Are you really mother to 6 children?
Posted By: Oh my. on 2008-09-21
In Reply to: Any companies out there that allow you to work 5-10 hours a week? - momof6
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I am a divorced mother. I thought that was a single mother.
and I unfortunately always pay my own way. From the time I was a kid I paid rent in my parent's house, and no man ever gave me anything. Does that count?
I was never a single mother but a divorced mother
Does that count? Oh, forgot, single mothers are the ones who apparently want others to give to them because they are single mothers. When divorced mother, I not only had 1 job but had several and I bought my own home, bought my own cars, took nice vacations to exotic places, paid my bills so your situation probably falling under the category of I cant work outside the home, I have a child. Well, now what? Seems like you don’t have much of a job if no work there. Do you continue to wait or do you try to provide for the child or just sit at home waiting?
I am a mother and I want my
face lift paid by insurance. That is for my mental well being. Surely the insurance should cover me, right?
Not your mother
We are not your mother...if you can't feed your family it is your responsibility to find a job that will help you support your family, not whine about it. After you got off work at 7 a.m. did you try to find a job or did you just feel sorry for yourself? There are better jobs out there but you have to look for them.
Maybe she is a single mother.......
I agree...I would go part time with someone...that's what I plan on doing just to supplement. BTW....anyone who has a problem with that...I have a disabled child,although he does not drink formula....everything else is expensive and most of his treatments not covered by insurance. Maybe this person is in a similar boat..............geez.............I say work as much as you want and make as much as you can doing it......
Usually the week after Mother's Day. Don't know for sure. nm
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You must not have children. sm
Would you actually turn down a job that paid $14 an hour and have your family starve. Some people think $14 an hour is really good. I do, however, think this is a low wage for QA; I just think one should really think about what they are saying before posting it. If someone is incapable of transcribing anymore and has a family to feed, then they may have to take $14.00; especially, where I live, there are not many jobs that pay that!!! even hard labor, factory, shift jobs The average wage in my town is about $12.00
Oh, good grief, where is your mother? lol
Grow up. Must be terribly frustrating, being so infantile.
I have no more empathy with a single mother
than I would anyone else. I feel if you have children, then you should be able to afford to take care of them. I had a husband, disabled, and I worked and supported everyone so I just think saying oh, single mom, is a pure cop-out. I think entirely overplayed.
My mother used to say oh for heaven sakes....
Even though a company does not offshore does not mean they won't tomorrow, so applying to another company will not solve this dilemma (if you want to call it that). I don't think everyone should quit DRC or whatever the new name is now. I think you all should be just fine! This is not the end of the world. Who knows? This could mean better benefits. I wish you all the best, but I wouldn't jump ship if I were you unless things start to go downhill. If you like the company and know your accounts, why should you? The glass is half full, not half empty, that's what I always try to say!  Stay strong..... 
I can't believe anyone would fall for this. Didn't your mother (sm)
tell you if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is?
They went to that great mother board in the sky.
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No, but have a sup who acts like a neurotic mother.
The games that are played by this person are so obvious. Especially the silent treatment. Then comes the drop in income as she punishes us because of some unknown offense.
If you equate the importance of being a mother
with the importance of being an MT, your priorities are really skewed. No use trying to explaining it. It's like the old saying, never try to teach a pig to sing; you'll never succeed and it only annoys the pig.
i agree, isn't it said that a mother can care for
10 children, but 10 children cannot care for 1 mother. And, if one relies on others, one is already deserted.
Yes I have children that I raised alone
and the last one grew up and left in 1994. Back then people did not take junk pay for work. They refused it and back then we got what we asked. Maybe you were not a QA person then (neither was I BTW), but when I decided to go for it, I got still only half what I earned as an MT with over 25 years of acute care experience, any work type. It's not the average wage in your town. It is national and I find that no matter who you work for, you can get a decent wage...well almost...if it weren't for you who take less money. It was easier two years ago.
It's all in how you learn to negotiate.
Please rethink that $14 and not a penny less than $15 bottom cuz if you do take $14, that makes them think the wage is ok.
I am on your side, but please think hard about this.
what do you do for insurance with 3 children?
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Say what you will...our children will be running
that nursing home you'll be in some day. Better to treat them well and take care of them now than to wish you did later. By the way...I'm guessing you have a dog or cat instead of kids?
If you're old, have no SO, and have no children go
for it. If you have children, are married or hope to be one day no way. You can probably manage for a few weeks before everything starts falling apart, your house is a mess, you're eating at your desk, you start yelling at anyone who dares speak to you because you're working.
Also, taxes will kill you. I've worked lots of OT, 2 jobs, and taxes took a big chunk and for what I went through I didn't have much to show for it.
You could do second job as a trial and maybe you'd like to quit job #1 or maybe you decide you don't like job #2 and you've BTDT and got it out of your system.
I hope you don't have any children - you
certainly set a bad example for their future.
Unless you have small children SM
at home and really don't want to put them in daycare, PLEASE consider a different field. Transcription is drying up in the US. There is no future in it. Find a career that cannot be outsourced.
Go for it! Children love being with
other children if you have to put them in day care. I raised 3 boys but only 1 went to daycare. He turned out to be the most social person I have ever met. The other 2, well, they are nice kids, but don't really know how to socialize that well. I worked from home for 20 years and it was tought. It will also give you some free time from the kids that is desperately needed nowadays.
You have to think about the future, not the present. Don't listen to the naysayers in these messages. Think about the future of your family.
I'm afraid its a plan only a mother could love.
Hasn't your mother taught you any manners?
What is wrong with you to judge? Do you think every MT has to be just like you. Every business has the high achievers and the ones who struggle, possibly to find they have chosen the wrong field, or the wrong company, specialty expander.
Your ladies who toss off your smart a$$ comments at every chance are part of the reason MTs are considered difficult.
If you are like this 24 hours a day, I have a feeling you spend a good deal of time MTing because there is no one else in the house with you. Who'd want to spend time with a person who could cough up a post such as yours? A masochist possibly.
Find yourself a sense of humor and until then, cease posting in representation of medical transcriptions. We have more class than that where I am in this business.
On the old typewriters, my mother could type over 100 WPM with 100% accuracy -
She was always very proud of the fact that she never had to use correction fluid or paper or ribbon or whatever they used back then. She had been typing so long and was such a perfectionist. I am not quite as accurate since I have the computer to do so much correcting for me, but I am still pretty darn fast, and then my daughter won every speed/accuracy keyboard competition the whole time she was in middle school.
It definitely can be done...
It's unfair to say it's only people with children.
I think the above poster is correct that it's the perception that you can work when you want to that has caused this, not just people who have kids. I have a transcription service and some of the worst offenders don't have any children at all. Even in the real world I always saved my vacation days, etc. to use for my children's school events or whatever and took time off for my kids because they are my no. 1 priority. That has never interfered with my fulfillment of my job duties, even when I worked outside of the home.
I've hired anywhere from someone straight out of school to older people nearing retirement age and some of my best ICs were mothers. Some of my worst included one gal who wanted to party every night of the week and couldn't work the next day with a hangover, an older lady who got tired earlier in the day than she thought she would so she had to stop work early, and yet another lady who had marital problems and used an argument with her hubby as her excuse not to work on any given day. I can give more examples, none of which involve kids. Most of the women with kids did well because they knew how to organize their time, worked when kids were asleep or at school since they knew it was their only chance to get it done, and they were adept at multitasking.
What you are really seeing is a lack of work ethic in general, in all different professions. So many want to get rich right now but they don't want to have to work to do so. We live in a drive-thru, high-speed society and everyone wants everything RIGHT NOW with the least amount of effort possible.
Geez, nothing like that for me. I have employee+children
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I love my children but having a child does not mean
everything is honey and sunshine. I really think nothing anymore about people who say they do not want. I think they are being realistic about a job you give yourself to for 18+ years, sometimes with not the most pleasant of outcomes in a relationship when a person who wants other things strives to have what they want and what they need. I used to think people who said no children were selfish- I understand their statements now. Motherhood is very much played up as far as I am concerned. Most of these posts are speaking from having young babies, toddlers before teen years and grown- those are the really good years. No pity needed nor wanted. My children had a very priviledged upbringing.
How many foster children are living with you?
The two comments made after my initial post left me so frustrated that I debated on responding. In the real world, most consider me to be kind hearted and easy going. For that reason, I usually avoid controversial issues for the sake of arguing.
This particular subject matter just hits very close to home and I have zero tolerance when misinformed people offer unwarranted advice. I feel it's very inconsiderate. The OP just asked about companies with insurance plans that covered IVF. She didn't come here asking for opinions or the blessing of MT Stars. What she is going through is difficult enough without complete strangers (probably sitting home with their 2-3 kids)telling her that wanting to start a family with her husband is completely unnecessary. I'm still amazed at how cold people can actually be.
Now to respond to your post.
First of all, if you did any research at all on the foster care and adoption systems in this country, you would not only be saddened, but you would not have posted. I'm not trying to be mean at all, but you are truly so misinformed that I don't know where to start.
My husband and I actually looked into foster parenting and even took the classes. We have a couple of friends as well as my in-laws who are foster parents. First of all, becoming a foster parent IS NOT a permanent situation. The small percentage of adoption that does result from being a foster parent can take up to 5 or 6 years! Plus, a very high number of foster children have special needs, severe behavioral problems, or mental issues caused from abuse. I do have one daughter who was 4 at the time we were taking classes. After spending years being protective parents, researching, and taking classes,we were afraid of exposing our small child to the abuse (physical, mental, sexual, drugs), that put these unfortunate children in foster care to begin with.
Yes you are right about so many beautiful children that need homes. There are literaly 1,000s of childless couples in this country that would love nothing more than to get serious about caring for them. Have you tried to adopt in this country? Good luck if you decide to take your own advice. You are looking at a long waiting list, tons of red tape and buracracy, not to mention a few grand. Oh and there is that chance after you have brought that sweet child home and bonded with him/her, that the crack-head bio-mom will decide she wants to play house and ger her an attorney (that you are paying for with your tax dollars.) After the court hearings are finally over (1-2 years later) you can kiss that little one good-bye. I've seen it happen to people very close to me...not on Lifetime. It does happens.
Seriously, why do you think so many Americans pay obscene amounts of money for international adoptions? Think about it.
Out of curiosity, do you have children?
My children are insured by their father and I purchase my
insurance. For vacations, I work an extra day a week for a twice a month for a couple months going into the month of my vacation. As for holidays, I usually work them. I look at it as being blessed enough to have a job at home where I can be with my girls and so if my usual days off happen to fall on the holiday, I usually volunteer to work 1/2 day, usually in the evening of the holiday so I can have the day with my girls and I work after they are in bed. Hope this helps!
I believe those were on the test for psych work because a lot of children
nowadays are watching shows such as Spongebob and using the X-Box, Playstation, etc., and they just want to make sure that you know all the new stuff out there that they will be using in their dictation. I've done psych. work before and they use a lot of modern jargon in their dictation.
No worse than screaming children in the background!
When you've done this a while you can block anything out.
What kind of future do our children and grandchildren have? sm
To begin with, they will be burdened by taking care of their elderly parents and grandparents who devoted their lives to working hard to make a living, only to have that living yanked out from under them.
Unfortunately, it seems that the philosphy of our government is to run all over the globe taking care of other countries while allowing our own people to slip further and further into poverty. I wonder how far this will have to go before the powers that be open their eyes and see what is happening to our own country?
I have been in this business for 15 years and am less than 20 years away from retirement age. According to my last Social Security statement, I will have to work until age 66 years 10 months before I can draw full Social Security and, if I can keep the arthritis and the carpal tunnel away and keep my wits about me, I can even earn a couple hundred more at age 70 IF there are even funds left in SS at that point. With the pushing of the retirement accouts by the federal government, my money says there won't be any money when I get ready to draw it.
Children's Health Insurance Program
You didn't say whether you needed the insurance primarily for yourself or for your child. If the need is primarily for your child, please look into your state's Children's Health Insurance Program or CHIP. This is for children in families that earn too much to be eligible for Medicaid but cannot obtain or afford health insurance for their children. In Illinois, the program is called All Kids, and the governor is actively trying to get the word out, since many people don't know about the program at all or assume it is part of Medicaid and requires you to be in dire poverty which is not true.
Single mom, homeschool all 4 of my children AND work. it can be done
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A job is not an afterthought to me. I had a FT MT job before my children and CHOSE to work PT so I
can enjoy them. I think anyone with children can understand that. I do take my job seriously and work and am a high producer. I enjoy my job but I also enjoy my other FT job, which is my children!
There are young children who have hearing issues
from babies on up. Why do you think this is age discrimination and why would you say sue?
You are the one who is incorrect. The owner of Zylomed would sell his mother for a dollar if he
They most certainly DO outsource offshore. Perhaps you're not as IN THE KNOW as you thought!
I'll bet you'd be in a snit if you didn't get a Mother's Day card, though, amirite?
Same principle...
Would you feel slighted if your children didn't give you a mother's day card? How about a birthday card? Anniversary card? I mean, after all, you shouldn't NEED a mother's day card to feel appreciated, right?
I mean, if you're going to cast your self-righteous stones at those of us who DO appreciate being acknowledged ONCE A YEAR, then please remember this the next time someone fails to acknowledge YOU on YOUR *special day*.
I'm so tired of you judgmental people who can't just NOT post but instead squeal with delight at putting others down. Must suck to be you....
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Wow, expecting a gift. CHILDREN expect gifts. Maybe..
your gift is the fact that you have a job during this current economic crisis. If you get something, fine; if not, are you going to quit? You still have 4 days to wait by your mailbox for your gift, if you should get one.
Can anyone tell me the insurance cost for Amphion per month or pay period? I am a single mother
with 2 children under age 10. I know you can't give me the exact amount, but anything you can tell me would be great! I have asked the recruiter but have not heard back as of yet and weighing my options. TIA!!
also, the original poster asked how to stay production with small children...
not whether or not MTs are being exploited...
Stop putting up with adults who are children. It is IRRESPONSIBLE to go to a payday loan place. sm
As transcriptionists, we have options. We can take on more work with the company we are with, move to another company, get a second job, get our own accounts.
If everyone would be mature and take responsibility for themselves, there would be no problems.
By the way, for your information, I AM A SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 WONDERFUL CHILDREN and I have been for many years. Transcription allowed me to buy a house, pay my bills and be able to buy nice things. I knew when I was getting divorced that I either needed to cut corners or earn more. I did both. My kids and I live in a nice home but my girls share a room and my son has his own. I pay cash for cars and drive them until they cannot be driven or are not safe. We eat at home with home-cooked meals rather than eating out, except when celebrating something like a birthday or good report cards or an award one of them receives. They have nice clothese, a clean house and everything they need. I work while they are in school but make every minute of my work day count, and I have an extra job that I work on weekends in the early mornings when they are sleeping and evenings when they are asleep. We have friends, go to church and have a close family. I have never had child support and have never had to be on welfare.
I budget carefully and have a savings account. I only make 35,000 a year on average but I make it work.
Excuses are just that. People need to do for themselves. If they have medical issues or a tragedy, that's one thing, but so many of the people I have worked with just spend all their time whining and none of that time making their lives better.
I am not going to apologize. I am not a mean person, just tired of hearing people complain about EVERYTHING in this profession. Yes, it has changed, but we still have options. Many other fields do not.
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