you, because I was once where you are.
How to post a picture
First, the picture has to be on the internet. There are a lot of photosharing sites like Photobucket (that's the one I use), Flickr, Webshots, etc.
The photo sharing site will give you a link you can use to post the picture. You have to use the "Post Reply to this Message!" instead of "Post QUICK Reply."
At the bottom, you will see three boxes:
URL/Link:
Link Title:
Image Link:
To post a picture, copy and paste the link for your picture in the "Image Link" box.
If you want to post a clickable link for a website, copy and paste the link in the "URL/Link" box, and you can put the name of the website in the "Link Title" box.
Hope this helps. 
Hmmm.... you and Jan have exactly the same picture and
scripture at the bottom of each page. Let me see- are you the same???
I don't know how to post a picture.
If I e-mail a picture, does anybody know how to put the picture in so everybody can see it? Or do I have to have it in a website (which I don't have).
**Picture of ER-MTs cat Nala!**
What is it with cats and Christmas trees?! Such a riot--she looks tweeked that you caught her doing that!
Great picture and
a beautiful baby to be proud of.
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