I love my children but having a child does not mean
Posted By: I want on 2007-10-26
In Reply to: I don't even know what to say to that... - Flabbergasted.
everything is honey and sunshine. I really think nothing anymore about people who say they do not want. I think they are being realistic about a job you give yourself to for 18+ years, sometimes with not the most pleasant of outcomes in a relationship when a person who wants other things strives to have what they want and what they need. I used to think people who said no children were selfish- I understand their statements now. Motherhood is very much played up as far as I am concerned. Most of these posts are speaking from having young babies, toddlers before teen years and grown- those are the really good years. No pity needed nor wanted. My children had a very priviledged upbringing.
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Go for it! Children love being with
other children if you have to put them in day care. I raised 3 boys but only 1 went to daycare. He turned out to be the most social person I have ever met. The other 2, well, they are nice kids, but don't really know how to socialize that well. I worked from home for 20 years and it was tought. It will also give you some free time from the kids that is desperately needed nowadays.
You have to think about the future, not the present. Don't listen to the naysayers in these messages. Think about the future of your family.
Would I tell my child
I would tell my child that determination is a necessary start. I would also tell them that a PROPER education is key and to beware of shoddy or inferior schools, especially in the field of MT. The field is just too competitive and there are too many good schools. I do not care what sacrifice I had to make (second mortgage, second job, borrow from family), I would see that my child went to any 1 of the big 3. I have done recruiting and I know how some of these lesser schools are viewed .
You must not have children. sm
Would you actually turn down a job that paid $14 an hour and have your family starve. Some people think $14 an hour is really good. I do, however, think this is a low wage for QA; I just think one should really think about what they are saying before posting it. If someone is incapable of transcribing anymore and has a family to feed, then they may have to take $14.00; especially, where I live, there are not many jobs that pay that!!! even hard labor, factory, shift jobs The average wage in my town is about $12.00
You must have seen the ad that has the woman with the child on her lap - sm
That's a joke. All the pictures show the moms with the kids on their laps transcribing away. DOES THIS SEEM REALISTIC TO YOU?? But yet, people fall for it! I have been doing this for 15 years and make $62,000, but I PAID MY DUES AND WORKED MY BUTT OFF to get there. I worked in a hospital with others around me to help me out, when I was confident I left and worked at home, now I'm doing my own thing.
Yes I have children that I raised alone
and the last one grew up and left in 1994. Back then people did not take junk pay for work. They refused it and back then we got what we asked. Maybe you were not a QA person then (neither was I BTW), but when I decided to go for it, I got still only half what I earned as an MT with over 25 years of acute care experience, any work type. It's not the average wage in your town. It is national and I find that no matter who you work for, you can get a decent wage...well almost...if it weren't for you who take less money. It was easier two years ago.
It's all in how you learn to negotiate.
Please rethink that $14 and not a penny less than $15 bottom cuz if you do take $14, that makes them think the wage is ok.
I am on your side, but please think hard about this.
Nothing wrong with a 70's child!
Who are you to say that her apology shouldn't be accepted? Wow, yourself.
what do you do for insurance with 3 children?
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My taxes pay for your child
Here again our taxes are paying for you having children -- tired of it. People that get money back or even more than they pain all due to having kids -- we pay for their children. No wonder we have such a deficit and such a work ethic, -- they want everyone to take care of them -- so tired of that.
Say what you will...our children will be running
that nursing home you'll be in some day. Better to treat them well and take care of them now than to wish you did later. By the way...I'm guessing you have a dog or cat instead of kids?
If you're old, have no SO, and have no children go
for it. If you have children, are married or hope to be one day no way. You can probably manage for a few weeks before everything starts falling apart, your house is a mess, you're eating at your desk, you start yelling at anyone who dares speak to you because you're working.
Also, taxes will kill you. I've worked lots of OT, 2 jobs, and taxes took a big chunk and for what I went through I didn't have much to show for it.
You could do second job as a trial and maybe you'd like to quit job #1 or maybe you decide you don't like job #2 and you've BTDT and got it out of your system.
I hope you don't have any children - you
certainly set a bad example for their future.
Hot Child In The City
But just think how much easier it'll be to look at that electric bill! I keep ours over 80, but I'm the opposite...65 and lower and the heat is ON!
Unless you have small children SM
at home and really don't want to put them in daycare, PLEASE consider a different field. Transcription is drying up in the US. There is no future in it. Find a career that cannot be outsourced.
I'm an uneducated child who..:
Makes $5000 consistently! LOL. BTW, it helps to learn teenage slang so you know what's going on with your kid. Did I finally shut you up or what? Cheers!
Are you really mother to 6 children?
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or a selfish child...
that's what my kids used to say until I taught them that they need to care about other people, too. We need to work together, folks.
I have 1 child at home
I used to try to work very early, but my accounts have no work early any more, so now I work through the day around nap times or whenever I can squeeze a minute in. It is not easy at all, but the alternative is paying for daycare, so I keep struggling through. I keep hoping it will get easier.
It's unfair to say it's only people with children.
I think the above poster is correct that it's the perception that you can work when you want to that has caused this, not just people who have kids. I have a transcription service and some of the worst offenders don't have any children at all. Even in the real world I always saved my vacation days, etc. to use for my children's school events or whatever and took time off for my kids because they are my no. 1 priority. That has never interfered with my fulfillment of my job duties, even when I worked outside of the home.
I've hired anywhere from someone straight out of school to older people nearing retirement age and some of my best ICs were mothers. Some of my worst included one gal who wanted to party every night of the week and couldn't work the next day with a hangover, an older lady who got tired earlier in the day than she thought she would so she had to stop work early, and yet another lady who had marital problems and used an argument with her hubby as her excuse not to work on any given day. I can give more examples, none of which involve kids. Most of the women with kids did well because they knew how to organize their time, worked when kids were asleep or at school since they knew it was their only chance to get it done, and they were adept at multitasking.
What you are really seeing is a lack of work ethic in general, in all different professions. So many want to get rich right now but they don't want to have to work to do so. We live in a drive-thru, high-speed society and everyone wants everything RIGHT NOW with the least amount of effort possible.
Geez, nothing like that for me. I have employee+children
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How many foster children are living with you?
The two comments made after my initial post left me so frustrated that I debated on responding. In the real world, most consider me to be kind hearted and easy going. For that reason, I usually avoid controversial issues for the sake of arguing.
This particular subject matter just hits very close to home and I have zero tolerance when misinformed people offer unwarranted advice. I feel it's very inconsiderate. The OP just asked about companies with insurance plans that covered IVF. She didn't come here asking for opinions or the blessing of MT Stars. What she is going through is difficult enough without complete strangers (probably sitting home with their 2-3 kids)telling her that wanting to start a family with her husband is completely unnecessary. I'm still amazed at how cold people can actually be.
Now to respond to your post.
First of all, if you did any research at all on the foster care and adoption systems in this country, you would not only be saddened, but you would not have posted. I'm not trying to be mean at all, but you are truly so misinformed that I don't know where to start.
My husband and I actually looked into foster parenting and even took the classes. We have a couple of friends as well as my in-laws who are foster parents. First of all, becoming a foster parent IS NOT a permanent situation. The small percentage of adoption that does result from being a foster parent can take up to 5 or 6 years! Plus, a very high number of foster children have special needs, severe behavioral problems, or mental issues caused from abuse. I do have one daughter who was 4 at the time we were taking classes. After spending years being protective parents, researching, and taking classes,we were afraid of exposing our small child to the abuse (physical, mental, sexual, drugs), that put these unfortunate children in foster care to begin with.
Yes you are right about so many beautiful children that need homes. There are literaly 1,000s of childless couples in this country that would love nothing more than to get serious about caring for them. Have you tried to adopt in this country? Good luck if you decide to take your own advice. You are looking at a long waiting list, tons of red tape and buracracy, not to mention a few grand. Oh and there is that chance after you have brought that sweet child home and bonded with him/her, that the crack-head bio-mom will decide she wants to play house and ger her an attorney (that you are paying for with your tax dollars.) After the court hearings are finally over (1-2 years later) you can kiss that little one good-bye. I've seen it happen to people very close to me...not on Lifetime. It does happens.
Seriously, why do you think so many Americans pay obscene amounts of money for international adoptions? Think about it.
Out of curiosity, do you have children?
Yes -- we are all so very aware that you are their Golden Child. NM
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golden child! LOL! good one. nm
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Was your child so sick you have to permanently
stay home or could you have returned to your job with just a small amount of time off? A good inhouse job would be hard to give up unless totally necessary but by now that inhouse might have outsourced anyway. I had 2 that did. I do not read the board but what is the going price now? I work parttime now and make over $20 an hour as independent for a national.
FMLA for the birth of a child
I work for Spheris and am questioning their FMLA policy. They are telling me that while I'm eligible for UP TO 12 weeks of FMLA, they are only approving 6 weeks after the birth of my child. According to what I read and understand about FMLA, for the birth of a child you are entitled to the full 12 weeks but HR is telling me that it's up to them to decide what I am able to take off and right now they feel I only need 6 weeks unless they have a doctor's note to extend it (which my doctor will not provide as there is no medical reason at this time). Everyone else I know gets the full 12 weeks and has never had a problem with their employers so I'm wondering who is right.
Love, love, love TransTech! Not overhiring, just growing like crazy!
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I also have a special needs child, but my company routes
our work so that one person can't do lots and lots of minutes and there not be any for the others. Usually there is plenty of work for everyone to do lots and lots of "extra" minutes. There have been rare days where there wasn't a lot of extra work, usually due to the hospital system being down, and I may be a couple of hundred lines short because there needed to be some work for everyone, but usually the next day there was plenty to go around. Unfortunately most companies just want the work done and doesn't care who does it. If someone stays up all night to work that is better for TAT, which is a major concern with most companies these days.
My children are insured by their father and I purchase my
insurance. For vacations, I work an extra day a week for a twice a month for a couple months going into the month of my vacation. As for holidays, I usually work them. I look at it as being blessed enough to have a job at home where I can be with my girls and so if my usual days off happen to fall on the holiday, I usually volunteer to work 1/2 day, usually in the evening of the holiday so I can have the day with my girls and I work after they are in bed. Hope this helps!
I believe those were on the test for psych work because a lot of children
nowadays are watching shows such as Spongebob and using the X-Box, Playstation, etc., and they just want to make sure that you know all the new stuff out there that they will be using in their dictation. I've done psych. work before and they use a lot of modern jargon in their dictation.
If ya think $877/month for empl+child is fair..go for it
No worse than screaming children in the background!
When you've done this a while you can block anything out.
Just thing of ABducting a child..take a way. ADDuc
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What kind of future do our children and grandchildren have? sm
To begin with, they will be burdened by taking care of their elderly parents and grandparents who devoted their lives to working hard to make a living, only to have that living yanked out from under them.
Unfortunately, it seems that the philosphy of our government is to run all over the globe taking care of other countries while allowing our own people to slip further and further into poverty. I wonder how far this will have to go before the powers that be open their eyes and see what is happening to our own country?
I have been in this business for 15 years and am less than 20 years away from retirement age. According to my last Social Security statement, I will have to work until age 66 years 10 months before I can draw full Social Security and, if I can keep the arthritis and the carpal tunnel away and keep my wits about me, I can even earn a couple hundred more at age 70 IF there are even funds left in SS at that point. With the pushing of the retirement accouts by the federal government, my money says there won't be any money when I get ready to draw it.
Child labor laws haven little or nothing to do with it. sm
If children aren't developing a decent work ethic, or expect things handed to them, that's something they're learning at home (or, rather, /not/ learning at home). I'd look first to the parents before I'd start blaming outside influences.
Children's Health Insurance Program
You didn't say whether you needed the insurance primarily for yourself or for your child. If the need is primarily for your child, please look into your state's Children's Health Insurance Program or CHIP. This is for children in families that earn too much to be eligible for Medicaid but cannot obtain or afford health insurance for their children. In Illinois, the program is called All Kids, and the governor is actively trying to get the word out, since many people don't know about the program at all or assume it is part of Medicaid and requires you to be in dire poverty which is not true.
"How to avoid your child while you work"
I had forgotten about that. I was so disgusted about the other OSi tactics but that little jewel was in the back of my mind. My baby means everything to me and I will avoid OSi while I work is the bottom line.
My child is insured by her father, but I do not have insurance
and as far as work availability. I have worked for about 4 different companies in the last year. Things start off well, plenty of work, and then all of a sudden the work dries up. Currently, I have 3 backup accounts, and yet still out of work. Tired of hearing about slow downs. When I worked directly for hospital, both while I was in-house and at home, we had slow downs. They lasted a day or two at specific times of the year. We could use our PTO to take time off. With these companies, there is no backup for no work...no work = no pay. I cannot depend on my income at all since losing my hospital job. I have not made anywhere close to what I used to make and Im just totally frustrated. The economy of the state I live in is such right now that jobs are few and far between and the unemployment rate is very high right now. Feel like I am running out of options.
Single mom, homeschool all 4 of my children AND work. it can be done
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A job is not an afterthought to me. I had a FT MT job before my children and CHOSE to work PT so I
can enjoy them. I think anyone with children can understand that. I do take my job seriously and work and am a high producer. I enjoy my job but I also enjoy my other FT job, which is my children!
There are young children who have hearing issues
from babies on up. Why do you think this is age discrimination and why would you say sue?
Agree. Child at work. Run along, little Initial Capser. nm
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I don't think it is acting like a spoiled child to share your experience...
the original poster asked the question, we are just sharing our side of the story...
Wow, expecting a gift. CHILDREN expect gifts. Maybe..
your gift is the fact that you have a job during this current economic crisis. If you get something, fine; if not, are you going to quit? You still have 4 days to wait by your mailbox for your gift, if you should get one.
Dont they make you feel like a child with the threatening emails?
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They also offer paternity leave and also both leaves for adoption of a child.
I love these people.
also, the original poster asked how to stay production with small children...
not whether or not MTs are being exploited...
pregnancy is a disability when you have complications/C-section/ and even child birh is a procedure.
So just because you didnt get money for your pregnancy, then just get over it.
I had a horrible time with both of my pregnancies and could not work even though I wanted and needed to.
People can get off of work for 6 weeks for drug treatment, mental angious, etc. Those are not disabilities but are conditions that warrant time off.
I think someone is turning green with envy and doesnt handle life well.
Stop putting up with adults who are children. It is IRRESPONSIBLE to go to a payday loan place. sm
As transcriptionists, we have options. We can take on more work with the company we are with, move to another company, get a second job, get our own accounts.
If everyone would be mature and take responsibility for themselves, there would be no problems.
By the way, for your information, I AM A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 WONDERFUL CHILDREN and I have been for many years. Transcription allowed me to buy a house, pay my bills and be able to buy nice things. I knew when I was getting divorced that I either needed to cut corners or earn more. I did both. My kids and I live in a nice home but my girls share a room and my son has his own. I pay cash for cars and drive them until they cannot be driven or are not safe. We eat at home with home-cooked meals rather than eating out, except when celebrating something like a birthday or good report cards or an award one of them receives. They have nice clothese, a clean house and everything they need. I work while they are in school but make every minute of my work day count, and I have an extra job that I work on weekends in the early mornings when they are sleeping and evenings when they are asleep. We have friends, go to church and have a close family. I have never had child support and have never had to be on welfare.
I budget carefully and have a savings account. I only make 35,000 a year on average but I make it work.
Excuses are just that. People need to do for themselves. If they have medical issues or a tragedy, that's one thing, but so many of the people I have worked with just spend all their time whining and none of that time making their lives better.
I am not going to apologize. I am not a mean person, just tired of hearing people complain about EVERYTHING in this profession. Yes, it has changed, but we still have options. Many other fields do not.
I too love path & can't find it at home & would love to cross-train into rad in the meantime I do
Love this company, love my boss, very informative QA.nm.
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Does anyone think 41 is too old to go to nursing school. I love MT but I just would love to be a
nurse. I have such a interist in helping others and the medical world.
Love, love, love DeVenture
Super nice, flexible and just all around nice to work for.
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