"go brush your teeth" -- kid don't listen
Posted By: XanaX on 2008-06-26
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You know, truthfully, I have a nearly perfect 7-year-old kid. He's well-behaved, patient, kind and honest. Why is it, then, that we have to have this big fight EVERY night and EVERY morning regarding "go brush your teeth." I have to tell him this six to seven times before I am heard. Then I'm grumpy about it, nagging how they'll rot, turn black and fall out. My only thought is to try ignoring him when he requests something, making him ask me six to seven times. That might work. Gotta love him, but this really irks me.... Anyone else with a similar dilemma?
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I never brush my dog's teeth
I have an 8-year-old German Shepherd, and I have never brushed her teeth, and I have had her since she was a little puppy. She was at the vets a few weeks ago for an update on her shots and an exam, and the vet said that her teeth were perfectly fine and that there was really no need to brush them. I give her tennis balls to chew on because she does not like bones, but that is about it. The vet said that the tennis balls should do a good enough job cleaning them.
If you don't "go overboard"
you may be burying your child. He is being totally selfish and irresponsible, like most teenagers, and needs to be shown that is wrong. You need to let his father or your husband handle this. He needs to deal with someone he knows is serious and will not back down. You don't need to protect him from punishments, you need to protect him from himself. Honestly, I know you love him, but if you don't have the backbone for something this serious then let someone who does deal with it. Will he say horrible things to you, you bet. Will he mean them, at the time sure. Do you want him alive and not in jail in 10 years to apologize, I bet you do.
I took the door off my daughters bedroom, I did daily searches. She had nothing that was sacred and no privacy because she had lost that right in my home. She was not allowed on the internet for the last 3 years she lived here. Things like that are not a God given right as these kids would like to think. But it IS my God given right/responsibility to try to teach them right from wrong, to have rules and to enforce them and to keep them safe from themselves if need be. I know you love your son, but if you really love him then you need to be willing to step away if that is what is best for him. To many teenagers these days don't take responsibility for their actions and to many adults do not hold them accountable in fear of hurting their feelings.
Ask yourself what kind of adult you want him to be. Who is going to teach him to be that adult? Stand up and fight momma, that's your responsibility as his parent. And guess what, my daughter is on her own and in college now, and I'm the first one she comes to for advice!
Were you saying, "Go, go!" I was and I am married!
Makes you crazy.
"Go ahead, make my day.."
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My favortie "go-to" for recipes in a pinch is Allrecipe.com. sm
They have, or used to have anyway, an awesome ham, egg, and cheese casserole that was similar to bread pudding in consistency. DH LOVES this. Good luck.
PS: If I bring a dish to pass, can I come too??? LOL.
It's not the appliance, it's the way and how you brush....sm
It's recommended to brush your teeth for 2 minutes at least twice a day. We use an egg timer in our bathrooms to help everyone keep up with how long they've been brushing.
I have a Braun professional care spin brush in my closet that I don't use anymore because they went way up on the cost of the replacement heads (even on eBay). During the couple of years that I used that I would end up with not as nice of dental checkups, i.e. the gums weren't always in perfect shape, but when I use just a regular ordinary toothbrush I have perfect checkups. They say that you can tend to get lazier about brushing with one of these fancier brushes and I believe that.
give them a paint brush.
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you need to buy the brush to put it on, total price for the first time is $28
you can apply it in two different ways, one way in which you let your moisturizer dry and the put it on and another is use a bit of moisturizer to get that "dewy" look. Also you should always start off with less (at least with our brand) because it is layerable for a fuller-coverage. Also there are 6 different shades to choose from so you should be able to find a perfect match.
Rub some baking soda or corn starch into him well and brush out? nm
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It's all a scam. All you need is a good, firm toothbrush - brush at least sm
for 2 minutes AND you have to floss every day if not almost every single day. Also, what keeps your mouth very clean are those whitening strips! Because it is loaded with peroxide, it actually keeps your gums and gumlines from developing bacteria that causes gingivitis.
I used to get canker sores and sores in my mouth ALL THE TIME. After I started whitening my teeth regularly I haven't had a sore since. I bit the side of my cheek the other week and NOTHING surfaced from it. For years and years every time I would bite my lip or cheek it would develop into a nasty sore. I thank those Crest White Strips for keeping my mouth clean!
I used to get up and go straight to work - didn't even bother to brush my hair until after noon.
I had a holy faded T-shirt with Tweety bird (you could barely see him anymore!) and a pair of baggy sweat pants that I wore with big pink fuzzy house slippers! Until I got caught several times with a little old lady from my church stopping by to say high, salesman knocking on the door, and the final straw was my nice looking neighbor stopping buy to borrow my ladder. I finally decided perhaps I should brush my teeth and come my hair just in case!
Now, I get up every morning, take a shower, fix my hair, and put on my makeup. Then I get the kids off to school and I sit down and work. I have found that, believe it or not, I am way more productive than I used to be. I'm not distracted thinking about when am I going to make time for a shower. I still wear jeans and a T-shirt and my house slippers, but now no one can catch me looking like a worn out old hag anymore.  And now that I'm single, well ya never know when you might bump into Mr. Right.
His *last* two teeth?
Meaning that was all he had left? I just can't believe what I'm reading here. lol
dog teeth
Like the posters below, I've never had my dogs' teeth brushed or cleaned. They eat dry dog foot and lots of generic milk bones and real bones (beef soup bones).
They are both over 11 and when I took them to a new vet recently, she didn't believe me when I told her their ages because their teeth were in such good shape. I should be so lucky with my own teeth LOL!
Dog's teeth
My chow/mix lived to be 16 1/2, had only one tooth pulled, no broken teeth, had her teeth cleaned once or twice in her lifetime and I never brushed her teeth. Vets were all amazed at her age and her state of health. The week before she passed away, at her check-up the vet said that her teeth were in good condition and some of the best he had ever seen for a dog over the age of 10 much less her age. I fed her a good dry dog food, walked her a lot, loved her more and never gave her any kinds of meat bones to chew on. She did have rawhide, pigs ears and those stinky calf hoofs. I am not saying it is a bad idea to brush them but if it is a fight, why go through it. For so many years we did not do it for our pets and they lived long years. Feed him/her a good dry crunchy food and like suggested above get them some of the dental bones above. Keep them away from the steak/pork or chicken bones though. Have worked for a vet and too many surgeries for bone splinters in the stomach/bowel lining perforating it. Good luck
Don't do it if you are meticulous about your teeth.
I went to a dental clinic like that years ago. I had to replace the cap work shortly after and they did some other procedures not so well, a root canal that didn't take or was incomplete, etc. The next dentist I saw said it was some of the worst work he had ever seen and he was surprised with the quality of the materials (very cheap) they were using. So it only wound up costing me more in the long run. Just thought I'd mention.
sensitive teeth
Is there a baking soda toothpaste out there that might work? Is baking soda mild on your teeth?
My dad's false teeth!
OK, I admit it's weird. My dad had false teeth made for him courtesy of the Veteran's Administration. (Had all of his teeth pulled courtesy of the Army in WWII.) But dad would never wear his teeth. He hated them, and being toothless never seemed to slow him down. It was a real sight to see him eat corn on the cob, but he did it! His government issue teeth were always in our medicine cabinet in the bathroom, and he changed the water everyday and dropped in a fresh Efferdent tab. I only remember him wearing his teeth two days, for my h.s. graduation and on my 21st birthday.
My dad was a quirky guy, but he was tremendously generous and a wonderful father. He died shortly after my 21st birthday. I have a sentimental attachment to his false teeth, and I should probably see a psychiatrist about that, but for now, I keep his false teeth in their container in my medicine cabinet, and they've been there for 24 years. (OK. Go ahead and collectively say, "Ewwwwwww.")
well, i dont have any teeth there. sorry to say.
i have all fake bridges and partials on the top of my mouth. i only have 1 jaw tooth left on the top that is my tooth, and its fine. i have had this knot for probably 6 or 8 years. but its usually about pea-sized. everytime i am diagnosed with a sinus infection it flares, but never this bad.
Whatever you do, DON'T get them in right after the teeth are pulled
Wait at least a year to get fitted. I was a receptionist and had to either quit my job or get my dentures immediately. Mine fit great at first and was told never to take them out (I didn't) ...then one day when answering the phone at work, my bottoms fell out. Thank heavens no one was in the waiting room. How embarrassing!
I don't think I was fitted correctly as they hurt like heck where the bottom jaw met the top of the mouth. I cannot wear the tops now either. They are too loose. I had them religned after a year but it didn't help. Always had trouble eating and drinking anything. Gagged and choked all the time.
I can't eat in restaurants because I at least wear my tops when going somewhere so I don't scare anyone, but can't eat with them.
As for your question, it cost me $700, 12 years ago and another $300 to get then relined. What a waste of $$
Think I'll change my name to Gums.
Anybody use teeth whiteners ? ...sm
If so which do you prefer the toothpaste or the whitening strips?. I would like to try one of these products but unsure if one is better than the other.
Thanks 
Bath and teeth
Maybe it's the toothpaste. Some of it tastes yucky to a kid or the mint may be too strong or brushing could be irritating his gums. Let him pick a child's toothpaste and soft toothbrush and see if that helps. As for baths, I had to be dragged kicking and screaming to the tub. What mom didn't know was that my older sister kept sneaking in and pulling the plug, telling me I was going to go down the drain. She said if I told mom she would call the adoption agency and tell them to take me back (I wasn't adopted, but at age 4 I didn't know that). Maybe he saw something on TV that scared him. Some shows are pretty graphic (news too). I recall one show where a lady was brushing her teeth and blood started pouring from the faucet. Try letting him sit in a dry tub with a bucket of water for a sponge bath. Sit down and talk with the kid (not talk to) and assure him/her that if there is something going on you can help.
Teeth sensitivity
My sister used something recommended by her dentist, so I assume it was not damaging. However, this was last winter and it made her teeth so sensitive to cold she had to be sure to keep her mouth closed as she couldn't bear the cold air on her teeth! Just something to be aware of.
Also about the teeth being sore...
Our orthodontists both told us that if OTC meds do not help your pain, they are too tight and you should call for a 2nd adjustment. Your teeth should not be so sore that you can't eat a regular diet. Who knows, yours might have a different policy or idea, but don't suffer through the pain without asking. I did and they finally told me that I shouldn't be and they don't know that unless the patient tells them.
Yes about the wisdom teeth
If I didn't have them cut out they would have messed up all the work the braces did.
Your lower teeth
in the front ... have your gums eroded in back of the teeth as well? Mine look fairly normal in front of the teeth, but behind them (especially bottom front teeth), I can see the gums are quite receded. I have one of those little dental mirrors. I am wondering why they would be worse in the back, as I think I brush the same way there.
Taken better care of my teeth nm
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Horrible Teeth
What are your opinions? If you had terrible teeth, that kind that decay from the inside out, you've had 14 root canals, several of which broke off after they were crowned (to the tune of about $1200 per tooth), you have three more teeth that need to be extracted, 2 more that need root canals and extensive bridge work must then be completed, your mouth hurts all the time, there is an abscess forming over one of the old root canals that broke, you have a heart valve condition which means you must always premedicate before dental work and an infection could cause pericarditis .... would you have the above work done or just say, to hell with it, I'm getting dentures. BTW, I'm 51 and this all started when I was 5.
Teeth whitening question
My daughter got her braces off and now wants to have her teeth whitened.
I would have the orthodontist do it but they charge about $400.00. Yikes!
Anyone use over-the-counter whiteners? If so, which ones give better results?
Thanks
Have you tried Crest for sensitive teeth?
I used it and it tastes just like regular toothpaste. May want to give it a try.
I think the boy's teeth look terrific, not fake
at all. I know that when my son first got his braces off it was very, very strange. I called him Willie Wonka for a few days. They were just sooo perfect it was kinda freaky, but the strangeness wore off after a few days. Does your son like how they turned out?
I have had years of teeth issues
so I can imagine how you are dealing with such bad issues. I had gum surgery once, never do that again, horrible pain for months, but good thing dropped weight like you would not believe, could not eat anything. I would look at dentures in your case because of the fact you have so much going wrong and you and I know it can affect not only your mouth but other organs in the body.
About painting the enamel on the back teeth, SM
these are called sealants and are VERY well worth the money. My kids both had them done and are ages 20 and 25 and neither have ever had a cavity in their back teeth. They also both get Easter baskets until they get married, but that's entirely our choice just because it's fun to do for them!
You only wear them for 1 year unless your teeth are in really bad shape. nm
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Weird too.. I have denture sample teeth.
My son's friend found a cute little box with about 8 drawers and they were stuck closed in his damp basement of his new-old house and he gave it to me, since I always like old collectibles, etc. Did not know what was inside so we dried out the box and got the drawers open and it is full of what appears to be samples for dentures or crowns.. I guess the man who previously owned the house was a dentist.. I was going to see about selling them on e-bay but never got around to it so they just sit in a closet. I did find a tooth with a gold filling in it though and that one is safely put away in my jewerly box along with the other gold stuff I never wear.. who knows with MT I may need to cash it in for some $$$ someday.
teeth whitening can cause dental damage
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Any advice and/or experience with teeth whitening?
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Tell you dentist to put 'veneers' over your teeth, if you can afford it nm
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Any suggestions on a MILD toothpaste for sensitive teeth?
Seems like every toothpaste on the shelf any more has MAXIMUM strength this, that, and the other thing. Well, some of that stuff irritates the heck out of my mouth and gums.
I'm currently using Sensodyne but it a) tastes nasty and b) irritates my mouth.
Any suggestions? TIA.
One of those so-called miracle teeth whitener kits on TV. SM
This one came with a special light . . . OH, RIGHT!
I stood in the bathroom holding this stupid light (which I am sure was not more than a regular flashlight) up to my teeth, running to the kitchen where the light was better and swearing my teeth were getting whiter! Did this for a few days, applying the solution (which had no color, no smell) and NOTHING. After a few days of this exhausting procedure my teeth looked absolutely no better!
TOTAL RIP OFF! 
But, now listen to this
the mother has been held in contempt of court 12 times so she is not an angel either. Things are not hunky-dory on her part either.
Listen to your PCP sm
See my message above re yoga breathing. I have a friend who has adult-onset ADD. Yes, it can happen - or maybe she had just found ways to compensate all these years until she was diagnosed.
You might want to check into it further....
Thank you...do you really think they will listen to me (sm)
in this situation? I assumed they were only there for people who are being physically abused. Which he did a few years ago, but has not done since. I should have left then...but of course I didn't.
I'm sure they would listen you...
dont know where you live but they also have laws regarding what you can keep on your property, i.e., live pigeons,etc. There is also a law on how many ducks you can have in possesion at one time, meaning the dead ducks in his freezer. You can get into some hefty fines for that though so think hard about it before you start down that road.
I did listen when I was a kid either.
My parents were just a bunch of dumb hard azes that all they wanted to do was prevent me from having any fun. Well, the older I got, the smarter they got.
I am now going through it with my kids and I sometimes wonder how they ever kept sane. LOL. I have a smart-alecky mom that likes to say "payback time."
Please listen up........JMO
I had a male family member that went to stay with cousin every summer. His parents would see attitude changes, a little anxiety maybe afterwards, but he was a high strung kid. Years later, around 21 years, he told his parents the cousin molested him. They even had this kid come to their home for summer. Their child never said anything because he felt because he was a family member, the family would be upset with him or cause family problems, even though his parents had always talked to their children about anyone, including family members, that may touch or act inappropriately toward them to come and tell them immediately. It was devistating to the parents. I feel so sorry for them. They can't stand to be around their own nephew but their child does not want anyone else to know. But because of his age, they don't know what else to do but not say anything because he has asked them not to.
I don't mean to sound negative, but I would have second thoughts now letting a male child go stay with another male child, especially one a little older. That really opened my eyes to just how things happen under the wire and you don't know, no matter how in tune you think you are with your child. Sorry to turn this into a worst case scenario but just be aware.
Listen, you.
I work for a large, world-class teaching hospital and I do pediatric endocrinology.
It's a very small percentage, but it's not nonexistent. Thinking that it only happens to someone else is one of the more stupid things I've heard in a long time.
yes. find a doc that will *listen* to you--sm
(good luck in that regard), but sounds like it could be a thyroid condition or maybe fibromyalgia, or like *hayseed* said, some type of autoimmune thing. good luck to you!
Let him sit down and listen to what you do and say try to transcribe it... (sm)
May be he will understand that these are legal documents and it is your responsibility to make it that way!! Sometimes they have to walk in your shoes or sit in your chair, so to speak, to understand. Hope this helps!!
I don't listen to music, but I have the TV SM
on in the room next to me. Can't miss my Golden Girls. It just relaxes me and I feel like someone is here and the mood is lightened if I am stressed. 
Tell me how to listen to the news when
I get sooooo out of sorts listen to the idiotic, stup*d things people are doing each and every day. The stories I am hearing today- a mother gets on her daughters bus to have the child to fight for herself- with the mother holding the backpack for her child so "it would not get in her way." I think the mother charged with contributing to the deliquency in that case. The mother is telling the courts she is gonna teach her child how to defend herself?? What a crap! Another case today is mother who threw her 6 month old child at a police officer when the mother being investigated for having drugs in her trailer, another mother doused her 3 children with solvent, fires them up and the youngest child has died. Friends let a blind guy drive and he has wreck and dies- what in the hel* is happening with this news business. I cannot hear the news without all this insanity..
My veterinarian did not listen
I went this morning to get 2 more prescriptions for my oldest catt as she needs something for appetite stimulation and she has a thyroid problem (just like her mama.) I was talking with the front office and talking about the fact that she was still having issues with throwing up. Lord knows I have tried anything I could think of, changing the food several different ways- I would hand feed if it would help- and I brought up the subject of anything else over-the-counter I could use besides the Imodium they told me I could try. The front desk then tells me the Imodium not for problems with throwing up but soft stools?? They then went back to read on her chart where veterinarian had made note of my saying soft stools. This NEVER happened. I have not had a problem with those. You know, from the vets to your regular physicians, these people are just NOT listening. I called yesterday in fact to reorder her medications so would not have to wait and you guessed it, not ready when I got there and still had to wait. Why, why - This is a big problem and not just with animal doctors, with regular physicians.
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